November 2012 - but that's the month after next

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I put lavender oil on my pillow and it did help me sleep much better than the night before. Not great thanks to weight on bladder... but I got more shut eye than I was expecting.

Georgee Helena is my middle name!

nervous when pregnant, you are in a high risk group when it comes to flu, which is why they like you to have it, even if you have no underlying medical conditions. It is all due to immunity. There have sadly been deaths of baby and/or mum, especially with the Swine Flu. It is very rare, but is preventable, which makes it even more tragic. Also if you have it, then breastfeed you continue to protect the baby when it is too small to have the jag.

GT I don't think you're mad at all. I start a third-level OU mathematics course on 6 October and this will be the second time I've had a baby part way through an OU course. The only thing I would say is to look at how flexible the course is; with the OU you can get ahead and you can miss some assignments. Like you say, I can't see a GCSE with that level of tutoring being a huge burden on you. Didn't we manage to do eight at the same time when we were only teenagers and they were harder back then lol!

Tits my DH is completely freaking out as well, he doesn't want to think about it. Tbh I don't really see his problem, it's our third child, we already have one with special needs, our boys are older now (9 and 6) so they don't need so much attention. Maybe it's a bloke thing or maybe it's because I have such a strong bond with this baby already so I can't wait for him to be born, whereas for DH it's still more of an abstract event.

I think I'm going to wear a maternity shirt for labour. It'll be a bit longer than a t-shirt for some measure of modesty but I'll be able to unbutton it for skin-to-skin contact.

Right, must go and do some nesting.

tits I would be encouraged by that reaction personally. He is clearly taking it seriously, and cares a great deal. He is also talking about how he feels. He will feel inadequate compared to you as well, as you have experience, so it is not as if he is going through these natural fears with you in quite the same way. He will be fine!

georgee I think Helen is a lovely name, classic, greek (ish) oh and mine

Wow evil can't believe you've only got a month left, it's getting so close for all of us now! Seven weeks to go for me.

tits bless your DP, it is completely normal for him to be worried, and remember for most men it doesn't really become reality until the baby is here. He'll be fine though :)
I'm feeling very worried myself actually.
I don't know why, I just can't seem to shake the feeling that something is going to go wrong :( I just want the next seven weeks to go smoothly and for him to get here safely. I didn't worry this much last time!

Morning everyone!
Anyone got any exciting plans for today?

I'm having my day a week holiday so i think i'm going to crack on with some cleaning and sorting. Will try do it in block with rest in between so I don't get too knackered.
Got my 31 week appointment tomorrow and then DH and I are going to a posh hotel for our wedding anniversary.

Baby has currently got hiccups but they're higher up than they normally are, more by my belly button than down in my pelvis, does that mean it's moved?

We picked up our handmade cot from FIL so that needs putting up and then I can finish off the nursery and put up the wall stickers.

Tits my dh the same lol!!!

Cat - whoops about the phone bill and Internet. Don't let the man make you cry - just take your lads phone off him!!

Evil - yay for 4 weeks, Im due 6 weeks today!!! 3 weeks left at work omg??!!!

Pass - I'm sure you still look neat!!

I'm shattered today!! I also didn't realise I have more bloods in two weeks :( booooo I'm sleeping but waking up as my lungs are just full of stuff it's horrid :( Anyway it'll be fine!!! Will pack babies bag tonight and have my third ante natal class too!!

Ooh, YW, that's spooky! What a lovely name. TBH our first name would be in my top three if it wasn't my name, if you see what I mean. My sister wasn't so lucky, she really doesn't like her name (Margaret! I like it and Maggie suits her, but she hated it growing up).

Brockle we would definitely be up for Helen, I think it's a beautiful name (and I have one very special Helen friend who I'd gladly name the baby after) but it scans very, very badly with our surname. Helena works much better!

tits I think it's encouraging too that your DH is thinking about how it's all going to pan out, it's very natural to feel like that (particularly as people LOVE to say 'Ooh your life will never be the same again' - my BIL was particularly good at saying that to us.) Much better that way than in denial before and after the birth that your life will change. Also I was similarly worried before my DD was born, most of it was because I hadn't met her. The moment I clapped eyes on her all of that life-changing, self-sacrifice stuff made sense and I didn't care, it was all worth it.

Swiss conversely, talking to friends, it's like the more children people have, the more worried they get about things going wrong. I've had at least three friends like that (having third children) that are convinced it's all going to go wrong but all has been absolutely fine. It's no fun going through it though.

