Awww congrats apple - lovely news! We were a bit boring really - knew each other for two years at work before getting together, as a classy bird I dragged him back to mine the first drunken night out 
, I moved to Scotland after 2 months (I'd had this planned) so we were long distance for a few months before he moved up to Scotland - we moved in together six months in, he proposed after a year, married a year later and baby due a year after that! And to be honest he's been a pure delight since we met (nauseous I know).
apple I don't know what your budget is but we were paying for our wedding ourselves - and we did fish and chips and an ice cream van for catering - it was wicked!!!! And meant we could invite far more people than we could have afforded to a formal sit down three course job. Also the kids eyes' nearly popped out when the ice cream van turned up (playing the wedding march on its chimes) and they could have whatever toppings they wanted. As bride I got to queue jump 
. We also cut costs by having my dress made by a pal, hiring a barn from a local charity for the reception and decorating it ourselves. Which both families helped with - making bunting, hanging fairy lights, making table decs (lavender plants planted in tin cans) etc. Oh and a pal's band did the ceilidh. All in all it meant we could have an amazing do for over 120 people and not get into debt. I highly recommend a cheap do as the least stressful start to married life. My MIL was a bit 
about the chipper van - but loved it in the end and is v proud that folks still talk about it.
I don't know who said about the benefits and being lucky to be a higher rate tax payer. I know that's right but after we both missed out on free higher education by one year, child benefit by a year - and no doubt will also miss out on pensions etc by a similar margin - it does grate. Especially when DH has worked so hard to earn what he does - think 10 years in poverty doing his degree, masters and PhD - so a lot of hard work rather than just luck. We pay over £3k a month in Ni and income tax and even though I am a freelance - I never avoid a penny in tax as I value our welfare state and realise for it to be there - someone has to pay for it. But to pay that much money and get nada is pissy - I'm not even entitled to maternity pay and will only be entitled to MA if this wee one doesn't turn up early. What does make me fume is those families who get shit loads of tax credits, but where the DH's business always seems to make £0 profit every year so they don't have to pay any tax. My view is - if you take money out of the system - you should be prepared to put money in. If we all just took and didn't contribute there would be zero benefits. Those who take but don't give are killing the welfare state and ruining it for everyone. Higher rate tax payers aren't all evil bankers - my DH is a marine biologist working with the wave and tidal energy industry.
Nervous I am minded to put you on the naughty step - I was convinced you were away having your baby. Am so glad all is fine. You might just have a nice chilled wee fraggle who likes to sleep - let's hope they keep those habits after birth!!!!!!
Does anyone elses bub kick like mad in bright sunshine?