Here come the PESH - over 3 years of hard fought baby wins!

[HaveALittleFaith]

The Not-list:

BESH BAYBEES

dontrythisathome, girl born March 25 2010.
Cheggers, twinz girlz, born April 2010.
FannyPriceless, boy, born June 8 2010.
CurlyCasper, girl, born June 24 2010.
CUNextTuesday, boy, born June 29 2010.
AlpinePony, boy, born 1 July 2010.
Carrots, boy, born July 2010.
IggyPiggy, girl, born July 2010.
Cosmosis, boy, born Sept 5 2010.
Backinthebox, boy, born Sept 7 2010.
Skatergrrrl, girl, born Sept 10 2010.
VAG, boy, born Oct 2 2010.
Silversky, boy, born Nov 1 2010.
SomethingSuitablyWitty, girl born Nov 2 2010.
Honeymoo, boy, born Nov 11 2010.
okiecokie, girl, born Nov 12 2010.
ReginaMonologue, boy, born Nov 13 2010.
Lightspaperstandback, boy, born Nov 14 2010.
Maswera, boy, born Dec 24 2010.
PollyPoo, girl, born Jan 5 2011.
MrsFC, boy, born Jan 7 2011.
ChoChoSan, girl, born 6 Feb 2011.
Ginhag, boy born 11 Feb 2011.
Muser, girl, born 15 Feb 2011.
CluckyKate, boy, born 18 Feb 2011.
Perfect Dromedary, boy, born 23rd February 2011.
Casserole, girl, born 19th March 2011.
Medee, girl, born 26th March 2011.
StiffyByng, girl, born 17th May 2011.
Scorpette, boy, born 21st May 2011.
Rocketleaf, girl, born 23rd May 2011.
TwinkleToes, girl, born 7th June 2011.
Laurielou, boy, born 9th June 2011.
Orchid, girl, born 24th June 2011.
Ginfox, loving the new mega-boobs, due 12th July.
LadyGoneGaga, girl, born 24 July 2011.
Mrbitey, boy, born 29th July 2011.
Macaroonmum, boy, born 28th July 2011.
Owlbooty, boy, born 18th August 2011.
Ocarina, girl, born 6th September 2011.
Mountie, boy, born 27th August 2011.
Truffkin, boy, born 25th November 2011.
Islegrin, boy, born 14th December 2011.

Need dates:

BarbiesBeaver, can't quite believe it, due Christmas Day
BrownB, Baybee passport-grabbing bitch, due 22nd January 2012
AlpinePony, Greedy Double-Esh Baybee Boy Grabbing Bitch, due 19th Feb 2012
Rollerbaby, No pink here, expecting boy due March 20th 2012
KitandKat, third time lucky baybee, due 12th April 2012
IveBeenExpectingYou (CockDodger), A very active baby girl, due March 28th 2012
Silver, hoping for an easier sneeze, due mid-July 2012
Starryeyedmole, regretting recently investing in scales

cakeandcava (32), approaching walrus proportions, DC1 EDD 21/10/12
blonderthanred (36), no sugar I'm sweet enough, DC1 EDD 6/11/12
FriendofDorothy (36) DC1 EDD 16/12/12
LauraPalmer (38) DC1 EDD 9/2/13
Queenrollo (37) DC2 EDD 10/2/13
CamelKnees (34) fat and fatigued DC2 EDD 22/04/2013
HaveALittleFaith (31), head down toilet, DC1 EDD 26/4/13
fertilityFTW (34), weepy and whiny, DC 1 EDD 21/5/13

Welcome to our new home! :)

Thank you for the fish Faith, I am feeling a bit better. Just suddenly got convinced I wasn't going to be able to look after the baybee. I think having a row with my mum made me feel a bit crap and useless. I know I'm very lucky to have her around and have such a close relationship with my family but we can get a bit touchy with each other.

