October 2013: where we all make it to the 2nd trimester and begin to glow!

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Welcome October passengers--all aboard our new thread (is it number four or five?!). Hope everyone is having a lovely Easter and enjoying an egg or three.

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With dd I was against finding out. I'm glad dh talked me round as I felt I could really bond with her iyswim? It wasn't just a baby, it was my little girl. I really want to book a private one at 16wk but will have to see what I pick up from work as I've been off sick a fair few weeks now

legallyblond I have my fingers tightly crossed for you! I hope you're all ok. Sorry I cannot offer any advice or experience.

falconsmistress that's what I think re bonding with your bump. I also like the idea of being able to buy little dresses or little t-shirts with tractors on it if I want to!

shootingstarsandcomets I have to admit that does appeal. I love the idea of knowing at the same time as we're presented with our baby.

Haylebop can you tell me what 'talking round' tactics your DH used? I think I might need to use them on my DH!

I absolutely love the idea of finding out once baby is born and it being a surprise, but at the same time I want to know as much as I possibly can about my baby as soon as possible, and although it doesn't matter whether it's a he or a she, I really want to know so I can plan and paint things I read someone say somewhere that it's a nice surprise, regardless of when you find out the sex.

Hope all is well legally. I asked to be tested at booking as I teach year 1 where it has been going round but mw said no it is too expensive and just to call if I have been in contact AND develop spots, then they would test, so I am glad they are testing you immediately and taking it seriously. Fx for you.

Assuming everything's ok given the chicken pox thing at the moment, we won't be finding out.... I love

rox I didn't take a lot of talking round tbh. The idea of only buying cream/yellow/beige stuff put me off a bit. Although I didn't really put dd all in pink etc (she only has boy pajamas, Spider-Man/transformers/batman at age 4) I wanted to show off my little girl as my girl and not get asked all the time.

(Sorry! Posted too soon!)... planning but the surprise with DD was amazing. Also, this is just me, but I would prefer not to get too attached to the babies in the 'imagining how it will be, what they'll be like etc' sort if way as I feel that things don't always happen as you might expect and you can't assume you'll be bringing the perfect imagined baby home. Not having that prior attachment is important to me (and having had DD, I know it arrives the moment they appear!)... V personal and just me and DH.

I am not sure yet about finding out the sex. I thought I would want to know to help me feel prepared and bond and because I am a massive bit of a control freak , but then a few people I know recently have kept it a surprise and that it is lovely to have the "its a boy" moment and it makes you push harder to find out! Also one said that it prepares you for parenthood where you can't always control everything. I plan to dress my baby in just white baby grows to start with so no problem of not being able to buy the right clothes.

Whatever we do, we will both find out. DHs aunt wanted to know and uncle didn't so she was given it in an envelope. I don't think I could keep it a secret from OH!

Also it didn't work as she said we have to change the colour of the baby's room, so then he knew it was a boy anyway!

I definitely want to find out. I'm too impatient. also I have a baby nephew and a baby niece so boxes of boys and girls clothes waiting to come my way and I want to know which I want!! I feel like I already love this baby no matter what now,more than I've ever loved anything. I will always be this baby's mummy even if the worst happened,I couldn't feel closer to it as it is so for me finding out will just make it more special. again,that's just how I feel!!

Natalie Turners syndrome only affects girls and is caused by the absence of one of the sex chromosomes. Girls with Turner's have undeveloped ovaries meaning that they can't have children.They are shorter than average. Heart defects, hearing and sight problems are common too.
According to what I've read they are intellectually the same as anyone else but can have problems relating to others.

Hi all

Back from my scan, all ok and a little gymnast in there who flipped over on his/her tummy mid scan, will try and upload a picture not sure of I can from an iPad though.

I have also gone forward dates, 6 days so new due date is the 13th October...nuchal fold was 2.2 mm so hopefully all ok on that score

Congrats to other lady scanned today...and we both want a surprise regarding the sex...

I would definitely want to know the sex. Here in Spain they think its really weird that people often choose not to in the UK! Regardless, as you say halye it is connected to bonding and visualising. Although right now I keep visualising a little girl!

We've told everyone now and its a real weight off our shoulders as I can now ask for advice (here is amazing for general advice but I had nowhere for Spain specific advice!) and one lady is sending me a whole load of info about where to go for maternity wear, prams, 4d scans (they look amazing!) etc.

legally I don't know anything about chicken pox but thinking of you xxx

flyer congrats on the scan. Your my due date buddy!

Yes umlauf about visualising. However I never visualised dd to be the way she is. She is such a Tom boy. It's a bit easier now but she went through a "no dresses/skirts" stage. I'm not very Girly either though so its probably more our influence. Dh has a strong part to play with what she's into like Spider-Man etc.

