October 2013: Growing bumps and the second trrimester glowing begins!

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Welcome to thread six of the October bus. how long will this one last us?!

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I had my bloods for downs screening yesterday, at 14+4. I will get a letter within two weeks.

We decided not to screen for downs at all. Are we the only ones here who haven't?

shire if it was purely my decision I would have declined tests. Obviously I have to take dh's thoughts and opinions into account hence why I've had it. I would fight my side not to terminate in the grounds of downs if he thinks we should.

we didn't either shire, we decided that we wouldn't do any of the further tests anyway if it came back high risk so would rather not have the worry. its a bridge we will cross if we have to after the birth!!

We also opted out of the Down's screening. We wouldn't have terminated so didn't see the point.

Shire we had the test, not so we could terminate if it was a bad result, but so we could prepare for it if our chances were high. Neither me nor DH have encountered many people with Down's Syndrome, and to be honest I don't think either of us know much about it, so it would be a case of learning more about it and preparing for the potential chance of a baby with Down's Syndrome.

Shirehobbit I opted out of the screening as I have with all my pregnancies but the sonographer said the nuchal measurement was so big they had to tell me.

We opted out as well, as didn't want to be in the position that some of you ladies are in of waiting nervously for results or making decisions about additional screenings. DP and I are both one the same page which helps a lot I think.

Off current topic, but can I do a random AIBU? It was DP's birthday on Wednesday - we had nice dinner etc on the day. We were due to be having people round tonight for drinks, but DP cancelled yesterday as had leak in bathroom, so no light, so have to use toilet with door wide open. I'm secretly happy about this as as much a I love our friends, I would much rather sit in PJ's with belly hanging out watching masterchef than entertain and watch them all get drunk. He now wants to invite them again (light fixed last night). AIBU to tell him to sod off down the pub to celebrate his B-day? Or shall I suck it up?

Bowlfull. I'm sure he wouldn't mind going to the pub if you said you weren't up for entertaining. I'm sure your friends won't mind either.

We opted in for the testing, mainly because we didn't think for a second it would flag anything up, but also because we knew we couldn't carry on with the pregnancy if the baby did have one of the conditions.

I have to be honest, neither me or DH feel that we would cope with a child with DS or the other conditions. I wish we were the kind of people that could, but it really isn't an option for us. I'm glad we discussed things before we got the NT results as we are both on the same page and that makes things a tiny bit easier to deal with.

Jelly if he hasn't yet re invited them they will be none the wiser. Good to have it somewhere else so you can come home when you like. Although I prefer having people at our house so. I don't have to travel.

gT baby yes school always tells parents. Because children have just one class teacher I suppose the parents get more anxious about who will be taking over their child's class and that sort of thing which they don't in secondary. Also parents see me at the door twice a day so there won't be any hiding it! The office want to write letters to send on Thursday when other letters go home so didn't get outed today in the end!

Rushed home to see if I had any phone messages as should have heard within 48 hours If any problems with the screening but no calls so am hoping that means everything is ok. We said yes to the tests for the same reason as roxvox to prepare ourselves for a baby with downs syndrome if it was likely rather than to go for extra tests/termination. Although I suppose we don't know what we would think if the situation arose.

When do you get your results smitten?

My school won't announce to the kids/parents until my cover is appointed because of how twitchy they can be. The Head sees it better presented as a done deal, I guess. Interviews for my post will be in the 2nd week of May, but we have a big parental social occasion the week before, which might be a camouflage challenge !

Thanks for all the honest responses about downs testing. Still crossing everything for those in that agonising waiting period.

Wednesday at the latest. The stupid weekend gets in the way of the three day results thing. Boo.

Bowl FWIW I'd feel the same way and send him to the pub. Baggy clothes and Masterchef all the way for me tonight.
We know how to rock a Friday evening

My replacement has already been appointed, the GTP student I had last term. I told the head the day they were interviewing for another post so they just gave two people a job instead of one.

for the long wait smitten - hope you are doing something nice at the weekend to try and distract yourself.

And yes shire, I am very boring, and entirely comfortable with that . May even treat myself to some Haribo! hehe

That's SO funny. DH has just come back from work with two bags of Haribo for me. We've munched one already.

Pork gelatine is good for a baby, right?

Don't feel bad about opting out Jelly! These are the last months you can do whatever you want and get some rest. And it's honestly no fun watching people get drunk when you are super sober.

Plus, nothing comes between me and Masterchef!

By the way, does anyone else crave a nice glass of rose tonight...?? Sheer torture... a nice chilled glass of rose on a spring Friday night... I'm sure DP will have one just to torment me

smitten don't feel bad - I was thinking about it before my tests and I honestly don't know what I would do if our tests were bad... as a mother already I would find it very very hard to terminate... but I don't know if I would be strong enough to go ahead with the pregnancy knowing and also worrying about the quality of life this child would have. I admire people who do it. Don't feel bad - it's a massive thing

LOL @ Claphammama - DH has just walked in with a glass of rose

clap that's all I've been craving. When I was getting rally dehydrated re thought of a cool crisp glass of rosé was so tempting! I think I would have one now and again but can't on these tablets.

Mmmm wine!

jelly and smitten dh and I done the food shop today and brought some haribo must be something in the air lol.

smitten how annoying about the weekend making u wait longer for your results

On the drink front I'm not much of a drinker but like to drink at party's weddings etc just so happens my sister and my brother r getting married in August an September (not to each other) lol and on dh's side we have a 40th party to attend on June 1st. Isit just me or do occasions of drinking always crop up more often when u aren't allowed to drink?

Tell me about it, Natalie - we have weddings of close friends in June, July, August and September this year! I'm actually quite apprehensive about what it's going to be like being the "sober one".

My consultant actually told me to go for a glass of wine with my friend after my last appointment. I always do what I'm told.

smitten, glad your test wasn't painful. Grr to the wait for results.

bowl, night on the sofa in front of master chef is definitely called for!

Re testing: obviously I didn't opt out. DH was keener than I but now I would always have it, despite the worry we're going through now. I had thought that it was just to test for Downs Syndrome (incidentally, we haven't decided yet what we'll do if we test positive for that), but there are other conditions that are tested for which have no prospect of life. I could not continue a pregnancy knowing that it would definitely end badly - I'd need to grieve, get on with my life and try again.

It's a very personal decision, there is no wrong and right approach, I just wanted to clarify that it's not just a test for Downs.