June 2013 - thread 5

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Right, it is 'Hypnobirthing. The Mongan Method' by Marie F Mongan. It was given to me by another MNer, so no idea what it is like yet. I'm really hoping it helps me relax though. :-)

I did the Marie Mongan course during my last pregnancy, it was good. There's a lot of breathing techniques to practice though! The rainbow relaxation track is very good though, you could use that now to help you sleep. I never even make it to the colours!

Oooh thanks Mrs Bri and learnermummy - may have to pick that one up! Clearly relaxing you so much you're in bed MrsBri! :)

Making the most (or is it least?) of my day off!

I'm waiting for my Mothercare delivery so can't get in the shower til it is here. Annoying. I know it is on the van, just not where the van is!

Suppose I could clean the kitchen while I wait. Hopefully DH will be home soon to relieve me.

I think often when it comes to birth we ignore our instincts. Our daughter was healthy until a dr made a bad call and although she was full term and fat she still ended up in NICU on life support.

I think part of the shock was that we felt we'd ggot past the dangerous stahe of pregnancy. Had someone told me that no matter what the doctors are not always right and that sometimes you just have todemand betyer care we would have asked for a ssecond opinion and dd would have been ok.

I talk often about the mistake that was made because it was just that, a mistake, but the repercussions have changed our lives. I won't shut up and I won't sit down. Its not about ignoring feelings or panicking people, its about raising awareness and happily I know of one occasion recently when the dad of a couple who knew our story demanded another opinion for his daughter, senior staff ordered an emergency CS and baby was ok but it was a close call and had they allowed the mum to just wait another hour then baby may not have been ok.

That's awful redwelly. No one would want you to shut up and sit down (I would hope). Even sharing your story here will mean that everyone on this thread knows that. You may help one of us in ways you won't know yet by doing this.

Similarly though I think once people have taken good advice like that on board, and are aware of risks/issues they then have to decide for themselves how much they want or need to know. As I said, I think it's very important that OBEM have done this and very brave of the family. I've had a close friend go through this and I'm aware as far as I can be, but I don't think watching it will help me learn or understand more and as I mentioned my other thought was that I'd be looking at this story and constantly putting myself in it at this stage (I do this with the happy stories too!) and I felt a bit uncomfortable with that for a few reasons.

Please don't think for a second I meant that people shouldn't share these experiences. It's vital, and I'm sorry if anything I said sounded that way. I don't think anyone here means that, at all. You may just be giving us information that stops one of us going through what you have and I for one am so grateful for that.

Wow such a busy thread!
Suzy glad that you're out of hospital now and that they're getting your blood pressure under control.

So sorry to hear of people's experiences. Like forget says its really important that people talk about these things. I, like forget, felt that watching last night was something I couldn't do. Felt guilty tho in some ways if I'm honest.

Someone asked about icandy a few days ago- I love our apple and we'll be using it again this time. I would say that the messenger bag that is for the apple is far too small. Just bought one for the peach on eBay and am thrilled with it! It's like brand new for half the price! Have that and a baby hawk sling and a Moby wrap so we can try both out. Other than that we're totally unprepared
I'm hoping that in these Easter hols we'll at least get around to sorting out the junk in what will be the nursery. Getting a bit panicked by how disorganised we are. Am too shattered in the evenings and can't get huge amount done in the days when I'm off without ignoring DS and am not happy to do that! Hopefully with DH off for part of my school hols we'll be able to do it in shifts over a couple of days.

With baby clothes- I loved mamas and papas but found them very pricey and very small compared to others. Next I've found fab and they wash so well too.

afternoon all.

red you shout from the rooftops - people need to know as much information ad possible. The positive and the negative. Only then can balanced decisions (hopefully) can be made.

I did watch obem - I recorded it and decided I'd watch today and could stop if I found it too much. As heart breaking for the couple as it must if been they came across wonderfully and considering it was such a sensitive area I think it was done in a very good way. Not morbid or ott.
Each to their own on it - that is after.all what makes the world go round. If we all thought the same life would be dull!

I was looking into hypnobirthing at 4am when I couldn't sleep! I am intrigued but don't know if I should look into it further.....

Hope everyone is ok and that you all get to enjoy the Long weekend

This is completely off the subject and probably a thick question but do you have to wash baby's clothes even if their brand new? I hadn't planned to the heard a mention what's everyone doing?

