April 2013.....we're halfway there! (Part 5)

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missmuffet I did Christmas shopping yesterday and still managed to buy a couple baby things!

mama as the others have said, rant away. Can't imagine how stressful this has been for you. I hope the next few days and weeks go by quickly and safely for you and your little boy ( and your other lovely children too).

magictorch very sorry about your beloved cat. They really do have such a special place in your heart. Sounds a very lucky cat to have had such loving owners. Hope you and your DH are ok.

There are a few with interesting Mils on this thread. Can be such a complicated relationship! You sound as if you've lucked out flamingnora, send her my way . I always tolerated my Mil as she could be difficult but her heart was in the right place. However she died very suddenly last year (and young really at 59) and I do feel very sad that she will miss out on DS growing up (and this baby) as she adored by DS and was very considerate where he was concerned.

Hi all

Glad to hear all your can news and sorry to hear from those of you who things are not going so well for. Mama hang on in there!

I have my scan in a weeks time, due 30th April so a few weeks behind you all. Me and DH still debating whether to find out the gender, I like the idea of a surprise but think knowing the sex will help with bonding.

Feel a bit down today as DH causing me all sorts of stress which I don't need, and seems to flip from very happy to moody and silent on a regular basis- I thought it was me that was meant to be hormonal. I love him to bits but sometimes can't help thinking easier if go it along which is scary thought.

Tattooedapril87 hope you are well, was thinking of you last night as I thought we had scans on the same day.

My IL are generally lovely but they don't think before they say things, they really offended DH yesterday [he works with them] and he lost his temper... he never looses his temper... honestly we've been together 15 years and not once has he ever lost it like he did yesterday. Poor chap is so stressed out and they are just being awkward buggers.

JoRich I do wonder if pregnancy is much harder on our other halves, they don't have the excitement and wonder of something growing in them, bonding is harder and they worry but keep it quiet and bottle it up, rather than just talking about it [like we would] DH really benefitted from the antenatal peer support group we went to last time, there was one for dads too, the first week or two was just a bit of looking sheepish at each other, but the lead dad was good, his partner recently had a baby and he said some sensible advice. DH was really scared at the birth but was so reassuring for me, he was amazing really. He had a really great time bonding with DD, made sure he had 'jobs' to do with the baby. Once baby is here it is easier for them to deal with.

I feel sorry for Kate, actually, the idea of everybody sticking their oars in. Ack, don't envy her at all. I feel sad that she didn't get to keep her secret for longer.

I thought I'd got over the morning sickness, woke up this morning and only just managed to scrabble out of the bed to the bin and puke up some water I'd drunk in the middle of the night.

Wore my maternity swimsuit swimming this morning, it's huge and the bust shelf offers no support so my boobs are sagging low and the band is rubbing my sore nipples. Getting the sewing kit out later and going to put a few stitches in to make it a little more supportive.

On the MIL/Mother situation for us:

MIL is fab (tbh all of OH's family are ace) they have made me feel like family since day one ESP since we have only been together since Feb this year and got the BFP in August!

My MIL had 6 children but sadly her DC4 (24 year old daughter who had Rhett syndrome) passed away in June so it's been a sad time for us all but in a way has brought us all closer together and our little man is some good news for them all after this year! This will be her 5th grandchild but the first one where she'll be able to spend more time as she was previously always caring for her disabled daughter 24/7.

She's a fab Mum herself so has plenty of advise! And 2 of OH's sisters have children so lots of advice and things given to us from them!

My Mum is an absolute gem. Going thru some depression at the moment :-( but our little man is keeping her focused and more positive xxx

JoRich I also have my scan next week - feels like we have had to wait ages since we are due at the end of April!

Sorry about the OH. In my experiance although my DH is excited its not as all-consuming for them (an he hasn't even been able to share in any kicks yet because my baby is keeping very well hidden! So its still a bit intangible). He did find reading some books at partners very helpful though as he feels more informed and in a way more involved.

kellstar I agree about Kate. I know she has chosen a public life but judging by the rubbish I have read this morning every single part of this pregnancy is going to be picked to pieces. I have found (to my great annoyance) that everyone seems to have an opinion on your pregnancy anyway, for her it will be a 1000 times worse! At least we will have our babies first and not be totally overshadowed!

Hi all have just seen the mamas and papas zoom is reduced from 450 to 250 and its on my shortlist of pushchairs wete goin to test it next tues and if we still like it were going to order it! also i read on another post the baby event is normally on at end of jan i know they do good offers on nappies and wipes then!

Scan went well yesterday, although little bean was being camera shy and hiding behind his/her feet so we couldn't get any decent piccies :( Lovely to know all is progressing well though :) So, a "surprise" to add to the list!

