September 2013 - fretting our way through the first trimester

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Hm, my dr told me that I didn't get free prescriptions until 20 weeks? I had to pay for my prescription for ms drugs :(

Just got my booking appointment, chased Macc hospital, it's for the week when I'm ten weeks. They'll give me a scan date then...

Lexyma I am totally with you on not worrying about what I eat and drink either. I never eat any of the banned items in excessive amounts anyway (apart from eating a lot of soft eggs), and don't really feel like boozing as I feel so sick all the time. I think there is far too much neurosis and hysteria about pregnancy diets. It's one of my pet hates.

I read that alcohol in pregnancy thread, and I knew it would turn into a massive fight, those threads always do without fail.

Just got my booking appointment, chased Macc hospital, it's for the week when I'm ten weeks. They'll give me a scan date then...

Oops, double post, am bored today, sorry excessively chatty, day off working, eBay as a living. Now for snickers, then ironing and silent witness, DH won't watch it as it scares him...all rock and roll here!

So just got back from my scan and everything is fine. No sign of where the bleeding was coming from and I saw the heartbeat. Measured at 8+6 so new Edd is 13/09/13 I thought that would happen as was sure at the time I ovulated a bit early.

eek sounds like a fun day! I'm half way through week 2 off work with ms and bored to death! I've watched every bit of rubbish telly I can find, and and mostly lolling about wishing I could bring myself to eat something!

hey, i'm back from a hellish three days working away - with hardly any sleep and hours and hours and hours of train travel - about 20hrs on the train over three days. About 16hrs sleep over three nights.

Slept till 10 this morning and still in pjs now. Got a stonking headache. I think i'm really dehydrated so drinking as much squash as i can but have to sip slowly to keep it down. Might have to cave in and try paracetamol.

I am sooooooooo happy to be home... can't believe I survived. I think stuffing my face with food helped the nausea - cooked breakfasts, buffet lunches and pub dinners... only problem is that i've put on HALF A STONE since christmas ... damn. damn. damn. I don't know if there's any chance of making up for it by eating super healthily in 2nd and 3rd trimesters. It'll be bad enough carrying around a whole baby, fluid, giant boobs etc by 40wks - I don't want stones of unnecessary lard too, my poor knees!!

On the topic of 'risky' things - I have had a couple of soft boiled eggs (lion stamped) which I'm perfectly happy with. And a half pint of a nice beer (1.2units as it was 4.3%). I'm still riding my mountain bike (though not on tricky technicl trails) and I'm going skiing at 12weeks... I've got a long background in judo though so I'm quite body-aware and good at falling on my side/hip if I have to fall at all and I think the uterus is well protected from the side until it actually starts to stick out beyond your hip bone. I am rh- though so must read up on anti-d more before i go to france just in case, I don't know if you need it for any spotting in first trimester (as i haven't had any).

fl0b0t definitely get your doc/mw to double check that, I think he's mistaken about that.

jemimah yay for the positive scan :o

welcome home badguider, hope your headache buggers off and you feel better soon

maybe i'll relax a bit with the egg thing then :)

Fl0b0t I got my exemption certificate at my booking in appt at 8 weeks and on the form it says the card won't start for one month after they receive the form. So that will definitely be after 12 weeks for me - maybe that's what they meant? I had to pay for my mega folic acid dose

Thank you to everyone for your lovely responses to my drama queen over reaction.

No bleeding or cramps still and have already thrown up twice today which is twice as many as yesterday. Can't believe I'm back to celebrating feeling like shit! Can't get a private scan Friday or Saturday so will just have to hope for the best - by Monday if I'm not bleeding then I'll be fairly reassured everything is okay - if it's going to happen it's normally within the first 48 hours or so.

Anyway thanks so much for calming me down. You're all lovely

Have just signed up for preg yoga at my yoga studio as can't manage my usual intense class anymore and they don't do anything inbetween.

Will have to sneak in in disguise though... and fake 'oh i must be in the wrong room' if i see anybody i know in there... gah!!!!

hey all - yes Fl0b0t your GP is mixed up with the matb1 which is at 20 weeks. The free prescriptions form is called an FW8 form and it starts one month before the date it's received (i.e. they back date it). So it's for the whole way through your preg. If you google FW8 form you can actually get an online version but you'll still need a GP/midwife signature.

Re soft boiled eggs - had two and then had diarrhoea all night! But have been having loads of diarrhoea anyway - tmi! Means I'm completely out of the poo race, no chance to build up anything!

Re contract - trade union now getting involved to support me....my employer is trying to discount 8 years of service . Hoping so much it can be resolved soon - stress bad for ? (for what? still trying to think of a slang name - not bean, bubba? blastocyst? foetus? Bean is nice but I associate it with people on here so it doesn't feel like my name) Always cringed when people in RL named their bumps before, but now I want to! With something cool and fun...

Amiready, our bump is called Project Mildred, because DS is called George. His bump name was a cross between bambino and Rambo because he kicked so much.

ha ha, that's good. Particularly like the Project xxx thing. That appeals to me as a project manager! Hmm, that'll get me thinking!
Anyone else named their bumps/beans/bloatedness??

badguider I'm doing the same thing and joining the preg/post natal class next week! Hopefully it will be good! I haven't done any exercise for ages and want to get back in to it but feel ridiculously cautious and wary now I'm pg (hangs head as all the skiers sneer), so want it to be in a controlled environment!