I would pinkapples just because of the chemicals sprayed on clothes, in case the little one has very sensitive skin (my DH has a skin condition that makes me wary though)

There was a thread about this in Pregnancy recently, will try and find you the link :)

Fab thanks forgetmenots

I'm washing all bedding and clothing, pink, just to be on the safe side. And little baby clothes drying are adorable :-)

Here it is pinkapples - turned into a bit of a debate, so might be you decide not to, like I say we have a bit of an issue with skin conditions so I'm probably erring way on the side of caution:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1714887-Anyone-not-washing-all-their-newborn-stuff

Thanks forgetmenots

Having some serious bra issues at the mo had a non underwired bra on today an that has been a bit better but still painful came home from at 2pm and took my bra off straight away but still have a slight pain under my left boob like a ache

Holy shit, forget, that thread is mad!

I don't care what other people do, but I'm enjoying washing all the little clothes and looking at them drying! Some people are far too judgmental. :-/

Haha, should have put a warning on it! I'm with you, would never judge anyone who did or didn't, at this stage I put any extreme reactions down to hormones and hope others are as kind with me when I'm being a lunatic emotional :)

I completely agree that we read or see things and then determine our decision. Thats the way it should be and if there qas a little less opinion and a tad more respect for people to make their oen choices MN probably would be as judgy! The problem is that in our case at least there really wasn't any info out there at the time and I'd done the NCT course, been to every antenatal clinic, listened to others etc etc but didn't have the information I needed on that night.

I overdid it today. DD and I in the supermarket by 9am to do the Easter shop, obviously put all items in trolley, took out of trolley, put back in trolley, put in car, took out of car. Then after an epic nap by DD during which I hoovered, washed up and hung out washing we headed into town where everything I wanted was sold out and we went two minutes over into the next pay band on the car park.

Sigh.

Oh and DD is turning into a runner so almost broke myself stopping her bolting for the road when some salesman knocked at the door.

And JL babygro sizing is insane! Tony baby is up to 7lb and then Newborn is 8-12LB and when you put them next to each other there are inches difference. I'd personally rather not have a 12lb newborn.

You're spot on redwelly - it's awful to think that a bit more information can make such a huge difference, but you're right of course as you know only too well. Hope after the day you've had there's a nice substitute on the go and you've got your feet up!

Didn't realise that about JL, that's a bit what's annoying me is the variation from shop to shop!! No two 'newborn' bodysuits the same size!!

My goodness red- how did you fit all if that into one day?!

Couldn't believe some of the posts on that thread- so many judgmental people!

I'm gutted as today I finally bit the bullet and decided to order some new maternity leggings from new look- only to find that they're out of stock!!! I could cry!!!

Try again in a few days, AmI, as they're in and out of stock all the time.

My second lot weren't as good quality as my first, oddly, however.

Good to know- thanks mrsbri!

Oooh trying so hard to keep up but this thread is busy busy and our house is full of visitors right now. All I can say is it sounds like you had a really tough experience red and sorry you had to go through that with your dd. And secondly, take it easy, lie down and let your dh do the shopping for you next time!!

I'm finding my body is now very definitely telling me when I'm doing too much with v painful BH. But only on one side. Does anyone else have that? I can feel it has contracted all over but it's really painful on the right and doesn't hurt on the left. I'm assuming it's how the baby is lying?

I didn't read the washing clothes thread, can't be doing with all that over-emotive judgyness. I would suggest though that if you do wash your new clothes (personally I did) then don't do all of them straight away, that way if you need to return/exchange sizes you can.

Don't cry AmI! Hope you can find more leggings soon - I do appreciate the trauma of maternity clothes shopping! I just got my online delivery ordered, lovely comfy skirt and jeans shorts, just 2 things but it will open up my wardrobe possibilities!

anyone else craving ice cold things?! me and ice lollies have been inseparable the last two days.
really bad low back ache too.

Not got time to read all will check back tomorrow but AmI I can recommend jojo maman bebe for maternity leggings. Very comfy and not see through. The bump band is very supportive. If you search on MN there is a discount code somewhere.

Man that other thread is well nasty! Why are people like that?! Or maybe we are just all too polite? If one of you says something I don't agree with I think 'don't agree with that' and move on! Would never think to get all mean about it here!

In Lake District for weekend. Is TORTUROUS. Friends planing loads of walking with DH and I'm so jealous. Miss climbing mountains so much. Going to tea shops on own and for potter tomorrow. Can't deny DH his mountains as likelihood is he won't be doing this again for a while,