Sending "get well" and "hang in there" wishes to all our poorly/injured tribe, especially mama you are being incredibly strong, I'm full of admiration for you. So pleased to hear the steroids start on Friday so Alexander will be strong enough to take on the world when he arrives x

On the MiL front, mine is lovely and sweet, but 75 and always scared of interferring, my Mum is equally scared of interferring but will no doubt give us her opinion without realising (she means well but just doesn't know when to keep her mouth shut - biggest classic was telling SiL that "she didin't expect her to bring her children up to the same standard that she did but...", apparently she meant in the same way, but obviously the wording was poorly chosen and it took about 6months for the dust to truly settle.) Biggest bug bear of mine is her fussing over DP in my home, can see her edging to do the same with bean when he/she arrives... she has already rolled her eyes over books I'm reading on it all "in my day there wasn't any of this, you just went into hosital and had your baby", have to bite my tongue and not respond... keep reminding myself that she means well... (not sure how well that will work when knackered and hormonal once bean arrives!)

How is everyone today? :)

I have utmost sympathy for those with terrible MIL and FILs. My partners parents can be okay, but they interfere a lot, have had arguments with my partner about me and other things that have lasted for months and have generally bad mouthed me before in the past so I really can relate there. I hope they will get better but if not, it's their fault why I don't visit them so often!

My little sunshine is busy kicking away today, despite Mummy having a stinking cold that makes my nose run every second and sneeze every other. My nose is as red and puffy as Rudolf's and I am drained of energy.

But otherwise, all is very good. I hope everyone else is the same :)

Hello ladies - so much to catch up on!
I am lurking / keeping up to date with you all, but life seems to be too busy to let me sit and type a decent post!
It's so nice just seeing how people in a similar situation are doing, I can almost guarantee that if I have a new niggle or issue I can come on and find someone else going through the same - so to all of you for that!

I feel great, though look massive (and still spotty, when do I get to glow?!) and I'm enjoying being pummelled from the inside but mourn the rapid loss of my belly button!

Am I the only one who hasn't bought anything for baby yet?!

22+6

Hi just checking in hoping everyone is well? Crap day today have done nothing but throw up all day, babe really doesn't want me to eat! Also a evil locum dr tried and failed about a dozen times to put in a new cannula so my hand is all yucky, it didnt help that he was joking at the same time about how he was usually good at this etc. felt sorry for the guy who was embarrassed but seriously?! Not helpful to joke about your discomfort while stabbing repeatedly a sick pregnant woman! I'm 23+1 and have another scan tomorrow, I am hoping to be able to report good news for once!

I haven't bought anything either at all, I'm very superstitious and wouldn't be buying anything at all even if the circumstances were different. I do know that's illogical

Hi guys :)

Can I join in :)
I'm 22 weeks, 23 weeks on saturday.

Expecting a little girl and I have a 5 year old ds.

Babys due the 10th and I also got given the 6th but they said they don't change the date unless its more than a week.

Have a few bits, moses basket,swing,playmat,steriliser and pram.
Quite a few clothes !! :) :) pink,animal print and hello kitty :) this poor child may be slightly overdressed ..... Only slighty of course

:)

Welcome twinkles- it sounds I've you've got most things sorted!

mama fingers crossed you get good news at your scan tomorrow and sorry you're feeling so poorly!

jorich - if it's any consolation my dh has been a mardy git the last week. I don't think it's anything to do with the baby- he's just tired from work and under the weather, but it can really wear you down,hey! How long have you guys been married? Is this your first baby? Hope you're feeling ok though- the fact that you're thinking of 'going to alone' sounds serious- have you spoken about it much to him?

To all those who have gone off work- SNAP! I seriously cannot be bothered- and normally I love my job! Don't want to be a party pooper but have any of you thought much about returning to work? I think I'll ask for part time if I can get it. But, quite frankly, I'd rather not bother at all! Financially we could just scrape by on do salary- but really only just and there'd be no breathing room. My folks have offered free child care 2 days a week, so it makes sense that we take it- they can't wait!!
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Well I managed my shopping without buying anything for baby think I'm almost sorted for Xmas now rest will have to wait until I get paid next few days before Xmas eek! Dp is the only one left and to top it off his birthday is 3 days before Xmas also awkward bugger lol!

Welcome to thread twinkles you sound very organised! I hope to eventually be that person too!!

Mama sorry your feeling poopy my babe won't let me drink tea :( I already gave up coffee smoking and alcohol surely he isn't demanding I don't have tea either!

Snuggled on the sofa under a blanket with the dog and the halogen heater now so have a nice evening all

21+2

Sympathies to those of you with horrible pils. I'm lucky with mine, they are both absolutely fantastic with DS and are very very good at keeping their opinions on child raising to themselves. In fact the only comments I've ever really got from mil over my parenting choices are about how lovely it is that I got so much help with bfing whereas she was told to stop bfing all three of hers at 6wks because they were gaining too much weight Living on the other side of the world probably helps, because it certainly stops any chance of her popping round unannounced

My mum on the other hand wasn't backwards in telling me she thought it was wrong that DS was sleeping in our room when my DH needs his sleep to go to work the next day, or that I shouldn't be letting DH cook dinner when he's worked all day and I'd been at home. The fact that DS used to cluster feed every night at dinner time, and I wasn't a good enough mother to figure out how to bf while standing over a cooker without risking setting poor DS on fire, was lost on her.

