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Sept 2013 - kicks, prods and finding out the sex...

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LexyMa · 30/03/2013 17:25

here we all are... hoping for nice clear 20w. scans, not too much inadvertent weeing and getting that 'glow'...

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Manoodledo · 19/04/2013 14:36

Oh well, then it's probably you stressing out about how you're going to cope with a baby that's making things worse then! It might be worth, however much it hurts, letting him know that you know he does a lot and that you appreciate it, but that you are particularly tired at the moment (for very good reasons!) and will probably be even more tired after the baby arrives so things will get worse before they get better. Hopefully he'll be satisfied once you have the baby that you definitely have a job to do when he's not there! They are annoying though, whenever DH does do something in the house he'll be like 'I've done the recycling for you', WTF! I also feel a certain amount of guilt about the house. DH doesn't do much housework but I can't have the moral high ground (annoyingly) because although what does get done is done by me, it's only ever the basics and every now and again he has a rant about it and says 'if your mum could see the state of the house...', which makes my blood pressure soar!

JammyTummy · 19/04/2013 14:45

The way I see it, DH has a job, and I have no problem with the house being 'my job'.What however really hacks me off is if come 8/9 pm I'm still expected to do everything cause 'its my job'- the job that never ends! I do have to say that DH has got much much better at not thinking about it this way, and has been a particular trouper since I got pregnant. Although the difference between drawer/ floor/ laundry basket still evades him...

Creamtea1 · 19/04/2013 15:06

Frog you have my sympathies too. I have a DH fairly similar. We both work FT. He probably does more cleaning round the house but I do everything to do with the kids and make all the meals for everyone. He also leaves clothes on the floor, and will make statements like 'I've cleaned the kitchen worktops' like he's done me a favour. When I'm pissed off with him I will say things like 'I've made the dinner' or 'I've washed the school uniforms' to make a point. If it ever escalates to an argument I will point out that I will do all house related items if I was a housewife, but as I'm not, I won't. He doesn't moan when my wages pay for holidays or home improvements of food shopping!
He is also guilty of digs like 'so and so gets up at 6 to do the cleaning before work'
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CharlW1 · 19/04/2013 15:51

frog I really do sympathise. My OH is great at cooking and doing chores but does tell me everything he has done - I have snapped a couple of times!
I second definitely having a sit down and talking it through with him and clearing the air. I really hope you feel better about this soon Flowers

frogchops · 19/04/2013 16:00

Oh no see mr frog ALWAYS puts his othes Jon the drawer/basket/wardrobe etc. winds me up that he's so bloody good at things because it gives him ammo that I should dance to his 'tidy' tune. I sooo hope it will be different when I'm home alone with baby but I worry so much about baby taking up my time and not fitting all if this in.

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LexyMa · 19/04/2013 16:37

Frog it sounds to me like FrogH is an ideal candidate for an NCT class or maybe other local dads preparation group of some sort. He just needs a bit of help realising that things won't be the same and standards need to slip. My NCT class did this well, others may have a different focus. Perhaps ask your MW? I would sayiit is something you need to work through together, set out your joint priorities for now and when baby is here, and agree them. For example 'ironing' can be on the list, but lower than 'take baby to singing group' and certainly below 'mummy gets caught up on sleep'! The list can change order over time and the jobs can be assigned to each of you or left to whomever has the energy. But above all it has to be a team effort and it has to be out in the open. Best of luck, I hope you can get this sorted before it goes too far. Be kind to each other :) xx

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frogchops · 19/04/2013 17:16

You're right lexy.... Right now, DP really won't see ironing as lower than singing group!! This is where I'm gonna struggle!! Hell see singing group as a 'if you have time when everything is done' sort of activity. The sleeping mummy thing is pushing it too!!Confused

Dorita75 · 19/04/2013 19:15

Me too charl! Low lying placenta so an extra scan at 32 weeks, wohoo! We had a student who let us spend ages just watching the baby moving after she?d taken all the measurements. Said it had a beautiful bottom! We got 5 different pics for free too. The baby was moving a lot, scratching it's head and face quite a bit. It also turned away when the radiographer was trying to get a good photo, so although we have 5, they're not as clear as the 12 week one. It was also lying into my tummy curled up which made me feel so protective, it was lovely.

Glad all was good for you manoodle (apart from mean ?not telling? policy)

I?m sorry frog that you have to deal with this from your DP, I can?t offer much advice but hopefully others are helping with their empathy and advice Flowers

KamikazeeKid · 19/04/2013 20:43

I've got low lying placenta dorita does yours cover cervix and were you given warnings or advice about it?

Manoodledo · 19/04/2013 20:55

Glad things good for you too Dorita. Hope the low lying placenta won't be an issue. We got told that the baby has a big tummy, but that it probably wasn't anything to worry about. Hmm, you kind of wish they wouldn't oh so casually plant concerns like that in your head. However, DS1 had an odd shaped abdomen which landed us back in the hospital when he was a few days old. We called it his banjo belly, that's what it looked like. But it turned out to be nothing and he doesn't have it now! So maybe it's the same thing.

LotsaTuddles · 19/04/2013 21:18

Been to midwife today, and she agrees that our little jellybean is a boy, he was hiding and she couldn't find his heartbeat for ages (we're not actually finding out the sex, we've just been calling him a he for ages now and it's stuck)

On a different note, our travel system is here Grin we've bought a graco sterling one in a grey colour, I think it's called sterling, it's beautiful. I'm just wondering, does anyone else have any experience with this one?

