August 2013 - Part 4 - Half way there already!

[RugBugs]

Old thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1678178-August-2013-Part-3-Adventures-in-the-second-trimester

Stats thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1655004-Due-August-2013-Stats-Thread

My boyfriend wants my mum there too, even said she could go instead of him if only one person was allowed, bless him! I don't want him to miss out though. It's just it was my mum I was sobbing to the morning of my first scan because I was so worried, and I am her only daughter so it just feels like a little payback for her being so lovely!

I checked with the Midwife at my 16 week scan and she said it was fine to take more than one person, but I might phone the US department tomorrow just to double check!

There were 2 seats time, though I suppose one of those could have been for the pregnant woman if there was anything to discuss. Still, it is a good excuse if nothing else that there is a 2 person limit say.

Iwore - i would have full blown said the only 2 people who be in my labour will me and dp, end of. My mum was like oh i can come to the labour and my exact no you cant as its a private thing that me and dh do as a couple. I dont want to sound rude but this is our child and you can come up after in visiting time like the other nannys.

Had a crappy afternoon, dd has had major flare up with her eye and i ended up in tears at our doctors. I'm sick to teeth of sticking some sort of medication in her eye. Then they gave me this thick drop stuff and has 7 days to unblock her eye or she will be booked in to have an op. it has taken 15 months to sort all this out. Just a breaking point with it for her. She such a good kid and doesnt kick up a fuss.

Scan in 13 and half hours. Very excited.

Congrates on healthy scans :)

Xx

Oh bloody hell, no way would I want DPs Mum anywhere near the ultrasound room! I found it intrusive enough that his parents came into see us a few hrs after I had delivered DD, I think if I had people waiting in the hospital for me to give birth I would go crazy!

I was finally able to see GP about spd today, referral sent hurray but she was very adamant that if I'm doing all the right positioning/movement already then it's just going to get worse. I should get crutches and support belt just after Easter though.

Trenchcoat, just tell her it will only be you two?
DP's mum is coming to our 20 wk scan. I suggested it as its her first grandchild and she's very excited. I have only met her a few times and just want her to know she will be included where possible. We will be doing attachment parenting, so think opportunities for her to babysit etc may be limited and I don't want her to think that's just me snubbing her.

I feel really bad that I haven't invited my mum though. My mum is a good grandparent and seems excited but I think a lot of it is because that's what she should do, not how she feels. It's her 6thgrandchild too. She's just not naturally maternal, though she does make an effort even if it doesn't seem genuine. I don't want the room to be too packed though, it's an anomaly scan after all, not entertainment. I think it's best all round that she doesn't know. She did attend my dd's birth, didn't ask if she could, just didn't leave after giving us a lift to hospital, and that still narks me.

Yes Dave, I don't want a crowd with me, maybe if it was an entertainment scan rather than NHS anomaly. And yes, babysitting opportunities will also be restricted, my boyfriend's mum is already talking about long walks on her own with the pram. Hoping to feed baby myself, so she will be waiting a long time.

My mum might be at the birth with us as well Abi my boyfriend is encouraging it as although he will be there, but has a history of collapsing at anything slightly medical/gory and he doesn't want me to end up on my own. He can go faint even just at medical discussions. I think it's quite sweet, but don't know if I'll still feel like that labouring on my own when he's in A&E attached to an ECG for the umpteenth time! The good thing is she won't be at all offended if she is not asked in. She has said she is more than happy to come/not come/wait outside just in case. It's nice to have at least one mum between us who is not hard work!

Rugbugs did you go straight to the GP regarding SPD or see a Midwife first? I have a thread in pregnancy about this and have read a few others where Midwives have been quit dismissive. Mine was about the sickness-inducing migraines, she didn't even bother, just said paracetamol and to keep hydrated. Paracetamol wouldn't touch them!

Straight to GP, I did ask who I should see when I rang for an appt but they booked me in with the lovely GP that's just joined the practice. She was really good actually, the mw is only at my practice an hour a week so I would have had to wait until the Friday after Easter to see her.

