May 2013- boys , girls or the unknown? Over half way there!

[scooby26]

Hi all, new had for may 2013!

I'm on DC3 hen and mildly panicked about 3 5 and under but excited too. I'm one of nine so no sympathy from from mother who already thinks I over egg the whole parenting business.
Re the sleep pillows I have slept with a cushion between my knees since 12 weeks and a pillow that has a flat bit in the middle so every time you turn you're bump is supported - it's really great, makes a huge difference. Will progress to full body pillow in a month or so although it tends to feel like another body in the bed so DH not entirely keen

I really didn't realise so many were on dc3 on here.Do any of you keep getting asked when you'll have another Im not sure if its just a question people with same sex children get or everyone.I got asked a lot with ds1 never got asked with ds2 so finding it odd people are asking with my third.

This will definitely be our last as we just couldn't afford anymore.

I think it's a question everyone gets. I've been asked it already and I'm only on dc1 (21+3). So far my response has been "let me get through this one first!" Lol x

Yep, that's right beaut
The questions we get are more of the "will you be stopping now?" Which is always followed by me telling them we always planned 3. Pure fluke this one is a boy. Again we didnt get any questions with dd2.
Although I did get a "if you didnt have enough on your plate already" which I actually appreciated as I'm sure most people we know are thinking it anyway, and the honestly is quite refreshing.

What are the ages of yours Frustrated I hope all of mine bond due to age gap.Ds2 has already expresses his concern at no longer being the baby

Most people are obsessed with what sex this one will be - I have 2 DSs. I have to repeat the same thing to them all ; another boy would fit in very easily - a girl would be a whole new ball game but lovely. I get the feeling no one will be that interested in another boy. They also demand to know when I will change my car and how I will ever go away on holidays EVER again. Oh and the house is too small apparently. As one of nine I know anything is solvable but do wish people would stop.

They'll be 7 and 5 beaut, the youngest is very much the baby has SN so more like 3 this little one will make the world of difference in her development, as at the moment our life does revolve around her, she is babied alot, and it will help us and her so much to break that cycle and for her to see that the world doesn't revolve around her.

Ahh I have itchy flaky nipples. I thought I'd got away with it what would I have in my house that will help?

Is anybody on DC3 gettins a lot of ?oh you must be mad? I get it all the time and its starting to piss me off a little lol xx

I changed my car bood but more to do with doing the school run and taking a friends dc
I'm at a loss with a boy rather than a girl. It will be so strange.

Also had the no holidays comment. Which I find a bit since we haven't been on holiday since dd2 was 1.

Right, I have virasoothe, e45, arnica, and sudacrem, - which is going to stop me wanting to scratch my nipple off?

Beaut, Hen, Seven, Frustrated and Bood - I'm on number three too so there are a whole gang of us. Isn't Shelley also in the same boat. I too am having a boy after 2 girls. My girls will be 6 years 9 months and 4 years 5 months if this one arrives on time. I am glad it's a different gender purely as I worried about DD2, who is v sensitive, getting a bit of "middle child syndrome" and I think that might be lessened by still being the youngest girl. I've yet to be asked if I'll have even more but maybe that's because people see the fear in my eyes when I announce number 3! Actually I do find it strange how many people think it's ok to react to our news with comments like "are you crazy?" or "you are brave". Quite different reactions to those I got with DCs 1 and 2.

Sorry Shelley we crossposted there as I took ages to type. I see you are indeed on no. 3 and I'm not alone in suffering the "are you crazy" comments.

Ha, frustrated, I think most of those would work. Try them one at a time?

I'm on DC2 and I already have at the back of my mind the thought of another! My DH would go mad. It took a lot of persuasion for this one. But, because so far my body has coped (complications last time by now) I keep thinking -'if I get through this unscathed, I can do it again!'. I'm one of three girls so I like the idea of 3. But DH is one of 2, and he and his sister don't talk. So, I think I'm going to have to accept that 2 is it dreams of announcing no 3 to a mortified DH.

Just realised that potentially I have 10 work weeks left!

Frustrated I have a maternity pillow which helps a bit. I have problems sleeping at the best of times though, tied in with being autistic. My occupational therapist ordered me a weighted blanket to help with this but that was before I fell pregnant. She has it at the hospital now but won't let me use it until she finds out for certain that it's ok for pregnant ladies to use (which I doubt as it's about 2 stone of extra weight).

Beautician I had lots of people asking me if I was mad and why on earth I would want to have a baby now. This is because he is my second but my first is now 19 and has just left home. IE why go back into the lion's den when you've just escaped. It makes me sad and I wish people could just be happy for us.