TBI has been to buy his hospital supplies - 8 cereal bars and 3 packs of extra strong mints! Hard to believe the baybee will be here in less than 2 weeks. No wonder I'm having a meltdown. For some reason having the cot and all the baby stuff made it seem less instead of more real, like I was playing at being a grown-up.

Cake I have bought some RLT and a kind MN-er sent me some clary sage to help bring on the labour, v effective apparently. We could still have twins!

ps I remember Rat Race but I can't think how it worked.

I think we all have that's thought blonde! actually I don't really think much about having a baybee yet, I need to see it first! Mums are great and awful in varying measure. Obviously I miss mine a lot but she was no saint! Some things I recall her saying and I want to turn round and say No, you're wrong! For example, she was quite funny when my BIL's sister (if you get me) had an MMC. She said effectively how ridiculous, her symptoms would have diminished. Now I know a lot more, I know she's wrong. It's an MMC - even the body hasn't realised so you continue to get symptoms! For some reason I want to correct her! I do get that love you/you drive me mad dynamics! :)

Rat race - you all own a business with spaces on the board. You start on graduation day, work your way round lower class warming money and buying status symbols. When you get enough (or a society marriage!) you move up to middle class and then again to higher society! You earn money by selling status symbols to the other players. You can play on the stock exchange and go to the race track to win more money. There's a set financial target and the first one to reach it and declare wins. Tis awesome!

Rat Race is a great game which often comes out at Christmas in our house, along with a truly awful game called Masterpiece!

The main game that we play is Scrabble though!

Ah yes I remember RR now. These days we play Scrabble too, and card games usually. This Christmas might be a bit different though! We are planning to host it here which may feel a bit strange as we haven't had it here since my Nan was alive (I live in what was my grandparents' house). Hopefully it will be the start of a new era, with new traditions and happy memories to be made.

How are you getting on back at work today Faith? Any news re spotting & scan? Thinking of you.

Hello. Work is...hard work! It's so busy and I really don't luff this type of work :( been asked to consider moving wards too, something to consider. MSB rang about scan (no time for me!) and they can't fit me in so its wait til Wed. At least I'm days off.

Sorry they can't fit you in sooner. Has the spotting stopped or eased since you started the new antibiotics?

Hope you're enjoying some feet-up time now Faife. How are the antibiotics treating you? Looking forward to hearing about the scan on Wed -not long now.

I'm having a bit of a tired-and-fed-up moment...

I gave my first MN cookie tonight. She deserved it.

*biscuit (sometimes I forget I'm in England...)

Who to who to?

Ooh linky please msP!

No more spottage since Saturday night - about 12 hours spotting in total. Antibiotics seem to be helping. Doesn't give a seating pain when I pee anymore - I really should have realised that was wrong, shouldn't I?! Put it down to constipation

Bit pissed off that a colleague congratulated me on my pregnancy. No idea who told her, she 'forgot' who....love the idea of people talking about me behind my bank, especially with the scare on Saturday not I told her I wasn't announcing yet and asked her not to say anything and if she remembered who told her to tell them to keep their mouths shut! :) Grr.

I don't know how to link on my phone! It was a non step-parent who started a Step-Parenting thread to bitch about her exH and his DW who've just had a baby. The woman was bitter and sad wanted things both ways - a hands-off step-mum who treats the DSC's like her own children. So the step-parent is yet again in that all-too-familiar position of dammed if she does, damned if she doesn't.

Much more importantly, I'm so glad there's not been any more spotting Faife! And only one more sleep til your scan.

Yes only 29 hours to go! :)

I can imagine that would rile you LauraP! Sad to say its all too common :( I don't think any Step Mum wants to 'replace' a child's mother but to have a positive relationship. It's sad that divorce/separation causes bitterness to the point of people not bring able to be happy when their OH's move on :(

laura if it's the thread i'm thinking of I gave up reading it at the point it became obvious the father was a selfish, misogynistic twunt who left the s/mum to do all the childcare.

I'm SO fed up. Lots of things all adding up.

