September 2013 - fretting our way through the first trimester

[KamikazeeKid]

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Oh dear, have got myself in a right state, am sat here crying! Advice please ladies, it is my best mate's hen do in manchester this weekend, friday and saturday night. The plan was friday night to stay in apartment we have and have a quiet night, but now someone is talking about late night at birdcage and saturday night is another full on club night. I had booked the restaurant sat night and that has been double booked, so have spent this afternoon sorting that out whilst trying to care for son with bad D and V. Been up with him two nights, so am sleep starved. Currently, can't think of anything worse than two nights in night clubs and can't even stay awak past 8.30pm. Just feel like death and still waiting to find out if I have slapped cheek antibody. The thoughts of being with 12 pissed up people just makes me want to sob and hide. Plus which, we've had loads more snow...aggggghhhhhhh. Sorry rant over...

Right eek. Stop. Make a cup of tea and breathe. First of all, have you sorted the restaurant out yet? Happy to help if not, with suggestions or ringing round (DH is in the states and I'm home alone and bored tonight).

Friday night. Could you suggest a girly DVD cocktail night? Get everyone to bring the ingredients for a cocktail and have a pampering evening in preparation for Saturday's Big Night Out? Otherwise they'll be hungover and knackered on Saturday and won't enjoy the it so much.

After last week sober in Munich with 22 drunk colleagues, I can only sympathise. It's not nice, but hopefully they'll be too drunk to notice/bother you after a bit.

Happy to help however I can xx

Second everything dietcoke just said.....also who is the "someone" suggesting the change of plan? If it's someone who could politely tell to get back in their box as you've already made arrangements then I'd suggest doing so now - you may find out your panicking over what turns out to be nothing.

Get yourself a and something yummy, plonk DS in front of the telly for 5 mins and clear your head :)

Oh thank you kitten and diet for being so nice, crying a bit more at your general loveliness. I have managed to book another restaurant called Rustica on Deansgate, does anyone know if it's ok, please be honest, if any of the other 12 say anything to me on Saturday night, I think I'll burst into tears. Then we are going to revolucion de Cuba, where I've got free drinks, due to their mess up over the food! Think I'll have my free strawberry daiquiri for the stress! Has fruit! I am not really a big night out person these days under normal circumstances, did too much of that when I was younger...but pregnant, the whole thing fills me with dread. She is my best friend in the whole world, since we were 8 and I wouldn't miss it, she's being delightful about it, I just need to man up! Xxx thanks so much for offer of help, I feel deranged!

Don't know Rustica at all, but Revolucion is great - should be a good atmosphere too but not crazy. There are a couple of bars up that road - a Brew Dog etc which might be a compromise for the Birdcage for some. It's a bit of a trek across to the printworks from there anyway.

It'll be fine. And bloody enjoy that mojito!!

eek does your best friend know you are pregnant? Could it be worth telling her before hand and then you won't feel so solitary, she can also help with the whole mocktails thing - knowing you are not drinking but can pretend is a 'real' cocktail etc. could also avoid a 'why are you going back to apartment so early?' type grumpy stand off if you really need to throw the towel in on the sat night.

And to add, I would be dreading it too so a hug from me - I've got some karaoke thing on Friday night and that's going to be bad enough. Hope DS is better soon too and you get a bit more sleep tonight.

So I had my booking in....midwife is lovely...date for scan is 15/3 which is aaaages away. I'll be 12+5.

I agree with all the above- great advice. You could also be a bit naughty and claim to have DS's D&V bug- To most of my friends I've had a nasty vomiting bug for erm... three weeks (!)

