Due December 2012 - 3rd trimester here we come

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running out of space as fast as ever... here's a new link

Thanks, seconds, there's no stated start but i know how long these things take iyswim. I intend to take 6 weeks from the other one, which starts me back on the first day of the Spring Term, and can't see why i couldn't start this one then too.

Agree with the "flying by after 28" thing. Dp and i scared each other the other day when we worked out we could have a healthy full term baby in 6 weeks...

Rant away flumpy, you didn't choose to be in that position! Could the ex lend you the rest? It is after all for a roof over his Dds head ! And as for maintenance, he still needs to pay it once you've moved. It's sounds like such a hard situation, sorry I don't really have much advice either. Remember no one judges you on hear

flumpy that sounds rubbish, I'm eternally greatful that my parents basically lend me money whenever I need it (like this month). Try having a heart to heart to explain?

Well I managed to sleep most the night thankfully. And today am out shopping with my mum for ds's birthday present. Feeling slightly off though so this should be fun!

Thank you. Sorry again for the rant.

My parents just say no, but say they would've bought baby things. I struggle to see the difference in spending £500 on baby things or lending it to me to put a roof over our heads. They seem to think I should just find a bedsit - thanks!

EP will help with some of it but it's the shortfall I was asking them for. I absolutely hate not being able to work and be independent.

I have this awful fear of ending up in temporary accommodation ie a holiday inn with a newborn baby over Xmas!

It's ok, today's plan is to try and find some properties and try and sell some things from the house. I will move out of here with bump/baby and dog without parents help if it kills me!

I hope everyone feeling rubbish feels better soon! Counting the weeks down now. x

flumpy you've got a great attitude! Your LO will do well in life with you as a role model. Good luck xxx

So sorry flumpy, totally justified rant, also not sure what to advise but sending you best wishes and positive thoughts. Can ep do that though? Xx

Double excellent news pidg! I think what someone else said bout saying available to start time is good. I know a head t who interviewed for job heavily pregnant and started on maternity leave. Good luck!

Mydaydream I can totally sympathise about needing space. My space has not been my own for months now, I think its a control thing mixed with just feeling tired and crap and not able to be jolly etc all the time, as you'd normally do for family or builders. Extra annoying if they aren't actually helping much! The new roof the builders have built on our very small extension has been redone 3 times and leaked badly on Tuesday. Utterly ridiculous. They can't do roofs.

Mamapo don't worry, I'm a couple of wks ahead of you and no grand list yet due to building work chaos (did buy comfy big black pants yesterday tho! ) Thing is, I do need to do it as it saves time when suddenly confronted in boots by special offers and get confused by sleeved or sleeveless vests - actually had to walk out, eat a hot greggs pasty, (regretted for rest of day) find mobile reception in the rain to consult nhs/ mumsnet/ my own mums list and return to finally purchase. However, I'm now taking them back :/

Sorry people are feeling rubbish and hoping hips aren't too bad. Think we're all entering the increasingly uncomfortable zone which will end with a pop!

Purple great news about the heart.

I would mention it, probably at the end (any questions bit). Maybe tell them due date, plans for returning to work date-wise, maybe plans for childcare- how robust they are and plans for DP or someone to cover emergencies.

Flump good luck sorting it. I agree is lacks logic offering to give you £500 for baby stuff but not lend more for the deposit.

I'm shattered, although DD did sleep through. But I was late for work after trying to get her to take the penicillin. Even holding her down she managed to spit most out. We hope that from 3 syringes she got a dose. And I'm hoping that I won't react to getting covered in the stuff despite being allergic to it.

Ive put bump pics on! please excuse pj's :)

Flump sorry to hear you're having such a rubbish time of it but never feel bad coming on here to rant!

Has anyone found a way to explain to baby that bladders and occasionally intestines are not squeeze toys?

Pfft at your lovely neat bump Emily! I look like I've swallowed a baby hippo! Lol

Good luck with the interview pidj!

spotty don't say that I just want it all to slow down a bit!
mama I've marked every 5 weeks on my phone calendar so I can see how far I am. I also love the bake off, DP bought me the showstopper book from this series the other day.
flumpy you sound amazing, good luck finding somewhere to live, you sound very together I'm sure you'll succeed.
pidj good luck with the job, totally missed that last night. And congratulations on babies heartbeat, fingers crossed for your birth centre birth now.
clarella I think months would reduce me to a constant gibbering wreck!
DP doesn't really understand because its his family and they grew up with no privacy or space. My mum has been very respectful of my space and my belongings since my early teens so its strange to be in a situation with people who don't get that. I've been sat cringing while BIL goes through our stuff because everyone else will see it as normal behaviour and yet I hate it and think its so wrong, he wasn't unpacking he was nosing. I've also learnt to hide post from him because he'll read that if its out on the counter, but again DP sees nothing wrong with him looking at our financial documents! Family rant over, my mums on holiday I've had nobody to rant to!

Morning all. Sorry to hear about the poorly DCs, family troubles and bad sleep.

