September 2013 - fretting our way through the first trimester

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so sorry to hear your news JM. I hope your friends and family are looking after you.
Hi amiready! Just noticed you mention my name and realised how long it had been since i last posted. I have been desperately trying to keep up to date with everyone elses news! Anyway, I feel hideous at the mo. The nausea is back with a vengeance!!! Today I've been full on sick 4 or 5 times. My tummy muscles are killing me now. :( Feels like ive done 100 sit ups.
I will feel so much better after the 12 week scan. It will all feel worth it then.
Oh, we told family our news at weekend. It was highly emotional!! my mum was in floods. This will be her first grandchild. She's already requested a boy! (our family is 90% female currently) :)
Still not told work which is becoming increasingly hard. I feel like im constantly lying. Anyone else considering telling work?? im 9+3 now

We have a uniform kitten :-/
Altho my boss would let me wear other stuff as I do when I forget to wash or iron them at weekends, lol, but not everyday because the others would moan at it not being fair. I work with 46 women. U can sniff the bitchiness from here!!

My OH has just made me delicious apple fritters with a liberal covering of golden syrup, why is it I STILL want salt and vinegar chipsticks? Gonna have to get me some of those bad boys tomorrow, gawd I'm going to be the size of a house soon!

Really sorry JM. I hope you are being looked after and have lots of lovely family and friends near you.

So sorry jm and hope you're getting rl support from your friends and family.
I have my first appt with fetal medicine this morning to discuss cvs and stuff. I do get a scan before though so hoping to get a good view!

Jm, much love. I lost my beloved Mum nine years ago when I was pg with DD. Please PM me if you would like to chat. I remember feeling so very, very alone despite lots of rl support.

Oh jm I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you are going through. I'm sending you strength.

Hey all, feeling pretty rubbish, told my mum and dad yesterday about this baby, number 3 and they were really negative and indifferent about the whole thing.apparently, we didn't need to have another child and were too old, me 36 and dh 41, we havent considered the feelings of ds1 and dd1 and we're selfish ! Also dd1, had pyloric stenosis when born, which is no biggie and easily resolved after small operation and common, but mum says I have not considered the implications of this. I am hopeful they'll come round to the idea, but just feel really down...

Poor you eek. How rude that they responded to your news in that way. It's not their decision, and anyone with any sensitivity would not say those things to you! What on earth were they expecting you to say? You'd terminate?! Chin up. You don't need their approval. We are in a similar boat with our third and have had a lovely response from my folks even though I have heard my mum express the exact opposite when friends have gone on to have a third baby.

See this is the thing about pregnancy I most hate is other peoples unwanted opinions and reactions? Has your mum not thought how YOU feel about her comments? I'm fuming for you...what would she rather you terminate? ? I really don't get some people....

amazes me....am already preparing for negative response from work about being away again within a year of returning after DS....don't really care as I'm so pleased to have fallen after so much heartbreak and time trying for DS. Do worry what impact on work role will be as im sure they will restructure this time.

Eek That's rubbish. I thought my parents were bad, my mum looked a bit horrified, and there was certainly no congratulations, but I think she was taking her cue from me as we're still very much getting used to the idea, it wasn't planned. She told my dad and said, 'I won't tell you what your dad said. Eventually he said, well, I suppose it's good news' Ha ha, thanks Dad. But I know when it's here they will be delighted, they love kids. I think they were just thinking of me, they know I had other plans for the next few years which mainly involved getting DS2 off to school and getting myself properly back to work finally. Perhaps in their own way your parents were also thinking of you. They have plenty time to get used to the idea and will surely also love the baby when it arrives.

Sending eek a hug re parents reaction. This is number 3 here and when we told my parents it was kind of glossed over and within 30 seconds mum carried on talking about new wardrobes! I think in general when you're having a 3rd or more people feel its acceptable to ask why because this whole '2 kids' setup is drummed into people as the default. Grrrr....
(whispers....am not feeling anywhere near as sick today...unsure whether to celebrate or worry!)

Thanks guys, just feel fed up. Number 3 wasn't planned, but it's happened and I am happy about it, or I was. Ds1 and dd1 were hard work, as only small age gap, but now they are both at school, I am looking forward to having a baby who I can give full attention too, it always felt frantic when the other littlies were small! I know creamtea what is it with the whole, 'you must be mental to have more than 2 thing'? I suspect some of my friends will be of that opinion too, but am not so bothered about what they think!

(Cream tea me too....actually walked to school this morning for the first time in 6 weeks!)

Desperate for sushi though. Is it ridiculous to take an hours round trip in the car, in a gale, to get some?

Also creamtea think you have sent sickness my way, as I have just felt vile on the school run...bleurgh!

I think a third is the one you have to "enjoy" it. I was always going to have two. Three feels like an indulgence, and it's easier to argue for why you shouldn't rock the boat. But, I didn't feel done and I am sure I would have regretted not having a third if we hadn't gone for it. As it is, I know it's not the easiest option (more expense, delays my career getting back to full time etc) but I'm delighted and my two children are excited so to hell with what others think. Those who had two will never really get why you'd have another I suppose.

