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Over 30 first time mums to be club.

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photographerlady · 22/12/2012 11:51

I do not know if all the pregnant women over 30 leave work and lock themselves away but I feel bit lost in groups (Facebook pregnancy groups are a nightmare) talking work, pregnancy, commuting, buying mistakes and going through the biggest change of my life with no one in a similar situation. So any 30+ first time mums to be out there?

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cyclecamper · 17/01/2013 23:15

mayanbob I'm trying not to find out the gender. I had a scan today - 19 weeks tomorrow! That means I was nearly 16 weeks when I found out Shock! It's definitely there though, I'm not halucinating! It seems possible that it's actually true now. I should hopefully get a midwife appointment next week sometime. Free swimming classes for pregnant women? I wonder if they do that near me? I'll have to look, since I'm not up to much in the way of walking or cycling, which are my usual exercises.

Jsa1980 · 18/01/2013 06:10

cycle camper - I think most council run pools do it, fingers crossed

Teapig · 18/01/2013 07:22

Congratulations Rache! Hooray for team pink Grin

So lovely to hear all the great scan news. Happy weekend everyone.

Mayanbob · 18/01/2013 14:55

Hey cycle 19 weeks!!! congratulations... you've seen it! that's fantastic news. - give your local pool a ring- I certainly didn't know ours did it until MW said.

Still can't wait to have news from mine. MW says I should hear int the next couple of weeks.

I am having to take a days leave from work today because i'm not going to walk 3 miles in the snow. (the busses have only just started running now) ... so watching the snooker but a bit bored tbh. There is useful stuff I could be doing but just can't.

Hope all you ladies are safe in the snow (well not actually in it obvs)

Purplemonster · 18/01/2013 15:23

No snow at all where I live, woo hoo!

HazleNutt · 18/01/2013 15:42

We have some, but roads are clean. It's pretty.

Rache1S · 18/01/2013 15:53

Thanks Teapig and Mayan. I am looking at super cute baby girls shoes online already. Team pink is definitely going to cost me more!

Mayan I really like the sound of your home care Midwife. I wish mine did that.

I've got loads of snow, more on the way and roads are a nightmare. Why are we so unable to cope with any kind of weather in the UK? When we go on skiing holidays they cope absolutely fine with the bucketloads of snow they get and life carries on as normal.

EggyM · 18/01/2013 18:54

rache so lovely you're having a girl!

I had my 12 week scan today - everything looking healthy and happy - I have a very lively little bean in my belly! Due 28th July. So relieved Smile

As for snow it went in my favour as I missed work in the morning for my scan and then got a call from my boss telling me not to come in for the afternoon as the school was just chaos. So had a lovely snow day!

Mayanbob · 18/01/2013 18:59

purple jealous at your lack of snow. I usually like it but just spells hassle for me at the moment.

Rache I'm impressed with this midwife thing as well. I do admit that I was terrified before she came.. Is the house clean?... will I 'pass'...? etc etc but it seems great. I suppose there are some advantages to living near the dodgy area that I hadn't considered. I quizzed her at lenth over who gets this as I don't remember my friends who live relatively near me mentioning that they had home visits... I suppose it's entirely possible that they did and I just didn't listen. However, it's all to do with SureStart funding apparently and there are a few 'pockets' which get this.

I was only thinking today that if bean becomes a girl then that gives a lot more dressing up opportunities than a little boy... So exciting!!

Now to get impatient waiting for the scan appointment. The next fortnight is going to be a looong one.

Our snow has stopped for now. Thank goodness. I just hope that no-more comes over the weekend. x

Rache1S · 18/01/2013 20:34

Great news about your scan Eggy Smile It makes it a lot more real once you've seen it doesn't it?

Mayanbob · 18/01/2013 20:59

Eggy didn't see your post! (must have been writing mine)... congrats on the Scan! Great news X

Teapig · 19/01/2013 16:06

eggy, that's great news! Congratulations!!

EggyM · 20/01/2013 08:18

Thanks everyone! Spent a long time looking at the photo so far this weekend Smile

mayan the midwife in my area does home visits too for some reason - quite convenient for when we get a bit bigger!

Jsa1980 · 20/01/2013 18:04

Aww no home visits for me, although it's only a 10 min walk. 30 weeks next week, cannot believe how fast it's gone.

Glad everyone else is well.

Mayanbob · 20/01/2013 20:41

Eggy - result isn't it? And enjoy that picture

-not long for you now JSA how are you feeling???

Me- I'm good. Still more excited than worried which is nice. However DH has the man flu and has given up smoking wef from last week... which would normally elicit sympathy and aww noises... but actually, just feeling a bit as though I might want to kill him Hmm I might have had more sympathy had he not re-taken up smoking when he found out I was pg. I am very proud of him for quitting, however, this does not give him an excuse to act like a complete idiot.

Whinge over.... now to do my NVQ work which I have managed to procrastinate about all day today Smile

Jsa1980 · 20/01/2013 21:17

Mayanbob - feeling pretty good a part from extreme tiredness and a general fear of actually having to get the baby out! How far along are you?