Well my appt did not go as expected today! I thought I would get a lecture on my BMI but ended up with them being very concerned about my blood pressure and possible onset of pre-eclampsia. I now have extra scans and appts booked and blood pressure has to be checked every week by midwife. Went on my own to appt but really wish I hadn't. Got really upset as I think I was shocked

Anyone tell me anything about pre-eclampsia as not even sure I know what it is.

I might have to make an appointment if it doesn't ease soon. To be fair to the Midwives, they don't seem to have a lot o time for 'extras' above checking urine/bp etc.

Thanks

Sorry to hear that Chuck. I had PE with DD and ended up being admitted twice at 36 and 37 weeks. Have you been offered screening for it? There are two blood markers that are particularly indicative of PE. It's pretty manageable if they are on top of it. If you have sustained high bp over a few readings plus protein in urine they might have you go down to an assessment unit for urine collection, more blood tests, fetal heart monitoring. They can prescribe aspirin if they've not already and there are other meds to lower bp if it stays high.

It is important to monitor it so often though as it can escalate quickly. At 36 weeks I was given 24hrs to get bp lower and to monitor my kidney function, I had the surgical team come and discuss delivery by cs which terrified me. Thankfully DDs lows weren't frequent enough and they put me back to weekly assessment at the day unit (and admitted me for induction the next time I went!).

Joining team blue!
Scan went well, everything was fine =].
20+1

Ijustworemytrenchcoat I read your thread and what you've described is very much how mine started, a niggling but bearable pain low in one cheek not unlike a bruised tailbone but it has gotten a lot worse recently and yy to the stiffness if I sit in the same position for any length of time. I find myself having to wiggle my toes a lot to prevent pins and needles too.

Make an appointment as soon as you can so you'll see a physio before it gets worse, I really wish I'd seen someone sooner.

Congrats nightwish :)

At my hospital you take 1 companion in with you then once the scans complete and all is well then you can shout family members in to have a look.

abi hope she's ok :( and good luck for your scan in the morning xxx

Good luck for your scan Abi, and I hope your daughter feels better soon.

I think I'll take your advice Rugs, before it gets much worse. Thank you.

Chuck sorry to hear about the PE. I'm not entirely sure what causes it, but your blood pressure rises, and your kidneys come under a lot of stress, so you get protein in your urine. My DSis had it with her pg. As Rug said, as long as it is picked up it can be managed, but it can become a problem very quickly, so read up on the warning symptoms/signs so you know what you are looking for. My DSis had terribly swollen ankles and blinding headaches IIRC. Hopefully, as they have picked up on it, they will manage it for you, but it might mean a lot more appts for you and sometimes at short notice so you might want to mention it to your work so they are prepared? I hope it all comes to nothing.

Congrats on all the lovely healthy scans - there are so many of them now! It's all very exciting! Good luck for all scans tomorrow!

Trenchcoat it's easier said than done, but my experience of "difficult" MILs is that if you give them an inch, they take a mile. You'll just have to stand your ground, explain your reasoning and if she takes offence, that's her problem. This is about the one time in your life that you can make everything revolve around you and they way you want things to be without feeling guilty. I hope you get your PGP sorted out soon.

Had the most awful day at work today - meant to finish at 3.30 but had to ring my DMum to ask if she could feed the kids and take them up to our house because I just couldn't get away from the office until nearly 5.30. One client very very poorly so had to get everything sorted out just in case anything happens over the weekend. Puts everything into perspective really. Going to make sure I enjoy my weekend now!

I had my scan yesterday and I am also team blue! I must admit to feeling quite disappointed because I have wanted a little girl since I was a little girl myself. The nub theory is total rubbish as that pointed to this baby being a girl. The main thing though is that everything was ok and I know I will love my little boy to bits.

I don't seem to like any boys names though so naming him is going to be a struggle.

