January 2014 - Thread 3 (Danger: Due to the influence of pregnancy hormones I could either burst into tears or kill you in the next 5 minutes.... You have been warned!

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Thread three... Rock and Roll......

flowers congratulations!

Re. Your friend, having been on the other side of things, is do it privately and face to face if you are very close. And definitely before she has a chance to find out. After I had an ectopic pregnancy a friend told all around me and everyone kept it hidden from me. I found out when she could no longer hide the bump. I felt as if everyone around me had been lying. Rationally I know people were trying to protect me.

A friend in another friendship group was also pregnant just after my EP. Our DHs are friends too so her DH told mine. This worked well too. I wasn't at all upset - in fact over the moon for them. In the end our DD was born two months after their son!

Hi all
Just to let you know I've had a scan and there is no heartbeat at 8 weeks.
So that is it for me, third miscarriage in 10 months. Best of luck the rest of you, it will be brilliant. X

Just a quick check in to say hi to everyone from Beijing!
Haven't got time to read thru all the millions of posts I am afraid as the Internet cuts out sporadically.
Have managed to gather that some people have had bad news and my thoughts really go out to you and also thinking of anyone with any worrying symptoms and I hope that you get reassuring news soon.
To all those who are suffering with sickness etc I am also hoping that things get better shortly.

I am having an ok time on this old honeymoon, but unfortunately the sickness really took hold on Friday (the day before we flew!)
Thankfully I haven't vommed but am feeling mightily awful. Beijing is this gloriously different city and dh is loving it but can't help feel that I am ruining it a bit for him.
Have been on a fair few tours but have felt sick most of the time and unfortunately the food here isn't really working in my mind and I just can't stand the thought of anything local. This has meant I haven't been eating well at all, strawberries, Pringles and a Starbucks sandwich (thank god for Starbucks). Have managed some sticky rice but meals are hard (and the language barrier makes it difficult to get any snacks that I can stomach). Really looking forward to Saturday when we fly home (flight will prob be me feeling sick for 10 hours again) but at least I will have some ginger nuts waiting for me! Don't want dh to know how hard it is as I feel v bad and that I am ruining this expensive trip (am just trying to think that hopefully there will still be something in there at 12 weeks so it will be worth it)

Signing off for now and again I hope things go well for everyone and people feel much better soon!
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Ohh... dont, so sorry. Lots of love xxx

I'm sorry, dont :(

Your trip sounds fabulous, Frizz. I'm sorry you're feeling too rough to enjoy it. Bland, salty rice dishes are helping me a bit at the moment. Just plain egg fried rice or sushi (although you're in China and not Japan!).

dont so incredibly sorry! Thinking of you xxx

Frizz so glad you made it over there. What a shame you cant enjoy it fully. Dont worry about your DH - am sure he understands. Its just typical timing!!! Hope you manage to find things to eat until you get home again and fingers crossed the flight is ok x

dont - I'm so sorry. Big hugs x

donttry I am so sorry for your lose. My thoughts are with you and your DH. Its heartbreaking. All my best wishes

I'm so sorry don't. That's what happened to us last time. We're here if you want to talk at all

don't no words can help but know we are all thinking of you

So spotting has stopped (yay) and have scan tomorrow to see what chickpea is up to in there

Was about to type that wine and chocolate would ease the stress but the thought of either makes me feel like barfing...that's a good thing right!?

I've had a phone call and my scan has been moved forward to tomorrow. Good luck, MrsBB!

I'm still feeling tired, but it's getting better. Last night I slept from 8pm until 7am when DS got up. It was lovely! I plan on doing the same tonight.

We have the next scan a week tomorrow and we're looking forward to it. DH is trying not to get excited until the next scan where we see the heartbeat and then the 12 week one where the baby looks more like a baby!

Does anyone "know" what sex they are having yet? With DS I knew from 7 weeks he was a boy. I just knew. With the last pregnancy I knew it was a girl. I just knew it. With this one I have no idea. I'm trying to remain distant though.

