November 2012 - babies arriving thick and fast

[StuntNun]

Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1589461-November-2012-lots-of-babies-that-cant-wait-for-November

Post-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1579907-November-2012-babies-are-here-at-last

kirrin we pushed him around in it when we first got it home so I could get a feel for it but haven't taken him out in it properly I'm still using my cheapie mothercare stroller because its so light (but way past its prime)

Up way too much in the night to wee, then ds woke up just before 6- ugh. Not quite the half 7 I was getting used to, he always does that when I've got a busy day planned. Having my hair cut today finally

Morning everyone. Nice to see you back detectiveafter your eventful day.

mm you are defo not a crap partner and you will be a brilliant mummy. You have to be confident in yourself that you will as people don't really think to tell people they are doing a good job at being a mum and a partner and, unfortunately, you don't get a performance review like you do at work. If you feel low come here and we will tell you you are wonderful! This was a big lesson for me to learn when I had DD1, I might have just about got there now with DC4! But you never know

There is proabably something in stunts thoughts on the fact he may just not get it. My DH doesn't think about things until they are going to happen and then he focuses on it completely, that is how he copes with most stuff in life, and he gets a lot done. Well. It upset me a lot when I had DS but then in the last couple of weeks and when I had him I could not have wished for better support and love. It has been the same this time and once I got to 37 weeks it creeped onto his radar and after yesterday's moment nearly ending up at labour ward the baby's priority is creeping up the list.

Hang in there.

Oh and yes I would have phoned Daddy too!

I actually went out last night![hshock] a Pampered Chef party, I wasn't going to stay out late but didn't get in till about 10:30 which is SO late for me at the moment. It was nice to do something different, take my mind of the bump and catch up on some work gossip.

I am going to treat myself to and autumn walk today and buy myself lunch. [hsmile]

Morning!!

I was going to lie in today but wide awake :(

39 weeks today!! Good luck vq this morning!!!

So think I'll take the dogs for a walk then going out with mum and nan somewhere.

Good luck VQ will be thinking of you today x

Jaylee what a thing to do when you are so heavily pg. I have no amazing advice but I'm so sorry you have been put in this position.

Peaky I'm having lots of 'FUUUUUCK' moments too - think my head is firmly in the sand most of the time though!

MM I am definitely not a perfect partner and I'm sure I won't be a perfect mum but I will do my best - that's all we can do, no one is perfect, we just muddle through somehow. Your DH has been selfish and you have no need to apologise for being upset about it. I would go to your mums for a bit as someone else said you have had 3 days stewing on this, maybe when he has time to think he will realise how stupid he was. Also agree that you might see some big changes when baby arrives

My MW said baby is head down but pretty much back to back. What are the best positions to move it round? Also said she estimates baby is about 7lb atm! I still have 3 weeks to go (possibly 5!) How much are they supposed to gain each week? Feeling a little scared now.

Hello darling ladies and bumps!

Apologies for the extended absence - time flies when your having babies! I haz a son! So the Chinese gender test was right and the other old wives tales wrong. He has a shock of curly chestnut hair and a big ventouse lump his Dad's feet and my hands. I feel like I've won the lottery and been given the most beautiful wee man in the whole world - am shocked by how much love and by how well it feels I know him - already!

As for labour I don't recommend 22 hrs of back to back dry labour (my waters all went at 6.30 am) but I'd do it again tomo for him. He came out facing upwards after 22 hrs, 4 wonderful midwives never leaving me alone, DH was stunning the best most positive birth partner. He has been v weepy about our boy! Water bath was lovely, shower helped, TENS was horrific, gas and air (all 5 canisters was delish!) and diamorphine got me thru the final straight. Had ventouse in the end as he got a bit lost sunny side up and I was banjaxed! I love Dr Ernest the new Ghanaian obstetrician who got him out in the end and who let us stay on the island so he's got Ernest as a middle name!

As he's only 36 weeks and has a big lump on his noggin he's jaundiced so is under the lights - fingers crossed his levels fall and we don't have to risk a snowy journey to Aberdeen. Have been expressing colostrum every 2 hours as he's so wee and jaundiced he's not strong enough to suckle off me but he's just started to latch so maybe soon can ditch the pump!

Epic post - only got up to p12 of thread ya gobshites so sorry if I've missed anyone's news, births etc lots of love to yous x x

Oh and he's called Jonas (pronounced with a y Norwegian stylee) Adam Ernest and he was born at 4.27 am on tues 23rd weighing 6 lb 3 and a bit!

Aw congrats yw he sounds lovely :) ds had slight jaundice when he was born feed feed feed!