Sorry to here about your DH, although it's a bit of a mad to to take up smoking. Men!

Mayanbob · 20/01/2013 21:24

Glad to hear you're feeling pretty good Jsa - i'm preferring not to think about the actual giving birth bit yet.

i'm early days yet. 10+4 ... and pre-scan so am intermittently going between being a nervous wreck, a hormonal beast with low tolerance levels (however, this has the knock on effect of making me pretty sharp at work), and an over-excited lunatic.

Will be much happier if I can see that it's all okay.

Jsa1980 · 20/01/2013 22:18

Fingers crossed for you, not long to go until scan time! I cried at mine as I was convinced they were going to tell me there was nothing there.

cyclecamper · 20/01/2013 22:20

Mayanbob Probably best to resist killing your DH - he might come in useful later. I'm a lot happier since the scan - seeing that everything is in the right place and that it wasn't all in my imagination!

We went to the Bike/Outdoor shows today - there were rather more steps, especially snowy, wet ones, than I was happy with on the journey - I felt a bit of a fraud on the way back, using the lift at Shadwell DLR station, but I was done in and there are quite a few steps there, all covered in slush - I've discovered a hitherto unknown cautious side! The shows had a limited amount of interesting stuff, although there were some lovely cycling clothes for ladies (I bought a rain apron that doubles as a picnic rug!). They had some cool baby seats and the tandem people had an adaptor for a maxi-cosi seat that fits on my tandem Grin - I was very excited! Now I just need someone to give me a seat that fits it, and I can order one Smile.

Teapig · 21/01/2013 17:56

The bike show sounds good cycle. I would very much like to have LO on the back of my bike when she's big enough so I must check what the options are.

mayan I hope the manflu clears up for your DH soon and he sticks at quitting smoking.

I'm coming up to 28 weeks now and suddenly time seems to fly. I'm also blocking out the birth bit until NCT classes start and I have to stop sticking my head in the sand.

Hope everyone is doing well in this icy weather.

Mayanbob · 21/01/2013 20:21

cycle you are probably right. Still - he's out tonight, so therefore is probably safe. Your bike stuff sounds very good... I am rubbish at riding bikes- we just don't get on. Went to Centreparcs and just ended up with very bruised lady-bits Blush - couldn't for the life of me work out what I was doing wrong.

teapig ... thanks for the wishes... I will pass it on. I did the Boots trip, so he should be appropriately dosed up tomorrow.

Have meeting with NVQ assessor tomorrow. Basically i'm going to have to come clean about being pg because I found out a 2 weeks after our last meeting and haven't done anything productive since.

cyclecamper · 21/01/2013 21:56

mayanbob padded shorts are the answer to bruised ladybits, although mine are rather more sensitive at the moment, so even the shorts aren't really enough. The centre parcs bikes are a bit lumpy as well, which won't have helped! I hope your DH responds quickly to the treatment. What are you doing an NVQ in? I need to do one but I don't know exactly what and I haven't got any money to start it at the moment - joys of unemployment: time to do stuff but no money to do it withHmm.

Today my only achievement has been to clear the pavement of ice outside mine and my neighbour's house - mainly because it was melting a bit and going to freeze into a solid sheet tonight, but also because I need at least some fresh air!

afrikat · 21/01/2013 22:24

Can I join in? I am 32 this week and about 5 weeks along - am a v impatient person so want to tell everyone and also don't know how I am going to cope with 9 months of waiting for baby to arrive! Also a worrier - desperately want my first scan to see that everything is ok. Trying to be as positive as possible but I have 4 friends who have recently had mmc so it's difficult not to worry a little..

Also got work concerns - I got this job after the previous person went on maternity and she got a bit sidelined when she came back (it's a v male orientated environment) but that is a long time away and much more to worry about before then!

Mayanbob · 21/01/2013 22:31

Thanks for the padded shorts tip cycle I had no idea that such things existed. (novice) I will bear that in mind.

I'm doing my NVQ in Probation Practice - it's a work thing, although as their getting rid of the Probation Service I am not sure what the point is any more. ah well. What area are you in cycle? London was it? we have some women's projects in our area that are supposed to be quite good which do some trainings for free. I don't know if there's anything similar where you are but could be worth a look. (even if the training isn't any good- the ones round this way do all sorts of courses and even craft stuff)

Well done for ice clearing. I just lay exhausted on sofa post work.

EggyM · 22/01/2013 06:55

Welcome afrikat and welcome to the worry! I am definitely a worrier too - 13 weeks now so at least have had my 12 week scan and all looked good there. Best of luck to you Smile

mayan I'm very impressed that you are managing to do your nvq work after work. I am still going to bed pretty soon after I get home from work at the moment- still so tired! I thought the tiredness was meant to go away with the nausea? Haven't been sick for a week (hurray) but still totally exhausted with constant headaches (boo).

How's everyone doing in the ice/snow? I didn't go to work yesterday as my boss told me not to come in but school is open as usual today so I now have to drive on the ice rink that is my estate- terrified!