July 2013 thread 4 - keeping the duchess company

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No one seems to have started a new thread yet, so here we go!

princessllama-dc3-27th June
CottonSocks - 1st July
QuinandThem - 1st July
Badgerwife - DC2 - 1st July
Cutandstick - 2nd July
Runswithsquirrels - 2nd July
Thinkingof4- DC4 -2nd July
VinegarDrinker - DC2 - 2nd July
Persuasion - 3rd July
esme80 - 3rd july
Glup - 3rd July
emblosion - 3rd July
BB01 - 4th July
Dinkystinky - DC3 - 4th July
elliejjtiny - 4th July
wifey6 - 5th July
Notprincesskate - DC2 - 5 July
OhGood - 5th July
PenguinsInThePantry - 5th July
marmitemad DC2 - 6th July
Gingerpanther27 - 7th July
DifferentNow - DC5 - 7th July
Abzs - DC1 - 7th July
Efme - 8th July
GeorgieWilson - 9th July
shelley72 - 9th -
Devilforasideboard - 10th July
CitizenOscar - DC2 - 10th July
TwoOfThree - DC1 - 10th July
Calmisthemantra - 11th July
Specialknickers - 11th July
MrsMillions - DC1 - 11th July
mysterymeg - 12th July
Reikimummy - 12th July (DC1)
SlouchingPanda - 12th July
Thundercatz - 12th July
Twirliedobbit - DC4 - 12th July
Hai1988 - 14th July
LittleFlower888 - 14th July
Tashtastic - 14th July
Beaditsback - dc2 14th July
Lizincornwall - 15th July
Mizar - 15th July
photographerlady - 15th July
Guavasforbreakfast - DC1 - 16th July
paolocee/donna - 17th July
MiniPenguinMaker - DC1 - 17th July
MrsWildermac - 18th July
TotallyEggFlipped - 18th July
SingingMomma - 18th July
GingerJulep - DC1 - 19th July
Niktasha - 19th July
whitedaffodil - 19th July
Grannyapple DC2 - 19th July
orangebubbles - DC2 - 20th July
Thinking positive thoughts - 20th July
Cheeseandbread - DC1 - 20th July
AmaDablam - DC1 - 21st July
butterflyexperience - 22nd July
BadMissM- DC2- 22nd July
AllYoursBabooshka - 22nd July
Isitme1 - 23rd July
MightBeMad - 23rd July
Supershiv1 - DC1 - 23rd July
Boostar - 24th July
Cantreachmytoes - 24th July
MrsRoss26 - 24th July
Camb79 - 25th July
Sashabella0 - 25th July
BoyMeetsWorld - 27th July
marimama - 27th July
JessicaMLH - DC2 - 27th July
Flyingsprocket - 29th July
SchroSawMummyRidingSantaClaus - Unknown

Sunday we xposted and I think I had assumed your other date was next Weds not today...glad you got through ok and had such welcome reassurance from this one. X

February
7th - dinkystinky - 20 week scan
11th - orangebubbles - private gender scan
12th- cutandstick - 20 week scan
12th - quinandthem - 20 week scan
12th - VinegarDrinker - 20 week scan
13th - emblosion - 20 week scan
15th - Sundaysunshine - 21 week scan
15th - DifferentNow - 20 week scan
15th - BB01 - 20 week scan
18th - elliejjtiny - 20 week scan
18th - notprincesskate- 20 week scan
19th - persuasion - 20 week scan
19th - tashtastic - 20 week scan
19th - marmitemad - 20 week scan
22nd - mysterymeg - 20 week scan
22nd - trustissues75 - 20 week scan
25th - photographerlady - 20 week scan
26th - Abzs - 20 week scan at 21+2

March
1st - Guavasforbreakfast - 20 week scan
1st - TotallyEggFlipped - 20 week scan
1st - Bigbelly4 - 21 week scan
4th - mightbemad - 20 week scan
4th - Amadablam - 20 week scan
5th - orange bubbles - 20 week scan
5th - citizenoscar - 20 week scan
6th - MrsRoss26 - 20 week scan
8th - BadMissM - 20 week scan
9th - MiniPenguinMaker - 20 week scan
11th - flyingsprocket - 20 week scan
11th - Huffpot - 20 week scan
12th - Cheeseandbread - 20 week scan

Adding my scan date and have popped you on as well CitizenOscar

Am sure I just got a couple of kicks so very exciting!