Yw wonderful news!!!!!! You sound so happy!!!!

yellowwellies well done, you did good! You sound so full of joy it's wonderful. Happy happy happy. Hope the jaundice clears up soon.

MM I think Sophia and stunt have a point, it might just not be 'real' to him yet. As a mother you have had nearly nine months of a baby growing inside you and forming a bond that the dad couldn't possibly get until the baby is right there in front of him! It'll hit him like a train, as with most dads! Hopefully it will change him for the better, and as you've said before - he's already been told horror stories about not being able to have a life what a load of bollocks and is probably scared. Of course that is no excuse to be so careless and cause all of this stress for you, but men are generally rather selfish and just don't realise how much they can upset us.
I really hope he gets over himself this phase when the baby arrives, which is very likely.

My mum is coming over today, yay!
Also I'm thinking about carving a bunch of pumpkins (for Halloween obviously) and making soup out of them to freeze for when baby is here. I've never made pumpkin soup though, or eaten it

VQ all the best for today! Only a matter of hours now!

YW he sounds beautiful and well done to you, congratulations :)

Lilliana isn't scrubbing the kitchen floor supposed to be good for turning the baby?

Lillianna spend as much time on all fours or as near as you can be all fours apparently. Like scrubbing floors etc. Don't hurt yourself though!!

Right just about to rry veet to save on shaving!!!!

Congratulations YW and we're all frightfully impressed with your sis and DH for braving coming on here to keep us informed. Hopefully the jaundice will clear up quickly and you'll be home in no time (but give your DH long enough to get his housework done first!)

I haven't had a chance to catch up on this thread there just never seems time and when I do there's 20 pages to catch up on [hshock]

Sorry if I've missed people's news, hope you and all your LOs are doing well

Good luck today valium you'll meet you LO soon!!

Still can't quite believe I have my little girl let alone the fact she's 6 days old!!!!!!

Oh and Swiss if you're making pumpkin soup don't buy the giant pumpkins as they apparently don't taste as nice (or so I've heard).

Liliana, try all fours, sitting backwards on a chair, scrubbing the floors etc. Congratulations yw enjoy the snuggles, you did amazing and so so pleased you got your island birth. Hope the jaundice clears up - is there a chance you may need to go to Aberdeen if it doesn't?

pasties, DH is Aussie and the ILs live in the next suburb to us so they are around. they have however been very non-committal about how involved they want to be so that is a wait and see game. Cannot wait to see my Mum though and introduce her to bub! When we first told them I was pg, ILs were very insistent we went private, blah, blah, but since then have been a bit [hhmm] about the whole baby thing so I am keeping quiet and playing it by ear.

Waves and good luck to vq again if you are still out there!

MM agree with Swiss et al that he may not get it. My DH went out and got hammered at Christmas and did various other uncharacteristic things all through my pg with my DD but he was a fantastic birth partner and was/is a wonderful Dad. Its only this time around that he realises he can't go away in the month before EDD and that he MUST be in contact (in fact, he's worried labour is imminent because of my nesting yesterday and my nipples are so dark they're black [hconfused] so has told me to keep in touch with him!!). And btw, NOBODY is perfect, whatever they say or appear to be - to err is human...

YW great update, fantastic news and I agree with DH nothing like good ol' booby milk to get rid of jaundice super quickly [hsmile]

Peaky I had a 'can't remember anything, how do I breastfeed??!!' moment yesterday and its my second... You are not alone [hwink]

Lilliana make sure you lay on your left as much as possible and do lots of crawling on your knees. Sounds odd I know, but baby's heaviest part is their head so gravity can help to 'swing' them around. Baby may still move. Think DD was ROA right up until the end but I had a straightforward, normal delivery and this one seems to swing from ROA to LOA throughout the day if the location of kicks are anything to go by... I do worry s/he flipped though, as some punches low down seem much more like kicks iyswim [hhmm]

I have workmen fixing/replacing my mains stop cock so the water is off. Which is a pain as I haven't showered yet and need to go into work to finish marking a stack of books. I blame OfSted - if they hadn't showed up I would have had time to get everything done and I could be busily nesting today instead... grr.

Really really well done YW, doesn't sound the most straightforward birth but you did SO well! Hurrah for you and hurrah for DH and hurrah for little Jonas and hurrah for Dr Ernest! Please don't leave the AN board yet, we've missed you!

Just checking in. Had a great night's sleep - DH went to spare room and DD slept til 7.15 so we're a happy family this am. Best to stock up on the sleep reserves while we can! I feel nowhere near birth and indeed my EDD is a whole month away. Was a bit when Detective said gestations are about the same - I was 16 days over last time!! But actually thinking about that, my dates and the hospital's dates were 9 days out. According to me I was only 5 days over when they induced (threatening doom otherwise). So really I have no idea how long I'd go over if left. The dates are only 4 days out this time so I really hope to get a chance to go into labour naturally.