Straight after the scan we went and ordered our bugaboo cameleon. DH was so impressed with it he didn't even quibble at the price!

Congrats on a good scan Autumn. I don't mind admitting that i will be a little dissapointed if I have a boy. I already have a DD and I foolishly opened the box of all my favourite baby clothes last week and am longing to get them out again.
DP says I can't put a boy in a pink tulle dress

My thinking is that men view prams a bit like cars and some of them are a bit crazy about their vehicles! DP also didn't flinch when I ordered our phil and teds back when we got it, I was all ready to defend why we should spend so much!

Congrats Autumn, give yourself a bit of time to come round to the idea, your little boy will be lovely :)

We're team yellow, and whilst practically it would be good to have another DD (we kept EVERYTHING so shouldn't need to buy anything), I was in M&S the other day and saw some great outfits for little boys. No reason a girl couldn't wear them too, of course, I just thought what fun it could be dressing a little boy - Robots and monsters all over the place!

Hi all! have been reading posts and lurking, but not posted anything for a while!

Had 20 wk scan last week, all looks good and another here for team blue - although the sonographer was newly qualified, and didn't seem that confident when she said it!

Had DSS's parents evening last night - he's 9, and I thought it wasn't going to go well, as he seems to have had a few issues this year. Was pleasantly surprised, teacher was very positive about saying that he's doing ok, just that he could do so much better if he stopped talking in class and listened!

rugbugs it's true, my DH was more excited than me about getting the pram and car seat I think. He saw one he loved (first time we'd actually seen it), admitted to all the secret research he'd been doing, then bought it half an hour later. I barely got a say in the matter!

Congratulations on a healthy scan Autumn. Give yourself some time, we've convinced ourselves this is a boy and I know it'll take some getting used to if it's not. We're staying team yellow (or red or green or orange or multi-coloured!) though.

Hope everyone's feeling ok today, at least it's Friday. I've got the joy of an all day meeting at the church tomorrow to discuss the wonderful 'issue' of children in the service. Should be fun.

Congrats autum give yourself some time it will get better. I always imagined having a lil girl ever since I was little, I had a name list for lil girl and everything lol. Im now having my 3rd child and there all boys, I was super shocked because I was convinced this one was a girl, but anyway my 2 lil boys are absolute treasures and I now can't wait to add another lil boy to them :)

Anyone know how many boys and girls we have now? Xx

ooh the boys are definitely winning! Statistically it should be about 51% boys 49% girls, anyone care to go and count how many we've got? [can't be arsed emote]

Still waiting for my pram to turn up drums fingers if it comes too late I shan't have a chance to play with it before OH comes in from work :(

My scan went well (pics on facebook group) little man was curled up asleep and took the lady 50 mins to get everything she needed. Hes bigger than elle and is measuring 80th to 95th centile :/ hes gonna be huge. Also he was blowing bubbles. I never knew they could do this but we got pics of him doing it. Strange. Amazing to watch. Was really strange.

Dd is off her food and just wants to drink milk. But temp is now down. My poor moo.

Xxx

autumn - congrats on good scan - I felt a bit strange when ds was born as I'd convinced myself it was a girl, it took a little while to get used to it and I felt I didn't bond so well at the beginning which is why we found out at 20wk scan so we've got another 20wks to get used to it. couldnt imagine him being anything else now though

abi - glad scan went well - my as was huge too, was v worried about going over edd, but luckily he came on the edd day but was still 8lb 13!

ijustwore - I have pgp which is on one side of my pelvis, the pain goes from lower back down through left buttock - I have physio appt next week which was through mw, but she us a v good and thorough mw. I have also just started antenatal pilates which should help, although my muscles are still aching from the first class on Wed - think I'm a bit unfit!!

Have been to the library today and got a couple of books for ds from the 'situations' bit about baby in mummy's tummy or new baby coming - trying to break it to him gently :-)

Abi - I didn't mean my ass was huge (although...) blimin autocorrector always changes DS to as