On a lighter note - How the hell do I stop trumping all the time?! They smell awful! Anyone got any ideas?

pod i'm sorry about the HG. But, in a good way, it's good you've been diagnosed. IT means they are taking it seriously and you can get the help you need. Please take care of yourself!

frizz I'm sorry things aren't going well. I'm a little jealous you're in in paradise and i'm stuck here in overcast (and not so sunny) Bolton :(

I was talking to DS about this yesterday, fryingpan. He (and DD) wants it to be a boy, and I was saying that my money would be on a boy from the pregnancy so far. I felt dreadful when I was pregnant with DD, and although I know it's very early days, this has been much easier. More like my pregnancy with DS. We won't be finding out, though (fx we get that far, of course!)

Re tiredness -- DH has been reading ALL THE THINGS and he read about a woman who slept 18 hours a day in the 1st trimester, so he's practically encouraging me to sleep whenever I'm tired. It's great :o

That's so interesting toby I hadn't thought to compare it with my past pregnancies. It is more like the last one - the one I thought was a girl. So going off that, i'd say girl. But i'm going to be happy either sex! I don't want to find out this pregnancy, I'd like it to be a surprise, but DH doesn't see the point in not finding out. He thinks we should because it might help bond with the baby and buy appropriate clothes in for it. Si we'll wait and see

tobylerone and fryingpan I'm convinced I'm having another boy as this pregnancy is going like DSs. I'd quite like another boy but DP has his heart set on a girl. Either way we'd be overjoyed.

fryingpan it helped me connect with DS, knowing he was a boy as I could call him he and not it. And we had already chosen a name for him so the bump was 'Ewan' from early on.

Anyone tried out the old wives tales to find out at this early stage? I had salty cravings with DS for olives and salt and vinegar crisps which my mum says show its a boy. None so far with this pregnancy though.

I went out with DP and DS today and am completely shattered from angelic looking DSs DSs many escape attempts out of the lovely cafe we went to. Contemplating ordering a Chinese tonight.

What would you all prefer? If you're really honest, and the standard "anything, as long as it's healthy" cliché being a given.

I'd like a boy. I already have one of each. This will be DH's first (and only) and I think he'd like a boy, although he's pretty far from the manly man stereotype, so it's not like he'd be taking it to the football or down the pub or anything.

going off that enormouse i'd say a girl, because I've gone through loads and loads of prawns and, according to my mom, that's a sign of having a girl. Sadly, I've now gone off prawns! Too much of a good thing...

hand on heart, i'd say a girl. I'd like to have a little girl, not for any particular reason other than wanting to be mother of the bride some day... ha ha! Also i'm really close to my mom, she's fantastic and like an extension of me. I'd like that with my daughter.

My son is just amazing, so much like me personality wise, but a girl would be nice.

That being said, I wouldn't be upset if I was having a boy

Before I had kids I wanted a girl because I (naively) thought I would have more in common with a girl but my son turned out to be the most awesome little guy that I think more of him can only be a good thing.

Fryingpan I think that's why they're old wives tales i.e. mostly crap with a little fact there somewhere!

I think if I was really honest I want a girl. There are more girls names that I like, and i seem to get on better with girl children who are relatives. However any girl I have will have farms/ fire-people / rockets/ football/ Lego etc., I hate all that princessy pink stuff.
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don't so sorry to hear that. Thinking of you x x

My DS and I are basically the same person. We are definitely closer than DD and I are. It's funny how things work out.

That's the tricky part enormouse and Toby

DS is so much like me that it would be brilliant to have another like him. He's so cool, so another one would be good.

Noooooooo sickness is back! I've had a week off but I've had nausea all day and vommed when I got in from work. Bugger.

I have a feeling I'm having a boy. No particular reason, just a feeling. Interesting what you say about salt and vinegar crisps, that was my craving for a while along with cheese and pickle sandwiches.