November 2012 - babies arriving thick and fast

[StuntNun]

Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1589461-November-2012-lots-of-babies-that-cant-wait-for-November

Post-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1579907-November-2012-babies-are-here-at-last

This is a complete ranty moany post so I apologise for the self indulgence but if I don't get it off my chest I will scream!
Was supposed to have been having the house decorated and the downstairs toilet replaced this week. Bloke who came on Monday has been a complete cowboy. Only turned up for 1.5 days and has ripped out our loo and sink, not replaced it and generally just left a mess. Told him today that we were getting someone else in and to pick up his tools and get lost. Have managed to get my friends builder to rescue us but not before next week and none of the decorating will be done. Hb is self employed so days off are expensive and he needs to save his time up for when the baby arrives (36+3, DS1 born at 38 weeks eek) so looks like I will just have to look at crap walls which keep getting mould on them as we have a small leak in our roof and the guy to fix that can't come for a few weeks so the house is damp too.
Have friends staying this weekend. House is in chaos still.
Just took my car to get tyres checked and 4 new ones needed. £420 ouch! Hb took his car to get an oil service. £120. Double ouch.
Just started cleaning and my eldest son had been making slime which I have now found welded to his new bedroom carpet.
My ds2 (2.5) who is at home with me is totally picking up on my stress and has regressed and just did a poo in his pants. 2nd time in two days having never done it before.
To top it all off I just got back from the garage to find that the dog had removed the plastic bowl from the radiator pipe which cowboy man had left leaking so now my downstairs loo is not only a mess but a wet mess.
Can I just hide for the rest of the day do you think????

Sorry for moan x

Izzy what are the Emma Jane ones like for small back, big cups. I looked at them but thought I'd burst out of them. Is there anywhere that stocks to try on?

MM agree with crap measuring. My boobs don't look huge, think they're wide rather than deep. I once got measured when I was wearing a 32dd, the assistant said 32b and insisted it was correct. I could barely fit my nipple in never mind the rest of my boob [hgrin]

Don't know what to do with myself today. Bored but no energy to clean/do jobs. Just had a nap. Hope DH is home soon

They are "worried about your mobility"? No shit Sherlock - honestly tits this has been horrendous for you. And a real eye opener for me certainly. I so hope that you get someone actually listening to you soon.

That is great advice stunt on the high chair. We were planning on the £12 Ikea one but when a friend said she would like to buy us something we wondered if that was something worth spending money on. Maybe we could do both? Ikea initially then the cheap version of the Tripp Trapp when baby can properely sit up.

Your shaky fit sounds awful as well stunt. Could it have been a low blood sugar type thing? Combined with your problems with DS havig a meltdown and traffic maybe blood pressure as well. Whatever caused it it sounds no fun at all.

MM as if I wasn't jealous enough of you with your fabulous house location! Just as well he isn't my neighbour as I would stalk him! His next book is out the day after my due date - I can't decide if that is a good thing or not!

Thanks for the book reviews Kirrin and peaky. I used to read James Herbert as a teenager - great wintery reading and perfect for snuggling under a duvet with. Certainly worth me revisiting. I did wonder what a Goidelic read was kirrin. I will definitely check some of those out. I love my Kindle as it means I properely choose books rather than just grab something midweek in the supermarket because I am on my last chapter.

Interesting chat about nursing bras. I haven't been measured but have loosely guessed my size. I went for basic Debenhams and a Mirium Stoppard for maternity so I went back for the nursing ones. I got two on a special offer. I haven't had the massive breastsplotian others have had - from a 32 DD to a 34 E. I am pretty lase fair when it comes to bras and I have a range of sizes from pre-pregnancy. I find the only way to tell if they fit is to try them on. Also, immediately before my wedding Debenhams had a massive sale on and lovely posh bras were selling for £2. At that price I bought lots on the basis that they can be adjusted to fit. That should mean that I have plenty to see me through breast feeding to 6 months (or whenever - just never know!)

swiss taking each day as it comes is surely the only way to get through this last stage (and being on here). We will drive ourselves potty with knicker checking, twinge assessing and the like.

I bought the 34 and it seems reasonable on me. I used to wear a 32e when I was slimmer but put on a bit of weight for that read a lot so I am heavier up top. I did buy the 36 back but found it a bit big. I'm prob around an F or bigger just now and they have plenty of stretch still and for a tenner they are fab. I don't think anywhere stock for trying on but plenty places sell with free returns. I think figleaves are one of them. More 4 mums site is quick delivery and good customer service. I've used them a few times recently.

Ffs, so doc called cpl weeks back and said my blood sugar high. Asked if I'd fasted for it, I hadn't (didn't even know the MW would be testing for it), doc said it was only high because I'd just had lunch. But to come in again for another test after fasting. Did that this week although when I saw MW she said level wasn't high enough to note so was pointless. Today, had msg on phone from doc saying my repeat level was slightly low!!! But prob because I was fasting so not to worry!! And now just had a call from receptionist saying doc needs to talk to me about high cholesterol. I'm like, are you sure? Didn't know it was being tested, and if doc concerned, why didn't she mention it when she phoned an hour ago?! Nope, receptionist insists, but first opportunity for a phonecall is apparently next Thursday?! Have googled and seems high cholesterol is expected in pregnancy, but annoyed if they've made me worry for a week just to have doc tell me that. After the blood sugar malarkey I can't imagine she's even right to mention it!! Argh.

