March 2013 VI: cooking, crocheting and chit-chat

[theTramp]

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And on with the conversation

Welcome Stormy! We're very good at chitchat so you'll fit right in :)

Amazing news JoJo so glad you get to go home today.

Thanks for your reassurance Tramp and Gummi, I think I'll keep an eye on myself, DH comes from a very encouraging family (it went the other way with his younger sisters and they believe that anything is possible, they come across as a bit naive sometimes) and he knows my concerns so I'm sure he'll look out for me too! I've also got a short temper which he helps me with, when we babysat our nieces and the youngest was acting up all I had to do was look at him and leave the room and he just took over while I calmed down. My BIL and SIL have loads of problems with their youngest because one undermines the other the whole time, it's easy to see when you're on the outside looking on though isn't it? At least these are all things I'm aware of so can look out for them, I'm sure ill fail in some other way but I can always try my best not to mess up completely :)

flowery I was put on anti emetics as I couldn't keep fluid down and was getting dehydrated, tbh the anti emetics have done nothing to help. I had the ones you dissolve under your top lip and the only time I've had one dissolve completely it did stop me being sick for 3 hours but the nausea didn't stop. To be fair I was told that the anti emetics don't always work and I was only put on one type (it does say in the notes not to take the ones I was prescribed whilst pregnant so I was told to only take one per day) so I haven't really given them a chance. I've also never done very well with any medication either so it may have been partly me not believing the anti emetics would work! I understand how tiring ms is, especially when you've had so many weeks with it, I'd def ask your MW about anti emetics. Hope your MW doesn't just say you have to battle through it like the ambulance man said to me, not the most useful thing he could have said!

Welcome stormy

I've just had my gender scan and we're having a DD She was waving her arms and legs around all over the place and holding on to the cord, it was so lovely.

Will catch up now!

This is a busy thread, isn't it? Wasn't expecting so many welcomes quite so quickly!

JoJo, it's going pretty well so far. Obviously I've no previous pregnancies to compare to, but all this talk of anti-emetics is reminding me just how lucky I've been so far - I've only thrown up once. Feel free to start mentally throwing darts at my face. :)

Sheldonella, that's brilliant! It must be so exciting to know what you're having. I still have nearly four weeks until the next scan. Who knew time could take so long to pass? Were you hoping for a girl? (Are we allowed to hope for one or the other, or do we just have to hope for human and healthy?)

Welcome stormy, we have 3 teams on this thread, team blue a couple know already, team pink shelf are you the first, oh rainbow did you find out, and team yellow for those of us who are pretending we are being patient to wait, but I like endulging in theories to see which is true at end.

Sheld I mean my phone changed it and won't let me go back and fix

Place marking! Just had a depressing day at a very busy Westfield feeling enormous in the changing rooms! Didn't manage to buy anything. All the maternity wear on offer was very frumpy

Happy Sunday everyone & I hope you are now home and feeling better JoJo

gummi there was a theory on the ward we were discussing with the midwives. When listening to the heartbeat on Doppler or trace. If it sounds like a horse galloping its a girl and if it dounds like a train it's a boy!! Obviously more old wives tales but the MW thought I was def a galloping horse. I have everything crossed for team pink :) rainbow did find out she is having another DD but wants to be team rainbow not team pink!!

With the heartbeat thing jojo the missive was certain I was having a girl but if you have seen the FB picture he couldn't be more a boy if he tried, lol!!!
Well DS is home and playing with his dragon thing and decided on calling it rocky- freaks me outit even being in my house!

Have had an awful day, felt crap and was sick twice this morning then DH drove to toys r us and got there and was sick by the car twice right outside the front of the shop- so many people saw and was so blinking embarrassed but there was nothing I could do!!!! Still feel rubbish so am laying on sofa feeling sorry for myself

Bit of advice jojo on clexane injections- do it sat down and NEVER rub it afterwards as you will bruise really badly- I have been on them since 2002 and have had a few mishaps including sneezing with the needle in and bending it, lol,

zoey the MW gave me the same advice re the rubbing! I have some mighty fine bruises on my thigh. Took me ages to pluck up the courage to jab myself today it has quite an after sting so its quite tempting to give it a rub, she was so patient though!

In your thigh???? I do belly as it hurts less as can grab some fat :)

JoJo glad you can go home! And awww at Sheldon and your little DD. Can't wait for the 20 week scan!
Welcome stormy

I'm hoping someone with LOs can help me with this stupid question - we've been given a moses basket and a cotbed for free (yeay!) from a friend, and I've been thinking about bedding. I like the idea of the little baby sleeping bags - if I get those, am I right in thinking I then need new mattresses, sheets and possibly a blanket or two for cold nights? Or do I need a quilt as well? Can you use them in a Moses basket? It's all quite confusing!

