March 2013 VI: cooking, crocheting and chit-chat

[theTramp]

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And on with the conversation

Gummi - loving the sound of yoga bean :) And a girly Tom boy I could def cope with. I'm a pretty chilled even runnings kind of a gal as is MrM (I look like an emotional roller coaster next to him) and I deal with almost everyone pretty well but I do keep worrying about having a child I'll clash with personality wise. Of all the worries probably the least worrisome. But worry I do. I suppose I just want to be a cool Mum and not an angry shouty one.

JoJo - hello! So pleased you're feeling a bit more with it. Roll on more healing.

Manda - gosh book goes Monday. Try not to fret too much, it does sound like you have all in hand. Can you book in a rewrding treat for yourself on Tuesday - a "all done wahoo!" treat? Get your nails done or some reflexology maybe. That would def sort out some of the aches & pains.

I'm sure I've missed loads because I've just woken up and am phone scrolling so brains a bit fuddled. Im trying to decide between a domestic day or work - think I need to work but domestic stuff is looking pretty desperate too. Anon as they say. Have lovely Saturday's whatever you are doing.

Ps. Ballet class - cool!

I'll put a ballet pic on the fb page.

Great news on the book manda will be a massive relief I bet!

Slightly concerned as boiler has just started making a bit of a funny noise....(actually a bit like a heartbeat noise!?!) Just whilst DH is away, great. Will need to keep an eye/ear on it I think. Praying it does not break down, it's only 3.5 years old!

Ethel - it may just be coping with temperature change or have some air in the system.

So I am going to share on here as well as clothes thread. I bought a bump support slip, well two - one black and one nude - from ASOS, because I like wearing slips and I figured additional support would come in handy and I am v pleased with them. www.asos.com/ASOS-Maternity/ASOS-Maternity-Exclusive-Seamfree-Dress-With-Support-For-The-Perfect-Bump/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=2329239&cid=5813&sh=0&pge=0&pgesize=200&sort=-1&clr=Nude

At £28 each not the cheapest underwear items in the world, but as I will prob wear every day that I am wearing a dress (so most days) I think on a cost per wear basis a bargain.

Manda great news about the book!
Tramp I share your worries about personality - not so much gender, but I do worry I'll have a child I don't understand / can't handle - beginner's nerves!!
Ethel I went to Santorini, it was lovely - 5th wedding anniversary trip

Lexi - pleased I'm not alone on that one!

I'll check for ballet pic on FB

Oh I haven't been there, but i want to!!!!

Greetings marchers one and all! Relaxation class so good I fell asleep and woke myself up snoring, the other woman there had drooled all over her cardi........ it was an hour, every fri afternoon just body part relaxation as a midwife follows a read aloud script about tending and relaxing muscle groups and breathing to a relaxing CD.

Sounds like there are some idiot folk out there commenting on preg status and gender stuff, it extends to other things too, people seem to think its open season when you have a bun and can comment on whatever aspects of your life they like! Give 'em laldy as they say, and I like the "healthy" response, I'll be using that, as we are team yellow (but I want to know!)

Flooring fitters at the cottage, progress on the whole project started! And finally chosen kitchen and bits, just splash back and lights to choose but need input from sparky for that. At B&Q waiting for DP to finish his teaching session (broom brooms) to use the 20% offer to get as much in store to takeaway items as possible for bathroom etc. one day it'll all be done........!!!

Hope everyone's day has been tip top tastic x

Hmmm DH has come home with a vivarium as he has apparently told DS1 he can get a beard dragon for his 10th birthday- omg I hate weird animals so not overly impressed!!!
DS 1 is at nannies tonight as my little brother is 12 so they love spending time together and it's not really a nephew/ uncle relationship!

Was missing my nan earlier so in the good old Irish fashion am boiling a massive ham to serve with potatoes and cabbage- smells amazing and am starving waiting for it- it's just gone in oven with honey glaze :) DH also bought me some maternity clothes which is nice and was a lovely surprise as I actually love them all- his training is working, lol!

Oh zoey our neighbour has a bearded dragon- they walk it on a little lead! It always makes me giggle. Ds is fascinated!

Thanks for all your support yesterday. Went into town this morning, didn't get back till 4 and was so knackered I had to take myself to bed for the last couple of hours. Bliss! Dh has offered to cook dinner, bless him, but I don't want to add food poisoning to my list of woes! Am definitely thinking about getting someone in to help with done of the cleaning and ironing - I've even asked one of the other mums in the village if her cleaner gas some spare time but I'm very worried about money at the moment!

lexi santorini sounds lovely! Must haven been very relaxing.

manda good luck with the book going in!

Hello to everyone else! Apologies for not name checking more.

Definitely up for a meet up in the York area! Will be nice to meet some of you!

