May 2013 Third Thread.

[SecretCervix]

Sorry for the not very imaginative title. Noticed old thread was full and couldn't find a new one.

I can't believe it's November already and I'm only 3.5 weeks away from the scan where I'll find out if we're having a boy or girl. Very, very excited.

13+3

gosh flamin that is soon!

Today I can feel around the top of my uterus when I am sat down (am working on my bed!). Is all hard :) this must mean it has definitely popped, right?! exciting!

11+5

Wow flaming that is really soon!

Crikey wilde - I could never work out how they could feel the top of uterus at the MW appts, never mind being able to feel it myself! So exciting!!!

Well, I've already started with pains in my pelvic region and lower back acke - I have just changed my chair at work to see if that helps, but really hope that the sharp pains & grinding in my pelvis aren't the start of PGP already - I had it last time and could barely walk any distance by the end, but that only came on at about 30 weeks - this is too early to start this time!

13+3 today - woohoo!!

MooLL I'm another one with 'white coat syndrome' and frankly it's gotten far far worse with each visit to the midwifes. In any future pregnacys I won't be informing any Drs/midwifes etc until around 20 weeks. I really regret now being part of the 'system' from so early on.

I had my proper booking in appointment on Tue it was dreadful, absolute bitch of a midwife.
Thankfully she is leaving and her replacement was also there, I think I will like her a lot better, she at least respects that I have the right to make my own decisions.
Basically she is very cross that I wont accept an appointment to see a consultant because of my BMI ( which at 35 is higher than ideal but hardly a serious concern) and that I refused to let her to book me in for a sizing scan at 36 weeks!
I have said if there are concerns (such as gestational diabetes) or I'm measuring large for weeks then I will consider it at the time but I won't arbitrarily agree 6 months in advance!
Should add that I haven't put on any weight at all since my BFP.

She then started getting all snarky that no one is going to attempt to take my HB away etc. At this point I could take it no longer take her attitude and had to be quie firm that it was nothing to do with my Home birth for one thing I wasn't asking for permission! And secondly all my decisions will be the same regarless of where I give birth.
She then got very irrate and stared to raise her voice! New midwife jumped in at this point and calmed things done, DH was just a bit at this point.

I barely slept that night and have been stressed ever since and now dreading all appointments. She has really shaken my faith in the medical profession.

Forgot I'm 11+3

little that sounds terrible. poor you! glad she is going though. good for you sticking to your knowledge and not bowing down :)

elly is most odd, if I am sat down normally I have a soft tum but then just above my pelvis it sort of gets much harder! depends on what I have been doing as to whether it is 'up top' or hiding amongst my innards definitely not 'usual' though :)

very worrying about your pelvic pain flaring up already. is pgp the same as SPD? had spd toward the end with DS so am sure I'll get it at some point. My mum had it so bad that with my younger brother (her last baby) she was crawling around :( hopefully it is just a hormone thing and will calm down soon?

god am tired today.

Thanks wild I think as a first timer they expected me to be clueless and seemed surprised that I'm fairly knowledgable about pregnancy and birth options.

I had what I I thought might be the start of PGP last week but it's been greatly improved with just keeping my knees together and buying a new armchair that supports my back but also allowes me to put my feet flat on the floor.

littleB I'm sorry your midwife appointment was so stressful. she sounds like a right mardy cow at least you know she won't be about when you come to give birth. I hope the new one is good. it's odd that they were pushing against a hb, mine were doing a good job if trying to convince me I wanted on. I'd rather have the options if drugs available at the hospital, as I can't have g&a so very limited to pain relief for hb

How is everyone else doing?

littleb that sounds dreadful, what a crap experience but at least she is on her way out! Try to keep calm about it. Hopefully your next appt will be much better. The new mw sounds like she has the measure of the current mw, probably looking forward to her going too!

A little angered myself today, with MIL again!!!! I emailed a picture of our scan to both sets of parents and told them how it went. She told DH today that she was disappointed we didn't pop round after scan to give her her copy of scan picture!!! I mean, really?????? Hoping she says it to me when I see her!