Hope everyone has a good day. My DD's being taken to Newcastle and back on a train by her grandparents (long story) so I have a whole six hours to myself! Which means of course I am going to construct the longest 'things to do' list in the history of the universe to take me through the next 10 weeks, panic my head off and then give up and watch Celebrity Masterchef on catch-up.

Morning all :)

DH I had stitches but no catheter, hoping I won't need one this time either.

DD and I are turning into ladies who lunch! Today will be our third in a row. Tomorrow I have a days annual leave and DD is at nursery - bliss! Lie in and then out to buy a few bits for baby and hospital bag.

evil one month! It really is getting close now. I've got 7 weeks left and that seems very close but also very far away! I should have taken out shares in gaviscon. Am I going to have a very hairy baby?!

I am the same swiss after two DC's I seem to constantly be worrying about this little man. I don't know why as he spends a lot of his time kicking the life out of me.

I definitely approve of Helena georgee!

My Moby sling came today and all the pictures of little babies in the manual cheered me up. Today will be productive. Just don't know with what yet...

DC3 here, and worrying too. I think it is because the more you have, the more you think you cannot be that lucky again.

5 weeks today. Big poo had, thankfully. Thank you apricots. Baby very active, making me sore. Also have a stinking cold and just want to curl up. Felt shocking this morning getting everyone up and out, and took me a long time to get my breath back, but I am feeling ok now, breathing-wise. Baby is well under my ribs, and is a big boy, so it is no wonder I am finding it hard going. Very little sleep had too. E

Morning all just attempting to catch up on thread, it is hard juggling two threads, I feel like I'm cheating on my other one!

Sorry about all the phone and internet stuff cat - that whole area worries me most with kids these days. I teach autistic children, some of whom are extremely good on the computer; we've had instances of bidding on eBay, accessing stuff on YouTube (prior to super sonic blocking software) but the parents have had worse - one 7 year old ordered a one tonne crate of lego from Norway using his dads credit card. Luckily the wholesaler was understanding. But worse has been YouTube chatroom stuff and world of warcraft, which for primary aged vulnerable children has not been good. We actively teach internet safety from year dot now. Shocked at mw too.

Just a quick poll; when did/will you lovely ladies actually be packing your bags if as far as you know its going to be a normal full term pregnancy? I'm 31 wks next Monday, only starting antenatal classes tonight dunno if I have head in sand, am being sensible or should be panicking!

Not Norway, Denmark. My baby brain likes to switch nouns all the time!

cat sorry to hear you had such a rubbish day.

The sonographer did the same thing at my 32 week scan last week. Saw my consultant yesterday and luckily he picked it up and is not worried.

He wants to see me every two weeks now and I will be scanned every two weeks. So I will have a scan next week at 34 weeks and see him at 35 weeks. He also booked in a section date for the 22 October BUT says he very much doubts I will get that far because of the weight of the babies and gargantuan bump. He says my waters will break before 38 weeks. The plan is to have a natural birth if my waters go early and twin 1 is engaged or an emergency section if twin 1 is still transverse or the planned section at 38 weeks, if I last that long. A lot to take in. I am having 2 steroid injections at 35 weeks to get the babies lungs ready.

I would ring up the hospital and tell them how you feel. Hope you feel better today :)

clarella I had to smile at the Lego!

I think if you start getting stuff together now, at least compile a list and know where to get stuff. The instinct to do this will kick in fairly soon though. I am 5 weeks away from a section, and this last few days I have felt spurred to do this. Finishing it off today, then it is done.

I am a constant worrier and this is my first! I think I'm a naturally neurotic person anyway, I get stressed out about anything and everything - it drives DH mad! My mums a bit like me too so it must run in our family.

Car seat base was perfect - I'm so pleased with myself! The kind man even fitted it for me. DH agrees it will be very practical so watch this space before he buys one for his car! (need to find him a new car first - the audi was awful and the guy selling it v dodgy).

As far as I know the flu jab is because our immunity is compromised from junior sapping all ouf vitamins and goodness. It also protects them if/when you breasfeed. I've always had it anyway as I'm asthmatic.

DH blurted out last night that he's freaking out he won't be as good a dad as his own dad is/was. My response he won't be as crap as mind probably didn't help. He also hates the idea our baby is surrounded by fluid and if anything goes wrong just now he can't help him/her - he spent 2 years dragging and resuscitating bridge jumpers from the forth, don't know if there's a connection. We had a big chat that he'll be a great dad and we're both going into this big scary adventure equally clueless. Then he sat and listened on doppler to junior's heartbeat for ages and I think that reassured him. They've shifted position again so kicks are barely noticeable .

