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started yet another as im aware were about 20 posts from full again lol!

great news re scans !

expressing , I was also a lucky one and also very lucky to have BFN groups local ( I'm also a star buddie but took a back seat to complete my nurse training)I second to pump while you feed , i always got more that way .

My friend had twin boys on Thursday and i've just watched in awe as she tandem fed them .....I have asked for help already from the bfn to prepare me for twin feeding as i really feel out of my depth ! so so strange holding two tiny babies knowing this will be me in 7 months time , and also feel a bot petrified too . I'm struggling working a the min too and almost fainted on the doctors round on Friday.

with the discussion on maternity leave I will begin mine in 14 weeks , this is more so for my maternity pay and the fact that with twins I will be quiet big and tired by then , don't fancy going early with them !

Saundy - don't worry, as others have said most of us will have had some sort of pregnancy freak out! I've had a few

I won't know about a natural birth now until I see the consultant. They've already said there's no way I'll be allowed in the MLU though which upset me a bit. The reasoning was because I had a third degree tear but DS was born with forceps so I was going to tear! One MW looked at my notes and said she couldn't understand why it was classed as a 3a when she'd have said it was a 2 so it all comes down to what the consultant will say. I don't mean to make anyone anxious with what I'm describing, I didn't realise it was such a definite that I'd have CLC as although it was horrid I recovered really quickly and was really lucky.

Sorry for waffling on

And great news about people's scans! Making me excited for mine!

louby don't believe the stories that demonise the consultant led units, I had a lovely time on mine, lots of attention and encouragement to labour actively and birthing balls, bath etc to help me do so. Sadly ds was enormous and got himself into a ridiculous breech position before I even got to hospital, so in the end I had to have a caesarean, but that was an amazingly positive experience too, I saw ds lifted out, had beautiful cuddles straight away and was on my feet after 12 hours. Just don't want you to think its destined to be horrible. They are only taking precautions to keep you and your baby safe. CLC isn't a bad thing, despite some of the propaganda on here. I was active and mobile and encouraged to be!

Fairy that's exactly what I need to do. I am severely lacking in clothes and not just because I am pregnant. I am literally living between two pairs of jean and a few tops

Thanks TiredFeet, that's really reassuring to know. I think I was originally wanting MLU with DS because of never being in hospital before and being scared of the medicalisation but needed to go to theatre in the end so I suppose dealt with that fear. I think I'm just worried because the word consultant just being there scares me! I'm sorry, I'm such a wimp!

Tiredfeet I agree wirh you completely about clc - I was midwife led all the way through my pregnancy with dd and had planned a natural birth with little pain relief. I was considering a water birth too. In the end I required to be induced due to suffering from colestasis. My experience of being consultant led from that point onwards was fantastic. My midwife was still very much involved - she stayed with me throughout due to me being on the drip but she was very much in the background and gave dh and I space. I didn't walk a lot as I found this to be more painful but I was very active bouncing on my birthing. I only lay down to be examined, which was rare. My dd required constant monitoring as her heart rate dipped a few times and I was given a little monitor attached to her head so that I could stay mobile and active. I saw the consultant a few times but the midwives were the most involved.

In the end I also had an emcs bit like tiredfeet, this was also an extremely positive experience for dh and I. I could not have been looked after any better than I was and despite being on the labour ward I did not feel that our privacy was invaded - on the contrary we had a midwife who stood back and let me labour as naturally as possible despite all the wires and drip etc. I was up on my feet very quickly too and felt great!

People think I am crazy when I say the day (or so) I was in labour was an amazing day which I have so may positive memories of - yes it's bloody sore but it's not unbearable and yes it would have been nice for me to be floating around in the pool but I think that the decision to have me on the labour ward was best for dd and I in the end.

I am consultant led this time due to me having an emcs but have been told that if I do not need induced this time and do not get colestasis I can give birth on the midwife led unit. It's likely that I will get colestasis though I am keeping my fingers crossed that I don't if I can be on the midwife unit I would like a water birth but my experience last time means that I will not be too disappointed if this does not happen.