Sorry jenbird my mammoth post took me so long to type that I cross-posted yours.

It sounds like you are having a dreadful day. Feel free to hide yourself here all day if need be!

Afternoon ladies

tits glad to hear things seem to be moving in the right direction for you. Fingers crossed the sweep works!

I can recommend the Ikea high chair pass! They are such good value and easy to keep clean. Bit miffed with Ikea today tho, last month we ordered new wardrobes and a bed for our room, was supposed to be being delivered 2nd Nov, but they've called DP today and said it won't be delivered til 5th December now! Which is no good as baby will be here by then so now we've got to go to Ikea AGAIN and order it all in store for next day delivery! Bit of a pain in the bum really!

Hope you are feeling better now stunt

Stunt Bloody hormones, hope you're feeling better now, you have had a lot to cope with recently.

Tits Fingers crossed for you.

Shanelle How are you today?

Well rash is just an allergy rash and nowt to worry about! Just have to find out what I'm allergic to now, although the doctor did say my body might just think it's allergic to the pregnancy! Main thing is, baba will be absolutely fine and it's nothing at all serious.

She also advised me to have 'lots and lots of sex' if I want little one this weekend, I asked her if she'd like to book me in for a 42 week induction now [hgrin]

Hello all. 38 weeks today, 1 week to go until my section. Cant quite believe it is so soon - after being desperate to get to the end of this pregnancy for a while it has suddenly struck me that there will be an actual baby at the end of it to look after.

jenbird sounds rubbish. Have a good vent here.

tits glad someone seems to be doing something, but it doesnt seem very much given how you feel.

stunt I think/hope that is quite normal - body is preparing for some big changes. If you're worried speak to your MW.

Just ordered a new mattress after being woken up by being stabbed in the leg by an errant spring. Specifically chose one from Argos that could be delivered asap. Then had an email (after placing order) saying they'll honour the order if they can. WTF?

x-post kissy on the evils of furniture delivery!

Jenbird that sounds appalling, I think you would be well within your rights to flounce off to bed for a sulk with all that going on.

I second the Emma-Jane maternity bras from more4mums. I have two size 36B-F and two size 38B-F plus a packet of bra extenders. I'll go and get proper fitted maternity bras in December then use the Emma-Jane ones at nighttime only. So O have no idea what cup size I am at the moment but I suspect I've gone from a 34D to a 38F and I'll probably settle down to a 36E while breastfeeding.

The midwife reckons everything's okay - BP 100/60 and nothing in the urine sample. She has put it down to stress about the funeral combined with hormones. It probably is hormonal because it's just like the baby blues: crying for no reason and stuttering and shaking. Baby has moved to LOA which is great but I'm not convinced he'll stay there as he seems to like ROA better. The head is completely free which I suspected because when it bobs into my pelvis then I have to wee a lot more!

Completely CBA today. The MW reckoned I needed some TLC. I'll schedule that in between school runs, appointments, trumpet lesson, dog walking and making dinner then shall I.

Just marking my place quickly so I can read through the posts you chatty lot!

madamgazelle it's very annoying isn't it- why do they say they can deliver if they can't?! Grrr

I have discovered I only have one jersey hat for the baby, you know the ones they wear when very little? Anyone know anywhere that sells unisex ones? I had a look in sainsburys and next earlier but they only had pink or blue

Hugs to all those also having a shit day for whatever reason xx

I've been sick again. Typically just after my mum left. Feeling a bit shakey and I'm freezing cold so have gone back to bed. Would it be unreasonable to cancel inlaw visit tomorrow? DH suggested it. I'm not overly enamoured that they're coming anyway (as you've all probably gathered) but I look and feel like shit and don't want to see anyone . But then I had something similar a few weeks ago and was totally fine the next day. Plus they've booked ferry tickets etc and time off work so I'd feel even worse if they'd put themselves out for nothing. Yuck, I think I'll just hide in my bedroom all weekend!

Bit of TLC for stunt and jenbird.

Excited about my curry tonight but hoping DH get home in time for me to have half an hour lie down before hand.

Some tlc or you too mm xx

Kissy I got some unisex hats from Asda.

The health visitor came yesterday, and my son is now 7,1, after all the feed he has been having I'm not surprised. He is on the 9th percentile, but I'm not worried as he has grown in length.

The HV went followed a check list, which is stuff I've been told before.
Yes, feeding from the breast is best,
yes I know my milk supply could dry up cause I'm expressing,
yes I've tryed him on the breast and it hasn't worked, we both have had problems from day one. We both got very stressed about it.
yes I'm topping up with formula, but it's not all the time, and no I'm not mixing the two into one bottle. What's with that anyway?
Yes I am using a dummy, and no it's not all the time.
Yes we're having the immunisations, (I think she thought I would say no)

It seems they want me to go to the groups that are held, but being three weeks old and both of us are up all night, I don't think it bring any benefit yet.