Mini - and Photographers DH - agree with BadmissM : get advice from CAB (or post in legal for flowerybeanbag) or a law centre to make sure they do it right, you get what you are due and a good reference. Terrible timing so am v sorry you are having this needless stress now.

Tom - ouch re pizza. Special knickers - double ouch re car. Can you speak with your physio about how to make adaptations to make it more comfortable for you?

Sunday - glad your little one lifted your spirits today.

sunday glad today passed with minimum fuss, I am dreading may 15th for same reason xx

Just watching OBEM and shitting myself it doesn't get any less scary even 4th time around...arghhhhhhh

Oh Sunday, yes. Hope you've had a quiet day.

Watched one born here too. Not sure why I watch it but am drawn to it. Always cry when the baby pops out!

Funnily enough stinky, I'm driving it to see the osteopath on Friday so might ask him to look the seat over and make adjustments... Feel slightly sheepish that we bought a manual when he advised that an automatic would be better (I really wanted one, just couldn't persuade DH)... Will have to eat humble pie.

I watch OBEM as well. I think because they make the births look so easy... Still freaks me out every time though. Always amazed that the mums are so young and that the dads are always so useless (no offence, they all mean well but they seem to sit about, looking bored, eating snacks and making unhelpful remarks... Not my idea of a birthing partner!).

mini call ACAS! They are there specifically to give employee/employer advice where as the CAB are just generalists and probably tell you to call ACAS anyway! whole section on redundancy here Tel: 08457 47 47 47

Morning all. Thanks for all the advice. The DH works in quite a busy market so he is hopeful he can get back into the swing of it. His company still has a contract to work on a book so he will work out a deal with them on pages and cost. That and a few articles with at least have him pulling in the same sort of wage til autumn.

I think the one nice thing will be to have him home. I wasn't looking forward to having the baby and then him leaving from 5am to 9pm everyday to work in London. He will have the odd press trip abroad now but nothing more than an extended weekend.

Just need to start getting a wee frugal, better to be safe than sorry.

Hi,

First post for me. Can I join please? I'm due on 27/7 and having my anomaly scan on 19/3 which makes me c 21 weeks at that point. This is my first so no idea what I'm letting myself in for!

Lorrie
15+5

Great advice for you Mini from Orangebubbles - definitely get in touch with them.

Specialknickers - I hope the osteopath helps with the adjustments. I personally cant watch OBEM or any programmes like that - just find it really hard to watch!

Photographerlady - sounds like things might work out well in the long term for you and DH. Its always a good idea to have a bit of a frugal time before you go on mat leave - gets you into the habit of not spending too much for mat leave too.

Welcome LorrieJ - feel free to add yourself to the due date list a few pages back and there's also a mini scan list going on too. Hope all going well with your pregnancy so far.

Had my 20 week scan today - baby was being photogenic. Saw loads, including baby waving, and got a lovely shot of baby's foot too.

Hi,
Thanks, had a couple of hiccups but for the most part baby Bob is being very well behaved :-)
On my phone, so hopefully cut / paste is standard means to add myself to the lists...

February
7th - dinkystinky - 20 week scan
11th - orangebubbles - private gender scan
12th- cutandstick - 20 week scan
12th - quinandthem - 20 week scan
12th - VinegarDrinker - 20 week scan
13th - emblosion - 20 week scan
15th - Sundaysunshine - 21 week scan
15th - DifferentNow - 20 week scan
15th - BB01 - 20 week scan
18th - elliejjtiny - 20 week scan
18th - notprincesskate- 20 week scan
19th - persuasion - 20 week scan
19th - tashtastic - 20 week scan
19th - marmitemad - 20 week scan
22nd - mysterymeg - 20 week scan
22nd - trustissues75 - 20 week scan
25th - photographerlady - 20 week scan
26th - Abzs - 20 week scan at 21+2

March
1st - Guavasforbreakfast - 20 week scan
1st - TotallyEggFlipped - 20 week scan
1st - Bigbelly4 - 21 week scan
4th - mightbemad - 20 week scan
4th - Amadablam - 20 week scan
5th - orange bubbles - 20 week scan
6th - MrsRoss26 - 20 week scan
8th - BadMissM - 20 week scan
9th - MiniPenguinMaker - 20 week scan
11th - flyingsprocket - 20 week scan
12th - Cheeseandbread - 20 week scan
19th - LorrieJ - 20 week scan at 21 + 3

minipenguinmaker orangebubbles dinky ACAS will tell you things, but not intervene or enforce the rights/payments. Like the EHRC they will tell you the law, but up to you to get it enforced. Remember they are 'guidelines for good practice', and not all employers can or will follow them.