Feeling much more like my old self now - more energy and appetite back. Only issue today is my nipples, so sore and getting scarily big!!

12 + 4 (dates changed slightly after scan)

ok. for the first time since getting upsticked I really, really, really want a lovely glass of red wine. A big one. Maybe more than one :)

I love being pg, and am so grateful I am and would rather be pg than drunk But ooooohhhhhh. I miss being reckless and, dare i say it, having childish fun?! Am not going to tho. I don't know what to do for a friday treat instead?! Hard week at the office you see (on my laptop on my bed at home...)

If the scan is all ok I will be starting pg yoga a week on tuesday! anyone else going to start exercising (gently and within reason!) soon? Am scared, am sure it will kill me even if all I do is lie on the floor!

pickle my nips are bigger too - and really dark! eek!

I have started back swimming again, just gently, but as much as I can with my limited energy! I've never really fancied yoga, but my BFF has been doing pregnancy yoga and really enjoyed it.

wilde Re wine - I kind of fancy a glass, but the smell of it makes me gag at the moment! Last time I was off it until about 15/16 weeks, but then I would have a small glass on a Friday evening, and another one with my dinner on Sunday - that did me, and it felt like a real treat, so I am thinking that that will be the plan again this time :) Also, the first 12 weeks are apparently the most important to not drink alcohol, after that they say that 1-2 units 1-2 times a week is ok if you want to.

little - what a bitch of a MW, glad she's leaving & you won't have to see her again. Really don't understand why some people chose to do the job that they do!

wilde, yes PGP is the new name for SPD, both are very similar really - I know some people who ended up on crutches, and I really don't want that to be me this time, so swimming and trying not to put on too much weight can only help (she says having just had a packet of minstrels ) - I have only put on 1 1/2 pounds so far, so really pleased about that!!

Hi Seasalt. You're welcome. I've had to deal with cravings from home for a while now, and am getting good at tracking down sources. The other one that works well for me is "rent charges" for any visitors from home. :)

With DC1 I had sciatic type pain in one hip that shot down my leg. Kept up nearly all pregnancy, on and off, worse if I stood up for too long (not very long) or walked too far. Of course, if I'd gone to the physio earlier, I might have got rid of it. But it never developed to PGP. So there may be no link.

Little that midwife sounds ghastly! So glad you'll be seeing someone nicer. I might be getting confused about who said what earlier, but didn't you say that the services in your earea where really overcrowded? Maybe they want to book you in early, because later on it will be much harder to get you an appointment? Doesn't excuse being rude and having a v bad attitude, but might explain some of it.

Feeling v grateful that both MIL and DM are a fair way away. I miss the support, but not the drama!

I was also looking at yoga classes today. Would definitely be good for me, but the last couple of days I've felt so awful that it's hard to imagine adding 1 1/2 hours exercise to the end of a working day I'm barely coping with already...

Rhienne yes that was me, Good memory! She actually said they aren't as busy this half compared to awhile back and also it was policy to book in if BMI over 30.
I think it was just the shock that I didn't do as I was told like a good little pregnant lady.

I've always liked the idea of yoga just never got around to it trying it. Think I will stick it walking and swimming. Aqua pregnacy classes seem to be really popular but it's always on mid day on my work days.

LittleB my BMI is higher than 35 too. I expected to be referred to a consultant but the midwife was not bothered at all. She was all 'well it's not ideal but it's the only thing going against you, so in the grand scheme of things I expect you'll be fine, so no need to worry'. But I'm in Sweden and they are extremely hands off here unless absolutely necessary.

I would love to be able to go swimming, but sadly I'm in Sweden and swimming pools are routinely kept at what feels like 1 degree above freezing. I can't stand it. I get out of the pool shivering while the locals ooh and ahhh over how warm it is

Hello all, I'm new! 12 + 1 with DC1 and still feeling a bit tentative!

