December 2013 - part 3

[Holly1977]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1740732-December-2013-part-2

Starting yet another thread as us chatterboxes have filled up 2 already!

Jucy, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Big hugs, wish there was something more I could say.

Frouby, if you're feeling crap just fuck the housework off, I do! It'll keep.

I'm scared and excited in equal measures about the scan on Friday. Looking forward to seeing bean and being able to get on with things. But obviously scared of getting bad news like Jucy... 2 days, 1 hour and 50 minutes to go!

My friend has offered to be a birthing partner too. I may well take her up on it, I suspect she'll be more help than OH. And as I'm planning on having a home water birth and OH has already invited his bloody mum (!) think it'll be good to have a friend there. I'm not private at all, have zero issues with people seeing me naked (as my neighbours will tell you) and she's seen me throw up enough times from our party days (though never shit myself to be fair) that I'm not too fussed about that.

OH YES, AND PRIMARK DOES MATERNITY CLOTHES?!?

Does anyone know of a primark that isn't full of crazy people and frenzy? My closest one is oxford circus and I avoid it just because of the crowds.

i genuinely want to go to primark like I used to, but I need one thats a bit more tame

queen that's my closest one too and just the thought of the crowds makes me anxious. i think the only solution is to go at the second they open in the morning. but we'll see if i make it. I didn't know they made maternity clothes, that's exciting!

Sorry to raise hopes.. Pretty sure it's only the jeans.. Which is odd in itself but am glad as their super soft skinnies are the jeans I wore pre-preg so I'm v happy!

On a bit of a roll this week.. Got two pairs of mat/nursing pjs and a mat swimming costume in the M&P sale.

I'm not quite big enough for proper maternity bits but just so fed up of being in uncomfortably tight clothing!

I've popped! Totally popped! Oh god, woke up this morning and there it was, my belly! Finally

yay futterby

LOL Futterby. We are all excited so little bellies popping up aren't we? Wait till we can't bend down properly or get off the sofa without help!

Saw my new niece last night. Gawd, she is gorgeous. Like a little doll. Only 6lb 2oz, dark hair and little turned up nose.

DD was smaller than her though, 5lb 12oz. And I can't imagine being responsible for someone so tiny again. Been having nightmares all night about not being able to find baby, or leaving them at home whilst I nip out somewhere and not being able to get back. Not that I ever would lol.

Didn't know Primark did maternity wear either! We have a big one near us so will try that. I looked in mothercare last night and there maternity wear is really vile lol. Especially the tops. So not me. Going to try H & M and Primarni next weekend I think then.

And failing that good old Ebay!

You forget how tiny they are, don't you Frouby?! I met my friend's little girl last week, she was so weeny, but she was DOUBLE the weight of DS at birth, and he weighed even less (4lb 12ozs) the day we brought him home at 4wo! I'm sitting looking at him sitting on his toy bike, trying to steer with his feet so he can carry on stuffing half a banana into his face, and I just can't reconcile this enormous toddler with the teeny tiny soft helpless bundle (that mewed like a kitten instead of proper crying) I brought home just 20 months ago! I can't wait to do it all again without the month in NICU this time though please

queen and roselau have you been to the one at Tottenham court road yet? It's fairly new and hardly no one knows about it, I went on a Saturday afternoon and it felt like walking around a normal shop not the normal primary chaos! As soon as you come out of one of the exits- on the road opposite the dominion theatre- it's there. 3 floors!

Also going to apologise now if this is way TMI but is anyone else having a lot of discharge?

Saw the doc last night, he's referred me to the EPU for another scan tomorrow morning there goes my lie-in Trying not to worry and rationally I know that bean is probably fine but judging by how little sleep I got last night and how many nightmares I had, the emotional part of me doesn't agree. It's still just spotting when I wipe, particularly after a poo. urgh, oh well, at least we'll get to see bean again.

My belly has totally popped out too, I look enormous today , nothing to do with wearing leggings or anything! I think I felt a little flutter this morning too but was still half asleep so not sure. OH has taken to kissing bump as well as me when we see each other which is very sweet.

MrsShrubs, yes, totally! Been meaning to say for a while. Apparently it's all normal and part of the joys of pg. Argh, hope it all settles down soon and I can start enjoying being pg instead of being a bag of nerves and being annoyed at all the constipation, bleeding, discharge, back ache and no booze!

All the best for your scan Holly.. Hope you get reassurance and can start enjoying!

It's so annoying to be anxious isnt it.. I envy ladies who float through not thinking about what can go wrong..

After a few lovely weeks of feeling quite relaxed I'm now starting to panic about the 20w scan in 3 wks!

Argh

Thanks Mildred. Yes, I envy those chilled out folks too. Though I suspect a lot of people don't let on when they are worried. It doesn't help that I work with doctors who are all doom and gloom. I mentioned to one of them that we're thinking about finding out the gender, one reason being to start bonding earlier. He said that was precisely why he didn't want to find out and that he didn't really relax until his dd was born and he knew she and his wife were ok. Miserable git! I appreciate that being a doc and seeing all the bad stuff that can happen colours your world view but really! He said his wife was the same. I feel like the bonding has already started, I'm always rubbing my belly and think about it almost 24/7! I don't think any amount of trying to detach would make it any easier if the worst did happen. For me anyway. Not that it matters cos it's all going to be fine and come Christmas we're going to have a lovely wee DD or DS

Haha Holly- I'm a doctor too! Lol. Am sure that contributes to my anxiety!