Any ideas on when it would be the best time to go? When we both are awake during the day?

Evil

Sorry for everyone feeling rubbish today. Seems to be a particularly bad customer service day today too, whether that's connected to IKEA or the NHS (although crossing fingers for Tits, does sound a bit more hopeful there). D'you know what, I think we need a nice birth announcement to cheer everyone up! Maybe VQ will be along soon to oblige.

MM I'd think seriously about taking advantage of the opportunity of not having a stressful weekend if you can, seeing as DH himself has suggested it ...

Went to the zoo this morning with DD. Was good to get out but I should have realised she would probably want carried at least half of the time (had left buggy at home). Was knackered by the time we got back to the car! It's not as if she can't walk well, she can, she just wants carried when we approach anything remotely scary - so obviously there was a scary bird, scary rhino, scary monkey ... At least we had a nice lunch, they do a really good carvery baguette thing and I had a gammon one with onion chutney! Yum!

Hoping all this activity this means an afternoon in front of CBeebies is OK!

MM I'd definitely make sure you are relaxed whatever the decision - perhaps the inlaws could still come but DH could take them out for lunch or something and let you rest? Compromise possible?

Evil - I think go when you feel like it. Don't put any pressure on yourself to get there on a specific date. When I had DD, my HV wanted me to get to a breastfeeding support group when DD was 10 days old - and I made it, despite recovering from a cat 1 EMCS under GA. Everyone there was fairly amazed I'd made it - but it was too soon, I didnt get anything out of it, I should have been at home in bed having cuddles and muddling through feeding myself. Take it easy, and go when you feel like it.

kissy - if I had known it would not be a 5 day delivery as advertised, I wouldnt have made the chuffing order! Am about to seriously vent my spleen at Argos Customer Services and may even shout about it on twitter too, as that seems to motivate many customer service teams!

Jeez there really are some butthole times going on at the moment! Jen that sounds soooo frustrating! I can't imagine how annoying it is to look at all the mess on top of everything else going wrong! Little torch light at the end of the tunnel though with someone else flying in (albeit rather slowly) to gradually sort bits out at a time.

I'm glad there are no health worries there Stunt but also feeling sorry for you with all your jobs. I must not moan about my piddly little jobs that I CBA to do! Bath and or at least and later as a treat?

MM I think that DH should discuss it with parents to save you the guilt you'll inevitably feel (and shouldn't). If they do come over then you mustn't feel obliged to entertain and they mustn't put pressure on - they can find things to do/places to go etc. Did you make that list from before? You can't be a hostess with a sick bag!

Well I went to start reading my book under the duvet and promptly fell asleep with pregnancy relaxation cd thingie on. There goes my afternoon. Oh well!

Back to cars - was in the news yesterday about the car industry struggling in this country. Do we think I might be getting a better deal if I get my butt to dealerships at the mo?

Evil I think that so long as you're awake and up for it then it should be ok. You might find it helpful to meet other Mums who are going through the same as you.

evil the only group I went to when ds was that age was a breastfeeding one and that was for my benefit more than anything. They fed me tea and cake and made me feel part of society again!
But obv don't go unless you feel ready to and when you're not zombie tired.

Well, called Argos prepared to do battle and pleasant woman asked if I would like my delivery next Wednesday morning. Um, yes, thanks. I didnt have to shout/cry/refer to pregnancy or anything.

I'll see how I feel later and have a chat with him indoors when he gets ashore. I did indeed make the list and they seem fairly content with the idea of amusing themselves some of the time. "Yes niece-x would love the castle, but my hips couldn't hack the walk. You guys go ahead though and I'll stay at home and get some work done" - kinda thing. DH has been given the option of a day off at the weekend if he covers someone's nightshift during his leave in a few weeks so that might work to our advantage too.

God I feel like all I do is moan on this thread. I'm honestly not a miserable person in rl! I've just been feeling very sorry for myself the past few weeks and dont feel like I can let my guard down and vent to people in rl - if that makes sense? Bloody hormones...

sigh it's got really busy here, 3 ladies have gone to labour ward since arriving and I can see tons of new borns being wheeled past the bed

Mega annoyed though, the toilet is across the big multi bed bay, I went at 6am this morning which caused mass tears because it hurt so damn much, I cannot walk at all now after them putting me in and out the wheelchair then getting cross with me for crying with this pain, so they said to call if I needed assistance, I attempted that but joy so I just had to drag my sorry bum to the toilet again as I was fit to burst, finally got there, did a wee and it was agony, full feeling was replaced by stabbin pain. I also had a bit of pinky discharge. I'm wondering if being left to hold in wee all day has caused irritation or infection?
They tried to wheel me down for an ultrasound but took so long the ultrasound department refused to do it. So I'm back to laying in a bed, curtains round me like a bloody leper and no clue what to expect now. Still no word on pain relief, lots of looks and tuts from drs and nurses about me apparently I wasn't being co operative with the physio because I was crying so much, do beg my pardon for being upset and being pulled around like a doll.