On the topic of gender- I was secretly a bit

Oh too quick!!

I was secretly a bit when I was handed a boy. I thought I was a girly girl and worried I would have nothing in common with my son. However.... The reality has been amazing. Ds has lived up to being a very boisterous boy but I have had an inner Tom boy released and its fab! I feel like he's taught me so much about myself (yes that sounds soppy!) but he's been such a breath if fresh air in my life. I am going to find out this time because I genuinely have no preference and just want to be able to bond with/prepare for baby. I'm not telling anyone in RL though as they can just wait!

Righty, I'd better get out of bed and do some cooking!

ethel I'm hoping to be in York from 6th oct until 25th jan. aiming to be in abz 3 weeks before my due date - all being well.
em would be great to meet with you too!!

Today has been another eventful one, I was hoping for a discharge from the hospital but ended up vomiting, despite the anti emetics I'd been given this morning and it was such a painfully horrific experience I ended up sobbing whilst grabbing my stomach hoping I'd not torn any stitches!! The doctors had to check mr over and despite all of my vitals being fine I'm in another night.
Still have got a new bunch of ladies to chat to tonight so it never gets boring!!
We heard the heartbeat again today, oh was here too so it was his first time hearing it which was a nice relief for him!!
I'm finding it a bit easier to move about now it's just the first movement in the morning when I've seized up overnight that I find the worst!!

Ah JoJo sorry to hear you are still feeling awful, hope you can escape tomorrow!
Em it was lovely and relaxing. Glad to hear you are having a good day today.
I've been off to Pilates - we had a new teacher who was a bit strange and full on - class was good and effective but her manner reminded me of a posh but loopy drama teacher I had at school! Not quite what I want and not so relaxing!
Apart from that have been gardening and about to cook supper. Very impressed with all you doing house projects; we are supposed to be having a loft extension but battling with building control before we have even started and the whole thing is making me rather nervous. But it will be lovely to have the extra space once it's done....

Newyearsday thanks for that. Sorry cross posted earlier! Thats really handy, i'm going to have a look around. I bought the VBAC Handbook from Amazon and saw quite a few HBAC stories in there and the women seem to be a lot freer than in the hospital 'system' ie they don't have deadlines for each stage etc, and the deadlines are the thing that is worrying me mainly. I even asked the MW if you would ever be allowed to labour at home with community midwife support (monitoring, pain relief etc) but with the agreement to transfer in for the actual delivery but that doesn't seem to be an option either. I'll see what I can find out around here anyway.

Zoey that pet sounds ...interesting! Love the idea of a reptile pet on a lead just strolling down to the park or something :)

Tramp think you sound like you're going to be a really cool mum!

Jojo FX for a good night tonight and a discharge tomorrow.

Sorry your in another night Jojo but glad you have some company :) also fab news that baby is perfectly well and by now all anaesthetics are out ur systems so you can look forward to recovering and enjoying the rest of your pregnancy stress free :) at least in hospital you can be checked over if your sick or anything again I have fx you won't

Dinner was amazing and we now have enough left over ham to feed the whole road with left overs- DH is excited about the sandwich and cracker possibilities he has, it's a hard core Saturday night in the Lucas house hold, lol! Been in my pjs for an hour already!!!

My boys are such different personalities which I totally love and know this one will be its own little person and bring another dimension to our house and family!

Lord I'm shattered! Long day. So we were away for dinner with MrMs brothers wife's brother & wife and their lively two kids tonight. Just home now & MrMs away reading about the bloody Ryder cup. He's completely sloshed & all chuffed Dad to be. He's not a particularly expressive person so it's dead cute to see. I've had my belly surreptitiously rubbed several times this eve, the big softy.

I will catch up properly tomorrow but it sounds like everyone had a good Saturday bar JoJo who is in hospital another night, you poor thing. Hearing babies heartbeat is lovely though - and three cheers for other ladies on the ward to chat to.

Right I'm giving up on MrM and am turning out the lights (yawn) g'night.

Wow 1.39am Tramp! I never see past 10pm, I'll be found drooling on the sofa wherever I am at 10pm :)

Had a gorgeous autumnal day yesterday, took DH out for elevenses at a local village. It's a bit of a weird village, it's based around a massive Hall and all the houses and little shops are owned by the Hall. You can walk round and pop in to people's houses and they've set up little shops, so there's a 1940s sweet shop, a knick knack shop and a candlemakers. There's a big cafe in a converted barn and a duck pond and its all really lovely. DH had never been to the sweet shop there so took him and it was just so nice to see him relax a bit and BabyBoo was wiggling about loads. Of course I ruined it all by throwing a huge tantrum when we got home but hopefully I'm forgiven now. We're going to see Anna Karenina today and out for tea to celebrate our wedding anniversary as I couldn't eat anything on the actual anniversary day!

