November 2012 - but that's the month after next

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I had a wander around mothercare today too. Is it me or is it horrendously expensive? I was looking for a gift for the girls from baby. May now go for funky giraffe bibs with I love my sister on. Any thoughts? Not more than a tenner due to bastard tax credits!

apple I will have him in with me until I can get out of bed easily post op. if he is like my others he will snore like a train and DH and him will keep waking each other. I do not feel sad. I look forward to it . Safety advice is in with you for 6 months. I have a movement sensor.

I'm a tad envious of all you with just 5 weeks or less to go. I'm 31 weeks tomorrow and getting soooo fed up with all the sleeplessness, acheyness and tiredness. I can't stand not being able to do things for myself! I almost fell asleep at my mum's yesterday - so much so that her friend offered to come and clean my house for me. It was lovely of her but I was mortified she thinks I can't keep on top of my housework! I pride myself on the fact that keeping my house clean and tidy is one of the few things I can still do and I couldn't cope with someone else taking over and not doing it my way - that includes DH!

DH phoned earlier and reckons his hernia scar has in someway been "broken" on his course (from what he says it sounds like he has a bruise where his too tight jeans button is) but won't get it seen to until next week when he gets back from diving. Twat. I'm really angry because he won't see sense that if it's serious enough for him to worry me about it when he's so far away, it's serious enough to at least get it checked out. This is the same man who lay in bed in agony for 4 days refusing there was anything seriously wrong with him before being rushed to hospital with a ruptured appendix....

If I tell DP it's recommended he will just think I'm making it up. Or say that just because someone tells me to do something doesn't mean I have to. I'm hoping when the baby is here he will just melt and agree to anything

Apple the baby will sleep overnight in our room until he's too big for the Moses basket!! That's what is recommended and it's supposed to reduced SIDS etc. There's loads out there so throw some literature under his nose!! I will, however, ensure he takes day time sleeps in the big cot from fairly early on so it's not a massive change. Plus being in your room has to be easier for feeding etc.

Vq mother care is expensive!! Try asda lol!! George has a sale on (as I found out today....)

Apple it is recommended for the prevention of SIDS but I think there has to be a personal preference as well. I always liked my babies close to me, it's so convenient to lift them into bed for a cuddle and a feed in the night. One tip I have would be to use a baby sleeping bag (once baby is over 8lb8oz) because when you put them back into their cot after a feed they're already warm and snug, not going into cold sheets.

thechick this LO was 4lbs 9 at my growth scan last week (32 weeks) so we're about level

apple I personally think the baby going straight into his own room is the wrong thing to do, they need to be close to mummy in the early weeks, it's recommended for prevention of SIDS.

Junior will (in theory) be in with us for the first six months - largely because I hope to be BFing and can't be arsed to drag my sorry arse out of bed every few hours - so they'll be in bedside cot. It is recommended to have them in your room to reduce the SIDS risk as apparently your breathing helps them to sync theirs and reduces the risk of sleep apnoea.

Of course BFing may not happen, and we may end up with a noisy snuffy easily disturbed baba who could be happier in their own room - but I'd really like to try to have them in with us.

If he's dubious tell him it's NHS advice - not just something hippy Mums do! www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/getting-baby-to-sleep.aspx

I'm planning on having him in my room for the first six months apple. I never really ran it past DH, I just showed him when I'd found a crib I wanted to buy and it's one that goes against our bed.

Have you and your DH actually talked about it? And discussed each of your viewpoints? Don't do something that makes you unhappy just because he's listened to someone who has sold him a line in making babies independent or something.

I'm probably unreasonable towards my DH but I just cannot go against my instincts for raising this child. My heart says that after living in the same body we need to separate slowly. I want lots of skin on skin in the early days and take him into my metaphorical nest. It's just not open to debate.

We're planning on having baby in with me for as long as it takes for baby to be able to sleep so as not to disturb DD. I only managed to keep DD in the same room as me for 5 weeks - she hated a Moses basket and liked the big cot, and we both slept better when in different rooms! We want to keep our spare room, so baby and DD will share eventually, and before that happens, DH gets the spare room and I get ours with baby in a bedside crib.

Baby will be in with us until she out grows her crib, not sure what age that will be about but then she'll have to go in her room because there's not enough space in our room for cot

Baby will prob be in with us for the first two years of her life if she's anything like her brother!

Our baby will be in with us for the recommended first 6 months. I'd have thought it's a lot less disruptive if you can just feed him at an arm's reach rather than traipsing around, or going to check if there are funny/no noises on the monitor. The midwife at our antenatal class today also told us that babies sleep better with some familiar ambient noise so it may be counterproductive not to do so.

