September 2013 Babies-the Glowing Trimester

[JammyTummy]

New thread! May it bring lots of good news, funny stories and happy bump mummies!

No idea where the baby is though I have felt a lot of movement down low today so either it's pummelling my fanjo or it's the wrong way up.... boo.
Had my first comment from perpetually gobby colleague at work today, "ohh, look at you, where did that pop out from??!!!!???" to which I replied (in a strop), "yes, yes, I'm massive, thanks very much" and stomped out of the office to teach. I can take the twattish comments from my students (idiot 16 year olds have zero sensitivity and think "SGJ, you look WELL pregnant today" is appropriate) but I'm not having it from a twattish, overweight mother of two who should know better. Grrrr.

Kim I went to Parrs Wood... this small world thing is getting smaller!

Had my anomaly scan today (at 21+3). Baby has a big head and short arms, apparently. Maybe I'm having a T-Rex

I'm still not convinced that they're right on my dates, but it doesn't make a whole lot of difference overall. They reckon I'm a week less than I thought I was, but the big head matches my dates exactly. Saying that, DP can never find hats that fit...

SGJ I am hearing and feeling you. In our parallel pregnancies, I also had on Monday 'blimey where did THAT come from?' whilst they actually moved my jacket out the way to get a look at the bump. Also, from a 44 yr old mother of 2. Another phenomenon is that people seem to want to lend me clothes? Cue size 16 friends saying 'I'll bring you some things you can borrow' which I find very strange. And lastly, from a relative stranger at school - 'how much weight have you put on so far then?' .... Errrm how much have you, rude cow!

Hi all! Still trying to catch up with the thread! Read a few pages while was on holiday and was snorting away to myself!
On the lady garden front, there is literally not a hope in hell I could begin to see anything down there anymore, but I've always been a wax girl, so I take the pain once a month! Definitely going to go for IPL when babies are done though, to forever de-fuZz underarms and get a 'high bikini'.
My bump has got absolutely hyaaauge to the extent that I'm wondering how on earth I'm going to push it out, and I still have almost 3 months to go! It's expanded to the point I'm now getting bottom of rib kicks (and don't get me started on the daily prodding my bladder gets! Not appreciated). Also my belly button is so outie now it gives me the creeps a little...
Holiday was great and beano loved the sun- she did lots of dancing about. Managed to burn my arms though so I am now flaking, which isn't most attractive! Prayed the whole week we were there that I didn't start to suddenly get my Braxton Hicks as I knew it would freak me out and so much better if it happened at home. All avoided though. Has anyone had either signs of their BH yet or any boob leakage? My app says it could've started a couple of weeks ago.

Anyway, huge spiel over and I shall go and try to catch up with rest of the thread!

Jammy yes have had BH here, mostly after walking or rushing around.

RakeABedOfTyneFilth Perfect, thank you!! I don't have an email address so that's something to ask for next week! I was so busy concentrating on the BIT IN BOLD that I missed the bit before it! Durr!

Looking forwards to starting pregnancy yoga in 2 weeks (not many classes where I live but finally on one) so hope that will help generally. Still feeling remarkably unphazed by birth, I think there's something wrong with me! Good news is that bump is now huge and I have finally put some proper weight on. Think I'm about 2kg up from pre-preg weight, but that's about 6-7kg up from my lowest poorlysick weight! Cannot see toes, trim ladygarden or be bothered to take off my socks easily.

mooster1709 (and everyone else) thank you for your support. I really hope that your SPD doesn't get any worse. I found these websites:

www.pelvicinstability.org.uk/

www.pelvicpartnership.org.uk/
They seem to have some really useful advice and at my antenatal appointment today I'm going to insist on getting some proper help. I've had to be signed off work and I'm unable to sleep properly - although the dreamgenii pillow is pretty good so if you have SPD then you should definitely think about getting one. I really wanted to do pilates or yoga but there are no pregnancy specific classes any closer than 50 miles away.

