November 2012 - but that starts on Thursday

[StuntNun]

Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1593492-November-2012-babies-arriving-thick-and-fast

Post-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1579907-November-2012-babies-are-here-at-last

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Fingers crossed for the sweep to work then!

I get the ear thing too, although I got it before I was preg too I think it's just where I slept on it funny.

My pgp pain has flared up again since waking up from my nap.

I'm the same with the ear pain! As if we didn't have enough to grumble about!

Had my growth scan and they were concerned that his growth has tailed off. He's actually down to 50th percentile but the rate of growth has changed. So, had to see the doc and had my first internal exam and sweep. Apparently my cervix is still right at the back (whatever that means) and his head is not engaged to be pushing down on it. So, as I seem to be happy with his movements at the mo (which I am...I think) and everything else is fine they're just going to scan me again next week and sweep again and I have induction booked for my 40+10 day on 10th Nov.

For those in the know - I will be mobilising a lot more and bouncing on that gym ball to coax his head further down but just how quickly can he burrow down there if he was heading the right way? I know it's probably 'how long's a piece of string' but it's more to give me the reassurance that I could still actually go into labour at any time before the induction, which I would like very much to avoid if I can. Could he get his act together at any time?

Also, I hope to reassure some people as I nearly shat myself at the idea of the internal and sweep as I wasn't expecting it today and all I ever hear is how terrible they are. For me it was no problem at all. I'm sure my smear was more painful! I just closed my eyes, took deep breaths etc and thought of England. I was pleasantly surprised (as one can be with a registrar with their fingers where they shouldn't be!) All I can imagine now is that I'm probably giving my vagina a baaad reputation!!!! Regardless, I'm glad to report a positive story [hgrin].

Also, forgot I'd left 'Do Not Disturb' on the iphone and it was still working a treat! I came out of the hospital to 5 different messages and I'm glad I was oblivious to them during all that drama.

Peaky no way of knowing how long it will take for his head to engage, but my DD was only 1/5 engaged the wk before she was born, & my mum says I didn't have my head engaged until she was in labour, so never say never...

Oh and, as for your cervix; it is kind of tucked up at the back usually, but towards labour, it starts moving forward and flattening out a bit. If they did a sweep, it can't have been too high to reach (which it can be) but not yet at the front & 'ripe' iyswim.

Tits fingers crossed the sweep gets things going...

Bugger, midwife tried but she said the outside of the cervix is open but the inside isn't so she can't quite reach properly, she's going to get a dr to have a go in a while :(

tits hope the sweep is effective!

New mattress delivered today - am I tempting fate by sleeping on it for 2 nights? Waters never went with DD and am having my section on Friday at 39 weeks. However, would be Sod's law if waters went. Could sleep in spare room but I want my new comfy mattress under me!

Have you got any nappy training mats Madam?? I'm using a huggies night time dry-pad thing that I would use with DD if she wanted to come out of nappies ([hangry] but that's another story...) and they're pretty big and seem to cover my half of the bed. I didn't protect my mattress with DD - I stupidly believed that most people don't have their waters go first, and yet every other person I hear about, does!! I put the pad under my sheet, but above the mattress protector/cover-type sheet, so there are 3 layers between amniotic fluid & mattress :)

kirrin hasn't been on today...is it good news!?

Period/back pain calmed down. Still feel sick though. DH phoned earlier and I just cried because all I've managed to do today is stick the dishwasher on. No energy to even empty it. I feel so useless . Think I've freaked him out a little.... Anyway 90% sure I'm just having a miserable pregnant day and am nowhere near popping. Fc anyway, minimum of 12 days left at work before I can claim MA and DH can get his leave to cover him to new year.

Am I being a total scrooge for not answering the door to trick or treaters? I feel/look like shit (think unintenional ghost dressed in unmatching pjs....) and I've never really believed in guising. In my opinion it's like begging, we spend all our time telling kids not to talk to strangers then actively enourage them to beg for sweets on strangers doorsteps? Yep, I am a scrooge... please don't judge me!

My parents felt the same way MM, I've never been trick or treating. It's much more culturally prevalent and acceptable here in NI though, even churchgoers let their children out for hallowe'en whereas when I was a kid my church always organised an alternative event. My church was brilliant for Guy Fawkes' night though, always got a good dinner and fireworks display; I miss that here, probably won't even get a toffee apple [sulky emoticon]. I wonder how the dog and cat will cope with the fireworks tonight. Should I shut the cat in the house?

I'm not in anyway religious. I just don't like it. My mum was the same so I've probably picked it up from her!

I love guy fawkes' night though!! My stupid dog always gets excited when fireworks are going off and runs to the doors/windows with his toys desperate to get out to play.

I wish the kids running around screaming outside would quieten down. My head hurts... DH should be home in the next half an hour though and he's promised to cook dinner. All I've kept down today is a slice of toast so starting to feel a bit hungry!

I'm in perma miserable pregnant lady mode, DP keeps telling me off for rolling my eyes and tutting at grunty women in early labour

I saw my kids! cheered me up but they could only stay 5 minutes I didn't want them to see me throwing up.

I am going to attempt a shower before the nights out, they have a disability chair in there so I should be able to manage between that and the wheel chair, I feel grungy atm.

I'm still here! Just been out and about all day. Having some major twinges now though so hoping something is going to happen soon.

tits nice for you to see your kids :) Hopefully your sweep will work and you can be out of your misery soon.

I'll join everyone who is feeling grumpy - just been one of those days.
Saw the midwife today, baby is no longer back to back (yay!) and 2/5 engaged so we're heading the right way. Nother appointment for next wed (40 weeks) but really hope I don't reach that one!