Legal Advice Centre may be better at stating that Mini knows her rights and they are not expected to be infringing them. (Am going through Employment Tribunal). ACAS also intervene at very late stage.... CAB bit general. Also maybe use a free hour/half hour with a solicitor. Take a list of questions, use the time wisely.

photographerlady So, there are plus and minus sides to this redundancy... frugality can be good, as Dinky says...

Special Hope the osteopath manages to sort car problems...

Dinky OOOOOOOOH! Was it really exciting? Can't wait for mine!

Interesting things...got my NHS blood test result yesterday...by phone, not all of it either. According to them have a 1 in 15 risk of Downs (blood test alone, no nuchal). They apparently count my age, my BMI, prev pg history, and DH's age aginst us..... My Harmony Test result was less than 1 in 10,000 for all 3 trisomies. So glad I went for the Harmony first now....

Sorry, I managed to use an older list and cut people off. Try again...
11th - orangebubbles - private gender scan
12th- cutandstick - 20 week scan
12th - quinandthem - 20 week scan
12th - VinegarDrinker - 20 week scan
13th - emblosion - 20 week scan
15th - Sundaysunshine - 21 week scan
15th - DifferentNow - 20 week scan
15th - BB01 - 20 week scan
18th - elliejjtiny - 20 week scan
18th - notprincesskate- 20 week scan
19th - persuasion - 20 week scan
19th - tashtastic - 20 week scan
19th - marmitemad - 20 week scan
22nd - mysterymeg - 20 week scan
22nd - trustissues75 - 20 week scan
25th - photographerlady - 20 week scan
26th - Abzs - 20 week scan at 21+2

March
1st - Guavasforbreakfast - 20 week scan
1st - TotallyEggFlipped - 20 week scan
1st - Bigbelly4 - 21 week scan
4th - mightbemad - 20 week scan
4th - Amadablam - 20 week scan
5th - orange bubbles - 20 week scan
5th - citizenoscar - 20 week scan
6th - MrsRoss26 - 20 week scan
8th - BadMissM - 20 week scan
9th - MiniPenguinMaker - 20 week scan
11th - flyingsprocket - 20 week scan
11th - Huffpot - 20 week scan
12th - Cheeseandbread - 20 week scan
19th - LorrieJ - 20 week scan at 21+3

Thanks BadMissM - was v exciting and lovely to see the baby. As you say, thank god you had the Harmony test first. Given how rubbish your PCT has been to date, I'm sure you're taking those results with a huge pinch of salt - and rightfully so.

WADDLERS AND RIDERS LIST (have added you on LorrieJ)
princessllama-dc3-27th June
CottonSocks - 1st July
QuinandThem - 1st July
Badgerwife - DC2 - 1st July
Cutandstick - 2nd July
Runswithsquirrels - 2nd July
Thinkingof4- DC4 -2nd July
VinegarDrinker - DC2 - 2nd July
Persuasion - 3rd July
esme80 - 3rd july
Glup - 3rd July
emblosion - 3rd July
shelley72 - 3rd July
BB01 - 4th July
Dinkystinky - DC3 - 4th July
elliejjtiny - 4th July
wifey6 - 5th July
Notprincesskate - DC2 - 5 July
OhGood - 5th July
PenguinsInThePantry - 5th July
marmitemad DC2 - 6th July
Gingerpanther27 - 7th July
DifferentNow - DC5 - 7th July
Abzs - DC1 - 7th July
Efme - 8th July
GeorgieWilson - 9th July
Devilforasideboard - 10th July
CitizenOscar - DC2 - 10th July
TwoOfThree - DC1 - 10th July
Calmisthemantra - 11th July
Specialknickers - 11th July
MrsMillions - DC1 - 11th July
Beginningofthejourney - DC1 11th July
Trustissues75 - DC2 - 11th July
mysterymeg - 12th July
Reikimummy - 12th July (DC1)
SlouchingPanda - 12th July
Thundercatz - 12th July
Twirliedobbit - DC4 - 12th July
Hai1988 - 14th July
LittleFlower888 - 14th July
Tashtastic - 14th July
Beaditsback - dc2 14th July
Mizar - 15th July
photographerlady - 15th July
Guavasforbreakfast - DC1 - 16th July
paolocee/donna - 17th July
MiniPenguinMaker - DC1 - 17th July
MrsWildermac - 18th July
TotallyEggFlipped - 18th July
SingingMomma - 18th July
GingerJulep - DC1 - 19th July
Niktasha - 19th July
whitedaffodil - 19th July
Grannyapple DC2 - 19th July
Thinking positive thoughts - 20th July
Cheeseandbread - DC1 - 20th July
AmaDablam - DC1 - 21st July
butterflyexperience - 22nd July
BadMissM- DC2- 22nd July
AllYoursBabooshka - 22nd July
orangebubbles - DC2 - 22nd July
Isitme1 - 23rd July
MightBeMad - 23rd July
Supershiv1 - DC1 - 23rd July
Boostar - 24th July
Cantreachmytoes - 24th July
MrsRoss26 - 24th July
Camb79 - 25th July
Sashabella0 - 25th July
BoyMeetsWorld - 27th July
marimama - 27th July
JessicaMLH - DC2 - 27th July
Lizincornwall - 27th July
LorrieJ- 27 July
Silver15 - DC3 - 28th July
Flyingsprocket - 29th July
Trickybarmby - 31st July
SchroSawMummyRidingSantaClaus - Unknown

