November 2012 - counting down the weeks

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I'm very different too. This baby is due on the first year anniversary of meeting DP
He moved in after 3 months and we met once and haven't been apart since!

Awww there are some really lovely stories of how we've met our respective DPs! I think I'm getting the third trimester endorphin boost :) but am totally loved up at the mo!

What a bunch of soppy romantics!

I have just watched yesterday's Doctor Who. Total sobfest.

oh yes Passme I cried too! :(

Met DH in France in summer of 2004, had a long distance relationship until January 2005, he then came to Belgium to move in with me. Got engaged summer of 2006 and married on 07/07/07 :)
DD1 born November 2008 :)

That's lovely Apple, good luck to you and lovely to hear others' stories too. I met DH at Uni over 15 years ago, he caught my eye but at the time I was living with my much older boyfriend (huge mistake), when we split I stayed on a friend's couch - who happened to houseshare with a lovely tall shaven-headed man, we had a 'rebound fling' and 5 years later got married! We just celebrated our 10th anniversary and had a lovely time going through photos and remembering the happy day.

And now we're finally about to have our own little family. Very glad I ended up staying on that couch!

I'm back from my scan! Had a lovely surprise - a 3D scan, for free! I got a little tearful all I really wanted to know is if baby was the right way up (down?!) and I know we had it confirmed in work last night, but DP missed out, and we had already arranged with my friend to go to where she works for it. So seemed silly not to go!

So glad I did! He's just gorgeous (to me!) I think he looks like his daddy! He is only a wee dot though! Estimted at 4lb9 at 35+1, so probably going to be 6-7lb at birth with a bit of luck! Not like my whopper of DS1!

He has been in the same hands in front of face position for every scan I've had! Even the sexing scan at 16 weeks showed him with hands in front of face! It took ages to get a face shot, little monkey! I now know what I've been feeling in my left hip bone is his arms. In front of his face . He better bloody move them for labour, I don't fancy a shattered perineum . Although it wouldn't surprise me if he enters the world with at least one by his face!

All in all, a lovely experience! Pic is on facebook! :)

I knew DP before we got together, we were friends for 6 months. I was really in to one of his friends [embarrased] but then the night before my birthday he stayed at mine with another friend, so I wouldn't wake up alone (had been separated from DS's dad for 11 months, and was my first birthday of being single!) and we were watching a film on the sofa, when he just held my hand!

3 hours later, I dragged him in to my lair bedroom, and the rest is history

Baby is due on our 3rd anniversary, the day before my birthday ;)

We have had our ups and downs, but I'd not be without him for the world! He's pretty awesome for someone as young as he is (22)! We have been engaged for over 2 years, but no plans to marry in the near future, we might one day, but will be quiet non expensive job! I resent paying money/getting in to debt for it! So will need to have enough money to save up. I also don't like being the centre of attention, so not the keenest of brides really! But one day, we'll do it!

Lovely stories :)

DP and I have been together 15 years and we may well get married eventually, but the wedding I'd like is the sort where you go off and get married and then come back and tell everyone - no fuss and no bother. And like detective I'm not really into being the centre of attention - in fact, I hate it!

Baby elephants are amongst the cutest things ever!

I hear what you are saying about the benefits YW and I think it is rotten that you may not get anything for your Mat Leave. I think there are a lot of folk who claim zero profits but charge everything to the company or pay themselves dividends. The new system should weed these out - a self employed person must earn the equivalent minimum wage full time job, or they will not get anything. This is not yet confirmed. We had many years of very little money, paying childcare, me working full time and DH studying, yet we did not qualify for a penny. He starts work, and we get benefits even though we had more money coming in. Shame he quit his PHD. I was looking forward to him earning bucket loads.

I hope those tax changes do come through - there are so many self employed folks who drive around in brand new range rovers but pay no tax and get heaps of tax credits. Don't even mention those who use the company to buy their house. Totally parasitic!

I don't know how some people sleep at night!

There are advantages and disadvantages to having a shit coloured suite. I am glad it is leather.

Oooh a reception in a barn, it sounds devine and very romantic!

This little thing has really upped it's game lately. It's always been a kicker, but since a growth spurt and not much room to kick, it just NEVER stops moving, even hubby says in a morning when I'm asleep it's going mad and making me look like alien belly.......