MM I've never been trick or treating either, my mum didnt like the thought of us knocking on strangers doors.

kirrin you're not allowed to go out all day you got my hopes up! twinges sounds v promising fingers crossed!

RANT ALERT!!!!

I've had a shit day! Well, not terrible in the grand scheme, but one of those where you wonder why you bothered even getting out of bed!

Quote to fix car £220 - dreading telling the guy who bumped me. I've avoided texting him so far!

Got rained on when out with mum and DS, so we ended up coming home. Wet arses and all.

Mum shouted terribly unfairly at DS because one of her dogs stole a sandwich from her husbands 4 year old grandson, and DS was supposed to be there with him, but had come to speak to me in the living room. But the dog caught the little boys hand, so there were tears - from 4 year old, DS, and me. And then my mum. Her husband was mad at my mum for leaving DS in charge (she had nipped to the loo) I was mad because she shouted at DS when IMO it could have happened no matter who was there - dogs do these things. It didn't go to bite him, it went for the butty, and the finger just got caught - no broken skin. And then I was mad because mums husband kept having a go at her.

DS sent me a text from the toilet he locked himself in saying he never wants to go to grandmas again! Broke my heart!

Now I've got the worst heartburn I've ever had - and I thought I'd had it bad in the past!

Oh, and when I walked in to the house this afternoon, I put down a card and present off my mum for my birthday on sunday - it is the only surprise I would be getting, and DP just opened the box!! WHY?! Really? Why!

Nipped out this evening to get a camera which is what I asked DP for for my birthday (normally do surprises, which I love - but I figured I should be sensible and get something useful!) but turned out to be shit. So it has to go back.

Oh, and I asked DP to pick me up some maternity leggings from H&M while he was in town earlier. He bought me a 2 pack of tights. I have NO idea why. Neither does he.

I'm just glad its raining so the trick and treaters aren't coming! More sweets for meeeee! And the dog isn't barking all night long at the door... phew!

And I just checked the bank and we have feck all money to go out for my bday, stupid 5 week month

They're not willing to retry the sweep for a few days now after all.

Fuckety bollocks. If the consultant bothers to turn up tomorrow she is going to get a full blown dose of angry hormonal lady. I want my baby out, I want to be able to walk, I want to look after my boys and I want to go home. Morphine is bloody horrible stuff and
I'm well and truly pissed off.

Has Izzy updated? I hope she got more joy than I am?!

DH is an absolute star. He's brought home lindt choc balls (my fav things in the whole world) and is cooking ikea meatballs with homemade norn irn chips. Yummers! Miraculously I don't feel quite as sicky anymore!!

That sucks Detective and Tits.:( on your behalf.

I'm going to get DP to be here tomorrow for ward rounds. I really don't feel up to fighting my corner, I always dissolve into tears within seconds and end up feeling bullied into going along with their plans even if I'm not happy with them.

I think their current tactic is to stall right up until Wed when it was going to be done anyway.
I'm getting more exhausted and feeling worse both mentally and physically by the day, I'm not sure I can do another week here.

tits I can't believe how shit they are being. Make sure you get a complaint in,

I'm fecked today. Been out all day. Waddled round meadowhall, felt like my pelvis was going to snap and the baby was going to fall out of my frim fram.
Just had a warm bath and I'm now collapsed on the bed. I better sleep tonight.
Still having periody achey pains and at the moment feel like I could vomit. Hoping its just because I'm worn out.

On another note, I bought nursing bras and had to get a 32GG!!! They don't look that big, but my huge bump could be swamping then

Fatima that's exactly how I've felt all day - and I haven't even got out of my jammies!

I've been having a long long thought about you Tits

Ok, here is my next lot of suggestions. (Please PM me name of hospital and I'll try and get you names!)

You need to by pass everyone else, and go straight to the head of midwifery. And tell her your complaint. Tomorrow morning, you ring switchboard, and ask to be put through. From your bed. And tell her what you have written here. Tell her you are an inpatient, ask her to come and speak to you face to face too.

I also suggest ringing AIMS. Can you get on websites? If so check this site www.aims.org.uk I have contacted them in early pregnancy, when I was struggling to by pass the GP for my booking in appt. They are VERY good. Beverley Beech is the chair person, and she is a lovely woman - I have met her and heard her talk many times.

If you can't get on the site - here is the contact info.

AIMS Helpline
email: [email protected]
This email will go to a group of AIMS volunteers and someone will respond as soon as possible.
telephone: +44 (0) 300 365 0663
This phone number will connect you to an AIMS volunteer when possible, otherwise please leave us a message and someone will get back to you.
(Calls to 03 numbers cost no more than a national rate call to an 01 or 02 number and will be covered by phone contract inclusive minutes in the same way as 01 and 02 calls. See www.ofcom.org.uk for further details)

You have my number - feel free to use it, even just to text me. I will help as much as I can. I will be out tomorrow afternoon for a couple of hours, but other than that, I'm home.

MM that's my plan for tomorrow, pjs all day [hgrin]

Sorry, I should say that AIMS are Association for Improvements in Maternity Care.

"AIMS... at the forefront of the childbirth movement for more than fifty years.

Working towards normal birth
Providing independent support and information about maternity choices
Raising awareness of current research on childbirth and related issues"

www.aims.org.uk/Publications/MakingAComplaint_AIMS_March10.pdf Ask DP to check that last link for you as you probably won't be able to see it if you are on your phone - PDF doc!