May 2013- boys , girls or the unknown? Over half way there!

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Hi all, new had for may 2013!

I'm also consultant-led but still have all the routine MW appointments too. I saw my consultant at 14 weeks, then will go again at 28 and 34 weeks. Sounds like it must vary by area.

Hope we get some good news from beaver soon.

maybe I've never had ante-natal classes with either of mine. I didnt manage to BF so can't answer that part but everything else came straight back with DC2.

I really wish I saw the midwives as well as the consultant. The consultant is v professional but he is a busy doctor and understandably doesn't want to waste time hearing me moan about aches, pains and pelvic floors. I expect the midwives would be better at that side!

Hope all is well Beaver.

I am consultant led too, with all the regular MW appts as well (and more).

I went to the ante-natal classes last time, which was good for meeting friends, who I still see and keep in touch with now, but I won't be going to them this time. I will cross the BF bridge when I get to it - at the moment I can't think past the baby being born!

Hope you are all ok - had a fab nights sleep in our new bed, although the vivid dreams seem to have reappeared which seem to come from things that have been on my mind during the day, but related to the baby.

26+0 today

Good luck 10. Hope you hear good news.

Good luck 10 - fingers crossed you get both of your wishes.

And I hope things are OK with you, beaver.

I am off to the hospital to have a doppler this morning at the day assessment unit. At my last scan, they picked up high resistance across the cord which is a sign the placenta is having to work harder than normal. Hopefully I will be back in the normal range today!

Hi all, may I join? Been lurking for a while and thought I should finally come out of the woodwork!

I'm 27, 22+5 today with my first, due on 30 may.

Have had an easier time of it than others from the looks of the thread (10 - good luck today) but feeling a bit rough today - anyone else had a constant dull (but painful) ache in the lower right back? It's not like back ache really, have a docs appt later but don't like going in not having a clue what it could be!

Handed in matb1 form last week -all beginning to feel real!
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Morning all.

Thank you so much for all your words of support - you are a genuinely lovely lot.

Went straight to see the midwife after my bleed yesterday and she was fairly useless and referred me straight to the maternal assessment unit at hospital. I was a bit panicked, as you would be, and said, 'I'm sorry - you probably see this all the time.' But she just put on her best sympathy face and said, 'Well, no, actually, I don't.' I was trying to be as rational as possible until that point...

The hospital was great, but I was there for HOURS waiting to see the consultant. Fortunately, little bub was squirming around almost constantly so I knew she was ok. Heart-rate was very strong and all other signs seemed fine. Doctor did an internal exam and took swabs etc and thinks the bleed might have come from the cervix. Certainly I'm not about to go into early labour - phew.

Got home about 8pm and was shattered. Have taken today off work to have a quiet day and a lie down, and because I don't want to be panicking in the office and knicker-checking every ten minutes.

So am feeling a lot better. Was very surprised about the waiting area at hospital - really insensitively, they had worried pregnant women in there along with new mums with their babies. And so many of them were really rude - playing with their phones at full volume and watching videos and laughing. I know life goes on etc, but it was really p*ing me off.

LittleS what an awful midwife appointment! i think seeking another appointment is absolutely the right thing. This is too important to be shrugged off.

Artigene so sad to hear about your Dad. Stroke really is one of those awful things that can strike without warning with devastating effect. That must have been so unimaginably awful for your mum, but also very hard on you when you had your first.

10 also been having vivid dreams. Last night it was that I was at a chill out/drum n' bass festival and everyone was wearing identical neon T-shirts. Most were carrying babies and prams.

Hi dotty welcome to the thread!

oh beaver so pleased to read your update and hear that you've had some reassurance. Sounds like a crappy day of waiting though and i think you've done absolutely the right thing taking a rest day today.

That's great news beaver. Glad to hear you are resting up.

That's really positive beaver, great news. I agree, hospitals can be really insensitive at times, it can be very difficult.

Hope your scan has gone ok 10, and that the baby is growing x

I got my MATB1 at my last MW appt at 24 weeks, just ask for it next time you go - as long as you have informed your employer in writing before 25 weeks, it's not the end of the world if you don't get your MATB1 to them by then, just send it when you get it.

Good luck with the doppler roast - my consultant won't start doing that until 30 weeks, but the efficiency of the placenta is the main thing that they are concerned about, which is why I'm on low-dose aspirin. She seems happy for now checking the growth of the baby and levels of amniotic fluid - I would prefer for them to try with the doppler now though too.

Hi dotty - welcome!

Yay so happy that things seem to be settling down for you 10. Hope you are able to take it easy for the next couple of weeks!

Yay!! So happy for you 10 - that is fantastic news. Time to order up a few more box sets?! I just watched Homeland Series 1 and loved it....

My measurements were high again this morning on the doppler so they scanned me and then said everything was OK! All very confusing but figured that the scan is probably more precise. I'll have another appt in 3 weeks so hopefully things will have settled down by then.

So pleased to hear your positive news as well beaver - and it sounds like a great idea to have today off work and resting up.

This pregnancy thing can be quite stressful, hey?!

Hi everyone!

anyone starting to really lose sleep now? between tossing and turning because bits of me keep going pins and needles, not having room in the bed and getting up to pee every few hours I'm not getting much sleep. the weekend was ridiculous, feel like I'm always awake to see the dawn.

don't know if I should get a big pillow or if that'd just make me hotter/ squashed? feeling about 100 years old now in the daytime!

has anyone here tried any support pillows?

24+3
xxx

Fantastic news 10!!!

