November 2013-thread 4- nattering our way through the first trimester

[honey86]

pow... here goes another

That's what I'm praying Harv - actually the bleeding last time started after a really bad bout of throwing up so I'm wondering if all the contraction in my stomach caused it. I'm also v 'bunged up' & gassy which is making it really hard to tell where exactly the cramps are coming from...I THINK they're both abdominal and around where my ovaries are. But I can't be certain - it just hurts!!

alwaystheauntie I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Try to be kind to yourself and good luck for future family plans when you feel ready.

suffolk rest up, hoping everything's ok.

boy it sounds like it might be tummy related, fingers crossed that you feel better soon.

I've had a busy day with DS and am having a quite lie down. DM has taken DS outside to play for a bit as he's no way tired!

Just had the most beaut hotdog! Got some handmade sausages from the local butcher and baked them until really crispy then plastered with American mustard! Satisfied my need for stodge lol

did anyone see the babycentre blog thing ? thats the 2nd time ive heard mumsnet getting slagged off this week troll culture? so far ive only had support and advice from other posters... surely this aint how other ppl think of us

www.baby.co.uk/mum_stories/20130410-does-the-school-gate-bitch-fest-really-exist/

Are we getting slagged off on baby centre too??? I've not seen anything like that on there...

not us in particular, mumsnetters in general... mn has been a godsend to me when ive felt low... seems to have a bad name though x

Always - I'm so sorry, such sad news.

Suffolk - hang on in there, I've been told a bleed is very common, and often nothing to worry about.

Onelittle - thanks for the stats thread - very useful

My MS has definitely taken a turn for the better, but I'm still shattered. DP is away for the weekend and I'm looking forward to having a very lazy one! The fish and chips earlier were lovely too!!

That article has probably stemmed from Amanda Holden saying how horrible mumsnetters are!

Sometimes people need a dose of reality and sometimes hand holding. You get both on here in equal measure and that's what makes it good.

honey the ttc/antenatal threads are amazing but Ive seen some really nasty stuff on some other threads. I think its a fairly even split, I decided not to venture out of ttc and antenatal again after starting a baby names thread which turned out to not be a good experience.

In all honesty before I joined the TTC boards and now the antenatal group I found mumsnet a really weird place that wasn't for me- I avoided it. But I have found such comfort in the advice I've found. TTC boards gave far better info then my doctor ever did and I felt prepared to challenge and make informed decisions.

What I have found really sad is the amount of Mc's and problems many of the women have had on this board (I'm also on the October group where they also seem frequent). Extremely sad to see poppyseed go as I empathise with the troubles she had TTC and was also taking clomid best of luck for the future and really hope it happens again as soon as you are ready. Same to you always I am filled with so much fear for my scan for that very reason. To anyone who's suffering and for those who have received bad news sending you positive thoughts.
alex hoping you are ok?

always I'm so sorry. Best of luck for the future. Hope you have loads of support at home.

suffolk really hope the bleeding amounts to nothing. Ten days is a long time to wait, do you think you could get referred earlier?

I think MN is a bit better than the average Internet forums. Have you seen the comments on the daily mail? It is easy to feel uninhibited when posting on the web, vs face to face. That can bring out the worst of people. But it is also easier for people to open up on issues.

As for the baby names thing, you can get equally bad response from family! Have you asked your parents or friends about your chosen names, motherofcleo? I don't know why people feel so strongly about potential baby names, but they do. And i think it is something very emotional to the mum and dad too. In the end it is a personal taste thing, unless you pick something like 'talula does the hula from Hawaii'. (it is a poor girl's name in mz). MIL really hated our pick for a boy last time btw. We are not going to tell them this time until the baby is born. No one will criticise the name once it has been given.

Yeah Amanda Holden is not impressed with mn at the moment! I hear there are other celebs on here though.

You know sometimes you do see some nasty comments but its like anything in life, you meet horrible people and you meet nice people and no one will agree with each other all of the time. I have found he ante/post natal thread and the feeding support to be amazing on here. Aibu is harsh at times but that's the nature of it. I'd rather be here than netmums! Mumsnet is closer to real life!!

I had an incident in asda earlier. Was standing in an isle and suddenly thought I was going to be sick. Paid quickly and ran to the toilet, practically dragging poor dd along with me - she was happily strolling along eating a hot cross bun - however I actually needed to go to the toilet what is wrong with my digestive system!!! Didn't have this with dd at all.

Will we start a new thread??

Feeling brave enough to come back on here
always - so sorry to hear your news, and I'm over on the miscarriage threads if you want to chat

slippy thanks for your kind thoughts. Getting lots of great support from DH and my family (though DH's family another matter...)
Although I was 9 wks when I found out, things had stopped at more like 6 weeks, and at that stage, the figures are around 1 in 5, so perhaps not surprising that we have lots of people leaving - tho still v. sad.

suffolk the bleed on its own is nothing to worry about yet, but if it does get any heavier, please get in touch with someone before your scan.

slippysnow early mc is sadly something a lot of us felt unable to talk about in real life. That's why we hear so much more about it on MN. Same with problems ttc.

suffolk have you thought about ringing your GP or midwife first thing in the morning on Monday? I was told last time it's ok to have red blood. But if it soaks through a pad like a period, they can refer me to EPU. Fx you are just spotting.

Poppy you're always welcome to talk about whatever you need to - lots of best wishes. Such a good thing you have support from at least half the family x

its such a big entity mn, and there aee a lot of strong opinions swirling around out there on some of the threads. i just look here, this thread has been a godsend to me this last month or so, really helped. and you are such a lovely, supportive, non judgemental crew. lets hope its good news hereonin and we see each other through birth!

Lol I actually know a little girl called Talula, must admit I did think it a bit weird at the time!

oh yeah cleo i remember that! i have seen a few that have been gobbing off judgementally but that is a minority ms holden shouldnt over generalize. i found askbaby awful much worse than mn, its bitchy on there

hi poppy your welcome to come in for a chat, and anytime, hope ur ok xx

fx for you suffolk

found babys hb again this eve took aaages to find it but its there, sitting just about flush with the top of my pubic bone. ms on/off... and the kitchen works have begun... its like a cave, everything stripped and bare just gotta man up n deal with it though, it should be done in 3 weeks x

mummapanda, no no, the girl was named talula does the hula from Hawaii! Not just talula.

news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/7522952.stm

My first pregnant puke. What a milestone.

I really value mn as a place where women can talk about pretty much anything. I started reading long before I even met DP never mind ttc. I think it can be harsh at time but there is a lot of support for women who are going through really difficult times. In general it's a lot friendly than most forums and lot more progressive and thought provoking. It's also bloody hilarious at times! It's certainly made me less scared of motherhood and my fear that I will stop being me and just be Mum.

Congrats on your first puke msfana!! I know the first time I puked I truly felt pregnant and loved it! Lol crazy!!

Oh my that's as bad as the chinese couple that tried to name their baby @

Good morning! Had a lovely sleep so am feeling slightly less green and more human today yay!

Lots of things are making me dry boak though which is slightly embarrassing at times

Fx Suffolk that the bleeding is better or stopped today

Poppy glad that you are getting rl support and of course come back anytime.

Re. Name choices, my family love going through a-z and thinking of names. The other day I mentioned to my mum that I like Amelia and Annabel and she said "I think you have lost the plot"!!! Parents don't hold back do they!! Anyway it's a very personal choice and it prob is best to keep quiet until baby comes along.