Hellooooooooooooooo
So sorry for going AWOL. Have had a horrendous time. Baby still in there but possible complications. Still waiting fir some results but feeling a little better. At work on my phone so won't do the full essay now but promise I'll be back later.
Hope all well

ooo hello camel sorry to hear you've been having a grotty time though.

I've just had my flu jab. The nurse was lovely, she even let me sit down . Really...it's so long since I had a jab, and that was SO painful....but the nurse said 'you'll feel a sharp scratch' and I was waiting for that and then she said 'you can go now'.....all done in about 4 seconds.

Hope the whooping cough jab will be the same....

Oh camel I am sorry to hear of the possible complications. I hope everything's ok. And Queen I'm sorry to hear of the fed-up-ness. It's never plain sailing is it.

Hi camel, I thought you'd been very quiet! I'm sorry it's been complicated. Glad to hear bean is still hanging in there - hope the test results are good news.

queenie you know where I am if you want to chat.

I am alright although stressing because of a possible change at work - got an interview for a promotion tomorrow morning (busy day!) that I don't think I've got a chance of getting (politics) and offered the alternative of changing wards (with I think I might do). Ah well I'll be leaving for a while in 5 months anyway Oh and I moved into maternity jeans, under bump, today and I'm so comfy! :)

blimey - the actual jab might not hurt but my arm is killing me now. feel like someone punched me hard. Clearly eating copious amounts of chocolate is the best way to comfort myself

hello Camel! Lovely to hear from you, but sorry to hear that things have been rough. Fingers crossed for positive results -when will you hear?

Queenie my jabbed arm hurt pretty good and got a little bit of a rash for a few days -but it's totally worth it, and it passes soon enough.

Faith ah, the maternity jeans! It's so comfy once you get into them... :) Just a few hours and one sleep until your scan now!!

Yes, 20 hours, one sleep (and one job interview) til we see the bean which MSB has nicknamed Pickle :)

Thanks for nice welcome backs ladies. Must confess I haven't caught up on the thread yet so sorry for not name checking.

Will try and be brief so here goes. Midwife here was not helpful re booking me in for 12 week scan and would only book me in for when she thought I'd be 13weeks. I was worried that if my dates were a bit out I'd be too late for nuchal screening but she didn't seem bothered and wouldn't change it. Ended booking a private nuchal scan so I could get the testing done 2.5 weeks earlier and the results immediately. We had a private scan with DD and the place was brilliant. Stupidly chose a different place this time and the sonographer was just not helpful.

Scan showed nuchal fold of just over 3 and also a larger bladder than is typical. Sonographer took the opportunity to give us her condolences (purely based on those 2 things) and told us she was worried about a condition called Meckel Gruber Syndrome which is basically incompatible with life. To say we were heartbroken is an understatement. However the down's risk was 1:186 which isnt amazing but also not considered high risk. Unfortunately all this happened at 5pm on a Friday so there was nothing we could do contacting midwives etc until Monday morning. That weekend was the longest weekend of my life.

Spoke to wonderful midwife on Monday morning who listened to me crying and booked us in to see a consultant. Consultant told us that nuchal of 3.2mm is the high end of normal but nothing to worry about in itself and that you can't diagnose an enlarged bladder from 1 single scan (as it would need to be enlarged permenantly to be considered problematic). He ordered us an urgent scan there and then and the sonographer was unconcerned. Baby looked normal, bladder was empty, but obviously nuchal is still a bit high. Still waiting for NHS nuchal screening results which are due later this week.

Feel completely wrung out and terrified about what might happen next. Haven't been on mumsnet in weeks as a result. Slowly trying to come back to life but also not get hopes too high. I feel like I've aged about 20 years.

Camel what an awful weekend you must have had and you must still be on such tenterhooks. It sounds like the private sonographer was really unprofessional and unsupportive. Very strange to jump to conclusions that may well be unwarranted.

We're all here while you wait it out and hoping you get the news you want.

How awful that your private scan meant to provide reassurance actually caused you so much distress! :( I really hope the results are reassuring and you can move forward with this.