Laydeez!!!! Crikey what have I missed?! It's like eastenders meets river city?! With a bit of holby mixed in?! I don't watch any of these by the way, just surmising!!! 
I am back, not really been away, just not read boards since sat morn as super super busy, but have dipped in and out of FB as its easier. I'll give you a run down, but firstly, sorry but name checking is mostly out the window-phone restricted with crap reception. Remembered a few things tho so hear we go:
Scars sound sore and hopefully on the mend?
Exciting talk of buggies, our interest is in robustness and height adjustableness for DP and I like the look of 3 wheelers for my country rambles, as well as getting something that is comparable with other mainstream "stuff" SO, looking at Quinny Buzz 3. Jane Trider is close second I think.
Holy moly MrsR you have some serious stuff going on, BUT I think you have some MN friends here who have given good advice, following on in the vein of our earlier posts. I can also appreciate the views of others ref language and descriptions-I imagine it could be a combination of fear worry hurt and frustration; a defence mechanism to avoid being emotionally hurt again, as indeed I believe you are hurting already (forgive my armchair psychology).
Previous advice good, go to a solicitor, get the facts; I know you post about your house not bring in your name, however my understanding is that if you are married it doesn't matter: assets are split, equity, capital, properly, pensions etc, and not sure about laws on maintenance in England (don't think it applies in Scotland), but there are required %'s of non resident parents salary/income due when you have children for their maintenance. Someone already posted that the relationships board is a good place on here, I agree. Start making lists love, of what you want, what's important, what does your gut say, what is worst case scenario(s), what support do YOU have in RL, what are your obligations that you must commit to, what do you want from this man, and this life? You DON'T need this situation to go through life in, YOU can create another. On another tack, I may have missed the discussion, but are you any further forward with the sad stomach issues with your baby? What is the latest prognosis? On all counts, I do wish you well x
jojo I was worlds best at procrastination on the academic front-from experience go for it, it's easier to reedit what you've written, than write from scratch: I left my undergrad diss till last minute and ended up having to write it over a bank holiday weekend (10,000 words), my Masters in 10 days ( 25,000) and PhD in 6 weeks, (90,000 and all illustrations/data/charts). Total nightmare. Especially when after viva I had to do major correction whilst doing my indirect taxation training and exams in Aberdeen and travelling to Durham every weekend-I feel for you!
Very exciting Halloween talk, I am most impressed!
Congrats on all new team colour additions, thoughts are with those undergoing tests, even if not mentioned on here.
Mat B1 form, you get from midwife, and it is issued AFTER 21 weeks, yes you need it to give copy to work , or for benefits, and yes to DPs work for Pat Leave, please no one get caught out in the timing on that one, especially those ED dates timing early in feb or even jan????!
It is DSS 4th birthday this wkend, DPs mum coming (4of us in 1 bed flat?!) with cake! Also she is baby sitting Friday night so we can go see Michael MacIntyre at the AECC. Getting hair cut and coloured (!!!!) on sat, then Bonfire sat night at edzell so all good fun.
Last weekend saw sky fall (awesome) and went to good friends for dinner and stay over we've not seen them for ages, Sunday my brother came for coca cola roast gammon-not seen him for months as he works offshore and he's doing up his flat to sell, and looking at buying down near me and DP!!
Cottage refurb coming along, but the bill for roof repairs pretty steep so sold my motorbike (. 
. ). Realistically wasn't going to be using it in next 18 months i guess, and would rather have dry heids!! Kitchen goes in next week and bathroom and back lobby refurb there after, so once all the odds and sods done we are on track for getting home at end of November.
Tried to get work pinned down about mat leave, dates, pay, my role cover, and return to work. It didn't go well, HR profess not to know the answers and my line manager igniting my emails!!! I work for a large global oil exploration and production company for crying out loud!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Guess what girls, at 23 weeks tomorrow I have felt bumpy move!!! It can only be described as "flumping", and when I semi-recline, you can SEE it!!!!!! OMG how cool.
At my last (superb) weekly ante natal Relaxation class, the class leader told us she is about to do her Hypnobirthing training, so we will benefit from that in class; and, has asked if I would be interested in trialling some one on one hypno techniques and time!!!!
So, started throwing up last night at 9pm, and it continued on the hour every hour till 11:30am today, bottom end from 5 am (sorry TMI) and the sorest joints, muscles and aching body. Was worried about bumpy, DP phoned MW, it's going around, and said bump would take what it needed from me, as I was its first line of defense; prescribed full fat coke cut with boiled water, which together with paracetamol 2 hours ago seems to have worked, as no emissions in last 3 hours. OMG have NEVER been so sick, EVER!!!! 
Currently lying on sofa with a bucket, phone and 2 cats!