June 2013 - Thread 4 - don't forget your pelvic floor!

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Last thread too full to add a link, hope everyone can find their way back!

Heh heh. Was chuckling away to myself reading these revelations and told DH he is VERY lucky he married me judging by everyone elses experiences.

He moaned at me a few weeks ago that every article related to dads during pregnancy was obsessed with sex. Now i know why!

Oh no, AmI...could do without that! I dreamt I had a bar job in a pub I worked in years ago. While pregnant :-/ Oddness.

And Maw, no blow jobs happen during the week. It's a Sunday treat as we have time then! :-)

Ugh what. Night 2 hours sleep an just couldn't get comfy. DSD (6) had a night where she decided getting up at 3.30 was ok - which I was happy to deal with but DP ended up being rather grumpy with her and making it all a bit worse. Then this morning I'm almost asleep and he starts talking to me.... Actually talking and putting his washing away, waking me up! Grrr

Oh well. Off for 28wk check up today. Hope everyone has a good Wednesday

That's rubbish... Good luck with your 28 week check up :( DD got up at 6 but luckily went straight back to sleep in my bed for another two hours or I think I may have cried. It feels ridiculous that I'm this uncomfortable sleeping and I still have Ages to go!

I'm going to keep my DH firmly away from this forum, don't want him getting any ideas!!

Hi all

Went to the docs yesterday as I've been having problems with my hips (walking like an arthritic snail if I go more than a few hundred yards, finding even the supermarket difficult) and she signed me off with SPD. Am also bein referred for specialist physio and have painkillers.

Went down like a lead balloon at work, so had a bit of a difficult day. Am feeling really quite fragile at the moment. But trying to put a positive face on it - at 27 weeks at least I know I've only another 10 to go, max!

Aww collector - try not to worry about work - you can't help not being right and as I keep being reminded (I've been signed off for the last 6 weeks) it's not just me I'm thinking about now.
Hope the Physio helps, kinda hard with these things when we're told it'll get better once baby's here.... Yes but what do we do in the meantime?!

I think we're all transitioning into the third trimester and it's being a bit shitty...I hope you all start sleeping better and that the SPD magically disappears.

Must admit I feel like I've turned into a moaner, having previously been a famously stoic person with a supernatural pain threshold. If you'd have seen me putting on my tights this morning you'd have bust a gut laughing. The groans and manipulations (not helped by one knee not working) were the stuff of tragic comedy.

It's all a bit boring now. We are off to Rome on 24th for a few nights of last hurrah (hmmm we'll see how much of a hurrah) and I am looking forward to no commuting, warmer weather, a veritable MOUNTAIN of pasta and gelato, and lots of sitting about.

Collector don't worry - its just one of those things, its hard hard work growing someone (let alone two someones) and SPD can make life exponentially harder. I didn't have it with DC1 but have it this time, very dependent on which way baby is lying however I'm now waiting on a bump belt from physio as baby is so low and so out front its making me walk even worse!

A break sounds lovely Oli! Hope ur knee doesn't stop you from doing everything you want.

Just back from MW, GTT was normal and everything else from the bloods were ok too. Bump is measuring spot on too and the heartbeat put a smile on my face.

I did get very teary with her and said I don't feel like I'm coping with everything very well. I'm very good at putting a brave face on for everyone around me but deep in side I'm all over the place and can't see any light shining thru. She was lovely. And she's going to refer me to the mental
Health team to see what support they can offer me, we both figured if I don't need their help right away it might be best to have steps in place before rather than later.

Feeling a bit meh now, and very teary. Going to have some lunch and then see if I can get an hours nap in to recharge the battery's.

Oh bless you Pinkbear. It sounds silly but when I was in hospital the other week being able to chat to other folks on the forum really was lovely. I may never have met you all but I do feel like we all get quite a bit of support out of this.

Went pram shopping today. If anyone is in Edinburgh I highly recommend going to mothercare at Hermiston Gait and talking to Fiona. Bless her she took our bamboozled looking faces on and gave us a brilliant tour of all the various features. We've gone for the Bugaboo. Horrified at the price but my mum was buying and out her foot down when we tried to talk her into the cheaper mothercare own band one. Basically because we live in the country and want to walk dogs everyday the Bugaboo was the best option for us. Gone for bright orange - apparently they don't sell many in that colour. DH and I have always failed to go for the sensible conservative colours :-)

Oh and also bought a video monitor. There was a sale on in mothercare until next week so the motorola video monitor was practically the same price as the audio ones. The picture isn't great but it does have 2 cameras. I think if you were really bothered about the clarity of picture you'd get the ones that hook up to your smart phone.

Irritatingly have found out they no longer sell the parts to the cot my sister gave us. This means we have to buy a new cot.

The best thing though is I no longer have a naked baby. My sister gave me a massive box of baby clothes yesterday that will take us up to 1 year. She hadn't given us the box because she thought we'd want to buy all new stuff for our baby - why on earth she'd think that given that most of my house has been kitted out from gumtree and Sammys scrap yard!

Feel like I can finally hold my head up on this forum as I'm starting to look prepared! Just 9 weeks left of work to go!

Pinkbear sorry you're feeling so low :( its quite common though with all the hormones and change etc.