And now I've finished my last piece of work and my accounts, so once I've delivered those accounts this morning, I think I can consider myself pretty much on maternity leave. Might celebrate with a decaff latte!

Thinking of VQ this morning, really hoping it's going well.

Have lovely days everyone.

Sorry, I was 7 days over last time. My inability to count is a bit of a worry with regards to just having finished my accounts, eh!

Morning :) Baby let me have 9 hours, so I shall be very grateful for that

Yay YW! Congratulations! You sound very loved up with your little boy, quite rightfully so! Enjoy your babymoon! Jaundice is extremely common when it comes to prematurity, and add the ventouse in, well it is almost a given! A day under the lamps usually does the job!

I'm feeling sorry for myself today! The cold that started on Tuesday seemed to be staved off by the use of a Karvol capsule - snot all dried up overnight just breathing the yummy aroma in! However it has all returned this morning, despite the use of another capsule :( I feel bunged up, sore and coughing to boot. Just what I wanted!

I think i'll just stay here in bed til I can't take the boredom any more! This time is for relaxing, right?! I've got a busy friday and saturday anyway, so I don't feel guilty!

Hope my poorly car is better later and I can pick it up! I'm stuck in waiting for my dress to arrive that I ordered from Next. I swear if it doesn't fit, or looks shit I will actually cry! I'll then have to do a mad dash around town this afternoon and look for something else to wear that won't be maternity! Squeeze myself in to a tent or something.

Shelly I forgot to post yesterday about you sweeping the pavements! I asked instructed DP to sweep the drive, and clear the cobwebs out the open porch area well over a week ago. He hasn't done it. I've asked him god knows how many times now... I'm losing my patience! My nesting definitely involves me seeing shit needing doing, and him having to do it .

I was going out on tuesday when I saw the elderly neighbour from 2 doors down sweeping the pavements outside MY house. I was so ashamed, that I then hid inside the house and was late leaving just because I didn't want to look like I was sauntering out and leaving some poor old woman sweeping the pavements! To be fair - I've swept them before. It is a main road. They get dirty, and DP parks his car there, so I like to keep it clean!

MM I was thinking about your situation this morning. Have you thought about putting how you feel in writing? You have a knack with words, and maybe it might be better for him to see it all in black and white? If he is anything like my DP, and my ex DP, and most blokes I know... having it clearly written down for him makes them realise things a whole lot more. Instead of having that brain seepage when you open your mouth, you know where they claim to hear you, but really it is just trickling back out through the other ear...

My DP openly admits he needs things written down for him. He just does not remember things. I used to take great offense to this, as I saw it as a lack of respect. Now I just feel sorry for him an his inability to be as amazing as us women . He probably can be one day - but just requires a hell of a lot of training to get there! In the meanwhile, whatever makes it easier for him, and thus easier on me, works for me! So written it is - which reminds me. Will write SWEEP DRIVE for him and see if that works!

Also, something which I'm not recommending, but saying it made me feel the pregnancy was more real - was when I had a 3D scan. It just hit me, that there was a real baby in there and that it was going to arrive soon! I was 35 weeks when I had mine, so it certainly looked like a proper baby! It has changed how I think about the baby, and how I feel. Not saying to go out and get one, but I did notice a great difference in things for me. I just found picturing him hard - strange but true!

YW It's the best thing ever isn't it [hgrin] have been wondering how you got on, even shed a little tear when I read you'd had him, in-fact I even woke up Monday night wondering where you were and if you'd had him!

I've had a word with the babs and told it I'm quite happy for it to arrive any day except today (10 year anniversary of my nana's death, way too morbid)! So will just have a chill day today I think, can't be arsed doing anything, have been up since 5.30 after going to bed after 1am and have had a cracking headache since last night. On the good side, I've got the runs, never thought I'd be pleased about that!

Ohhhhh, VQ will be at the hospital now, she said probably before dinner [hgrin]

Detective I did my cobwebby door shelter the other week! I've asked hubby to put the lawnmower on the hook in the shed, this was Tuesday, it's still there thrown in the shed now, I could kick his arse if I could lift my legs that far [hgrin]

wellieboots I don?t understand grandparents sometimes! You?d think they would be involved no questions asked! But of course family dynamics are different for everyone and as I am learned nothing is ?obvious?.

I had two parcels arrive today, but apparently I missed a parcel last week and have had a final notice from the post office! Annoying! I got some lush fabrics delivered and have squirrelled them away out of dh?s sight!!

Boo on the headache shelly

I am starting to think I want baby to arrive this weekend, it would be most convenient :)