As far as the competitive stuff goes: I'm the fifth lassie at work to get pregnant in the last year and two of my sisters in law are also pregnant. Well, one has just given birth and the other is due two weeks before me. Ooof! I just laugh when people say appalling things. You can get fired for punching your work colleagues.

juniper9 Aww baby t-rex! :-)
At our 20 week scan baby had a big tummy, big head and short legs.
Husband and I are 6ft/ 5ft10 respectively, slim with small heads (hats are always too big!).

Jammy no boob leakage, though I've threatened my husband with it. (I find all this what-happens-to-my-body stuff fascinating!)
No BH either, though a few pulling pains around lower abdomen when I walk.

Joskar I had no idea about the punching ;-)
Seriously though it's mad isn't it? I get that as humans we use comaprison to help us understand the world... but really! I feel a bit bad as my colleague who is pregnant is a bit overweight and she made a few jealous comments about my round lovely baby bump. I don't know what to say back though so wittered on about how lovely it is to be pregnant :-S

I think I'm starting to feel end-of-second-trimester-start-of-third-trimester tiredness creeping in though- and this trimester doesn't end for another month or so! Eeek!

Wow, I feel so much LESS pregnant than most of you. I am 25weeks today. I have a bump, but can still quite easily hide it in baggy tops, though baby was perfect size at the 20wk scan.... can't imagine being anywhere near BH or boob leakage.. though my boobs are quite giant.

DH and I have been bemoaning the huge amount of 'grown-up' stuff we've been doing lately - we've got a nursery place booked (after visiting 5 local places), and our campervan is ready for pickup friday (insurance sorted, just got to get a parking permit for it), we've had our gutters cleared out and we've got a couple of quotes in for double-glazing to get the house warmer for the lo next winter. Hopefully that'll get fitted in July.

Next Tuesday I'm meeting a friend for lunch who is lending us a full 'travel system' and then I'll have to wheel the pram all the way back home - can't even describe how freaked out I am by that prospect even though there won't even be a baby in the pram :)

Another friend I think is lending us a moses basket and a third one a baby bjorn sling. Don't think we need anything else major except the nct bednest we're hiring for the first six months instead of a cot.

I haven't even considered babygrows or anything like that - think we'll just buy the absolute minimum from the supermarket to start with and see what people give him as presents. My mum told me last weekend that they only bought my babygrows etc on the way home from the hospital after my birth (and I wasn't early) so maybe the whole denial / last-minute approach is genetic :)

I fear the third trimester tiredness is starting for me too fl0b0t - was invigilating an exam this morning and nearly fell asleep, and could happily be in bed by 9 every night at present. And I'm only 26 weeks today...

No BH though - but I wonder if I would recognise them if I did have them? And all the kicking I feel is down at the bottom - when is the baby supposed to turn around?

Had boob leakage once and I did not like it. It gave me the right willies. Seems to have gone away again now though.

ohhh I have a sensitive Facebook situation on my hands today. I knew I had a couple of friends who had fertility problems so didn't announce my pg n FB, glad I didn't as one friend then posted that her IVF attempt had failed (and I wouldn't assume they can afford to do it repeatedly).

Today I put up a picture of DS and 'pretend baby' - a doll I got him. I nearly captioned it 'practice baby' but changed at last moment. The IVF friend (who I know from NCT class first time round but hardly ever see IRL ) has commented in exactly the way I hoped to avoid - "why have you got him this?" and I say its just a toy, she then writes "Oh good, for a moment I thought you were prepping him". What can I say now? I don't want her to be unhappy but if I don't say something, someone else will.

I didn't get leakage or BH in last pg but have had both this time already (although was still bf ing DD when I got pg so I blame that for the leakage!)

Oh rake that's a bit awkward. You might have to drop her a pm to let her know now - it'll surely be worse if she finds out second hand as she'll think you deliberately lied to her

juniper at little baby t-Rex....raaawr!

What do BH feel like? My bump goes rock hard if I walk quickly or for any length of time - is that it? Def no boob leakage here just yet.

24 weeks today which apparently means that baby would have a 50/50 chance of survival if born now....with odds going up by 2-3% per day over the next few weeks!