So glad to see you on here JoJo though it must have been horrible to be sick at least you were in the right place and got to hear the heartbeat. Sending you get well soon vibes x

Am I bad to be secretly hoping for one gender over the other? Obviously I would love either more than I can imagine and most importantly I want BabyBoo to be healthy, but I think maybe I'm not the most motherly of people and I don't want to be like my mum was with me. She was always telling me that I shouldn't attempt things because I wouldn't be good at them and she concentrated on teaching me sewing and embroidery and cooking, I'm very grateful to have those skills but can't help thinking I would have done a lot more with my life had I been encouraged to give things a go. I think maybe if I had a boy I wouldn't compare my upbringing up with his and wouldn't be quite as critical. I don't know, we're only planning on one DC and I want to get it as right as I can!

Hermione they are all natural worries, same as tramp, we all think of things from our childhood and think we are not going to do that, we can only do our best, and it does come,
I've tried all different things and know what works for me, I have to watch my shouting as I came from a very shouty household, I had to work hard at that and feel I've got right now, hardly ever shout, just a raised voice occasionally when dcs decide to push things.
I had meant to say Tramp, its really amazing the different personalities of our little ones, and my dd1 and I can rub each other up the wrong way something shocking, I've learnt to see it before it gets bad and get dh to step in and deal with whatever is going on, I don't need to do it with the other 2.
I really think you need to be on the same page as your OH when it comes to any decisions got to do with your dc.

I know a couple of kids who run the house because their parents don't follow through on warnings or one parent totally over rides the others decisions.

Ladies, just marking my spot. I'm sooooo going to catch up with you all later! Happy Sundays! xx

Place marking too!

Hermione - I'll be honest I'm not sure how I managed to stay awake for so long, I've a feeling I'll be snoozing by 7pm tonight in recompense.

Also - on the repeating mistakes and not comparing upbringing.. I think if anything if you're aware of these things then you won't. I'm v lucky because my parents are just fab. Didn't stop me from being a bitch for 5 years - mostly because my bro and I are chalk & cheese and when he came along I was not best chuffed. We get on pretty well now, but I was nearly 30 before we started to work at getting on as people & not just be siblings. Must have been rough on my patents. Anyway - what Gummi said basically rings true to me & is I think at the heart of what worries me. I think MrM and I will sort through it and I'm self aware enough to not turn into shouty Mum but thinking and doing aren't one and the same and at the moment, like you, being a good Mum is basically what most worries me.

Busy day of eating today. First brunch then Sunday lunch/dinner with friends. Fantastic because I don't have to cook. Wahoo!

Will be getting home today :) whoopee!!
Felt ill again this morning so the doctor wasn't sure but I explained that its morning sickness and if that's the only thing stopping her then I'd be here for weeks so she said I could make the decision to go home as long as I have support! Probably won't get out until mid afternoon as the meds take ages to arrive and I need to practice self injecting the blood thinner but YEEEEEEEEEEEY!

Hello, ladies. I'm a bit rubbish at cooking, but I can manage crocheting and chit-chat. Can I insinuate myself into the gang? First baby's due on March the 8th, and I don't really know anyone else pregnant to talk to about things.

Hello stormy how is the pregnancy progressing so far??!

Welcome Stormy. The more the merrier here, and there do seem to be a lot of us. Personally I loose track of who's who but folk don't tend to mind!

JoJo Glad to hear they are letting you home. Self injecting doesn't sound fun, but hey, a new skill!

Were you on anti emetics before going into hopsital for the Op? I know there are a few ladies on here who are on anti emetics but don't remember who. Just wondering how people have found them and how bad they were before getting them? I'm really fed up of the sickness now and have MW appointment tomorrow morning so wondering about if I should push for something to help with the sickness. DH says I've seemed a bit better this week, and some days I think I have (even managed not to be sick so far today yipee) but I still feel sick so much of the time and it's so wearing. It's not improved significantly and I was rid of it by this point last time round (plus it was not close to as bad as this any way). 17 + 4 today. Whinge over. Any advice welcome!

Better dash, just spotted DS trying to post play pizza toppings down his nappy...

flowery I'm 20 weeks today, still nauseous and vomiting intermittently. I wasn't on anti emetics before the op but they have me a tablet on the first morning as fasting doesn't help nausea!!
During the op they injected me with something for nausea too so I wasn't vomiting when I woke and I've had one every morning since!!
I have a choice of two to take, the first one I tried you put in the top of the gum between top lip and gum and leave it there and it's absorbed slowly. The other one is a bitter pill which you just swallow. I prefer the bigger pill, it seems to work faster for me so it has really heled. I'm not sure ill be sent home with any though!!