Congratulations sheldonella on your dd! Great news. I am sooo at those of you who've already know what you're having!!

Sorry for those of you still feeling pukey. Not fun. Banging headache all day here, cracked and took some paracetamol in the end which has really helped. Not much else to report though. Just packed all of our garden things into the garage for winter. Ds not too impressed to see his little climbing frame dismantled! Cooking roast chicken now before an early night. Not so much kicking from LO today which I hate but too early for kick counting and worrying.

Anyway better run! Need to Hoover the bedroom before my roasties start burning!!

Lexi even if you don't use a sleeping bag, you don't use quilts on babies, just layers of blankets, so Yeap, New matress, sheets and blankets

So have we 2 definite girls and 2 definite boys or 3 boys, its exciting

lexi lots of sleeping bags are 9lb or even 11lb upwards so check before using with a newborn,

zoey I haven't been told not to inject in my belly but i am becoming less flabby in that area so I'll stick with thigh I think!! I have quite chunky thighs anyway!!
It took me ages the worst park is the initial 'prick' then it just feels like a pin cushion! I really didn't want to have to do these but it's only for a week :)
lexi I'm planning on using the sleeping bags you can get some low tog ones for newborns but I think in the beginning I'm going to use blankets!

To any of you bargain savvy... Where is the best place to buy bio oil (big bottles) I'm looking for best value really. My scar has to grow with my bump so I need to keep if supple - though wont be touching it got a couple of weeks :)

Thanks guys - am starting to make lists of what we need and it's so confusing :)

Hi all and welcome to stormy!

Jojo, great news on being discharged. You have my sympathy on the self injecting; I had to do it for 5 days after DD was born and I ended up just shutting my eyes and jabbing it in my thigh each time! not very precise, that's for sure!

Great news on DD sheldon! I have another 4 weeks to wait til my scan, so I am really looking forward to my mw appt a week on Friday. Have been feeling a bit anxious about lack of bump and not really feeling any movements, but I'm not even 16 weeks so I guess I should stop stressing. I just am panicking I guess that I've had another MMC. so, can't wait to see midwife and hopefully get some good news. fingers crossed.

Stayed with our friends in Barnsley last night and they looked after DD for me this aft so I could go shopping in peace! Went to meadowhall and bought some pjs, vests, a couple of smarter tops and tried on some jeans as well. All in all a fruitful trip!

Hope you've all had a fun weekend.

Jojo try amazon. Think I bought some there and it was good value.

We used sleeping bags for DD from fairly early on until well after her 2nd birthday. Would highly recommend, they were brilliant! If you have a TK Maxx near you they get them in sometimes and the grobag ones are half the normal RRP. might buy a couple of the grobag swaddle things though for the first few weeks with this DC. They look good I think for new borns.

JoJo Big bottles of Bio oil are about £10 on amazon compared to about £20 in boots and the like.

We've found sleeping bags great. Used blankets for first few weeks as DS was pretty small when first born and as someone said, they're normally not quite from birth weight so more like a few weeks in. Actually, bought a swandling cloth (only Mothercare own, nothing posh have seen some beautiful merino wool ones in a little baby butique shop I fancied) today. Never managed to swadle DS and never sure if it was just because I couldn't managae it in a normal blanket or sheet or if he just hated it. My Sis did try having done it with her kids and failed so maybe it was just him, but so many people think swaddling really helps in first few weeks I thought I'd get the proper kit to try with this time!

JoJo would your OH be willing to give you the injections? I have daily heparin injections which my DH gives me and it is so much easier than doing it yourself - also found I bruise much less because he does it in a very precise way which I just wouldn't be able too myself. Glad all went well with your op for you and your LO.

gummi yes found out we are having our second DD but as JoJo say we are team rainbow as we dislike colour coding of genders. Ironically historically for the Victorians it was the other way round as they thought pink was the stronger colour and was therefore the colour for boys while blue was the gentler colour so was the colour for girls - so makes very little sense either way! Generally, I am always quite alarmed when looking at clothes and other items for baby girls at just how much conditioning they experience from day one with so much emphasis on pink and 'princess' so we are doing our very best to make sure this is avoided as much as possible for our LO, including gender teams!

Welcome Stormy.

