June 2013 - thread 6 - will this thread see any early arrivals?

[AlohaMama]

Welcome back all June-ers, just realised we were about to run out of space on the old thread.

I'm very lucky that I always sleep very well in pregnancy - just comes as a shock when I have to keep getting up when baby's here!

Pink I've lost my victor meldrew cat a few times now. As DontMind says - The longest one I'm convinced he got shut in someones shed when they'd been cutting the grass. He came back starving and really thirsty. Kind of serves him right for having such an obsession with small dark spaces i.e. kitchen cupboards, the washing mashing, the welly boot cupboard, my car boot.

Anyway I have to rescind my offer of giving away the cat. Apparently DH quite likes him and wants him to stay (of course that's because he's the only person the cat actually likes).

cycle they're very irregular 'period pains' no discharge or anything, if they get worse I'll call them,
am off to get the matters for the Moses basket today so he's got somewhere to sleep
in terms of long journeys im off to Liverpool Saturday night, im based in Stafford, will just make sure hospital notes and bag are in.boot, I dont think we should feel really restricted just cause were pregnant just make sure you've got your notes and you'll be fine, if you go away without your notes it's sods law that something will happen

Steff yeah I'm trying not to be a wimp about travelling. Its just a 4.5hr train journey for a hen do doesn't really appeal right now. Its one of the cheaper hen weekends I've been invited to for a while but will still cost me in the region of £300 at a time when I'm really doing my best to save up. I'd much rather go to the wedding than the hen do but even that's looking risky given its a 5hr car journey with a tiny tot (best case scenario 4 weeks old) that can only be put in a car seat for 2 hours at a time.

So far I've had to turn down 3 hen dos and 3 weddings this year because of timing - gutted!

I wouldn't go if it was gonna cost £300 but me and dp bought a house in January after renting and a lot of my friends still live with parents (im 25) and dont understand all the bills, insurances, etc that we pay for as well as trying to buy everything for this beastie, and luckily for me a few of these things I end up going to are family events that my mum doesn't want ti go on alone since my dad dying in June, and she usually pays for most of the things on the day

Pink, hope he comes home soon, one thing I hate about nice weather is cats getting locked in neighbour's sheds. We have moved and now have neighbours and our tabby cat is a very friendly little boy so I can imagine him getting locked in somewhere! He was flying over the back fence into the farmers field through some barbed wire the other - I end up not watching him as he worries me to death!! The dogs are a lot easier in that sense!

I had one night a few weeks ago with really painful cramps, don't know what that was and midwife couldn't explain it when I spoke to her afterwards. Not yet had any BH and am 32 weeks today, so don't know whether they will come or not.

Am at work on lunch wishing I was in the garden at home - what a beautiful day.

I turned down a hen do in Liverpool a couple of weekends ago, had intended to go but they were walking round shops most of the day which isn't much fun when nothing fits and you look like and oompah loompah and I can't walk that fast or far so it would have been a nightmare.

I have agreed to go to the wedding when I will be 35 weeks, it is only local however I cannot find a dress so at this rate I am going to be backing out. Tried several ASOS dresses and been sending them back so I am about to give up!! Don't want to spend a fortune as it is one day.

I am really hacked off. Need a rant. So went up to see consultant this morning. All good with baby, section still best option, great. So I said, 'not long till 7th June!' and she said, 'oh don't count on it!'. She then explained because of the extensive building work at Barnet they are only doing one ELCS a day instead of the previous 3, and the one will be whoever is most high risk. Because I am not in any way high risk I may have to move to Chase Farm and lose my date! She said they won't be able to tell me if I'm still to go to Barnet on 7th June until the day before and even then it won't be certain and I might have to come in, sit around hungry, go home again, or go to Chase Farm, and that this might have to be repeated the following week until such time as I get towards 40 weeks, or go into labour, and become more of a priority. So that's fantastic.

Rationally I know I have more certainty than pretty much every one of you so I shouldn't complain. But it does erk that the goalposts have moved, and that I might have to go to a hospital I have never been to before, that isn't on a bus route from here. It would be better in many ways to wait until labour starts - for the sake of knowing the baby is ready - but that was never the deal!

So now I just have to plan to have a baby at some point in the week commencing 10th June, if not 7th as planned, and I have to hope no one high risk comes along so I officially lose my slot. Consultant has booked a pre op assessment for me on 6th so we are still planning for 7th but I know that isn't set in stone whereas I had always thought it was.

I was hoping for answers to all my questions but I've left with a million more!

Sarah can't you transfer to UCH or somewhere else? That's v v uncool.....

Barnet is literally a 5 min drive. Whittington is next closest, and a good 30 mins, more in traffic. I would change but, aside from the fact I would have no idea quite how to do that, I would be worried that I would be even further down the pecking order and have even less certainty.

Gina I just bought a lovely summer dress from mothercare. It's jersey material but looks smart as cones with little patent pink belt. Was only £25. Will see if I can find link.