Hope this helps you - I know it can be so disappointing when your plans don't work out - I would try not to worry about it and explain that you would like as natural a birth as possible this time when you see the consultant.

Wow sorry for another epic post and x posted with you louby

Thanks for sharing your experience Harv, it's good to know that you had such a positive one, fingers crossed mine will be good too

Harv I'm the same with clothes. I wear jeans to work and I had two pairs that I basically cycled! Coupled with a few wee jumpers and hoodies and that's it!

The prob I have is that I should buy wee bits as I go along but I don't and then all of a sudden I'm nearly naked lol

suffolk, hope it stops soon so you can relax xx

Hope you're ok suffolk x

Suffolk hope your ok. Hope the bleeding stops soon

Fairy I do exactly the same then moan that I have no clothes

suffolk thinking of you and hoping you're ok. Know how scary the bleeding is at this stage. If it helps I went to see the doctor after my bleeding a few days ago as I was so worried and he gave me a v quick scan to reassure me baby was ok and he said that cervical bleeding is 'not uncommon' and to think of it a bit like having a nosebleed as all the blood vessels up there are v swollen and close to the surface at the moment. Also he said the chances of a miscarriage after 12 weeks are extremely extremely small. It reassured me to hear that! He just said take it easy for a few days until the bleeding stops

Thinking of you Suffolk, please try to rest, as hard as it is xx

Saundy I felt exactly the same as you when I was pg withDD1. Was not excited, was worried, a bit 'meh' about the baby scan photos and honestly fantasised about adoption. Hated shopping for baby clothes and buggies. It was tough and I felt a weirdo! I had never been one to fantasise about being a mum and having babies so I didn't feel excited to be fulfilling a lifelong dream. Even wasn't that excited by labour. But 2 months in once baby becomes a bit of a person and smiley I really started to fall in love. Dd is almost 7 and an absolute light. As one friend said 'its like a love affair, at the height of an affair that never goes wrong.' That's how you'll feel about your child. I promise it will work out.

If I'm honest I've been struggling with similar feelings in this pregnancy googling adoption and terminations in equal measure at night. It's hard though to connect and easy to think of the bad things - labour, child care costs etc - and not the good.

Good luck. Pm me if you ever need to.

Hope you're okay Suffolk. X

Glad you are doing ok suffok hope you are able to take it very easy

Tired your DS sounds so sweet, DP spent last night reminding me about all the fun things we can do with a DC which I think I need to keep in mind.

I'll look forward to the kicks Suffolk as that should make it feel more like a pregnancy and less like an illness IYKWIM. Sorry you've got some spotting, it sounds you're managing to keep a level head & not get too stressed about it which is fab. Now to enjoy a rare excuse to rest up! xx

Thanks as well Harv it really does help to know that other people have wobbles and it doesn't mean anything. I've had backache too, which makes no sense to me as there's only the smallest bump so not sure how that works.

Louby I'm glad you've had a few too as to describe mine as a 2 day event was a bit of an understatement. I have 3 choices about giving birth - home, local hospital or a different city. So that's only one choice really but I don't mind. I think I feel a bit more confident about it being in a proper ward as whatever the eventuality everything I could need will be there (apart from a surrogate to do it all for me!). Plus when the time comes I don't think I'll care where I am as long as someone gets it out so its gonna be the least of my worries!!

Thank you too William that was such an honest post and struck a few chords, I really like your friends description of how it feels & like even more that you can confirm it is accurate! You're right it is easy to think of the negatives so its just a question of making more of an effort to look at the flip side.

Plus the answer was so simple all along, every time I have a wobble I need to just watch this....!

Saundy every time you have a wobble just mention it on here and everyone will support you. Think we will all get those feelings from time to time

I'm 13 weeks today and the 2nd tri is in sight!

Me too fairy!! Yay! Will be second trimester next Sunday??

I have been feeling rotten. Woke this morning and had to run to the toilet to be sick lovely dh took dd downstairs to play and let me go back to sleep, though I felt so sick I just lay on bed feeling miserable. I did manage to go back to sleep for a little while though and woke feeling a little better. Can't believe my sickness is back after feeling so good!

Suffolk make sure you get plenty of rest