January 2014 - knicker checking, cramps, sore boobs, sickness, hungry, sleepy neurotic mums to be.... Roll on 12 week scan!!

[LittlePeaPod]

And off we go again.......

Congrats MrsA!

Checking in here today. I met up with a fellow mumsnetter today and had a great time.

All day though I've felt sick. It's just waves of sickness. Then when I don't feel sick, I start to panic. It's so silly! DH said I can POAS (the IC ones) everyday if nec, which is lovely

Just wanted to add my 2p on the BF'ing after a CS, I had a CS, and DD latched almost perfectly within a couple of hours. And I bf'd until she was almost a year. I think the problems come in if you have a general anesthic, rather than an epidural.

Anyone else experiencing mild palpitations?

MrsGSR oh, I didn't know that! Thank you. I was scared it was totally incapacitating.

I've been scared off of sex as I had some spotting after the last time we dtd. Probably stupid but I wouldn't be able to relax. Will see how I feel after my scan on Friday.

Thanks everyone!
Talked the job over with DH and think I'm going to ask for an informal chat and then make a decision. Both employers only offer statutory minimum in terms of leave and pay. But I'm quite bored and frustrated in my current job, and it doesn't really have prospects for progression. And I feel like chandler in friends because no one ever understands what I do, it's a real chore explaining at dinner parties etc. and everyone is a lot older than me and stuck in their ways. New job would have better prospects, and is in an area that would mean we would have more choice over where we want to live, but wouldn't have to move if we didn't want to. Plus it's a bigger organisation so more potential for meeting new friends, and more likely to be able to offer flexible working etc. But I am a bit worried about losing the SMP; the difference only covers it over a year and its losing money at a time when we'll need it. Also about the stress of starting a new job while pg, and letting my current employers down. And nightmare maternity discrimination stuff like the new employer finding a reason for me not to pass probation. Aaaah!
My flat is a tip too, and I am getting so frustrated by how slowed down I am from vomming and being tired. But DH is being great.
Re. sex... I do feel like it, but as I said to DH earlier "I'm sorry I've not been boffing you lately, I just think the motion would make me vom which wouldn't be very alluring". He has read about 2nd trimester bloom so I think I may disappoint! He is also listening to radio 5s Bump club pod cast so coming out with all sorts of "pearls of wisdom"
Thanks for all your advice ladies, it's lovely having you!
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Hello to the newbies

Good luck tomorrow, MrsGSR! Sure all will go well.

Congrats on the job offer, MrsAVB! If I were you, I'd think long term ? is it a good move for you? Will it be more enjoyable than your current job? If so, go for it! Six weeks of 90% is nothing in the long term.

Re birth stuff ? I definitely don't want a c-section if I can help it, but I'm up for any and all pain relief I think I'll be asking for an epidural as soon as I can!

My partner got his first NHS email today aimed at partners? He said it basically said I would be tired and irritable, and he should do more of the housework. Sounds about right then!

Sorry if I've missed anything important - am feeling tired and, er, irritable!

I agree that 6 weeks at 90% is nothing really.

Also, on related note, I know I have pregnancy rage today, because I re-read my contract and realised I would be better off being sick for a year than doing the COMPLETELY NORMAL AND USUAL AND NATURAL THING OF HAVING A BABY in terms of pay - we get 6months full pay, 6 months 1/2 pay for sick, but the SHIT "6 weeks at 90% then 3-whatever weeks at £135" for maternity which is frankly insulting.

I wish I could find a doc who would lie and say I had a year long illness instead. Fuckers. Like I won't need as much more money as a sick person?

I may have to take my rage to bed now. It shouldn't be out too long, it gets uncontrollable.
Night lovelies

Oh, meant to ask, specific how do you get NHS emails? My "D"H needs to be told this the lazy bastard.

I've been fine all day & now spotting again. So typical they cancelled my scan for monday, I might be needing it now after all! Will have to ring epu if it continues but its not a lot at all. Rraaghhh us ladies don't need these worries! X

Morning ladies

CongratulationsMrsA on the jb offer.

MrsGSR. Good luck for tomorrow. I am really nervous too that my scan on Friday will find nothing or something wrong. FX all ok

Chocco. I am sorry to hear that. Hopefully it's just a little and will disappear really quickly. Hope you get an appointment really quickly with your EPU

I am exhausted and struggling to keep up with anything. Roll on Friday 5pm.

Sorry scan on Saturday not Friday....

Mine is tomorrow at 9:45 and I am scared shitless. It started creeping up on me yesterday and then I did the Maths and today would have been the day I had my d&c in that cycle. Not to mention, had that baby lived, it would have been due this Saturday. I'm in full on panic mode :(

So many scans coming up! Good luck, ladies :)

Sorry, loulou :( it's crap, isn't it?

Wow MrsA - decisions decisions indeed! Good luck with making that one - I totally understand your reservations about the new one and I think the informal chat will hopefully answer some of the concerns you have. Fingers crossed for you!

GSR good luck tomorrow!

MissM It really sucks thinking about due dates that would have been - I know I will be the same come August. Deep breaths (easier said that done). Will be thinking of you tomorrow!

Chocco - soooo annoying! Grrrr! Mine isn't there this morning, but I am soooo expecting it to come back at any second! Really hope you can get a scan ASAP for peace of mind!

Pea - OMG I am knackered today - everything is taking me 10 times longer than it should because I keep forgetting what I was about to do. I have lost count over the last few days of how many times I have gone downstairs, got sidetracked and come back up, only to then realise I had gone down for something specific like a drink. I then have to go back down again (which feels like a massive effort right now) and actually keep saying over and over the reason I am going down so I don't forget a second time! Argghhhhh!

I fear I may be bowing out of this thread too, a little brown spotting has turned into a full heavy bleed. :-(

Just my luck that I have a meeting in town that I can't get out of either, so will have to call the GP this afternoon.

medusa I've seen your PM, but not going to follow up on the FB group for now if that's ok?

Chocco well I spoke too soon - just checked and spotting is back - heavier than it was yesterday. Anndddddd back into the negative tailspin we go!

MTB so sorry you are having a heavy bleed and every more sorry you have a meeting you can't get out of! Will keep everything crossed for you! xxxx

Sultana - it sucks doesn't it x

Thanks Sultana and I you, I guess the plus side is at least we've got other people going through this with us.

Why is it that the time of you PG that you're most ill and need te most hand holding is the time you're not supposed to tell anyone?

mummy. I really sorry to hear that. Can you speak to your doc?

Sultananjo. Sorry to hear the spotting has returned hopefully will stop soon.

I know MTB. It majorly sucks and while we are at our most vulnerable we have to go through it almost alone. This thread is really an amazing way of keeping as positive as possible and knowing everyone else really understands what we are all going through!

Thanks Pod. It's odd, but something doesn't feel quite right - feeling quite faint this morning (which I also felt yesterday morning). I can't explain it, but apart from the spotting something feels more weird than usual. I may call my GP and try and get referred to the EPU if this continues...

mummy and sultana - very sorry to gear about the spotting . Got everything crossed for you. sultana - please do phone the EPU; particularly if you're not feeling right

Handholding for you both, sultana & MTB How worrying for you :(

sultana, you should definitely go to the EPU.