November 2012 - but that's the month after next

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Oh my Clarella my son would love a tonne of Lego, I'll have to start hiding my credit cards. In his opinion you can't have enough Lego, he would buy the same kit twice if he could.

Does anyone else have pain in an episiotomy scar? Mine's really sore if I sit on a hard chair or when walking. I don't really want to have a look down under so I'll probably just ignore it and hope it goes away. It was six years ago so I doubt there's any problem, probably just stretching (ewww TMI).

valium I was just shocked and couldn't believe how unhappy she was about it but there was no way I was going to let her do it even after I got abit of a lecture about "how do you learn to trust someone new if you won't let me do it, I'm perfectly capable you no"

Random question, can anyone recommend a vacuum cleaner with descent suction? We have an electrolux one but it's shite at picking bits up

Fatima I swear by our dyson. We inherited it with our house and it's just fab! I keep our old electrolux upstairs and use the dyson downstairs - it's especially good for getting all the dog hair etc.

stunt my scar is also 6yo, and only hurts when doing certain things . Not noticed any sensation at all from it due to pg alone, in this or last pg. do you have discomfort any other time? No need for details, just outside late pg. everything swells due to increased blood flow, but may be best getting it looked at?

MM1 I was afraid someone would say that. I want a dyson but they're so expensive

Toddlers are the best hoovers. They will find things any other hoover misses.

Henry Hoover - they use em in pubs for a reason they are bomb proof and pick up anything even the furry tumbleweed left by our puss!

Had 32 week appointment this am - so now I'm onto fortnightly visits. Wow that's come round quick. All good. Junior is left occipital (sp?) anterior which is the best position for labour apparently (whoop!) and is head down with the head at the brim just starting to engage. The pokey bits at my navel are his / her knees. Apparently whilst this is best for labour it's the classic cowboy walk position as the head keeps bobbing in and out of your pelvis - sighhh it's all glamour eh? This is the position I thought they might be from mapping kicks. I'm measuring spot on 32 too. So am really chuffed. Was amazed how loud the heartbeat is now and how easy to find.

The house goes to closing this afternoon and we have another scan tomo - v excited. I hope it all goes as well as today's visit.

Oh as for packing bags - I've packed my bit of the bag in case we have a prem labour but won't put baby's stuff in until I'm 34 weeks I reckon as until then they'd be too small for the things we have. Mindst they could be a chubber. Can the sonographer give you an approximation of weight on a normal ultrasound (i.e. not 4D?) as it might be useful to know....

We had our antenatal class and met the baby of one of the lady's from our first weeks class (she was from one of the distant islands and had been moved to live in at the hospital from 10 days before her due date) her wee boy James was born last Friday and is lovely. She's still at the hospital rooming in until she's happy BFing when she'll go home probably at the end of the week. He has a total shock of hair and she had noooooo heartburn whatsover - so maybe the hairy baby old wifes tales aren't true. He was a classic high 'all bump' pointy bump though for keen bumpologists out there.....

YW normal scan can give guesstimate of weight. They are likely to do that anyway with you having a scan at this stage. Good luck with the house bids. Hope they are very generous.

pass nobody has mentioned classes to me, probably as I am not a first timer. I cannot view the tour on my computer. Oh well.

VQ Thats unlucky about jury service I hope they excuse him as it could go on for weeks when you and the children are going to need him most.

He can defer I think, but next time couldnt so it's a tough choice. They should give you expenses etc.

I'm being kicked in my sides today!!!

Have been reading up a bit about it. He can ask to be excused. They can say no. As he works sessional we are not sure if he can claim loss of earnings as he does not have a contract. He is a carer, so his clients need covering, and this needs planning in advance, so he could be there for one day or less, but not have any hours booked for the week. Hopefully they will have a heart.

Hopefully they will!! Fingers crossed for you!!

Thank you horsey

Right, I'm being a geek and compiling a spreadsheet of jobs to do around the house before my due date. Makes me feel slightly less stressed.

I'm also watching reruns of Dawson's Creek and remembering how much Dawson wound me up

DH is going to be offshore for 2/3 of our antenatal classes. I'm really pissed off about it as I want him to be there. The other one is on his birthday. He doesn't think he needs to be there. Am I being unreasonable??? He's only working on the river and is due 2 days leave (his course next week runs into his days off). SURELY he can just take them then?!

I wouldn't worry Valium. DH was also called to do Jury service just before my due date and it was easy to get moved (to January).

I think they know that regardless of the legal ramifications if a woman goes into early labour her husband will just not turn up at court rather than abandon her to do his civic duty. It'd mess up the court process for something easily avoided.

