Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Birth clubs

Connect with mums-to-be with similar due dates to share experiences and support.

Flip

1 2 ··· 34 35 36 ··· 39 40

Original poster

Sept 2013 - kicks, prods and finding out the sex...

999 replies

LexyMa · 30/03/2013 17:25

here we all are... hoping for nice clear 20w. scans, not too much inadvertent weeing and getting that 'glow'...

OP posts:

Readytosettle · 23/04/2013 16:40

We've had some family members say they don't want to know & others who do....still undecided about whether to tell on this basis, might just tell a few people (close friends/family who do want to know) ask them to keep it quiet. Fortunately I can't imagine anyone maliciously spreading it around!

frogchops · 23/04/2013 17:09

Not necessarily malicious.... But they will def get to find out, put it that way!!

fl0b0t · 23/04/2013 17:44

Weird that people are so emphatic about your decision to find out or not! I'm not finding out, so problem solved! :)

CheeseStrawCraving · 23/04/2013 17:58

it's a lovely warm fuzzy feeling when you tell people who do want to know though... my dad cried bless him! Not sure he's over the shock of becoming a grandfather for the first time yet, so when I told him we were having a boy think it was too much!

frogchops · 23/04/2013 18:04

Lovely cheese :). On the flip side..... I think my dad secretly wants a girl. So I'd like to be the one sharing our blue news :-/

CheeseStrawCraving · 23/04/2013 18:21

My dad was convinced it was a girl though - don't think he really minded deep down as long as we were both healthy! I'm sure your dad will feel the same

badguider · 23/04/2013 18:21

I think my MIL might not want to know... she hasn't decided yet but she was quite shocked that we were finding out and said "but it's the only surprise" I mean really????!!!! Seriously??? Like giving birth to my first baby is NOT going to be surprising enough???

Anyway, my take on it is that it's her call and I'm not going to be held responsible if I slip up in saying he or she. I want to stop referring to it as 'it' so she'll just have to cope if I use he or she in front of her.

frogchops · 23/04/2013 18:39

I'm thinking.... If anyone asks, I'll tell them. I'll speak to dad beforehand and give him the option of me telling him. I know he'll suggest I only tell people that 'don't matter' though. But it might have to be tough luck. Does this sound harsh??

jennimoo · 23/04/2013 18:52

Frog - I think I'd find it too stressful trying to keep it secret from certain people. I'd go all or nothing, and as I'd no doubt say 'he' and give it away I've gone for telling everyone. If you explain to your dad in sure he'd understand how stressful it could be to put you in that position!

And I totally agree with badguider: a newborn (even the second) is plenty surprise enough for me!

Readytosettle · 23/04/2013 19:14

I was a bit concerned about inadvertently letting it slip, but it's mainly DH's family who've expressed a strong desire not to know and he is very blasé about the whole thing 'if they find out, they'll just have to get over it'. It's a fair point, it's only 4 months early & it's our baby at the end of the day so if we want to bond with it by calling it he/she before the birth then it's our call!

SGJ · 23/04/2013 19:47

On a totally different note than all the gender debate, today at work I wore a maternity vest top that I bought for my last pregnancy, and lent out to a friend's SIL since - I also took a strappy maternity top To work as I was cycling in & didn't want to get the vest top sweaty. Both had been washed since they were returned, however it seems the SIL must have been a massively sweaty sweat bags as the top STANK within an hour of me wearing it... in an air conditioned classroom. Mortified. I smelled gross. I swapped it for the vest top and within an hour that stank too. Am now quite frustrated as she borrowed loads of stuff and now I'll have to potentially buy a load of new stuff if she's stink sweated her way through all of mine. Grrrrr. Going to have beans on toast and Becks Blue to make myself feel better. And a shower.

TripleRock · 23/04/2013 19:50

Any scans tomorrow?

Mines at 1:30 :) DH still won't tell me whether he's decided we're finding out the sex or opted for a surprise! Git bag, he's doing it to spite me!

Ion, I finally caved and went to be measured for a non wired bra today only to come home with a 38 GG :( Thats 2 back sizes up on pre pregnancy size :(

Readytosettle · 23/04/2013 20:18

Where did you get it from triple? I'm starting to struggle to find non-wired that are big enough!

WaggyBlueElf · 23/04/2013 20:18

Me triplerock! At 11.30. Quite nervous as I'm still not feeling much movement and I'll be 22 weeks tomorrow. I'm hoping they'll tell me my placenta's at the front and so muffling any kicks, so fingers crossed.

We are going to find out the sex. My view is that it's still a surprise - this way you're just spreading them out!

badguider · 23/04/2013 20:25

triple and waggy - i'm in before you :) something like 9:20 i think, first thing anyway....

won't be back online till lunchtime at least though as am going to stop at a big out of town new look on the way home (this scan is at the actual main hospital where i'll give birth, which is out of town).

i've only felt one or two kicks/movements so far (20+5 today) so am looking for some reassurance and i really hope it's growing ok as my bump is very much smaller than most others i've seen at this stage. i'll be happy if it's a little bit small for dates though as my EDD based on ovulation is 12th september but 12wk scan brought it forward to 5 Sept.

weebarra · 23/04/2013 20:35

badguider - if your new look is where I think it is, there's also an H&M and mamas & papas there.
My scan is on Thurs, nervous and excited!

andadietcoke · 23/04/2013 20:38

Good luck to you all with scans tomorrow. I'm very jealous - I'm 24 hours later and the waiting is killing me.

badguider don't worry - I have a mahoosive bump and only feel flutterings rarely - hoping this is down to additional padding!! I don't think there's a normal size - read somewhere today that even with twins you can only be starting to show at 20w. There is no normal

MammaGnomes · 23/04/2013 20:41

Diet coke are you at stepping hill??? I'm at tameside just booked on the Nct classes in marble are you doing them?? We might meet

andadietcoke · 23/04/2013 20:47

Hi mamma yep - at Stepping Hill. Doing the NCT classes in Marple (I live there) at the end of July.

MammaGnomes · 23/04/2013 20:51

Marple not marble ha ha

MammaGnomes · 23/04/2013 20:52

Aww ours is in August must have booked them too late thought if be able to put a face to a name

mrspaddy · 23/04/2013 20:55

Oh god SGJ i would not be impressed. What the hell! The sweat must have ingrained .. hmmm... think I won't be lending out my maternity gear until I am well and truly finished baby making :)

andadietcoke · 23/04/2013 21:03

I think runningbear might be doing the August classes. I booked them very early, and I'm glad I did as will be induced at the end of August if all goes well. I live about a 2 minute drive from the reading rooms - will have to meet up when you do the classes, or before at some point!

TripleRock · 23/04/2013 21:49

Ready it was good ole M&S

Cant say its the most attractive bra I've ever owned, but ahhhhh the comfort is bliss!

TripleRock · 24/04/2013 07:31

Good luck to my scan buddies waggy and badguider and any others.

Glad I'm working this morning to take my mind off the wait!

Flip

1 2 ··· 34 35 36 ··· 39 40