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June 2013 tentative start of thread

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princessllama · 17/09/2012 14:17

Hi, anyone else out there who may be at the very earliest point of pg? I haven't taken a test yet but feeling nauseous and tired and thinking this is it

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FrustratedSycamorePants · 03/10/2012 19:35

What number are you in jojo

Jojoba1986 · 03/10/2012 19:36

Number?

FrustratedSycamorePants · 03/10/2012 19:38

Child Grin

Jojoba1986 · 03/10/2012 19:44

Ooooohhhhh! Baby brain! #2 Grin

FrustratedSycamorePants · 03/10/2012 19:53

Grin I think with dc2 I made it past the 12wk stage, but not as long as I lasted with dc1 (when I mainly looked fat until 6 months.) I have pathetic fitness levels anyway, and haven't had a "flat" stomach since I was 19. (Long time ago pre children)

Jojoba1986 · 03/10/2012 20:09

Wow, past 12 weeks? That's impressive! I blurted it out to close friends within days of finding out & then had to call parents because it didn't feel right not to tell them if other people knew! Blush I'm determined to last longer this time!

FrustratedSycamorePants · 03/10/2012 20:42

jojo that's staying bumpless. (Past 12 weeks) although with dc2 I think we didn't tell many people before 12weeks.

AnotherCerealNameChanger · 03/10/2012 21:28

We didn't tell with DC1 until 13 weeks. And I wasn't showing until 26weeks, at a wedding at 30 weeks a few people didn't realise. But overnight it seemed bump popped and I was being offered the seat on buses.

I haven't even told my DH yet, he was really happy about trying and then last week toddler sleep regression hit and he has started saying the past few days how he hopes we didn't succeed.

dreamydays · 03/10/2012 22:29

Congrats to all the new bfps! :)

ella and others I'm also sleeping badly, waking at 4am and unable to get back to sleep. Not sure if it's hormones or just thinking about it all...

dontmind, sorry about your mc. I'm in the same place as you on an early scan. Last time (July) I had a scan at 7 weeks and there was a heartbeat, but foetus much smaller than expected. The dr said it was ok (though the expression on her face didn't really match) but as I was so sure of my dates it set me worrying that it wasn't developing. Sure enough I had an mc a week later.

RueDeWakening · 03/10/2012 22:30

I've told DH, one friend, and my district commissioner (I run a Rainbows unit) cos she'll have to find me some maternity cover, and volunteers are hard to come by! Other than that I won't tell anyone for a while - friend will help me cover if required!

With DD, I kept quiet to family till about 24 weeks, although work knew immediately because I was on fortnightly antenatal appointments from 8 weeks (and will be again, ho hum).

With DS we were expecting triplets and it's pretty much impossible to keep that to yourself :o so everyone knew straight away and all practically died of the shock which as it turned out helped, after we lost two of them to twin to twin transfusion. If we'd gone through that by ourselves it would have been a LOT harder.

If it's multiples again I'll need sedating for approx 8 months...

DontmindifIdo · 04/10/2012 07:41

with DS, we told a few people at 7-8 weeks (family and a few close friends) with the one we lost this summer we'd told family again and a couple of very close friends, but once I'd lost the baby, I regretted that some people didn't know and ended up telling them after the effect. Whereas, SIL was rather useless and has never mentioned the baby we lost, not even a "sorry to hear your bad news" - so on her total lack of support last time, I'm not going to tell them this time round until a little later on...Still debating if we'll go for a private scan at 8 weeks.

dreamydays - sorry to hear about yor MC too, are you finding it hard to be excited this time round?

dreamydays · 04/10/2012 07:58

dontmind I am finding it hard to be optimistic but I am making myself be as positive and excited as possible so as to give my body some encouragement! I'm 38 which doesn't help.

I know what you mean about telling people post-mc. I told a couple of friends after my recent one too. I'm a very private person - only DH and I know and we've no plans to tell others at the moment. But I'm wondering whether to tell my boss soon, as both my mc's have had an impact on my work for which I've taken the criticism without explaining what's going on.

Rue lots of sympathy for your story - hope you have a lovely straightforward pregnancy this time!