Dorita75 · 19/04/2013 21:18

Sounds like it might be manoodle, you're right, these casual comments cause ripples in our worlds!

kamikzee they didn't say that it covered the cervix, just low lying. I'd read a bit beforehand so knew it was common, but didn't think to ask. They seemed so okay with it saying it's really common and the next scan will check on it. She just said they need to check it before birth so make sure it's not covering anything it shouldn't be, that was all. I don't really understand how it can move if it's attached to your womb but hey, what do I know?!! No advice or anything, as I say, they didn't seem concerned.

Dorita75 · 19/04/2013 21:21

No lotsatuddles but I've started looking into prams and am completely confused already! I have a budget of £200 and want certain things, and reviews are so different! If anyone's got any advice, I want a pram that faces me not away (or is reversible), a good sized shopping tray, sturdy for lots of walking but lightweight for traveling on buses, a bar rather than 2 separate handles... any thoughts? Thanks in advance!

CharlW1 · 19/04/2013 22:26

Glad your scan went well Dorita my next scan is the 12th July.

Kamikzee mine is covering my cervix - she just said to me that it is no harm to me or the baby and that the vast majority move and they'll check at 32 weeks. I have of course scarred myself by looking at Google but it still says on there that most do move and if not if will be a c section.

KamikazeeKid · 19/04/2013 23:07

Part of me thinks I'm ok with it staying put aa it takes decision regarding repeat section out of my hands but at same time I hope I don't get bleeds!!

ION I have the awful feeling that I've also got early spd :-( I suffered awful in my last week with ds and it was the worst! !! Anyone know what physio you are given for it?

jennimoo · 20/04/2013 06:28

Dorita - if you think how much your uterus is growing / stretching (and taking placenta with it) it makes sense it could get pulled off the cervix and up a bit, I reckon.

WhizzsMum · 20/04/2013 07:19

Oh dear, I too can add to the DH discussion. Had my first pg yoga class on thursday, which is daddy day care day anyway. I went straight from work and got home at 8 to an empty house. Couldnt get hold of DH, had no idea where they were, cue hormonal induced panic attacks. At 9pm he turns up with DD who was tired and ratty, and he was drunk from a lunch meeting that had 'ran over'. Not a happy mummy/wife.
dorita I had a mamas and papas skate that does all you need but might not be light weight enough. Having a rear facing pushchair was fab and very good for speech and language development as baby grows.

frogchops · 20/04/2013 08:03

Dorita, search kiddicare for britax bsmart 4.....it should match your criteria... Or bsmart 3 if you'd prefer a 3 wheeler??

JammyTummy · 20/04/2013 10:11

Can someone who has also read Gina Ford help me out here- I feel a bit daft/ confused. She says that the '1-2 week' routine is only for once baby has regained birth weight and is happy going the three hours between feeds etc, but what is the routine for before that? She refers to it as the three hour feed routine but never says what you do about sleeping etc. Does baba just literally eat and sleep?
I feel a bit naive!

Fozziebearmum2b · 20/04/2013 10:37

Been reading all your scan updates-congrats to everyone with their blue/pink updates Grin Mines not till 9th May-not due until the end of Sept

Has anyone bought & recommend any maternity tights?

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LexyMa · 20/04/2013 13:31

Jammy, that's about right. Baby will just eat and sleep (and wail) for a few weeks. The HV will possibly start tutting if birth weight hasn't been regained in two weeks, but it's all very variable. I don't think DS was up to much other than boob and snooze until at least three weeks old.

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LexyMa · 20/04/2013 16:26

Shopped for bras today. Before my first pregnancy I was a 32A/B during it I was 34C/D and after I was a 34B/C. Well my nonwired bras from first pg have been feeling somewhat uncomfortable so I tried a few in M&S (really good selection, not just sensible plain cotton but coloured and lacy stuff). I'm now a 36C - yikes!!!

So I doubt very much that my three Elle McPh feeding bras are going to be any use come Sept. Anybody want them? free, of course, they won't cost much to post. PM me if you do.

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JammyTummy · 20/04/2013 17:02

Went to McD today thinking I was going to get a McFlurry. I know this is completely irrational, but somehow the fact that it had almost 400 calories in it really annoyed me, so I ended up with a burger instead (more calories, but more justifiable I thought)... Oh my it was good!

Derpess · 20/04/2013 17:16

Jammy 400 calories, wow..... I'm still craving one regardless of the calories, am eating for 3! We are ridiculously busy at the minute but I think we can mange a trip to Maccy Ds next weekend so that's me drooling for another week.

Nice to hear all the scan news so far and good luck to those having them next week.

Readytosettle · 20/04/2013 17:30

Just thought i'd report back from the baby show today....it was hard work on my aching back but we have now ordered our pram- Uppababy Vista. Got £60 off by ordering at the show so was definitely worth the visit. Plus every brand under the sun was there so we could directly compare. Bugaboo was a close second- easier folding mechanism but a good £200 more expensive (no real show discount as far as we could tell) & do the vista won out.

We did end up with orange as I really wanted an all black chassis & the red was with silver only. We did see one on the way out & the orange isn't nearly as bright as the internet pics!

The only other purchase we made was a cheeky wipes starter kit for £20, and a new maternity bra....I think prams were enough to keep us occupied for most of the day, and we're not really ready to start contemplating carrying devices etc.

It was pretty manic at the show, so if u are going to one make sure you've done your research beforehand...I wouldn't have felt confident ordering there if I hadn't already checked out all the reviews/prices etc online first.