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April 2013 Part 7: As our miracle Alex continues to grow & the one that sees us reach TERM

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toobreathless · 21/02/2013 18:56

Over here Ladies!

As the title suggests our fore runners will almost certainly hit 37 weeks this thread.

And the wonderful little Alex will hopefully continue to go from strength to strength and edge closer to the door home with Mama

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1658011-April-2013-part-six-what-does-the-third-trimester-have-in-store

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1560543-April-2013-stats-thread

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Dysgu · 04/03/2013 22:03

I have never tried Raspberry Leaf Tea - I don't like tea so not sure I would like it but maybe I will look into getting the tablets if I make it a bit further along - right now it feels like another thing to tempt this DC to arrive early. If this one does the same as the others, my labour will not be dragging out - perhaps my uterus is already in excellent condition as I never have many contractions but the DDs arrived very quickly nonetheless.

Essex my birthday is the day after my DMum's. Even today I do have a slight feeling that my day is overlooked as we still take my DMum out on her birthday and then people tend to give me gifts 'for tomorrow' - although as a family we never really made much of a fuss about birthdays. TBH i would have preferred it if my birthday had been the day before her's Blush

My first day of ML has been a fairly easy one - although the school run was pretty tiring so I made sure to go slower on the pick up this afternoon. Five days a week might take some doing - it is only a 5-10 minute walk from home to school but I have to leave half an hour so that I am not exhausted. The return journey is pretty painful on my hips and calves - and bladder too, even if I 'go' just before leaving home!

And I saw the MW today and everything continues to be fine. Bump is growing pretty much according to gestation (I am 32+5 and it is measuring for 32 weeks so nothing to worry about - especially with regards to the diabetes and the risk of a large baby!

And we had a long chat about my aim to be successful at BFing this time - third time lucky Hmm It is lovely that my MW has been the same one since DD1 so she knows all the history and was really lovely. I got quite upset (which is odd as I never felt it meant that much to me) and she was very reassuring about saying there was no reason I shouldn't manage it this time as this DC may arrive later than the others and my milk may come in properly.

I am seeing a BF advisor next week and we are going to write a plan to sort things out - MW says there is really no reason why we cannot plan to be successful even if this DC ends up in NICU for a few weeks like DDs. OTOH, there is a hope that I can get to 36 weeks with this DC and start expressing early so I have a store built up - even if only tiny amounts.

So, feeling a bit happier about it - even though I didn't realise I was worried about it until I mentioned it!

Welcome to all the newbies, the new arrival (have seen on FB) and hello to everyone else.

Sorry for the mememe post - but try talking about BFing to DP and he finds anything else to do - I think he prefers the idea of FFing as it seems easier and less stressful...

birdbrain17 · 04/03/2013 22:04

kellestar you may be right I'm just quoting what I was told by a midwife...Hmm

MrsSimkins · 04/03/2013 22:10

Sorry for this me me me post ladies but I am so upset! With exactly 5weeks til due date we've been burgled!!! They've taken mainly electrical goods but also our car, in broad daylight too! The thing that upsets me the most is that they have rifled through EVERYTHING! Stuff pulled out of drawers, wardrobes etc and worst of all baby clothes flung around everywhere. They even opened up abox of nipple pads!?! They can see from all the baby stuff that we're about to become parents and they still robbed us! I'm so upset and just want to scrub my whole house to get rid off all traces of the dirty scum bags but I just don't have the energy!
Sorry to rant on here I just needed to have a moan but hate to do it on Facebook, here just seems a little easier as I think you will all understand from a pregnant point of you how horrid I'm feeling :(

Trishstar · 04/03/2013 22:13

Mrs simkins so sorry to hear that, don't know what to say.

You just have to believe that these low lives will get what's coming to them

JaquelineHyde · 04/03/2013 22:28

Oh MrsSimkins Sad not a nice thing to happen any time but a few weeks before you are due to give birth it is just the worst.

I know from personal experience that it isn't the fact that stuff/objects have been taken from you but more the invasion of your privacy and feeling of insecurity it leaves behind.

Any idea how they got in etc?

Please, please, please spend a few days coming to terms with what has happened and then as hard as it is going to be put it out of your mind and get back to looking forward to welcoming your lovely new addition.

Do not let these low lifes ruin the most amazing time in your life

Dysgu · 04/03/2013 22:30

Oh no MrsSimkins how awful. I can fully see why you would be feeling even worse about this due to being so close to having your new arrival and yes, it does seem even worse that whoever did this rifled through all the baby things. What on earth would they want with the nipple pads? Just totally unfair.