Don't even get me started on the delivery.. I've done a stint on labour ward a few years back. Seen lots of high risk & difficult ones. Hoping only to see midwives myself..!

My friend's an anaesthetist in obs and gynae. I went round to hers for dinner one night. I was the only non medic round a table full of medics, who mostly worked in obs and gynae. They all started comparing notes and horror stories about difficult deliveries etc. I must have gone green because my friend told them all to pipe down, pointed out that I didn't have any kids yet and was unlikely to if they carried on like that!

Right, I'll blame my anxiety on having too many doctor friends and colleagues then!

yes, I want a home birth with no bloody doctors around at all, no offence!

you guys, is anyone having really random cravings? I'm craving tonnes of mexican with hot sauce.

No offence taken Holly I definitely don't want to see any doctors either if I can possibly help it ( although, on 2nd thoughts maybe a small friendly anaesthetist as I haven't ruled out epidural!).

Not quite brave enough for a home birth though, although I've heard lovely stories from friends who've had them..

Think I go through stages of rubbing belly and talking to bambino then panicking about how I'm gonna provide for him and how OH feels etc etc. Luckily my mum's been a massive help and is already buying little bits n pieces. Always knew I wanted kids but now it's actually happening it's surreal!
Still waiting to not look like I've eaten all the pies and to have a bump-shaped bump lol

Just been craving crunchy nut cornflakes since day 1.
And thinking of birthing pool since the hospital is gonna have a new state of the art one just before I'm due :)

I've been freaking out at various different points, around week 10 when I suddenly stopped feeling nauseus all day every day I panicked and thought something must be wrong but then on the 12 week scan little one was there and wriggling all over the place. So now just trying to enjoy the feeling fully human days while they last!

Haven't had any cravings as of yet, just hope I don't get a weird one - someone I know craved the smell of brand new catalogues?!

My only real craving so far has been for really cold fizzy drinks. Not coke particularly, loving flavoured water from Morrisons at the mo. And their virgin cocktails, mojito is my favourite. Lemonade, bitter lemon, you name it. Friend said she was the same. Also crisp sandwiches. And just generally, when I'm hungry, I'm frigging hungry and you better get out of my way. And when I set my heart on eating something, I have to have thing and nothing else. That may just be cos I'm stroppy demanding cow rather than pg related though!

Glad I'm not the only worrier, thanks guys! Might show OH this part of the thread so he can realise I'm not the only one!

I have craved

1. Anchovies. And admit I have eaten them straight from the tin on toast. Dropping a few straight into my mouth without them even getting to the toast.

1. Tomato based pasta sauce. With anchovies and olives in.

1. Oranges. The big ones that are a ball ache to peel.

1. Sunday dinners with cauliflower cheese on.

1. Milk. I rarely drink milk.

1. Salad creme on everything.

1. Crisps. Especially quavers and bacon fries. And those vile ones that smell like dirty ladies, Scampi Fries. Yummy pmsl.

1. Cheese on toast with relish on. And salad creme to dip into.

So lots of random things none of which are any good for you. Thats why I have a fat belly.

Holly good luck for your scan hun. You see the thing is, we worry and fret about something and want someone to do something. And then when they do we worry because if they are going to do something then something must, must be wrong lol. We can't win.

I'm taking this view with this PGy. I will enjoy it. There will be times when I worry and fret. But what will be will be. As long as I do everything I can to look after me and jesus then there is a 99.7% chance I think it was that I will have a normal pregnancy and give birth to a healthy baby. Thats the stats I read somewhere if you have seen the heartbeat at 12 weeks.

So I am not going to ruin my PGy by worrying about the 0.3% chance that something could go wrong. No point.

Then I get a twinge, or some discharge, or an ache, or my symptoms go, or I feel worse, or better and panic lol.

But generally I am trying to stay relaxed and focused on enjoying this PG. It will be my last one I am pretty sure and I didn't get to enjoy my DD's so am making the most of this one.

ABC I want to use the birthing pool as well. From the stories I have read it seems a lot more relaxed and private in there than on a bed. Though things can change lol.

The only thing I've really craved is beer. I had half a units worth and didn't crave it again. Weird O.o

Oh, and sprite but that's not as bad a craving as my beer one.

Also also, the smell of grapefruit. Not eating it, though. Took to carrying one about with me for a while

My cravings have been salt and vinegar crisps (almost every day!), weak orange squash (but not the low sugar crap) and starting to crave red meat - maybe due to the iron?
Used to love cereal but ATM, I think it's the milk, but just feel queasy afterwards. Annoying.

Holly hope the scan goes well. Maybe the spotting is just normal for your pregnancy (tho not a reassuring symptom!) and maybe it'll just go away of its own accord.

Just bought a fab pair of trousers in H&M and they were in the sale- linen over the bump but it doesn't matter that the over bump bit is a bit loose as it has a draw string under the bump which is fab to draw it tight. Sooo comfy and light. Love a bargain