Right, FIL has made us a cot but looking at it now, the bar spacings down the side don't meet the current regulations. They meet the regs of quite a few countries and the regs of railings but not the current EU ones.

How big is a babies head and how realistic is it that it will get stuck between the bars? I know that the regs for railings are also in place for childrens head and they're no bigger than 9cm. Cots regs are no bigger than 6.5cm though, but surely you cervis needs to be 10cm to get the baby out in the first place

Arghhh, more things to think about

I'd say he really needs to be there if he is going to be of most support to you, understand what you'll be going through (and be most sympathetic!) and also most able to cope with the baby after the birth (when you might be recovering and he might have to take charge). But are you off to another antenatal / birthing class? As he could probably get away without going to both sets of classes if you are going to more than one.

I'd be well fecked off even though it can't be helped. I'd be Mrs mega-sulk fat pants. Good luck with sorting it out. I'm pissed off that DH is going to London for one day next week and leaving me on my tod - even though I'm only 32 weeks and really not likely to go into labour so I'm not the most reasonable of souls at the mo - so don't go by what I say!

Boo on the jury service, what are the fecking odds!

We are going to do a yoga birth prep class as well. Personally I feel it will be much more suited to us than the NHS one but it's the principle of it. PLUS he's missing the class on postnatal care and early weeks of parenthood which is pretty much for dads. I shouldn't be this angry with him, it's just his attitude to the whole thing. I'm feeling very unreasonable this week and biting my lip on a lot of things (I asked him to do one fecking thing on monday - unscrew the cap on the steam cleaner for me, no biggie and it's his fault I can't get it off - and it's STILL not been done).

He's away up to Aberdeen on a course all of next week as well. And then immediately afterwards going away for a few days on a dive jolly with some of his mates. I'm not invited, it's a 'bloke thing and I'll have nothing to do'. Apparently.

He also won't take a couple of day's leave for my mum's wedding next month and there's no way I'll be able to hack the drive myself. Cue hystrionics from certain elderly family members aimed at me that I'm being selfish for not considering them (news to me we were meant to be driving them as well).

I know he's trying to save up all of his holiday and extra leave to tag onto his paternity leave as he feels this is when I'll need him most, but he doesn't realise that these things are really important to me now. If junior plays ball and arrives on/after due date he's going to have 6 weeks off after he/she is here anyway with paternity, xmas site closure and then his normal leave.

I think it's just as well I'm working late tonight. I've managed to make myself very angry with him today and he's not even here. I don't want to be grumpy, I just am. Seriously not coping with no sleep...

That is encouraging waiting. Thank you.

missmummy Git! I can however understand why he would rather spend time with his wife and new baby. It should still be a joint decision though. I would not be impressed with the diving holiday. I am glad DH is old and likes being home. (he is younger than me, but still old)

Well I think the nesting instinct has finally kicked in here, or the actual realisation that I'm having a baby and better get some stuff sorted!

The house is looking pretty good, mainly as we're going to put it on the market in a couple of weeks. Just the nursery that needs sorted. I just assumed that since I already had 1 DC that I'd have everything I need but I have now actually started to get everything together. I had bought a couple of baby newborn suits for the hospital and have finally got some of DD's neutral stuff washed and put away. Just come back from boots where I bought newborn nappies, sudocream, lanolin cream, maternity pads and got the free boots changing bag so I feel like I'm getting there.

My DH only attended one out of 3 of our ante natal classes. He really hates that sort of thing (dealing with strangers) and gets easily bored so I said as long as he come with me to the first one he can skip the other two. To be honest I didn't really learn a great deal in them but did make friends (I did nct). He is a great dad and knew as much as me when DD was born so I really don't think it mattered that he missed the classes. valium I would get DH to defer jury service too if I was in your position. Really bad timing. Hope it gets sorted.

Mm its difficult. I'm pleased dh has come along and now I think he is. He was apprehensive at first but it's made him realise he has a role to play in all of this. That's nct though. Nhs I know many partners etc who didnt bother to go or who found the whole thing a waste of time at our local hospital. The mw essentially told me not to bother with the nhs one because of the cut backs! In fact she may have said it wasn't offered any more! Could you compromise and him do 2/3? Or the postnatal one?

Can't help with the wedding though sorry- not sure what to suggest!!! I can't say the diving holiday would bother me if I'd be bored!!!

I have spent the whole day having my sides kicked!!! You know when someone grabs your sides and it hurts/feels odd? That's been the little man all day!! I keep prodding him back it does move him!!!