The 3rd Gemini Luxury Bus

[Librarina]

I thought I'd get our shiny new thread started, welcome.
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I also thought I'd include our little round up of who is having what, when...feel free to update, there's only a few of us so we shouldn't end up drowning in Stats!

kittykats : girl
JoJo: boy
Bringon: girl
Frust: boy
Blending: one of each
Lib: surprise - 1st baby - EDD June 7th
Lor: surprise (for now!)
Ohtheplaces: girl - 1st baby - EDD June 5th
Peardrop: boy

Lib that was my concern and did play out to a part but I found with just being very clear right from the beginning about certain things they did not attempt to try and change my mind etc they could see I wasn't for turning and I think you have to be quite strong about what you want, also I had my mum rather then dh, situation rather then planned but found she was quite strong in a polite way about wanting me examined before being sent home as erratic fast labours run in the family etc and I found she was taken seriously where I think dh would think oh they know best etc... The worst thing about labour is because you are in pain people tend to talk about you rather then to you and make your decisions for you

Ha, yes. It's very good for you. It contains the hormones from pregnancy and it helps with the transition from birth into the postpartum. It also contains iron and helps replenish the stores that you lose from the blood loss. I'm "consuming" it (for lack of a better term) this time because I hate how emotionally unstable I feel in the first week after the birth and after encapsulating it for other moms for the past 2 years, I figured I'd better give my own medicine a try :)

Wow, Jo what a lot of craziness to remember from your birth! It's sad that those are the parts you're having to recall when you think of your hb and it sounded to chaotic for you and your DH. I can say from a student's perspective that the midwife having the student finding the heart tones and being the one to keep listening is pretty standard, it's just how you learn.... but the midwife probably should have asked you if it was okay first. I can't imagine her actions and her attitude as being a very good learning environment for that student, however! Also completely at her playing the "dead baby card" and complete lack of responsibility that resulted your dehydration and full bladder! Those are like the basics in midwifery, shame on her! I whole-heartedly don't blame you for wanting another midwife. I'm sorry you're feeling anxiety about whom will be attending your birth, AND having to deal with the house and lo's on your own tonight! Fingers crossed for you that you will have a midwife who is wonderful, kind, caring, and respectful for your next birth. Things go so so differently for second, third, fourth babies than the first too...each birth is completely different from any others!

Kitty you are so right! it is really annoying when everyone in the room is talking about you and it seems like they think you're too much in labor land to notice....when those are the things you remember the most from your birth! I still can remember some of the random things my midwives and my husband were talking about when I was in-between contractions. I try so hard to be mindful and not discuss things in front of laboring mamas.

So, I've been exhausted, grumpy, and I have a sore spot on my bump from where the baby is constantly sticking out a foot. I'm ready for bed and it's only 6:30. DH is also out at a hockey game tonight so I'm on my own with the boys for bedtime. Urgh.

Is there something about being 29weeks that gives you a boost of angry-pregnant-woman hormones?

I hope so. I hit 28 weeks today and could really use some angry-woman energy to get me through what is going to be a tough week next week. I think my Library are finally going to announce the cuts we need to make and I'm sure it won't be pretty.

No energy with it lib just the angry. Will you be protected from the cuts?

I think you're on to something Frus. Feeling angry/irritated/bugged/furious much more easily these days.....

My contribution to the anger-related conversation: ARGH!!!!!

All was going well today but then DS started finding me telling him off hilarious so kept doing the same things. I moved him away... He thought it was a great game. I got so frustrated I felt like putting him down a bit too roughly when I moved him away or smacking him just to prove I wasn't playing a game. I left the room & cried instead! DH was late home from work despite assuring me that he'd be on time tonight because we've got his parents visiting tomorrow & lots to do tonight. I just can't help being so annoyed! I've barely spoken to DH since he got home & pretty much everything I have said has been really passive aggressive. I'm annoying myself, let alone poor DH who's had a busy, stressful day! I've still got to make a pavlova & have a bath before I can go to bed! Hopefully I won't be quite so angry while my PILs are here!

Have a hug jojo everyone feels like that sometimes, it's learning when to make sure ds is safe and leave the room.
Something I was advised by a midwife with dd1 who never stopped crying and it drove me nuts put her down somewhere safe and leave the room. I regularly take time-out from dd2.
I've had no patience at work today. Oh and I did threaten to re-home the dog yesterday because he was being a nutter plug he kept getting under my feet. Obviously I'm not going to re-home him he's my boy, but DH has now started walking him.

And on a non-angry point. Aaaahhh I itch. My bump, my boobs, my legs and my back. Unfortunately it's the itch boobs that are the worse as I can't just itch them in public.

Can I just contribute to things that are driving me MAD these days?

People commenting on how "huge" I am. I have gotten this comment so many times in the past week from total strangers and I'm ready to deck someone. Yes I realize I have a very promenant bump (I have a short torso, where else is the baby going to go??), yes I realize I still have until June to keep growing, yes I realize that June is another 3 months away, YES I REALIZE I'M GOING TO GET EVEN BIGGER THAN THIS. Shut the f* up and leave me alone. Seriously people. And stop with the "whoas" and "jeeze" and "my goodnesses". . How is that helping me feel like a beautiful goddess who is contributing to our population? Hmm?