Hopefully if you not had chickenpox its cause you are naturally immune legally will keep fingers crossed. I had similar scare fortnight ago as dc2 had slapped cheek. I have never had it but blood results confirm I am immune so all should be ok.

We found out with dc1 as we were facing our baby not living but it seemed wrong to be saying our wee girl. With dc2 the surprise was wonderful. This time round DH wants to find out but I don't so not sure what we will do. Will see what happens at scan on 15th may

Yey Hayle a due date buddy....

Managed to upload a picture not done a very good job though and it's turned the picture sideways! :-) off to tell friends later I'm v excited

Wow congrats, shooting star, and welcome! And congrats to today's scanners!

I have had the worst morning ever. My nausea is actually getting worse and I threw up at work for the first time today... And second. I also

Ugh I also dropped things and made other stupid mistakes and pressed post too early, obviously. Feeling a bit better now

When we got married DH said he wanted a surprise and his family ever find out the sex of the baby but since most of our friends (especially in Canada, including my brother) have found out the baby's sex, DH has come around. I do wonder if it's more popular in the UK not to find out. We talk about the baby like its a real person (it is!) so obviously we would want to know. I'm not huge into pink and pastel blue but it does make shopping easier.

I'm really happy to hear at some places £5 gets you 5 scan photos. I hope its like that here. We thought it was £5 each and we were planning on getting at least two.

legallyblond when I was researching obsessing over slapped cheek a few weeks ago, I read about chicken pox too. You've most likely already been exposed to it as a child because it is such a common infection, so fingers crossed that you'll already be immune.

I hadn't even heard of slapped cheek before a child in my class turned up with it, but again I was immune. The stress of waiting was horrendous, though.

ION, feel quite sad that my next scan isn't until 22nd may, when I'll be 21+3. My hospital do them in the 21st week- they didn't explain why.

I have to find out the sex. I'm a control freak and really impatient, we're booking a private 16 week scan on 8 May just for that purpose. I think it's a girl though.

We're just going to paint the baby room white with a wall sticker maybe robots for boys and a tree with pink leaves for a girl. I'm not actually doing anything till after the 20 week scan just in case.

I think we got a bargain with scan pics, we only paid a donation of £3 and got 5 pics for that, I was surprised, I took £30 in case they charged per pic.

Legally, hope the next 24 flies by, so you can get your results quickly-it is so likely you are already immune, but you just don't need added stress for your twins!

My 20 week scan in 10th may. We're not finding out the sex, didn't with DS, and it was a lovely surprise! We just bought white grows/vests before he was born, and then within 48 hours of his arrival we had so many 'boy' gifts, that he was quickly wearing blue!

It's been a while since I checked in so congrats to everyone who's had their scan results!

I'm glad to hear the fluid measurement is looking better MON, will keep my fingers crossed for you.

legallyblond that must be so frustrating for you, I hope you get good results soon. I don't think I'd be nice enough not to vaguely resent your coworker!

I was wondering, what stage do people generally get a visible bump? We're going on holiday when I'm going to be 18-21ish weeks and I'm thinking I'm going to need maternity summer clothes. I've had to go a size up in jeans already but I'm pretty sure that's all the cake and easter eggs

Wow what a bunch of chatter boxes lol

Dh is home now, and excuse my rudeness but I can't look back on phone, yes dh is deffo whiny to whoever else has a whiny dh when un well lol. But he's home now so best put my nurses uniform on lol

Good news on all the lovely scans!! Not many left to go, my 20 week scan is on 24th of may and ill be 19+4 I feel tempted to call up and try and get it earlier lol cos I'm so impatient and me and dh will also be finding out the sex, we were planning to have a 16 week private sexing scan but as es now off sick for the next two weeks and he's self employed it means we are going to be poor as anything lol.

My 20 week scan is on may 23rd

I am 14 weeks today sparkeleigh and my size 10 clothes are now maternity clothes. My daughter keeps telling everyone how big my "baby bump" is already. I have only put on 2lb so it can't be fat......it must be baby

We won't be finding our the sex of this baby.....we have a girl and 2 boys already.

I definitely have a bump already. I'm 14+5. can't fit in my jeans and I haven't put on any weight since I got pg thanks to my new obsession with feeding baby healthy food and feeling sick 1/2 the time so it is definitely baby!!

Bump here too, now I've had my scan ill post a pic. Have lived in same pair of maternity jeans for about a week but they are a size too small sp they fit well. can just about still get in my others which is handy as the few pairs of maternity in my size I've got for eBay are too big on the tummy. Can't win!