Stressed out today. It turns out DH and I aren't on the same page about what to do about the Nuchal scan, or what to do if we get news we don't want. This is a particularly sensitive issue as my brother has Downs. DH says unequivocally 'we don't want a baby with Downs' and I say nobody WANTS a baby with Downs but sometimes it happens. As my mum was young when she had my brother there's a chance it could be a hereditary type, which is why I'm a bit fixated on it. Don't feel I can talk to anyone about it. The idea of terminating literally gave me heart palpitations, I really don't think I could do it. Sorry if this is really too heavy a topic, but as I say I'm really stressed about it and there's noone to talk to about it. With DS1 and DS2 there was no routine nuchal scans and I didn't even do the blood test, but I thought DH and I were agreed that there was no point as it wouldn't change anything. Maybe I'm being ridiculous and shouldn't worry as the chances are everything will be fine, but I now find I'm dreading having a scan.

Manoo I don't think the actions or thoughts of any mum-to-be could be thought of as "ridiculous"- and of course it makes sense that you and your husband will have different views on Downs with your personal experience. I think he will feel very differently once the nuchal is done because we never know how we feel until we're faced with a situation. How many of us say "I would never...." and then go and do it!? :)

Worry doesn't help anything so try not to worry, and make sure that when you are both feeling calm you chat things through- hopefully you will be able to understand each others point of view better once you've talked it through a bit? xx

Thanks fl0b0t. I know you're right that worrying doesn't help. I haven't even got the scan date through yet, although I'm ten weeks already so it can't be far off.

Sorry to hear that manoo - we've decided to have the nt and bloods but really aren't thinking beyond that... i don't think that the pregnancy seems real (despite tons of shitty symptoms) till we see that scan picture... I guess the same is true for your DH - it's not a real fetus yet to him, just a theoretical idea..

manoo I don't know much about Down's Syndrome, but if you've had two healthy DC already then surely the chance are good that your 3rd will be fine too? Or is that not how it works in this case? Do you think your DH might change his mind a little once he's seen the baby on a screen at your scan? fl0b0t is right, try not to stress about it - you may not see eye to eye right this moment, but you're a long, long way off being forced to do something you're not happy with. Relax, breathe, keep talking about it :)

amiready/badguider whereabouts are you both? I can't seem to find a pregnancy yoga class near me, which I'm quite upset about tbh. Have had to give up my regular class just last week as it's a bit too twist and inversion focused (everything I can't do basically!). Have tried two different evening classes but they seem to be too gentle - I came away feeling I'd hardly done anything! Plus one teacher looked at me like i'd just offered to kill her puppy when I told her I was pg . So frustrating.

We haven't really named our bump either yet - will have to get thinking about it!

In other news, I have something new to worry about - I asked my mum if she had morning sickness, and she did until week 12 each time (5 pgs). I've not had it at all....

Manoo another vote for crossing that bridge when you come to it. No point stressing unnecessarily over something that might never happen.

I am in London - it's just a pregnancy exercise class, not specifically yoga, but it's through the Virgin active gym which I am going to join on a rolling month thing. Apparently they even do free childcare if you use the gym so that's where I'm hoping to be in about 11 months time!

Sorry Manoo about the worry you have. But don't ever terminate if you don't want to, whatever the man says, its your body, your choice.

Although it does raise the issue of what to do when not agreeing with DH - DH and I don't agree over whether to find out sex or not - I don't want to because if I'm going to be in pain for 3 solid days I want there to be a 'surprise' or something to look forward to/work towards during it all whereas if I have the knowledge already I feel it won't be the same - whereas he wants to find out. My reasoning is we can find out for the second one when it will perhaps matter slightly more (as it would be nice to have one of each, and therefore to avoid any 'momentary' disappointment when you don't get what you're hoping for, although of course you would love it regardless...).

Anyone else not on the same page as DH about decision making?
I am also desperately hoping he comes round to my favourite girls name which at the moment he is resolutely refusing and it is sooooo beautiful and lovely and classy and I don't know how he can possibly not like it!

kitten no nausea over here either! But don't have a clue about my mum as haven't told her yet!

Thanks all. I know you're right and will resolve not to think about it for now. I think partly because we didn't plan to have a third I have this feeling that we're chancing our luck somehow. I will just keep my fiingers extra tightly crossed.

On a completely different note, we had our house valued today. Crazy or not, I've decided that I can't face having another baby in the country. It's so boring! When we had DS 1 we lived in a big city and it was great when he was tiny to just be able to bung him in the carrier and jump on a bus or train and go see things, museums, art galleries, beautiful parks etc. There's nowhere to go here without getting in the car and driving for about half an hour. Is anyone else planning a big move?

That sounds like a good set up ami. I think there's a virgin active in the next town to me, might check it out for future if not right now whilst I'm commuting still.

DH and I are on the same page about most things - with the exception of names it would seem! TBH I think it would help if he would branch his research out a bit from "girls I went to school with in the 1980s" Good job we've plenty of time to argue think about it! that said, I can see a disagreement or two coming our way when it comes to discipline/smacking in a year or two...

manoo I don't think you're crazy, sounds like now is the perfect time for you to look at moving if that's what you want - certainly no point leaving it later!