I hope you are feeling safe this evening. Is there anyway you can get a company in to give the whole house a 'spring clean'? I think that is what I would want to do in your position and then I would just focus my own energy on rewashing and sorting all the baby things.

HavingALittleFaithBaby · 04/03/2013 22:32

Oh you poor thing MrsS. :( what a violation. I hope they catch the cretins!

Dysgu hopefully baby will come at a time that means you can bf. my DH would rather I FF too so he can be more involved...I am determined to BF though but will try expressing so he can be involved. Its nice that you've got that continuity with the midwife :)

I am tired after returning to work. Checked my urine and despite a week if antibiotics there's still stuff in there! Will check again, might have to go back to docs. Eurgh.

EssexWelsh · 04/03/2013 22:33

Oh no mrssimkins that is just terrible, it's the feeling of violation too I bet! At least you were all safe and not there-I assume. Do you know how they got in so you can fix any problem areas?

MrsSimkins · 04/03/2013 22:55

Thanks everyone. We'd had new security locks put on our back doors as we felt they weren't safe enough and they worked a treat but somehow they managed to smash a whole double glazed pane and climb through! They've taken notes and finger prints but they said themselves the culprits are so rarely caught! My work have been great and given me rest of the week off so I can get cleaning! It's definitely the invasion that's hurts the most because the items are all insured and replaceable. I defo won't be sleeping tonight though because there were house keys on the car keys they took!
I'm just struggling to understand how people can do such a thing :(

CheeseAndMushroomToastie · 04/03/2013 23:49

Sorry to hear that mrs simkins, what scum. Hope you and your family are ok.

num3onway · 05/03/2013 07:21

Oh what a horrible thing to happen! And honestly why would they go through breast pads thsts ridiculous! Hope you managed some sleep last night.
On a lighter note I was glad to see I'm not the only one who struggles on the school run. Our school is only a 5-10 min walk away but its up a huge hill which is hard work with spd and dragging a 3 year old behind you! Walking also seems to set me off with shooting pains in my lady bits and cervix and these tend to last the day! Fun!
Midwife this morning then I hope to crack on with some painting!

aufaniae · 05/03/2013 07:43

mrssimpkins I'm so sorry to hear that. What an awful thing to happen and such unfortunate timing. Can you get family or friends to come help you put your house back together and give you some support maybe?

birdbrain17 "midwife said at my antenatal class that raspberry leaf tea is safe from 35 weeks, it helps to soften your cervix, so when you go into labour hopefully the first stage will be much quicker..." Like KelleStar says, this is simple not true. Raspberry leaf tea is for helping in labour, it doesn't bring it on. I'm annoyed on your behalf at a MW spreading such myths.
I just smiled and nodded last time round when I found MWs and HVs telling me things I knew not to be true (especially about extended BFing). This time round I'm going to challenge stuff I hear that's nonsense, and write letters about how there's a "training need" if I hear any of this kind of rubbish! I'll probably make myself hated, but the thing is that MW for example must be spreading that rumour to an awful lot of expectant mums, and they are being put off something which could be beneficial to them, exactly as num3onway was above, and because their in a position of power, being a MW you'd expect what they say to be true / based on evidence, not rumour!

Rosie, congratulations! Grin Grin

aufaniae · 05/03/2013 07:45

They're not their Blush Blush
Oh dear, what's happened to my brain, I used to have one, honest! Grin

num3onway · 05/03/2013 08:14

Going to ask my own midwife this morning regarding the raspberry leaf tea I think!

Fluffeh · 05/03/2013 08:18

Oh mrssimpkins that's horrible. I hope your feeling a little better thus morning and have lots of support around you.

I'm with you all on the walking. I'm now wishing I had done the hospital bag shopping weeks ago. I have so much left to buy but my body just can't stand the walking. My legs haven't gone back to their normal size since around 20 weeks, they just get bigger and more sore every day. Roll on mid April!

num3onway · 05/03/2013 08:26

I've never suffered swollen legs but the spd is enough to make me stay home as much as possible! I'm gonna try n get last bits online includinghospital bag things.
Off the top of my head I still need -
Mini shower gel etc
More pads
Lipbalm
Stock of bottled water
Energy sweets
Should be able to get all of that with weekly shop online!

LikeCandy · 05/03/2013 08:36

MrsS how awful for you [hugs]

Hi newbies - I can't believe we're still welcoming April mummies-to-be at this late stage!