At the moment Katy Rose or Roseanna Kate are the forerunners for girls names (I'm letting him choose within reason). Our mums are Kay and Rosemary and my stepmum's Ann so he wants something with a strong family connection to them all. I'd happily leave my stepmum out though..

Daisy Speak to another midwife if you see one, what a knob head. Start threatening them with a transfer to Saint Mary's if they start that game, but tell them you don't want Gill, she's well bossy :)

Well, I'm in the 'worry about nowt' brigade I'm afraid. I don't think I've every come across anything that has bothered me much. Last year I had a blow out on the motorway and got dragged across 2 lanes, then a few weeks later on the same motorway my brakes completely failed at 70mph as I was on the slip road and heading for a red light at the junction (down the gears and handbrake stopped me). Have also driven and camped round Europe with children aged 3, 5 and 7 and even hubby thought I was mad to suggest it and looking back says we were barking . I really can't be bothered with worrying and the nearest I've come to it this time is thinking 'I should really start to get things sorted', then phoned round everyone who said they wanted to buy me stuff and told them what I needed .

Feeling in the land of the living today for the first time in WEEKS, I've done some much needed housework that my lovely hubby has tried his best to keep on top of (as well as doing absolutely everything else, cooking, taking the kids to school, working full time, shopping and worrying about me), and am just going to crash on the settee for a few hours for a read and some sleep.

Should really think about organising something for my youngest daughters 8th birthday next week, but blaaah, I'll do it tomorrow.

I'm stressing myself out today and not baby related, well not directly.

I've just done the ironing and now i'm a bit achey so i'm having half an hours rest. Next job to do is the kitchen then lunch then the living room etc.
It's just that when I start one thing, I see another 10 things that need doing and then there's a few bigger jobs that need sorting before baby arrives.
I've written a few lists and i'm trying to break it down in to more manageable chunks.
Doesn't help that with DH doing lots of overtime and busy weekends with cricket he hasn't been able to do as much as he normally would. That should change from this weekend though, although we've got our anniversary trip booked.

Arghh sorry for the moan, I wish I could just relax and not see all the jobs. I think part of it is i'm not able to do as much as I could before and I'm not used to being reliant on other people to do things

I'm 32 weeks today and my hospital bag has been packed for a few weeks Clarella. There are a few final bits to go in but I like feeling organised.

I bought a load of nappies and wipes at the supermarket today. I realised we only had the stuff I'd been getting free and that meant less than a weeks worth. The freezer is nearly empty so I'm starting to make a list for a big online shop for the stuff I'll be batch making once it has been defrosted.

Seven work days until I start the first stage of my maternity leave (no meetings outside my house). Time to stop driving all over the county!

Me too fatima. It drives me mad that I can't do/takes hours to do things that would usually take me minutes. I hate relying on DH to do things because I feel like I am constantly nagging him to do them.

Trying to be more positive today and listening to some classical music in the hope that it makes DS3 intelligent! He seems to like it.

Thanks for the tips - was afraid you'd say that! Coming to end of building site madness so not totally in zone as to but lists still include 'duct tape', 'grass seed' 'new bathroom' and 'gloss'.

But Fil and Mil helping to paint for next 4 days so maybe between cuppas i will sit n blitz 'The List' from my copied and pasted to notes mumsnet archive of necessities. Interestingly prosecco and pate was an early priority on the Dec thread (not my list!)

VQ yes, apparently it happened quite often on a smaller scale but a pallet of lego was a step too far :/

Thanks valium I've had the flu jab was just unsure to why I was having it because no one explained. Had my bloods this morning too and there's only 1 women at my doctors that I trust to do them, I'm not a good patient, I get really worked up and stressed and I just completely trust this women so I won't let anyone else do them. So I made sure she was there and okay to do them today and when I got there mentioned it again and all was fine until the nurse called me and got VERY offended and upset because I said very politely that I'm a nervous patient and just trust this other lady so would prefer for her to do it and my god she was not happy!! She walked out the room and back was basically saying how she's much better then the other women and I've deeply offended her

DH has been called for jury service 10 days before my section date. He will not get paid for paternity leave or jury service and it could be a long trial so I have said he should apply for exemption.

My boss has sent my paperwork to payroll not H.R. His ability to fuck up never ceases to amaze me.

nervous I hope you told her to sod off! I think I would have done. Why is it always about them?