August 2013 - Part 4 - Half way there already!

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Happy Birthday Jolly!

Congrats on joining team blue Brie

Sorry to hear about the house Abi.

I would go to your GP Ruck they will have a better idea of medicines and then can make sure it's ok to prescribe.

Happy Birthday Jolly!

Ruck Hope your doctor can help, it sounds horrid :(

I went into Boots yesterday with the intention of spending some of my points on a nice unisex outfit, but didn't see anything particularly great. There were some nice bits that were obviously boyish or girly, but nothing unisex that grabbed me. I looked in mothercare too, again nothing that took my fancy. Would prefer to buy from Boots really so that it doesn't actually "cost" anything.

Appointment with MW later today, looking forward to hearing baby's heartbeat. Have been feeling more movements this week, which is nice.

well the Dr was really nice. listened in to babies heartbeat for reassurance. nothing she.can do for the pain other than suggest my original medication. going to talk to dh tonight and see what we decide. if I go onto it again I get growth scans every 2 weeks which will be nice. every cloud and all that I suppose.

Hello - 20wk scan today and we are team pink! Have put a scan pick up on FB.
Sorry for those who have already read on FB but have placenta praevia so bit scary, another scan booked for 32wks to check the position of the placenta (hopefully it will have moved), she basically said not to lift anythign or any vigorous exercise. I had a low lying placenta with DS but it was only slightly low whereas this one is completely covering the cervix! Isn't pregnancy fun at times! Other than that the baby wouldn't stop moving so the scan actually took 45mins as the sonographer was very thorough and wanted to check everything!

Happy Birthday Jolly!

20+2

Happy Birthday Jolly

Congratulations to others that have had good scans and joined their teams.

Also just had 20 week scan and also joining team pink! Maybe it's evening out now?

I have an anterior placenta which explains why although this is baby no.4 I've only just started feeling kicks. All measurements came back as spot on for dates.

20+4

Had my scan yesterday. Baby was all ok. Measurements fine but baby is long!! They have 15 non appts here and baby would not comply with last 2 measurements that sonOgrapher wanted so get another scan in 2 weeks - secretly pleased I have a naughty baby!!

We are team yellow too!

Got my first appt with consultant tomorrow. Am a bit nervous. Thought my cousin was coming with me but she can't now but I will be brave and go on my own!

Ruck hope you are feeling a bit better, sounds horrible

21+2

There are 15 Rebecca fairhursts on fb. I want To join the secret group!!

Rebecca you will have to have a pic of you with a red carnation so we know its you!!

I have had the worst day at work.

Roll on end of July .......

Woofers she the top one with big boobies lol! Check her friends for me abbie lee smith :)

Happy birthday jolly!
Xx

Abbie I just choked on my cough Haha. The one with the big boobies lmao. I'm from barnsley woofers if it says that xx

Haha well its true! Xx

Morning Ladies,

Happy belated birthday Jolly

Congrats on healthy scans and good to see team pink on the rise!

Came for a little moan re work. They have been lovely, and was only here for like 5 months before I fell pregnant. Really laid back place and am very happy here. However, if we have days off sick, the next time we get holiday pay they deduct a percentage from our holiday pay depending on how many days off sick in that holiday period. I'm pretty sure this is illegal??! Anyhow, I have been taking holiday days off for scans etc as I don't drive and bus journeys between workplace and hospital would take forever! So was basically being nice in taking my holidays so they didn't have to pay me for like 3 or 4 hours when I wouldn't be in the office (I see consultant after scans and the wait time can be horrendous, plus then the public transport time on top.) I'm just so . It's only a few pounds here and there (like £3 per day) but it really isn't the point.

Sorry for moan!

Have a lovely day ladies, while i hope my boss doesn't have a key logger on the computers!!!!!

20+4

22 hours til my scan! This will be my 5th scan and i'm even more excited for this 1 than any of the others!

Off into town today and to pop into adopted mums for a cuppa :) treating elle to a new dress and my little man an outfit!

My mum is really over the moon and really excited. Which is lovely but now she keeps saying hurry up and have him :/ this may make the pregnancy drag.

Found a dress for mil wedding in july, got to wage how big i am gonna be and order it :) its a lovely maxi dress with diamonte detail on the bust in a lovely deep purple.

My little man is on a figit, i keep getting a cravings for strawberries with whipped cream yummy lol.

20+3 :) xxx

Trixie - that doesn't sound right to me either, you ought to question it or at least check it out, I'm sure you know you don't have to take holiday for pregnancy related appointments so maybe at least stop doing that as you may want to save up holiday to use before mat leave (I saved up a whole 6wks with ds!) it doesn't matter how long it takes you to get there and back or how long the consultant takes - it is the law that you are entitled to that time off...