Hello LorrieJ, welcome.

specialknickers I hope the osteopath can help with your car as well as your body!

photographer you & your DH sound like you have fascinating careers. In glad there's a positive flipside to the redundancy news.

mini I hope you're ok. You've had some good advice here, I think. People seem to know what they're talking about.....

lorrie welcome!

dinky Yay for 20 week scans, I say share the photos on imgur with us but I don't know how MN is with links. Also those are your precious photos.

Totally well I will be doing portraits and weddings as a full time business after the little ones here so its going to be one life changing year.

BadM whats the harmony test if you don't mind me asking?

How was One Born last night? I wish I could stay awake til 9pm I was out like a light.

hello, have been trying to catch up on posts, kept getting a bit further then not looking for a day then trying again!

paolo, badmissm and others glad my obsessive website trawling saved you some cash.
mini so sorry about being made redundant. what a rubbish time.
dinky i had my scan this morning, kept wondering if you were having yours at same time! glad yours went well, so did mine. so detailed now they had to warn me to turn away when they were checking everything ok with between the baby's legs.
for those talking of bump size-i am like a whale already, typical i think for dc3 and no abdominals. my ribs are killing me, thought it wouldn't be like that this time as so stretched already, but i think they must have gone back after last pg. time for sneaky kip on sofa with obem before get kids back from school

yes, forgot to say hello lorrie

Glad you had a good scan too Princessllama - was surprised how photogenic the baby was being (both DS1 and DS2 were v unco-operative for their 20 week scans!). Glad someone else with DC3 on the way is feeling big too.

So sorry to hear your bad news Mini and Photographerlady. Must be pretty unsettling but does sound like you've got some great advice on here already...was going to suggest ACAS, CAB and the like. It can be hard to find people who specialise in employment advice which is why ACAS can be great just for quick answers even on some quite complex issues. They just don't really provide ongoing support. Not sure if somebody has already suggested this too for finding a legal advisor legaladviserfinder.justice.gov.uk/AdviserSearch.do

Have many people decided when to finish work yet? I know it's quite early still but would really like to at least give a rough idea of when I'll finish but really really can't decide. I think that the risk of me getting bored if I finish early is lower than the risk of being sick and tired of work and feeling stressed, but still would just feel guilty if I finished really early as seems to be the norm to only finish 2-4 weeks before - which seems really late to me!!!

Yay for good scans princess and dinky - has made me very excited for mine, especially because it marks the half way point - we're getting somewhere!

Have been feeling weird sort of dull pressure down low every time I get up and walk around, not especially painful but it's a bit disconcerting. I've been doing lots of sorting around the house, a little bit of lifting and moving but nothing too extreme, have worried myself into thinking I've done something wrong .

Anyone had anything like this?

BB01 I'm leaving at 35+3, but effectively at 32+3 - we have a 2 week half term break then I'm back at work for a week but my cover replacement will have started already, so I'm hoping it'll be a nice easy week. There's no way I'd hang around til 38 weeks with my crazy class, I want to spend lots of time relaxing with family and getting ready.

17+2

Thanks Dinky, much appreciated.
Hi to all!
LorrieJ

BB01 - probably finishing work sometime mid June - probably at around 37 weeks.

Guavas - is the pressure in your lower stomach or in your pelvic region? If the former, probably baby responding to the moving around. If the pelvic area, take it easy and rest to see if it passes.