AnotherCerealNameChanger · 04/10/2012 09:51

Rue also wishing you a happy and healthy straightforward pregnancy, my last pregnancy was easy but my child was left in NICU and with a lifelong disability after a mistake during delivery. Maybe we can hold hands together?

suzyrut · 04/10/2012 10:23

thanks woodysmum and ruedewakening. Sorry this is going to be a bit of a long post because it was not a great experience...had a private scan last night as didn't af after coming off the mini pill and so had no idea how far along I was. Had to have an internal scan and the scanographer (not sure correct term) told me repeatedly that I was only 4 weeks pregnant. Now to me if anyone says I'm 4 weeks pregnant that means that I conceived approx. 2 weeks ago as that's the way that it's always been described by all other health proffessionals in my previous pregnancies. I'd been having symptoms for about 3 to 4 weeks so that sent me into a panic that it wasn't growing properly. I asked her repeatedly to tell me how pregnant that made me and she was just quite dismissive and said 4 weeks. I left a little bit distressed with her telling me I should just come back in a couple of weeks for a follow up. So went to book follow up and the RECEPTIONIST noticed I was a bit upset and I explained the situation, she fortunately understood exactly why I was upset and said no what she meant was that I'd been pregnant for 4 weeks and was therefore around 6 weeks pregnant! Was relieved but £75 worse off plus costs to rescan and pretty upset for a while! Anyway just a little note of caution to anyone using myultrababy clinics that they don't calculate your pregnancy in the same way as anyone else you'll speak to!!

princesschick · 04/10/2012 14:33

Sorry about your experience Suzy glad that everything seems to be ok though. Hope you are ok.

I've only told DH, my nutritionist (to find out if I needed to start new supplements) and the ladies on the TTC 10 + thread. I'm planning to tell my parents this weekend, but I'm not telling DH I'm telling them because I don't want his parents to know yet (too gossipy). My parents can keep secrets, plus my Dad is my boss and I think there will be a fair few appointments next week, which I won't be able to keep secret. Plus last time I MC'd DH had to call Dad from hospital to let him know what was going on and I think it came as a bit of a shock. Oh and it's my mum's birthday today, so I'm looking forward to telling her when I get home tomorrow afternoon :)

I'm totally terrified today that this may go the way of the others. Hoping that seeing the GP tomorrow and having the progesterone test on Tuesday will reassure me. I guess what will be will be. It would just be so nice if 3rd time lucky worked out this time.

Dreamy I know how you feel. It's difficult. I keep doing the Zita West CD and trying to take my mind off things sooooo not easy with work and new things for the house renovation project.

I'm sorry to hear of some of the sad stories on here. Hopefully everyone will have trouble free pregnancies this time 'round :)

olimoss · 04/10/2012 17:57

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Hi - been lurking so thought I'd best say hi. Ancient 38yrs, first pregnancy (been busy doing other stuff till now.....), EDD 4 June.

Trying not to let the Internet freak me out too much, it's hard!

ella0 · 04/10/2012 18:22

We've told a few people, but then we had told people we were trying for a baby. We agreed that if we would tell them about a mc then we're comfortable with telling them now.

I've caught a sore throat and bad cold from a colleague; I hope it doesn't affect things.

dreamydays · 04/10/2012 19:20

Thanks princess

olimoss welcome and congrats! I'm glad to have some company in a 38+ club! (Anyone else want to join us?)

Keep reminding myself that my Granny had one of her kids aged 39+ :)

RueDeWakening · 04/10/2012 20:27

dreamy I'll be 38 by the time baby gets here, does that count? :o

Ella about the only thing you can take for a cold when PG is olbas pastilles, Halls soothers and paracetemol, it's rotten. Hope it goes away soon!

AnotherCerealNameChanger · 04/10/2012 20:42

honey and lemon helps too

dreamydays · 04/10/2012 20:56

ruede yes definitely! :)

Skinnydecafflatte · 04/10/2012 21:21

another one here in the 38 club, t'is obviously a good vintage.

Sorry to hear you are feeling poorly ella hope it clears up quickly. And a warm welcome olimoss, make yourself comfie, we're in for a long journey.

thedevilisinthedetail · 04/10/2012 21:56

Hello, Can I very very tentatively join. AF not due until tomorrow but got my BFP on Tuesday 3 days early. Tested again this morning and got a definite pregnant. Slightly concerned it was so early as both my other pregnancies took until I was 5 days late. Anyway this will be a slightly unexpected DC3.

Due date 14/6/13...I think!

Jojoba1986 · 04/10/2012 22:12

Congrats on the BFP! Just out of curiousity, what made you test if you're not late yet & weren't TTC? Ridiculously nosey

I'm suddenly feeling v young with all this talk of being 38! Blush Won't mention that I'm only 26 & getting ready to meet DC2!

bringonthetrumpets · 04/10/2012 22:15

Hey devil welcome and congrats! I found out 3 days before af was due to arrive as well and it feels like everything is taking forever!

No worries Jojob I'm a youngin and am expecting #3 Smile