Hopefully the NHS website link will persuade your DH that it is serious medical advice and will help reduce the risk of SIDS due to the breathing regulation etc. My mum is of the opinion that babies need to learn to be independent but fortunately I can just ignore that advice, more difficult for you.

One thing we have tried to factor in is an alternative sleeping arrangement for nights when my DH needs to get a good night's sleep or if the baby is ill (we've been looking for a single sofabed to put in the baby's room but so far the only options are either super expensive or don't look very solid). Maybe that's your negotiating factor, that if he is struggling to get enough sleep to go to work, you'll invest in something like that or find another way for you to sleep in with the baby while he catches up. Hope you can get somewhere.

DD was in with us for the first 6 months. Worked well for feeding and she slept through from about 4 months I think. Although in hind sight I might have moved her a bit earlier as everyone slept better once she went in her cot. But I'll certainly be keeping this one in with me for first 4 months and play it by ear after that. If im still feeding lots during the night the baby will stay in with us until it stops. I don't remember DH even questioning it. In fact in the early days I used to take DD into the nursery to feed her during the night so as not to disturb DH too much but he told me to not be so silly and feed her in bed. I got much more rest when I did that. apple I hope your DH changes his mind or you are able to convince him that its just not right to put a newborn straight into their own room. I can understand him thinking that you shouldn't do something just because someone tells you and you have to figure out yourself what's best for you and baby, but these particular guidelines dramatically reduce the chance of SIDS and not something that's worth risking.

I've been knackered today. Got the house valued today and was the price we expected so that's good. I've got the baby's hospital bag packed, just my own to go. Have a feeling my nesting will end soon. I'm getting too tired to do much more

Yes I know it's recommended and I want my baby close to me. We have a crib which will fit beside the bed so nearer the time I'll just move it into our room. A sofabed is a good option as well thanks blonder. The baby has the biggest bedroom and there's plenty of room for one in there.

Will this thread last the night I wonder?

Waiting for DP toget home so we can bath the dog I hate that job the poor boy is a water phobic and gets so stressed but he's starting to pong

DP is a big softy really so I'm hopeful I can persuade him. If not I'm moving into the baby's room for six months.

I'd say that was a pretty unanimous 1 to apple and nil to her DP. Stick to your guns hon, the difference in SIDS deaths is really quite significant between the two sleeping options as Eliza says.

DD was in with me for 18 months! Not planning on doing that again but definitely for at least 6. Much easier when they are still waking frequently.

Oh waiting what you said made me sniffle

"My heart says that after living in the same body we need to separate slowly. I want lots of skin on skin in the early days and take him into my metaphorical nest. It's just not open to debate."

Perfectly put! I feel just the same and to be honest would be showing my DH the spare room the door if he put his own needs ahead of the babies, especially if that meant an increased cot death risk. It was the SIDS risk and my nagging which made him quit smoking - something I'm still soooooooo proud of him for.

Evening all.

The sleeping chat is interesting. I did a fair bit of research into reasons for having baby in with parents. In the end I followed my heart and went with a Moses basket which will be squished between my side of the bed a the wardrobe. The room is really very small so as soon as baby is too big for the Moses basket it will be in the cotbed. My MIL recommended putting the Moses basket in the cotbed during the day the phasing into just the cotbed. That seems like a good idea to me.

I have a really tender part on my bump at the top just next to my ribs. I keep looking at it expecting it to be red raw but it isn't.

Someone asked me at work yesterday if I would be back after the holidays. I said I would be 38 weeks by the time term starts again and she just said "yes. Oh well". Made me feel like a right slacker!

DH is off on a 4 day stag do to Munich tomorrow. I am quite looking forward to some alone time but it will be odd.

If it is a toss up between DH and my DC's DH gets turfed out of bed. I had both mine in with me until at least six months. In fact DS2 was with us for a year mainly because he would be sharing a room with DS1 and for the first nine months he was an amazing sleeper. Never slept since but hey ho! We had a mattress in our box room that DH went to at first if he had work in the morning and the feeds kept him up.

I loved having them close to me and just being able to lean over and stare at them was lovely. Really wish I could have a growth scan just to see if he is a whopper cos he certainly feels like he is at the moment. He feels low at times too.

pass I did the moses basket in the cot thing and DD went into the cot when she outgrew the basket with no problems

My little bedside cot that I got on eBay arrived the other day can't wait to put it up

I also recommend the Moses basket in cot thing.

So I am the only mean mother who is turfing her newborn out then I am however happy with my decision, despite current advice. That is how we need to do this parenting lark though - seek research, other opinions etc, but make our own decision.

No VQ, that would be my preference but we don't have the space! I totally agree, do the research, consider the advice, make the decision that works best for you, your DC and your family. Confidence in own decisions is important, and what I am looking forward to with this DC - first time around there was a lot of angst for me.