I don't have any support pillows as such frankie but I have a normal pillow between my knees and a v shaped pillow under my bump or however I need it to get comfy. It works for me at the moment, but I do still feel like death every day anyway!

So pleased for both of you 10 and beaver.

beaver my hospital's maternity Assesment unit is also on the ward with the new mothers and pregnant in-patients. It never really struck me as insensitive as I've never had to go in with anything worrying. Though now you mention it I can definitely see how upsetting it would be if you had to go in and got bad news and could hear newborns crying.

10 I know you're not out of the woods yet but does that mean you can be a bit less worried about a very early delivery?

elly I'm not surprised you just want to concentrate on the baby being born for now. You may find if youre determined to BF that you have to just express and syringe or cup feed for the first few days/couple of weeks until baby has developed a strong enough suck reflex to BF directly. It's one of the last things to develop, I've heard nipple shields can help but I've never tried them.

Hi dotty, feel free to pop yourself on the stats thread.

Anymore lurkers want to out themselves?

Hi all - sorry not been posting for a while as I recovered from that nasty cold that seems to be going around ...

Little just re-iterating what others say ... I beleive 120/80 is totally normal and although yours increased, I really wouldnt worry unless proteins started appearing .. still ... these things do dwell on your mind ... so getting an extra appointment may take any stress away ... my Bp started to increase however PE was never mentioned until week 32 when I also got the proteins in my wee... I am off for my consultants appointment tomorrow so fingers crossed I am still protein free this time - not sure why but started to get jumpy that it will happen again ...

Maybe I am having a ELCS this time and my daughter too will be 3 1/2!! ... I had an emergency C the first time and spent 1 week in hospital (due to post pregnancy PE) then it took about another week at home before I was up to walking around outside ... my DH will be taking paternity leave to cover these two weeks but apart from that I will be managing on my own ... the main thing will be taking/collecting DD1 to pre-school with no car given cant drive for 6 weeks - however worse case if I still do not feel like walking or taking the bus after 2 weeks, I shall just keep her at home for a while. Over the past months I have been and will continue to work on making her more self-sufficinet (she has been very cossetted by the nanny) .. ie getting dressed/undressed herself, happily going up/down stairs without me, going to the loo without me ... Ive gone so far as to currently teach her to put nappies on her teddies (but she has put her foot down and refuses to change any poo filled nappies (sensible child!) ...suddenly finding out my nanny wont be around to help out has meant my attitude is that i can only do what I can and if it means things slip in the house for a little and/or im not such an active mummy for my DD for a while, then I am not going to beat myself up about it!

10 good luck today hope all is well

Really glad to see good news from 10 and Beaver.

I'm also struggling to sleep properly, mainly down to my teeny tiny bladder. DS has been ill for the past couple of days so I've been up with him too. I'm also getting buttock pelvic pain, my hips started clicking as I walked across the living room on Saturday prompting DH to accuse me of farting! I found that wearing Birkenstocks helped with this last time but I guess they're not really appropriate footwear for January.

25+1 (or 14+6 to go).

Hey beaver hope you're feeling ok now. Can totally imagine how scary that must have been but as lots of people are saying, it seems to be a much more normal pregnancy occurence than we are ever told about beforehand! Really glad you got properly checked out. Our hospital in North London (the Whittington) now has a maternity triage ward with a 24 hr number to call if you ever have a problem and will see you within 15 mins of arrival. Maybe your local has something similar? Good move having the day off. Chill, have tea, put it down to one of this stories you will tell them years from now

10 and little what rubbish MW experiences! You poor things :( Makes me really angry to hear about substandard care. It takes so little to be reassuring and sensitive and yet still not all health workers manage it. I agree about complaining. When I had my bursting into tears at the head midwife incident after a negative encounter with a sonographer at 12 weeks, they were brilliant and really assuring and got me seen by someone else within days. She said at the time that we should always come away feeling looked after and safe, so if you feel anything less then I say complain and get seen by someone else.

salt how are you going with the heart monitor thing? X

frankie am starting to have seriously interrupted sleep. Not so many loo trips, but I wake up every time I roll over, have mega weird dreams (!), and get numb hips from sleeping too long on my left side. A pillow wedged between the knees seems to help. Boo keeps kicking DP in the back when I roll over and hug him. He thinks it's hilarious.

Ooh also meant to say YAY 10 for the good news. Have been thinking of you lots. So glad it's all healing. Big hugs x

Aw 10 am SO chuffed for you. I know it's a small step, but some good news must be so welcome. Celebrate by ordering a new boxset. Or with chocolate. I am sitting here with my first bag of mini eggs of 2013, sobbing at One Born Every Minute episodes.

frankie yes, I've been really restless at night and waking up loads. Really frustrating.

Wirra laughed at your little one kicking DP in the back. Mine seems to stop kicking as soon as she feels DH's hand on my tummy. Sneaky wee thing. But he did manage to see the kicking from the outside - it's getting quite thumpy now!

25+1

Hi Dotty welcome to the thread.

10 Great news I'm so pleased.I think about you all the time.By the sounds of it you will likely carry to term now.

Beaver Equally pleased to hear all is ok with you and baby.I bet it was such a relief to hear babies heart beat.Hope you have lots of your favourite treats to hand.

Anyone else feeling really uncomfortable.Im really getting out of breath now when walking.I also have a really full feeling all the time.Like there is no room left in there.Jeez I've 15 weeks to go yet

Wirra DP is getting kicked in back here also.Dp put his head on my tummy at weekend to talk to baby and got kicked in the ear.

It's strange baby seems to be even more active at weekends.I wonder if that's because I only see DP at weekends and so baby is excited to hear him