Can thrush be cured by 1% cream, or does it only treat the symptoms? My midwife suggested I get cream and pessary, but that I'll need a doc appointment, as pharmacists won't give them to pregnant ladies? I've go some cream hanging around from an old prescription (still in date, just), but will that be enough to actually cure it? CBA making a doc appt. maybe I'll put on some baggy clothes and just pretend I'm fat...

flumpy hope you get something sorted soon. My mum is like your parents, I end up financially supporting my sister, brothers and father. She just sits on her money and says they should learn better financial management. They should, but leaving them with no house doesn't teach them anything!
You mentioned you loaned your brother money in the past, could he lend you some now? Or maybe make a case for you to your parents? Sometimes it helps if you can gang up on the parents, get your brother to find out what their problem is, then you can use that information to your advantage. You may find its something silly and easy to solve.

Stacks I would just get your other half to buy a peasant for you if midwife said it's ok. The pharmacist doesn't have to know. I find the cream alone doesn't completely get rid. Or you could phone the drs and ask them to do you a prescription just explain to the receptionist that it seems silly taking up an appointment, I expect then would agree!

at the idea of a "peasant" being used Spotty! Hope you feel better soon though Stacks.

Morning all. emily your bump is so cute! I like your pyjamas. My bump is getting massive, and also bizarrely pointy.

Oops I'm getting worse with auto correct as the pregnancy goes on!!

Thanks, all. Childcare is dp as long as it's evening/weekend. Mum is happy to do occasional bits too, I'm well supported.

Flumpy, could you demand £1200 for "the only possible travel system suitable" then get a £200 one and use the rest? Devious but potentially necessary...

Hello

Couldn't agree more about intestines and bladder as squeeze toys and may I add ribs as a punch/kick bag or even just foot rest!

Thrush is nightmare with anti biotics but I agree get DP to buy pessary and not mention that you're pg otherwise I think if you start straight away with cream you might be ok as its to do with ph level do you might neutralise it before thrush takes hold!

Thanks for all the support ladies! I will find a way, don't worry. I didn't give my brother money, my parents did - he is golden child an we don't get along. I already have a travel system which they know so now they are refusing any money toward anything - moving/ baby things all because I didn't let them go out and choose baby things, apparently ruining their grandparent experience!

I tried to explain that having had pre term labour I just needed to get everything organised.

Parents - who'd have them?! I hope I'm not this bad one day!! x

Hello all!

Flumpy No real advice, but hope everything gets sorted for you. Surely your parents can see that you need somewhere to live?!

Pidg Good luck in the job interview. I think it's best to be up front and say when you'll be available from.

Seconds I was on that thread too! I'm going to check soon to see if it's still going

Mama I LOVE the Great British Bake Off. I have to watch it the next day though, as it's Beavers on a Tuesday night

I'm still working on the costumes, Ds2 is going as Charlie Bucket, so I've shortened some old trousers and put patches on them and an old t-shirt. I've also made a big Golden Ticket to hang round his neck. I'm still working on ds1's, he wanted to be Willy Wonka and when he told me my heart sank, however, I've made a top hat and am covering it in purple satin and making a purple bow tie. He's wearing his formal shirt left over from my brothers wedding, a black waistcoat and some light covered trousers. Hopefully it will all come together and in time. Right back to it!!

Wow you sound like perfect mummy making costumes, that's amazing! Do you know if you're having DD or DS this time?
Are the boys excited??

I'd love a big family, although I appreciate it's not easy x

I think I need to surrender my brain because its not working properly. Yesterday I put liquid in the machine, walked off for 1.5 hours came back put washer on a spin and then hung everything up to dry. Didn't twig nothing was wet until everything was hung up. Today I've managed the full cycle but forgot the liquid. I feel so useless at the minute!

DayDream I am the same way. I turned on the dishwasher without hooking it up first! (its portable, so goes on the sink) I think it's lack of sleep. Last night I was woken by monsterbaby doing what I can only describe as calisthenics! Sit ups, jumping jacks, squats. Who knows what he was doing in there but it was like an earthquake!

Hi everyone,

Been lurking for a couple of days. Welcome to all the newbies since I last posted!

Hope all the poorly DC are feeling better soon.

Pidg - great news about the heartbeat and good luck with the interview.

Flumpy - hope everything gets sorted for you.

MyDaydream - don't think you are being oversensitive at all. The thought of my ILs (or anyone actually) going through my personal stuff would make me pretty mad even if they were "helping."

Just got back from the mw. Found out that the issue with bloods is as suspected low iron, so they are going to check Ferratin and also B12/Folates -hopefully is just the iron though as B12 would be injections, and don't fancy any more following blood tests and the flu jab the practice nurse accosted me for while I was there!

Baby also seems to be on the move - not fully breech now, but head somewhere to the side and with baby's bottom somewhere near the bottom of the bump too . Hopefully all a good sign that LO is finally working their way round though. Will not panic about it getting stuck transverse, honest!!

Got a call from the HV to do a 'get to know each other' visit in a couple of weeks time and am panicking somewhat. Should i have stairgates up straight away or is it acceptable get past the first couple of months when baby won't be moving of his own accord before fitting them. Same with cupboard door locks/table corners/ all the other things they tell you will kill your child?

Also, heard horror stories from friends about being questioned about their upbringing and whether they think methods used on them are suitable or if they were damaging...

please tell me it isn't that bad...?

It's not that bad honeymum!! Mine was really nice last time. They will not expect any kind if safety things in your house at all! I can't really remember what she did ummm she asked if dp would be helping if I had a CS I think she looked to see where the baby would sleep (not expecting it to be ready or anything just looking at the space) umm feeding method planned. Possibly have the red book at this time too. Anyway nothing to worry about