Trixi does your work have a maternity policy? If not have a look on d o w p website at the guidance regarding annual leave, sick leave and attending maternity apts. I am almost sure that you have to be paid for attending mat apts. x

trixie they're breaking the law wrt the antenatal appointments if you have to take annual leave. Your rights

It looks like I'm going to have growth scans and consultant appointments every two weeks, on top of the usual midwife appointments. It takes me an hour on the bus each way plus time for late buses etc it takes up a lot of time. Work aren't too happy but they have to and they know it.

trixie it is the law that they have to give you time off (i.e. paid) for antenatal appointments though tbh if you've been there less than a year they might not be obliged to, either way you need to check with out with hr.
I know appointments are a pain, I get round it (partly) by working from home on days I have to be at the hospital, makes more more productive, not sure if this is an option for you.

Woofers have you added me on fb? Got an add and don't want to add n then add to group if its not you lol xx

Thanks for your replies, I was aware I am entitled to paid time off for these appointments, and they are not making me take holidays. I chose to because, to be honest, I couldn't be bothered to mess around with the bus! Doing the 45 minute journey to work for 30 mins then setting off for the hospital. Though, I didn't take a holiday for my midwife appointment, which made me 2 hours late which they haven't paid me for!

I am going to have a word with the lady that does the payroll tomorrow, I'm getting really peed off with having money taken out of my wage! And will mention the 2 hours pay for my midwife appt.

On a lighter note, I have calmed down a bit and have a very wriggly boy in my belly today, which is nice.

Foof Normal cameleon is slowly slipping out of our price range too now, seeing so many nice things to buy!

Hello all. Just back from scan. Am joining team pink as I predicted. Dd will be very happy. Picture was pretty rubbish but at least everything is ok which is all that matters.

Pinks evening out now :) congrats stiggley xx

Hi all,

Just a query really. My 29 week scan is on Monday (yay ) and after checking with a Midwife if this was ok we have asked my mum to come along with us. This was to thank her really for all she has done for us, she has always been so lovely and supportive and was so thrilled when we told her we were having a baby. She never had scans during her pregnancies and hasn't been to the scans of my nieces and nephews. I was really looking forward to it.

Anyway... My boyfriend's mum has asked outright if she can come and has started asking whether my mum is going. I had asked him to tell her because I didn't want to lie to her, but he has just said he doesn't know yet. My mum said to let her come too but I don't want her there! She is a very difficult woman who fits the narcissistic mould to a tee. She can be charming but at other times is nasty and manipulative, she has said and done horrible things to us then denies them, we are not her favourites and she makes this blatantly obvious.

I felt sorry for her when I saw her last, but she was charm personified, it won't be long until she starts down the nasty road again and I don't see why we should let her play happy families now just for her to shut us out when it suits. She massively favours her other child and it is so hurtful to my lovely boyfriend.

So, I am sorry for the epic post but am I being an utter bitch? I wanted this to be special for my mum and apart from that it is an important scan and it is important the sonographer can get on with their job.

19+3

ijustwore no I don't think you are, my mum didn't know I was preg till today so didn't come to my scan, so I had to ask dp's mum to come with us to watch the kids in Waiting area. But she come to pick us up she bought her step sons girlfriend with her too without asking, then started saying why don't you leave L (my partner) at home with kids then I can come in with you, I said no sorry I want him with me hes the farther then when we got to hospital she said I think he's best to stay out here to watch the kids Il go in, for a moment I was going to accept it then just thought no why should i, I want my partner in. So told her no again. She royaly did my head in if I must say so. So no your not been a bitch, I wouldn't have wanted her to come either but had no choice as my hospital don't allow kids in the scan room till all checks are complete xx

Yes that's me. - rosy

I have no intention on taking any mother with me to any scans (apart from my 12w scan when my dh couldn't get time off work and my surrogate mum came)

I asked my mum to come and see the wedding dress I chose, not millions, the one. Only one dress. She asked if she could buy a paper on the way because she wasn't that interested. I took my m I L to the final fitting and she spent the entire time on her phone texting someone. So they have both got their cards marked in my book.

It's non of your MiL business who goes with you to the scan. Offer to buy her a picture, and promptly ask her for the £4 to buy it.
What does your dh say?
If you have to justify your reason then explain that you want your mum to support you. After all it is all about you!! Your the one who has to put up with the body changes, the birth, the sleeplessness, etc. . . . Good luck!

That sounds awful, her putting you on the spot like that! Like something my boyfriend's mum would do. My problem is when she is going through a nice phase it is easy to forget the bad times. She is already making noises about being at the birth so she can 'bond'. There is just no way! I'm quite a private person and it would stress me out to have have her there. Utterly ridiculous to suggest you can't bond with a child unless you attend the scan or birth!

Trenchcoat - is there not a limit on how many people you can have anyway at the scan (although there really is at my hospital, one companion only)