Scan on the 13th when I'll be 13+5 - feels like an eternity. Inspired by the yoga enthusiasm on here, haven't been able to muster much gym activity for the past month and sure it's making me feel more lethargic! Pilates tomorrow though :)

Have good weekends all x

Hi Ladies

I had my nuchal today and got a slightly worrying measurement of 3.2mm. They can't tell me my risk of abnormalities til the bloods come back but it is a worry and I'm now in limbo. This happened with DC2 who was born healthy so that's a comfort but I'd hoped nut to face this stress again. Anyway we told the girls anyway and they were so excited and have spent the day kissing the scan photos. The monographer did say in all other respects the baby looked great, he could see both brain hemispheres and the nasal bone etc.

I'm off to comfort myself with a whole tub of ice cream.

Sorry you're going through it again RT, hope you enjoy the ice cream and that the bloods come back ok. Would it affect anything if they found anything wrong, or do you just want to be prepared? Sorry that's such a personal question, feel free not to answer.

I'm not the exercise type, though I bought a pregnancy yoga DVD with DD which I quite enjoyed, I'll be digging it out again once I've had the scan and find some energy.

little glad your MW is leaving, she sounds horrid, disagreeing is one thing but to raise her voice is not on.

BMI of 34 here, I've been referred because we also have the risk of baby having muscular dystrophy. I don't blame her for referring me as most people don't know anything about it, it annoys me though as we'd already said we didn't want any genetic testing/counselling, therefore it has no real relevance to the pregnancy. I've also had two prem births though so I guess she done what she thought was best. Anyway, my consultant was lovely with the other 2 and I only saw her twice last time anyway.

To be honest Seven what we would do would depend on the problem identified. While a child with Downs can still have a pretty full life some of the other chromosomal disorders cause much more serious disabilities. We have the impact on our existing two DC to consider. I'm not really sure what we would do really.

flamin I spoke to another midwife I'm friendly with ( actually the head of midwifery in another area) and she didn't seem to feel it was a great concern or that I was being radical in turning down the appointments. I believe in general most trusts aren't concerned unless BMI is above 40.
I was all for moving to Sweden until you mentioned freezing pools!

RT that must be stressful, hopefully they will get the blood results to you ASAP.

Evening all

little what a horrible midwife experience, but good for you for sticking to your guns. Your body, your way.

wilde you are very naughty and I like it. Sniffed a mulled cider tonight, however, and felt pretty damn queasy, so I think my 'treat' will have to wait a few weeks yet. But I'm with you on missing being a bit silly. My idea of fun at the moment is snuggling up in my onesie with a hot chocolate. I think i've lost the art of conversation...

As for exercise, I walk to and from the tube every day (that's like, half an hour a day) so that's something, huh? I tried yoga before and I (i) farted loudly and then (ii) pulled such a ridiculous face during a stretch that the teacher stopped to ask if I was ok.

RT sorry to hear about the nuchal worry, but as you say, you had it with your other pregnancies and they were fine. The risk is obv calculated taking everything into account so try not to worry until the bloods come back.

Easier said than done, I know.

I'm feeling really pretty lucky today as had the second scan and all was fine and healthy. They did the full nuchal screen incl bloods and my risk is tiny.

Amazing little wriggler I've got - sonographer kept having to send us away and bring us back to see if bub would change position! Hands in front of face, jumping around....incredible.

And a new due date, again....13 May.

12+4

Hi guys, have our scan tomorrow morning so please cross fingers and toes for us. The MS has been back over the last few days and I was wondering if it might be partly cos I'm stressing about the scan. Anyway, tomorrow we will know and this time I'm totally going to take a video of it on my mobile
Hope you're all feeling fine and not too queasy. If this scan goes well am going to check out pregnancy yoga in our area and extract myself from the sofa. The drop in classes I've seen advertised so far were reeeaaally expensive!

Morning
Have you all told your work you are pregnant yet?
I know I need to tell my boss but I am not sure how.
It's silly really but I am worried about his reaction. Am sure I am over thinking it but it is still stressing me out.