Here you are Gina
www.mothercare.com/Blooming-Marvellous-Multi-Thin-Stripe-Belted-Dress/LY5520,default,pd.html

Learner and Sarah I've got the blue and white striped bloomin marvelous dress from Mothercare and can confirm it is smart enough for very posh do's. I was at the poshest christening in the world a few weeks ago in mine and managed to hold my own against the pashmina set from Richmond in London.

learnermummy great thanks will have to have a look see if they have one in my local Mothercare, sometimes sleeveless end up not covering my boobs at the front as I am so short in the torso so will have to try it on.

Gonna I saw a lovely dress in mamas and papas last week but sadly I don't have an occasion for it

Hello, I was around on the first thread at the start of the pregnancy but haven't checked in much since then. This is my third baby and I have a 4 year old dd and 2 year old ds. Dd was 10lbs and day 9lbs. I've been having growth scans since 28 Weeks as they think this baby is rather smaller! I've meet two different consultants, one thinks I should be induced at 39 Weeks, the other wait till 41 Weeks. They don't seem to be agreeing and are leaving it up to me...feeling really unsure about what to do.

Just wondered if anyone had any thoughts/experience?

Good to read the maternity clothes tips as well...I'm down to three outfits on rotation!

wel a rather fun packed afternoon if you can call it that, went off to john lewis with my mum for the matress for my moses basket and supposedly the changing unit for the babies room, came out with the matress as that was what i am buying but my mum decided to confuse me with decisions and as such have the babies cot, matress and a cot top changer as she quite rightly pointed out we are a little short on space in his room which is all being delivered tuesday afternoon, will have to see if i can convince the men to carry it upstairs for me, i'm sure they will i'll stick my preggo belly out and look tired for emphasis...
all in all a productive day and now if this beastie makes an early appearance he'll have somewhere other than the sock drawer to sleep :)

steff good work! what happens if beastie turns out to be small after all, will you call him the wee beastie instead?

thedevilsinthedetail, welcome back! if they think this baby is smaller why do they feel the need to induce you, or is it smaller, but still on the large size?

Alohamama, smaller but still probably average sized. It's the blood flow and placenta that they seem concerned aren't up to the job despite all doppler scans coming back normal. My other two births were at 40+0 and 40+5 so I feel 41 would give me a good chance to go naturally, and if everything fine that would be my preference. But the doctor who said should be at 39 made itsounds like I would have a battle on my hands to go over that.

Aloha i wish that would happen, unfortunately his head circumference and leg is measuring at 39weeks and the other two at 37 weeks, so i think im pretty buggered, he'll still be a beast even if he's smaller, gotta get him in the frame of mind ready to be the rugby player he's gonna grow up to be!

steff, oh well. beastie he is then

thedevilsinthedetail, can't they check those things at 39 weeks, and then if the placenta is still ok then not induce you till 41? or can they not tell from the scans? if the baby is average size and i were you I'd probably want to go for the 41 wks as well, as long as they could confirm that the placenta and blood flow were still good. probably not that helpful, sorry, but good luck making the decision!

Tell you what - there aren't many things better at this stage of pregnancy than getting into big jimjams and eating a biscuit. Simple things.

Focusing on important things now - hospital bag still not packed but I am working on my labour playlist. We never even bothered to switch it on last time, but I'll try to remember this time!

I think I'm quite glad no one seems to have mentioned baby size to me as being anything but 'on the same curve'! some of you ladies seem to be getting a rough deal with baby sizes....

bubs now has a cot (ok no mattress but will soon) a changing table, and Moses basket. with a few more items such as blanket and stuff arriving tomorrow! and I actually have items packed in my hospital bag!!! with the last few bits needed arriving tomorrow as well. I'm quite chuffed I feel slightly more organised baby Wise now than I have the last 8 months. Amazing what chaos in every other aspect can bring about.

still no ginger ninja - phoned the local vet places today and he hasn't been taken in, and they all took details so they will call if he does show up. have mentioned to the neighbours so all are on the look out. hopefully he'll end his adventure and come home soon. even the dogs missing him now - although think his sister cat quite likes not sharing the food!

I do hope your cat reappears soon Pink.

I'm having a bit of a wobble. I think it dawned on me at about 4 o'clock this morning that I'm not going to get any chance to do any shopping or anything before the baby comes and I'm not going to get much choice about the birth either! At least I'm past the 34 week mark now so when it does come, we should be able to escape here as long as there are no problems . It's a bit of a shock - I fully expected that I would be being induced at 42 weeks, not 34! I've only done one of my 4 antenatal classes, only had 2 pregnancy yoga sessions and not going to get to aqua classes in the near future. I didn't get to discuss birth plans with the midwife (that was next Tuesday) although they would have made little difference - I'm not going to be able to have any of my first choice options!

Ok, I'm stopping whinging now! At least I'm going to meet my baby within a week, if all goes to plan

Oh Cycle. Chin up love. The one thing you'll have that the rest of us can't buy is a beautiful squishy lovely baby. Who cares about what you've bought or not bought yet - baby certainly wont care. Also whilst its your first time hasnt your DP already had kids? He probably will know a lot already then.

For my part i just want to tell you ladies something you probably already know. Dont eat an entire portion of fish and chips no matter how much you fancy it when 8 months pregnant. You'll be up til 5am in severe pain because you are so full.