It's my last day at work today (well half day, I'm not in until lunch time) and things are starting to feel real!
Hoping to make the most of the sunny morning and wash a few baby grows / cot sheets / muslins.

On my gosh I feel for everyone with leg / back issues. My legs are HUGE (water retention I assume?) and I'm walking rather like a duck as my lower back/hips get more uncomfortable. So glamourous!

35+6

HavingALittleFaithBaby · 05/03/2013 08:57

Morning all!

MrsS I hope you got some sleep. I would imagine its really difficult to realise exactly what you've lost with burglary...we had a fire in 2011 and that was awful but we could still pretty much work out what we'd lost.

like try to keep your legs up whenever you when - on the sofa etc and try putting them on a pillow when you're in bed.

Woo 33+0!

Mama1980 · 05/03/2013 09:16

Morning all
MrsS -oh love how awful! How are you doing this morning? Some people are just beyond belief Hmm
Well I have a temperature again, I feel fine so very confusing but more antibiotics and they took another blood test yesterday Grrrrr but (and tmi here!) I managed to manoeuvre myself to pee on my own yesterday!
Alex had his milk amounts increased again yesterday he is looking enormous now crazy to think he has grown so much but will still be nearly half the weight of a average newborn. My mum is going to sit and old him today and read to him, I've been reading him persuasion by Jane austen we've already finished pride and prejudice so she's gonna keep going, it makes me feel like I'm doing something when he's just lying there.

Dysgu · 05/03/2013 09:56

Hope you managed to get some sleep MrsS and is good to hear that your work has given you the week off. Can you get the locks changed again if there were house keys with the car keys? This would be on the insurance, yes?

The school run this morning was painful from my back down to my calves. The baby's head seems really heavy and low down once I have been walking for a while. DDs rode on bike/scooter and had to keep waiting for me to catch up. The walk home takes me a lot longer Smile as I barely cover the ground with each step! I am already thinking I may drive to the other side of the area where school is and girls can ride to the car as it will all be on the flat then.

Mama how lovely to get Alex started on the classics already. I love P&P and Persuasion - and would list Sense and Sensibility as the third in my top 3 Austens. I keep imagining how Alex is looking now he is getting so 'big' - is he wearing clothes yet?

I have my whooping cough jab this afternoon. I am hoping I am in the lucky group who have no problems with it.

And we have an ante-natal class tonight that DP wants to go to so I am about to start calling round to see if I can find someone to come and sit with the girls. This is the only evening class that DP will be able to get to before April - there are weekly drop-in sessions and parent craft classes but they are not at a time he could make unless he takes a day off work! I am not even sure what is covered tonight - I didn't pay much attention as did not think we would be going but DP says he can barely remember anything from previous labours and is particularly worried in case this is a 'normal' labour and he actually has to 'do' something Grin

I am going to wash the baby clothes today - DD2 wants to be involved with putting them all in the chest of drawers when she is home all day tomorrow Smile so I promised I would not do anything other than wash them today!

num3onway · 05/03/2013 09:59

Well my darling 3 year old was bouncing off the walls during my midwife appointment and so I completely forgot to ask about the raspberry leaf tea! Think ill wait til 36 weeks and then give it a go. Baby is just inside the brim apparently and my next mw appointment isn't until 37+4, when do they go weekly? You would think I'd know since this is my third lol x

Ollibobs · 05/03/2013 10:01

MrsSimpkins I'm so sorry to hear about what happened. It's just awful and do unfair! I think it might be worth getting your locks changed to be on the safe side also, if there's any damage to your home, make sure you take photos for the insurance company as evidence. Some insurers want you to keep the damaged items too, so might bf worth checking with them before you start clearing up.

I'm so sorry you have to go through this right now...

num3onway · 05/03/2013 10:04

Oh dear, I was ment to ask about my whooping cough jab today too! Having a real baby brain day!

milktraylady · 05/03/2013 10:12

Mrs poor you, hope the clear up isn't too awful.
Mama I am so inspired by your positivity and strength.
I had a good week last week (first one in the entire pregnancy) but back to depression & worry now. ArrrghSad

birdbrain17 · 05/03/2013 10:23

aufanie you are 100% right midwives should only tell you things that are fact especially to first timers like me, because I just assume that they know what they are talking about! I'm still confused though I don't think she actually said it brings labour on, just helps to prepare your body for labour, to make it easier for your body to do what you need to do....I bought a box of rl tea last night and it does actually say on it should be avoided by women in early stages of pregnancy so now I really don't know what it does...oh well I'll just drink it and see what happens Confused