Eeek RakeABedOfTyneFilth that sounds a little uncomfortable. I'd probably just come clean with her asap as I know from other people that they've hated that people have "hidden" pregnancy news from them. Might be different for your friend though? :-S Both my elder brothers and their wives have fertility issues and I was really nervous about telling them but they were all brilliant about our news which was a huge relief.

moonster- early bed- yum! Poor husband keeps following me to bed then going "I'm not tired". Of course you're not love, it's only 8:45pm! I have to send him off to go and play computer games or read or something!

I don't know if and when babies turn (sometimes they don't!) but right now they've got quite a bit of space to move around in still. I feel kicks and prods all over, left, right, centre- mostly below belly button but a few above too. I think baby does synchronized swimming in there!

argh, or I could take the coward's way out and say "ha ha, not for at least 16 years I hope!" and assume she meant preparing him for parenthood. Then hopefully in three months when we put up a picture of us as a foursome, she won't feel that this specifically was a fb.

I like your moves!

Today's team meeting was mainly about a few of us non shitty people watching my belly move! Have come home an I'm watching again as he jigs about! I love it!

Well I've just got back from a very tiring business trip...this flying lark is definitely a lot more challenging the bigger the bump gets. Made the mistake of asking an air stewardess to help me lift my (fairly small briefcase on wheels type affair) into the overhead locker & was promptly told that if my case was too heavy to lift then I should've checked it in! Obviously I was quick to respond with 'it's not too heavy, I'm just pregnant & don't want to strain myself'. She just walked off...will stick to asking poor unsuspecting (but far more chivalrous) male passengers from now on!

Badguider I'm still in the same place as you. I can definitely still cover up the bump in normal clothes, though I do look pregnant in my work clothes as they are the bit tighter. Also haven't really sorted anything yet, been offered a car seat and bought some pretty new knobs for an old cupboard I'm planning to "upcycle" for the room! (I know, they shouldn't really have been top of the list for someone who has bought nothing for her unborn child!)

I can't believe some of u can't still cover up bumps!! Mine is beyond all manner of disguises!! Feel huge now!!

ow ow ow! baby has found a spot just to the right of my belly button that is super tender. The MW managed to push it at my 24w appointment and it was agony - she said she thought it was either head or bum, but whatever it was I nearly jumped off the bench it was agony. Well, baby has just done the same thing by his/herself - had a big yoga stretch or something and oh sweet cheeses but it was like when you bash yourself on top of a bruise. But for 30 seconds solid.

Sorry to go on and on but I still have said nothing more to my Facebook friend and (entirely separately) she has now posted chapter 6 of her blog about her IVF process - the end of the 2ww. I feel like an utter shit.

Hi all, haven't posted in a while but have been keeping up with you all. Rake I think you should private message her, and explain you weren't doing the big th announcment thing.

I never bothered with the fb thing, still a bit superstitious to be honest!

Have been getting myself worried again, well what's new! I think my bumps shrinking a bit, maybe its just my eating steadying off, anyone else feel the same?

Finally got round to updating my bump pic! ... only took me two weeks.

Now I think it's about time I attempt to de-fluff my legs and other bits. Wish me luck!

RakeABedOfTyneFilth poor you... seriously though the longer you hold it, the worse it will be. Lots of people struggle to conceive but they should never make you feel bad because you have been able to. If they're a good friend and a good person, even thought they're probably hurting they should be happy for you. If not.... well.... you tried. Nothing more you can do. You're pregnant, you don't need any extra stress or negativity in your life right now. You gotta try to be a good and caring friend, but if they can't be happy for you despite what they've been through (and are still going through).... there's not much more you can do....

I haven't done the FB thing either, I have family with fertility issues as well as a very good friend who lives in Oz now who lost her baby last year at 22 weeks. I think Rake, I would pm your friend.
With my SIL, I just made sure we told her over the phone and didn't do a family announcement, so that she could process it all before we had a big family get together, in her own time.
ION, I have been eating like a pig today and really need to sort my eating out - have to do fruit and salad rather than chocolate and buns!