So, mil is coming over to help out while I'm in hospital and after the birth, and my mum isn't invited until dd is at least 2 months old and we're hopefully established in some sort of routine. I know my mum's upset about this, but she might be more upset when I try and stab her when I'm all postnatal and hormonal and she opens her big mouth and pushes me over the edge

Fed up of the heat, it was 24 degrees outside here at 4am.... So I'm struggling to sleep, and having a little one using my insides as a trampoline, and DS cutting a tooth REALLY isn't helping!
My MIL is an interesting character. She's great with DS unless the other grandchildren are around and then all get ignored in favour of one of them. I just wish having a favourite wasn't made soooo obvious. She also goes on and on about how great boys are, and that girls are horrid bitches (yep, her words....) considering DH and I are thrilled to be expecting a girl, I'm hoping she realises to either never say it again or be prepared for my response....
Now my BIL and SIL.... Well, lets just say that neither of them have yet managed to acknowledge this pregnancy let alone say congratulations. I think they liked it when my DH lived alone and they could use his house as a holiday home and I've come along and ruined it for them. I could tell you about the absolute hissy fit BIL had when he was asked to return a set of keys to our house so I could have them rather than pay out the $00s it was going to cost to get new house alarm fobs but you wouldn't believe a grown man could behave like that. You see they never told my DH that the 6 of them would be coming to stay, they'd just arrive and let themselves in....(woh, just having a flashback to the hissy fit MIL had a few weeks ago when she found out we had decided to decorate the middle bedroom for DS to move into. This was the room she had always slept in.... BIL and MIL very alike!) Ho hum, Christmas is going to be fun this year isn't it! I should add that DH takes after his father and FIL is lovely. He's excited about there finally being a girl in the family.
Loving hearing all your news!

mumof hope it cools down a bit for you soon. We left the uk on Thurs morning and it was 2 degrees, arrived in Sydney at 9pm on Friday and it was 28 and super humid. Saturday was 37 during the day, and it didnt get below 27 all night either. Couple that with a very jetlagged DS deciding the only place he could sleep was on my tummy with his face buried in my cleavage, while the baby got pissed off with having her little home squashed and kicking all night long, and I had a very long sweaty night of lying there wide awake. Luckily it's cooled down to much more civilized temperatures for now.

kellestar thanks for thinking of me- scan was last wed so could have been me!

we wanted to have the sexes written down to open on xmas day but our hosp wouldst write it down: against policy apparently... so we now know we are having two boys!!

scan generally went ok- both weighing similar to what a single pg baby should be which is great.
only thing is we had to be referred to a specialist as twin1 has talipes (clubbed feet less him). during the specialist app it was picked up that twin1 also has strange heartbeat-heights of 190 and lows of 90 during scan.

specialist says she believes it to be nothing to worry about- but wants to check it again next week to be on safe side. structuly heart was great etc but it still worries us!
it feels reassuring that they are monitoring this- and now i know where each one is laying i can tell which one is moving so that's good too.

generally I've just been lurking as I'll feel more confident after next check up.

feels nice to.keep uo with everyone else's news- mils and all!!

21 wks

Yay for twin boys tattoedapril and welcome twinkles congrats on your girl! Also lovely news from jj which takes us to:

21 boys
18 girls
14 surprises

What will I do when the scans are finished?

likecandy I am with you on the feeling spotty thing. My chin looks like a teenage boys and I just feel fat. I don't look pregnant at all, just like I've eaten shed-loads of cake. I'm not usually too precious about my body, just take it for what it is but I'm feeling a bit glum about my general spreading! Esp with office Xmas party this thursday -what to wear?!

And hang on in there for me toobreathless - I've got the last due date of April 30th and they're making me wait until 21+2 for my scan so not until December 20th. seems so far away...

likecandy I haven't bought a single thing either, not do much as a sleepsuit!

Suppose I'll pinch some things up inn the sales if I find anything. To be honest this pregnancy feels a bit surreal, even though I have a massive bump, plenty of aches and pains, and we are all very happy it seems to be taking a while to sink in.

bext it's my chin too, which I guess is hormonal? I am really struggling with what to wear, nothing is flattering and most clothes just make me look fat.Pre-preg I usually wore skinny jeans and big jumpers and I've been sticking with that (just ordered a pair of over belly skinny jeans from Gap). I think I need to invest in some more fitted / stretchy / clingy tops to make me look more obvious!

noodles and mama I was thinking about why I haven't bought anything and I don't think it's superstition or anything like that. I think noodles hit the nail on the head, I am enjoying pregnancy but it's still feeling surreal that this bump will one day be a living thing out in the real world that needs its own stuff! It's overwhelming!

23w

Oh and congrats to all having their 20w scans.
Omg tattooed twin boys how exciting!!
Come on team pink, we need to catch up!!

Congrats on your twin boys tattooed :) I'm sure they are fine :)

Serious back ache today, have sent ds to school with dh.. I'm staying in bed! Christmas tree all lit up.

So hungry, I'm eating everything and anything right now .... Just give me foooooood lol :)

Have a great day everyone

Morning all. Getting very nervous before my scan so am ordering yet more Christmas presents online! Hope everyone is well and drive safe if any of you have snow.