SunnyL - we've go a bugaboo cam and I love it, it was the best choice and now that I've tried my friends iCandy, another friends Quinny and various mamas and papas own designs I can honestly say its the best, and brilliant for one handed push walking the dog :) my mum tried to make me get the cream one but I went for pink and have bought the red and beige since for a change :)

Well done Sunny, no naked baby for you!!

Sorry you're not having a great time of it pinkbear, and for your spd collector (and everyone else that seems to have it). Sounds a bit crap tbh. Thankfully nothing that here, just been getting sciatica but it has been coming and going so at least it's not all the time. Helpful response from my ob 'oh yes that will happen, it will probably get worse'

Started having panicky thoughts about ds when I go into labour. No need for it really as I have sorted out a friend to look after him (though I need to line-up a backup) and I'm sure he'll be fine. DH is probably going to have to take a trip for about 5 d when I'll be at 36 wks. Hoping chances of having baby then are slim but it does mean I need to have a back up plan as I don't want to go to hospital by myself . Plus friend is also away, so need to find potential birth partner and carer for ds. Anyway needless panic really. I'm sure there are more important things I should be worrying about...

Thanks everyone. Am trying to keep it in perspective. Feeling a bit better for lunch with a friend and a nice sleep this afternoon - I'm sure the sleep deprivation at night isn't helping! And hospital have just phoned with a cancellation for a physio appt tomorrow, so I bit their hand off! I got off lightly with morning sickness so seems fair to have this instead

Nearly fainted when paying for our buggy, car seats etc - ouch! Went for the Mountain Buggy Duet in the end - the narrowest twin one on the market. Was horrified to hear at twin group one lady is on her sixth buggy at the age of 2 and another has 3Yo's and is on her ELEVENTH!! None of that for us, we've made our choice and must stick with it.

Only live in a tiny house so not getting a monitor.

PS meant to ask, when are everyone's DP's/DH's stopping traveling with work? Mine will from the end of April - we're thinking if I get to May then I'll have done really well, but it doesn't seem reasonable before then. At the moment he's away a couple of nights a week.

Mine isn't travelling with work, but is going to a stag do the weekend of my due date!

(he's hoping I'll have had her by then!)

I'm jealous! DH used to work from home and I loved it... Now he's out till 7 :(

My DH works shifts so although he doesn't travel (I do) I'm not looking forward to him going back to work. Difficult enough getting a baby into a routine but when DH will be coming and going between nights and day shifts its going to be interesting!
It's comforting to see others feeling the same as me. Had a good cry today on DH, I just felt like a rubbish wife, I'm moaning all the time and so tired and my back ache is definitely worse so I'm not really sleeping. I never knew pregnancy would be this hard!

Well at least most of you are in the same beds as your hubby's still I am not sadly he starts off in the bed then gets out about an hour in (I've developed a pregnancy snore/noise) and gets back in about 1/2 hour before he has to go to work for a cuddle its mainly because he gets up at 5.30am for work and drives an hour and a half to get there

It seems the 3rd trimester gloom is descending...I had a bit of a meltdown about work being so awful today. Luckily I was on my sofa working from home.

I did email HR with it though and said that I'm fed up and am considering finishing early because my team refuse to learn anything I do when I'm trying to train them and are a bunch of bitches (essentially!).

See what response I get to that tomorrow. Definitely considering going 2 weeks earlier than intended though. Not that I can really afford it, but I've seriously had enough of the people I work with.

Pinkbear, it is good you're getting help, even if it is more precautionary right now. Useful to have the support in place.

Collector, hope you get some relief soon. And you, redwelly.

I've had much less pain today while sitting, but I've been legs up on the sofa. Amazing how much difference it makes.

Bri- where are you in your training contract? Do you have much to go on return?

Thank you ladies. Sorry to hear its been a bit of a wobbly Wednesday for everyone. Lets hope tomorrow is terrific Thursday for us all instead.

Guess it's good we have our wobbles, makes the good days even better and when you can see the positives makes them all the more important.

I'm just having a soak in the bath after DP brought home a beautiful
Bunch of flowers and apologising for being a useless grumpy t*at.

Here's looking forward to a new day tomorrow and more exciting news on less naked babies and finding bargains. Sleep well ladies xx

Sarah, if I leave as planned I'll have 13 months left when I get back. Assuming I find the energy to do my time to count application!

Seriously wondering if it's worth it with all the changes coming in...a lot of firms will try to run with non-qualified people, I think, as with the cost cuts that'll be cheaper.

Tomorrow is hopefully going to be terrific Thursday as I have a big research event to attend! Bump and all! Several prospective clients to meet as well. Hope everyone has a better day.

Friday wil involve leaving early I suspect. I left early today and got DD and was home by 5. Bliss. No mad panic about her dinner, chilled out in front of CBeebies and played with toys. Very chilled out. Until bedtime!

My Rant is about the fact that my consultant STILL hasn;t rung me back with a CS date - I left a message 3 weeks ago and he only works Tuesday and Wednesday. Chased last week and was told he would be in touch. Meant to be being handled with kid gloves and given extra MH support but as yet I'm just feeling more and more annoyed.