Haha maybe virasoothe has worked for now. Must invest in nipple cream. 10 weeks sounds nice, I have 16 working weeks. depending on when I decide to work until

Shelly mostly people think I'm mad having 3. I think it's cause they are so young but it's not like its that shocking. I would like to upgrade car etc but it won't happen straight away. For those having their first boy after girls ; boys are fantastic and they idolise their mums (for now) My almost 5 YO said yesterday he wished he had asked me to marry him before Daddy - I didn't go into how that would not really have worked

Hi all

Hope you're having a relaxing weekend.

I've got 14 weeks til I start my leave then maternity. Off for a week low as I've taken my nights off as leave and I have a week booked in feb if/when we move ( hmmm )

This is our DC2- there will be no more! Im not 'brave' ;-) enough for 3. I'm one of 3 myself but I don't see how I'd cope with any more than 2! One hand for each! But seriously - I kinda get the car/hols things- its much more difficult with a 5 person family logistically:financially than 4 so we will be stopping here- I don't mean to offend- I just know my own limitations/capabilities! My dad is one of 9- god knows how anyone copes with that many!

shelly yes I'm getting a lot of I think you're mad comments. I reply with yes we are a bit mad, it soon shuts them up. DS will be 4.10 and DD will be 17 months. DH is keen for another but I'm happy with 3, especially as straight after DD I said I didn't want anymore. Plus we have 4 bedrooms so they will have one each, and we already have a grand scenic anyway.

My MIL was one of 13, now that I think is mad!

beaut I love the name Jude, but DH said no meanie

We coped scooby with 9 - in fact it was a pretty amazing childhood. I guess we are programmed to think we must have more stuff than we need but also its down to choice of course. We never planned 3 DC but I've got three seat belts in the back of my car and I'll work everything else out I am done now though - that's it.

I haven't really had you are mad comments.Just 'you'll have your hands full.Boys are so much harder than girls'.I don't see why everyone thinks ill have my hands full as older two ds's will be at school most of the week.In that respect the age gap works well.

We have a Scenic and just about fit the third car seat along the back but the older two have loads of leg room so won't be changing the car for now.I just need to learn to drive it

We were going to try and manage in this house for a little longer.Its a 3 bed and we have put the ds's in together but their room is so cramped.Plus I've doubts we will fit all the furniture in the nursery.

I'm excited to be counting down my maternity leave also.I was thinking of taking it from 23rd April.3 weeks before my due date as then my pay covers me until after Christmas.However,I'm now thinking about giving up on 8th April so Ive got 5 weeks to get organised.Ill probably still get maternity pay to kick in from 23rd though.Does anyone else think its going scarily quick now

Bood My 6 year old was rather put out that I will be marrying DP and not him.He still doesn't quite understand why that isn't possible.

Haha! Beaut my DP wouldn't have a look in if we we were marrying now. We did when my eldest was 6 months old luckily

artigene there has been slight talk of moving in - slight. maybe just when baby is small and BF has his paternity leave? he also mentioned the two of us moving in to his flat while I'm on mat leave and he's at work. or he moves in with me but that means and hour+ commute each day and if I'm not working that doesn't seem fair. So I think double things some days not to jinx it but others.... But after he goes back to work he'll want baby overnight and things and I'm not going to deny him that or that he would just see him on weekends. Starting to see why people get together first then have the kid

cup I hope he gets himself together before baby comes. poor kid. thankfully we're a big family so he has lots of experience 'helping' and I'm letting him stay as long as he does housework. I know what he wants to do he knows what he wants to do but can't get his arse into gear. I may just buy him the plane ticket to germany and tell him to go. But for the meantime he may have a job down here which will be good for him.

scooby bood i'm one of 8. BF is one of 12. It was great and wonderful but no way on earth would I do it.

congrats if you have found out what you having - I just can't keep up

seven don't get me started on names - we can't even decided on the surname we're not going anywhere near first names. We might just do Maria or Paul - it's catholic enough and works very well in both ireland and germany and england. Except everyone is called it !! beaut I like Jude would seem odd in germany though

hope we are all having a wonderful weekend, without snow. I'm meant to get some but it isn't appearing as of yet.

I too am sick of 'are you mad?' And even 'was it an accident?' comments. People can be so rude! Must admit though I am feeling as though I must be a bit mad as life is already mad with my 2 DC but obviously not telling aforementioned rude people that!

We are converting our loft into an extra bedroom but were planning on doing that before I got pregnant (not by mistake coincidentally) and we're looking into getting a new car but again were planning that before the pregnancy.

At least we can swop tips for coping with 2DC.

I mean 3DC!! And Boodstress maybe your DH can relive a fantasy re the pillow being like an extra person!

the worse hen is when you get asked 'was it an accident?' and it was but you have to make sure you don't pause long before saying 'of course not' otherwise the nosey buggers know you're lying. question closely followed by 'when is the wedding?'