Discharge is really on the increase today, yuck! I've gone through about 5 panty liners so far today. Also had a bath just before but had to get out because every time I remotely lie down on my back I get horrendous braxton hicks that can get quite painful (I know they are not supposed to be painful but was told on the labour ward it could be because it's my 4th, who knows). Feeling very squashed inside now and extremely uncomfortable constantly. Bah, roll on November (this is my new motto :))

I'm sooooo tired I can no longer work 60 hour weeks......

Dh has man flu lol!!!

We've been together 10 years, married for 5.

Pass I nearly cried when the elephants were going to die!!! I am far too hormonal!!

Surely those self-employed people are taking a massive gamble? If they were ever investigated they'd surely be found liable for a huge bill?

My accountant reckons I can claim £10 a week for working from home, 50% of our broadband and the entirety of my mobile phone bill. He's said there is stuff we could get through a tax return but which could be tough to defend if I was investigated. Quite aside from how can people sleep when they're cheating the system, how do they sleep with that hanging over them?

Well, had to have a MN blackout while I was working on finishing my MA assignment, as it's just far too distracting, and I come back to a whole new thread and loads to catch up on!! Anyway, my assignment is currently printing and so I can return to the land of MN for the rest of the day, I've missed you!

Will try and catch up now!

Can anyone predict this little ones position? I get huge giant kicks/punches? Into my right hip.
Nothing at all left side of the bump at all.
I get pushing out behind my belly button and I get lots of wiggles right down in my pelvis. I looked at the spinning babies site but its all a bit confusing.

I was told by my accountant that if wanted my books audited by HMRC (something which would make me crap myself - even though I've nothing to hide, mindst walking past a police car also always makes me feel guilty) then I should go ahead and claim for a home office. But if I'd rather be left alone then it would be wiser not to claim. You've got a 10% chance each year of being audited - as you say I'd just not dare do it - I'd be a nervous wreck. I reckon if you are in the trades it's probably easier as you can do a lot more work cash in hand.

I mean don't get me wrong - I'm sick of my taxes being spent on illegal wars, civil service bureaucracy and bank bailouts - but I want to pay taxes to support what I do believe in (NHS) even if it is outweighed by the stuff I disagree with.

Waiting - what they're doing is not illegal though? In terms of companies owning houses etc. Clever accountants can sort this out. They have to know what they're doing but generally they are using loop holes in the system.

I work for the nhs!! Everything is sorted for me by hr!

Tits looking at the spinning babies workbook that sounds as though your wee one might be a complete breech or transverse? It's a bit hard to predict without knowing where you are feeling the firmness of the back or a bulge of a bum... But there's not any head down positions where you would feel the kicks into your hip I don't think...

They SHOULD be illegal though and if done too heavily it does risk being done for evasion. PAYE is a mugs game so a lot of my self employed friends tell me - they reckon because their kids go to private school and they have BUPA that they don't use public services. Hello - how about the police, army, education of your employees etc? It might not be illegal but it is entirely immoral. If everyone did it we would not have an NHS.

It's complicated horseylady and a lot of the scary cost lies with the cost of being audited. My dad was investigated and it took 7 years to clear his name and cost a fortune. He did nothing wrong but had to pay accountants to help his case. Part of the reason I joined the FSB is that they cover those costs if I'm audited and I'd only be liable for actual tax owed. As YW says, you can also help yourself by not being greedy on your tax return.

The problem is that the law keeps changing and the government can make retrospective claims. So what is a legitimate loophole today may be closed a few years down the line and you owe money. My dad sold a business and put a fair whack in trust for my brother and I in the early 90s. A decade or so later and the law on trusts changed and he had a tax bill on it. It was paid through the trust so it was manageable but what if rather than a trust it was our house?

It's perfectly legitimate but to me it's gambling.

Yw I totally agree!! I'm just saying there's policies in place which make it possible.

The government should resolve it. They don't, because they are involved with these companies!! This country is in such a mess because we have no infrastructure and we play on the stock markets with tax payees money. Our industry is based on banking we have limited manufacturing and so no real method of exporting goods.

I pay tax and ni. If I ran my own business I'd do the same.

The government won't resolve it - as you say because they are all knee deep in it. Cameron's family fortune was after all made in devising offshore tax avoidance schemes. It is one of my pet rants!!!!

Thanks YW it's bizarre the mw has marked down cephalic twice now but 4D scan said breech footling.
The bottom/back curve is always on my right, quite far right too.
Luckily I have a scan on the 12th Oct, hopefully shed some light!