JoJo - fantastic news on going home, you must be chuffed. I hope you haev someone there to be your gmfmcm (get me, fetch me, carry me) :)

Rainbow - the colour things is v true, re Victorian was t'other way around. However they have subsequently proven that girls are more attracted to colours in the red shades and to pink than boys. They tested with girls from China where all children wear same colours and there is no gender bias. It was a New Scientist article a few years ago - stuck in my mind. Anyway, I agree with you, the level of gender conditioning is seriously OTT and very hard to avoid. I think the idea of a team rainbow is a nice one. That said, I am going with a pirate theme regardless of gender - Yargh!

I'm shattered. Had fab day. Brunch with friends - so another announcement. Then sunday dinner with other friends, which was delicious, but from 2pm to 8pm is a long ole day. Tomorrow I am up at ten to six, to get cab to Euston, to get train to Manchester for workshop and then back again at three. Just thinking about it is exhausting me. YAWN.

Another vote for sleeping bags here. We swaddled ds in a thin blanket until he was about 7 weeks and the used them, first in his Moses basket and then in his cot bed. I confess I have put a little extra blanket on him on very cold nights- which is technically a no-no but he seemed a bit cold and I guess no harm has come to him!

On gender colours - to add to the history the pink for boys came from the fact that red was the colour worn by soldiers- therefore reds and pink were considered very masculine. My DM was very anti the whole pink thing and I hated it! I just wanted to be like the other little girls and have pink girly stuff! Think I had a rebellion and spent the next 20-odd years bring very girly and wearing lots of pink!! Having said that IMO there is a horrifying amount of gender stereotyping for young children out there now as anyone has ever tried to buy a kitchen set for a toddler will realise! (Thank god for ikea!)

Hope you're home safe and snug jojo - sorry you have to inject yourself.

Good luck with your travels tomorrow tramp.

Hello to everyone else!! Off to bed for me now. Another week begins... (But hopefully a week closer to our babies!)

Loving the baby gender colour history! Congratulations shel and rainbow on your dd's. How exciting, and can't remember who else found out so sorry if I missed you. My dd looks lovely in reds and pinks but sadly like her mother has a skin tone that doesn't quite pull off yellows and oranges (a fact i'll let her find out for herself later on and until then just subtly choose other colours!) When she wears blues and greens people think she's a boy. So though a usual outfit for her would be dungarees I usually top her off with a pink top or a flower hair clip. This saves the awkward exchanges with old ladies in sainsburys asking 'how old is HE' but is also partly so that dd doesn't look back in photos later on and judge me (as I do my own mum ) Most things seem to get messed up with food or whatever within minutes anyway so its a pretty thankless task!

Welcome stormy hope you're enjoying thread so far!

em I love that IKEA kitchen! Am toying (haha) with idea of getting it, we have the first pans and some of the cloth food already.

zoey hope you get used to rocky quickly and that he doesn't prove too much hassle.

Need to sleep now as have work tomorrow - an additional day as I only did two of my three days last week. Hope everyone sleeps well x

Cor I've missed loads of messages! Briefest of catch-ups ?

Ethel I have had to got to the theatre a lot for work over the years and I rarely go for pleasure nowadays (awful, I know!) but if I was a Yorkie I'd come for a show! Hope boiler's behaving? Well done on shopping.

Pink I hate Westfield! I can never find the exit?!

Big thanks for all the positive thoughts re book! I have done nothing on it today so I'm a day behind (what an idiot!) but I think I did too much with my mammoth day yesterday. Today we did DIY shopping (chose colours for the nursery, and other stuff) and then I wrote two proposals for conference papers and then replied to all my new OU students who've written to introduce themselves. So, I've not been slacking but the book is - eek! - not finished enough to go tomorrow!!! Bugger?

Tramp love the idea of a reward/treat for book! I do like the idea of reflexology - think I may pursue that, thank you!

JoJo's home - YAY!

Stormy - welcome!

Sheldon hurrah for your wavy baby girl!

Tramp love pirate theme! As does DH who has a pirate tin lunchbox (I kid you not). Hope Manchestohh treats you well tomorrow.

Chefette ha re snoring!!! Not quite as bad as farting during the Downward Dog in yoga, hehe! Thanks to you we got 20% off our rather big B&Q spend today - my DH v. happy!

Hermione there are parts of my upbringing that I'm desperately hoping not to replicate too?all we can do is the best we can in the circumstances. You'll be fab in a million ways!

Em glad you're feeling brighter and trying to find some practical help, money permitting. Even two hours every two weeks might make a big difference.

Gummi love the yoga baby!! Hurray for scan

Zoey like your nostalgia cooking Vomiting outside the shop not so good ? poor you!

Newyears I had no idea that fallopian tubes waved around! Thought they were stuck to ovaries. This whole preggo business is great for my biological knowledge!

BEDTIME! See you all tmrw