Plus, hopefully at least ONE of them will still want to come and see me when I am old and dribbly.

As my hubby said last night in his own 'special' way:
'Jesus, it's not like you just told them you are addicted to crack, pregnant and eloping with an eighteen year old wannabe rock star'...never fails to make me smile!

creamtea I had 2 glorious sick free days at the weekend was a little worried but it is now back with a vengeance!

So went to the docs yesterday about the spotting and I am being sent for a scan tomorrow lunch time to make sure everything is ok I will be 8+4. Haven't had any today thankfully but had an awful dream about it last night so glad I have the scan tomorrow to know what's going on.

Thank you to everyone who replied with their own experiences it really made me feel better.

Well good morning everyone, ((hugs)) to jm and grrr to all the people who have made inappropriate reactions when they should have enthusiastically said 'congratulations'.

I had a conversation with my colleague this morning about Marmite/Bovril and have been browsing wikipedia to see nutritional content of things. Thought this was interesting:
"In the 1920s, scientists believed folate deficiency and anemia were the same condition. A key observation by researcher Lucy Wills in 1931 led to the identification of folate as the nutrient needed to prevent anemia during pregnancy. Dr. Wills demonstrated anemia could be reversed with brewer's yeast. Folate was identified as the corrective substance in brewer's yeast in the late 1930s, and was first isolated in and extracted from spinach leaves by Mitchell and others in 1941."
That's from en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Folic_Acid and also has an interesting bit about the important balance between B12, Folic acid and iron.

Also read the page on vitamin D and couldn't find a specific reference to Taramasalata, only a list of some of the fish species which have had their dietary available D3 amounts measured. Mackerel once a week I think will be good. (It's rainbow trout and spinach chez Lexy tonight though)

eek a big fat two fingers up at your parents reaction to your news. How mean spirited of them :( What your DH said made me laugh though, just keep that in your mind - you know you're not doing something awful and they'll come round eventually.

frog boo to having to wear a uniform - I guess seeing people in the same clothes each day must make even slight changes in body shape appear more pronounced. As for working with all those women.....nightmare!

jemimah good luck for your scan tomorrow, fx everything's ok in there, I'm sure it'll just be a little spot of erosion or something :) I've been having awful dreams too so you have my sympathies x

That's interesting lexy. You reminded me actually, at my booking in yesterday the midwife specifically said I should make sure to be taking a vitamin D supplement as well as folic acid as apparently rickets is making a comeback

I'm afriad I've had to skip half the last two pages as talking about food... well, we're not on good terms at the moment

We've been really busy last two days (read as I've stayed in bed til 1pm, vomited copiously then lay on the sofa) as FIL was visiting monday and my parents came over last night. We told them all the good news and luckily they were very pleased. I've got three siblings (I'm youngest) and I'm the first to start making a baby, so they were very pleased about it all. Sorry eek

I did find out that (as expected from previous conversations) my mother was very sick when she was pregnant with me. At 7 weeks she was hospitalised with hg (and apparently refused all drugs!) so she's very understanding of how sick I've been which is good.

We also went for a cheeky early scan at Berkshire Independant yesterday afternoon which was brilliant. Baby blob exactly the right size for my dates (I was 7+1, they measured as 7+2) and heartbeat was very visible and strong (150 odd bpm) which was breath taking to see! Only slight sadness or maybe more unknown was that she said that the yolk sack looked a little irregular, and may have possibly been a twin that didn't survive- but at that size she said we'd never know. I've not had any bleeding or problems so I'm inclined to say that it's not, but either way it was clearly not meant to be, and there's one healthy little 11mm lump in there. I just gotta hope it stays until the end :) (and ps, all done on tummy cam, no dildo cam! phew!)

kitten I am shitting it about the blood tests. I'm terrible at them at the best of times (we're talking a 40 minute lie down and subsequent raising of the head by 10 degrees every 5 further minutes until I can stand up again), and my booking in appt is next friday. If I'm still this sick, I'm going to be vomiting all over the midwife and passing out all over the floor. Husband has offered to come with me! Bless him, not sure that wouled help.

kitten I'm taking a general pregnancy supplement, just whacked it in online shop from Asda! Looking at the label, it appears to have 100% of RDA of vit d3 in it, to encourage normal cell division and 200% RDA of folic acid in it, along with a whole host of other goodies!

I am off out for lunch with my auntie, I will literally break down if they do not have a jacket potato with cheese (mature cheddar only!) and coleslaw...I NEED it...I think we should all have a special card that entitles to have whatever food we ask for in early pregnancy. My DH says I am becoming a food bore, it's all I can think about, well now the wines gone, has to be some pleasure

eek sorry that sickness has headed your way - I think I peaked too early as starting to feel a bit bleurgh now we're in that black hole between lunch and breakfast... :(

Totally agree with bat that for this third, it isn't like I had to, but I just didn't feel done - really wan't to try and enjoy the time with this one - my other two are both at school and have less than 2 yr age gap so it was really hard work with them when they were babies/little.

Great to hear the good news about scans :)