Oh dear we are all in a sorry state arnt we, dolls out hugs to Jojo, frus and bring, can't say I'm feeling the rage but very depressed yesterday, had 4d scan and baby not cooperative at all and totally breech!!! Still < sobs> I thought she had moved as I was feeling kicks up high the last few days but no it's because she's got her feet right by her head, this made for lovely photos ( not) and when we got her to move her feet abit ( for about 2 mins she spent the time sucking her hand and we got a lovely shot of her with a finger up her nose!! Yes it is abit funny but I think I enjoyed the experience so much with dd and couldn't narrow down the pics and we were all oh she looks like you she has your nose etc that this was an anti climax, ofcourse I'm happy she is well etc and we did get a peek and staff couldn't have been nicer but also makes me feel I'm not going to get my vb ( I know I know I'm jumping the gun) spent last night practically upside down trying to turn baby though how will I know if I manage, bloody feet by head I ask you!!!!

Kitty Babies are wierdly bendy though aren't they? I thought at the minute they were still randomly swimming around is all their lovely amniotic juices. Is it not nearer the end when they commit to a position and we have to bounce on balls to turn them around.

I could of course be completely wrong, just wanted to offer reassurance!

Frus. I'm in a strange position because being pregnant I am safer from the cuts, I've also worked quite hard to make my job quite 'visible' and make sure that senior mgmnt see that I'm good at it. It's tough times for all libraries tho!

I'm with libra in that I though they had plenty of time to turn. My womb still has 4inches to grow upwards. Bumpy is all on one side (no idea which way up) so by the size of my bump and bumpy being an average of 15inches long, he's definately still got space to 360 for a couple of weeks yet.

Yep PLENTY of room for babies to turn still! Mine decided during our curry dinner that she was in the mood for wombnastics and turned her little butt down.

How frustrating for you kitty. At least you'll have some funny finger-up-the-nose pix to show your lo when it gets older (as it may be a habit that continues on for a while ).

Currently trying to put together our DS's moustache birthday party which commences in t-minus 2 hrs. It's just my family but there is still so much to get done and I'm getting kicked in the crotch from the inside by little missy and it's making me jump and squirm-which is not conductive to being productive~!

Moustache birthday party? Sounds intriguing.

On the super-clean again. Which isn't a good thing based on the mood I'm in. I am being brutal and chucking stuff. And I shoved my silly sewing machines back in the attic with their plugs this time

Thanks for the re assurance guys, I guess it was because it was 10 days since the mw had said and I know she hasn't yet, plus read babies are allready the length that they will be born at just not heavy yet that was worrying me she's made it her home, ill keep up the upside down movements and hope for the best but can tell the little buggar is still bum down now! Will add a pic not the finger up the nose one so you can have a little gander if you like x

Phew. It was a success! We had loads of stick-on moustaches, got pictures of everyone in their facial attire and the boys had a great time be crazy with the new toys. The vegan chocolate mousse cake was a hit and everyone was very surprised at how good it was....lunch was super yummy....annnnndddd now we are all completely exhausted and I'm still getting kicked in the crotch from the inside. All in all, a good day.

What do you put in a vegan mousse bring? Glad everyone had a good time!

Sooo... I thought I was going into labour last night! DS1 woke me up & shortly after I realised my stomach felt uncomfortable. That quickly developed into full-on contraction type pain that came & went every few minutes. I think if I didn't have DS to consider we would probably have gone straight to hosp. I'm glad we didn't though. I'm pretty sure it was just a combination of trapped gas & BH after a long & busy day! I still don't feel quite right now but DS2 is wriggling lots so I'm not worried about him now!

Ooh jojo how worrying, I think I would have been packing my bag ready to go.

Talking of hospital bags, what on earth do I want to put in it? In beginning to think maybe I should get a bag and stick some bits in.

I probably will start making a list of things, just incase! I'm going to need 3 bags this time - one for me, one for DS2 & one for DS1 incase we have to take him anywhere! Hopefully I won't actually need anything in bags but I guess it's sensible to have everything in one place wherever I end up giving birth!

The main thing that stopped me rushing to the hospital was trying to figure out who we could wake up at 1.30am who'd actually be able to get here soon! DH did a fab job of keeping me calm though. He grabbed his bible & started reading at random mostly to distract me but coincidentally the first passage he read happened to include the name we quite like for DS2 & most of the following passages were talking about how God knew the writer before he was born & how He knit him together in his mother's womb! It was literally the most comforting section he could've chosen & he really doesn't know his bible well enough to have done it deliberately! A later passage talked about a group of people prospering & how God wouldn't let anything go wrong with their cow's birthing - I laughed & said that if God can look after the cows then he can look after me too... DH has been teasing me about being like a cow all morning!

I have a headache again. which is a pain because I'm allergic to paracetamol And earlier my fingers and lip went numb for about 10 minutes very wierd not numb now. And my eyes went all blurry, but that's normal before I get headaches.
Should I actually be worried? I any decide whether I should be worried or if I am over reacting.

Oh that sounds crazy, Jo. I love that he opened just to the right spot in the bible to help you feel better. I was having some crazy BH and pelvic pain the other night during dinner and it was kind of grabbing my attention. I think it was bub spinning herself to her current breech position, but it was so uncomfortable! Super crazy to think that we are in the home-stretch and that we could be holding our babies in 10 wks.

Frus Are you feeling any pain in your right side? Are you noticing any swelling that's sudden? Are you dizzy, or is this headache worse than others you've had recently? If yes to any of those questions, I would go get your BP checked asap.

No pain, swelling or dizziness bring. I don't think they are getting worse, but they are getting more frequent. not helped by lack of pain relief

Ouch. I'm sorry frus. Do you think a hot bath followed by a rest in a dark room would help?