I've got a hen do the weekend after next which is my oldest friends. We're having a posh ladies weekend away in Milan, and I'm dreading the flight. I've also just seen the (packed) itinery- so I'm going to have to budget a little extra for early taxis home from nights out. It's all "classy ladies" and "dress to impress"- I've barely brushed my hair for three weeks so I'm not sure I'm ready for it. I do have to tell my old BF though really as it's going to be obvious otherwise! Luckily she's a qualified doctor so she'll be able to look after me!

kimjayne- don't worry about work. I know everywhere is different and people are all different, but I've had to tell me immediate team at 6 weeks because I've been so unwell. Although I'm still off, I had a skype meeting with them today, and they were so lovely. They didn't make a big deal, even though I've left them all in the lurch for three weeks and for some future work too (I'm the only qualified person in the SE to run some stuff, which is lack of foresight on the SMT's part, but never mind) and they've just been lovely! I owe them all.

eek if any of them say anything to you on Saturday night then throw your free daiquiri over their heads dammit! You have my sympathies - I've arranged a couple of hen nights recently, and some people really just love to stick their oar in so that they can brag about how they "helped" arrange it. Big groups of girls are a nightmare imo! :)

frog yay that's exciting!

Today has been a bit of a rollercoaster. Still hadn't had my scan or booking in appointments through so I called and they have me 12 march which is when I'd be over 15 weeks!

I called my midwife in tears and she's managed to get me a scan tomorrow at 10am! Starting to get nervous as I hadn't heard of a mmc until I joined mn and by that time I was well along with DD. I'll be 11+5 tomorrow so hope it's all positive.

Oh god I'm freaking out now as this still don't feel real!

I second the dread. I'm not a big drinker so I won't miss it through pregnancy and I'm not a fan of late night club sessions either. Truth be known I want my bed by 10pm latest!!

In other news, right now id kill for some humous. :-/

I'm off the bus. Good luck to everyone else x

hugs Total (())

So sorry to hear that total
I agree with all the advice eek (and hope your DS is better soon and you don't catch it before hen do...)
Lexyma my scan is the same date as yours, next tues. I will be 12 weeks.
My uterus def popped out this week. I am normally fairly slim and of flattish belly, I'd noticed some early rounding (joy of relaxed muscles 3rd time round) but this morning there is a v def v low bulge that cannot be denied. I have been sporting a large scarf in true celeb fashion today... Only 1 week to go until I can let the secret (and my bulge) out!! Phew..,

I hadn't heard of mmc either. Whole new thing for me to worry about. Actually so far I've been less worried this time round probably because I'm busy with ds. He's got a virus at the moment so is very clingy. My tendinitis that started when he was about 4 months old has started to return. I don't want steroid injections again because it's already thinned the skin. So today I got a powerball. So far so good, wrist pain has gone so hopefully this will sort it for good.

I really wish the nhs would treat the cause rather than the symptoms, but they were much keener to give me steroids rather than physio. Thank goodness for dr google!

Oh and good luck to jenni and yellowhat for scans this week x

Sorry that seemed like a really random rant, but it was supposedly having ds that kicked off the tendinitis.

Sorry to hear that total. Hugs to you

Really sorry Total. I hope you are being looked after.

Sorry to hear that Total! I hope you are being cared for by your loved ones. Xxx

Thanks for the advice fl0b0t! I guess im just being over cautious but I'd really love the peace of mind from seeing the scan before telling work. I will be 11 weeks 6 days when I tell him. So it's not too early. Im just so anxious. It's much.harder than I ever realised this pregnancy stress. Im permanently on edge. The thought of mmc is haunting me.

Had my booking in today and got my scan on 1st March, am made up as I'll be 12 weeks exactly. We're due to go to Glasgow that day so I've had to buy new train tickets (£130 for 2!) it was that or wait until 14th March for next available appointment, no way!

Eek I really feel for you, like others, the thought of even one night out makes me shiver! I've ducked out of a hen do on Sat, not a close friend so I don't feel too bad, there's just no way on earth I could 1. eat and 2. be awake after 8pm. Also got friend in work's 50th meal at lunchtime on Fri, have to put a fake meeting in my diary as the smell of hot food has me retching. All this lying!

I'm very sorry to hear you're off the bus total I don't know your situation but I hope things happen quickly for you so you can at least, physically get over it and be ready to start again when you're ready, take care xx

Sorry to hear your news total.

Hope the weathers ok up here in Glasgow for you Dorita!