March 2013 Mk IV: Knicker-checking; knicker-wetting; knicker-knackered

[tiddleypompom]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1535575-March-2013-Mk-III-Hopefully-the-nausea-will-wear-off-soon

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1499519-March-2013-stats-thread

There you go chick-a-dees

20 week scan on 31st of October for me lol!

manda someone wanting to talk twins

Ooooh Ood thanks! Will have a peek...

I think this is a lucky thread too, Zoey, and it's so nice that it's all been good news for a good while now. Hurray for you too possom, scuba, flowery, Hermione and random! And everyone else (I hope) I name checked earlier! Big smiles all round!

Oh Dame, what a loo-vom-disaster! Here's hoping for a better start to the day tomorrow!

Tiddles that sounds so idyllic, sigh? Like your horse-lawnmowers! How are your parents enjoying the new location? Aw your old lottie teeming with kids sounds great! I shall hope to emulate you in a year or two when they can toddle about. Chicks!! Laughed a lot at the idea of naming them after MN buddies, heehee! Yes, daily updates will definitely keep us amused when we're beached whales over winter

Butternut squash / pumpkin for fifth night in a row now, and there's still half of the squash taking up a whole shelf of the fridge! Soup tmrw methinks. Tonight was superb though. Found some leftover roast pumpkin in oven so mashed it up and put it in with garlic, chilli, fresh ginger, tin toms, and a grated courgette, served with pasta and blanched, crunchy french beans from lottie. First meal I've wolfed down for a long while and may go back for seconds yet ?

Am going to look out for scrimpling, Sarah. I've heard if it's not your first you can feel movements really early. You're supposed to be able to feel movements with twins earlier too, but I'm sure whatever little bubbly feelings I've been getting are just wind/food moving about. But I really want to feel them soon! Fourteen weeks tomorrow, hooray!

Glad you're alright JoJo! I'm so envious: I would have loved to decorate our house before we moved in! Best way to do it, I think, otherwise you end up like us doing it in a rush 18-24 months later with babies on the way!

Next scan dates: 4 and 18 Oct (18 and 20 weeks).

My MW laughed at the idea of having my twins in MWLU with my 'untried cervix' and other high risk factors which may become problematic, so although I was really into the idea of trying to see if I could do it au naturel I am now coming round to the idea of a planned CS, which I hear is much better to recover from than an emergency one. What I don't want it to go through labour, pop one out vaginally (as you do) and then be whisked off to theatre for CS. Best, in my head at least, to decide on CS if the medics are set on it. I've had major abdominal surgery before (on uterus, with 12 inch scar) so I have a sense of how long it takes to recover (tho I didn't have two small babies to look after back then ? hmmmm!)

Great scan news everyone, you have me so excited for tomorrow

Chefette I thought it was you, but then thought I was getting that confused with due date, haitch has scan tomorrow too I think or did haitch become Harriet, my baby brain is not working and I'm so tired, dd1 had hospital app today and were there for nearly 2hours it was draining!

peanut I am planning everything in my power for a normal birth but it's not looking likely at all they don't even seem to be humouring me it's more because of hyper mobility a epidural won't work on me found this out with DS so will be a general and as baby will be early will go straight to special care, which is what happened with DS and I felt awful he was 'alone' as DH stayed for me due to my issues with hospitals and operations, really wanted to avoid this!

Loving the chicken idea and the big brother daily updates :)

Think I best sleep just ripped up DH fags a he smoked too many today- is meant to be giving up with me but is being an idiot and is starting to smoke more again so had a little mental at him and need to pretend to be asleep so I don't have to talk to him x

Yeay for more happy scan news!
I am feeling very ungrateful as DH made a delicious veg risotto which I wolfed down, and I had fruit for pud, and now I am lying in bed hungry & craving a fish finger sandwich! proper comfort food! Poor DH

Well I should've gone shopping to get salad.. Instead noodles with a quorn fillet. So healthy (not).

I'm impressed by the birthing forward planning. I continue to keep my head in the sand and pretend the birthing part doesn't have to happen. I may need hypnosis to deal with this.

MrM is practicing his drumming (my Xmas presie to him, drumming lessons - I may yet regret that one) and the cats are upset by a combo of building work and terrifying cat flap!

Good luck Gummi and Haitch (?) and anyone else that's on 2mrw x am totally bricking it. DP taken afternoon off to come with, he's very philosophical about the whole thing, and what will be will be x

on a different tack, bumper crop of black currants this year, home made creme de cassis steeping as we speak, to be consumed in kir royale next summer! Also rhubarb schnapps, and rosehip cinnamon vodka (running theme )!!!!! Shame I can't have any!!

Elderberry port to be made this year also, if we can find some, lots of local trees were cut down this year. And sloes, the holy grail!!!

Well done to everyone today, glad everything went ok for everyone as for chooks, name a brunette plump bossy one chefette

Sounds good cheffette you will need all that alcohol for sanity once baby arrives

confuddled thanks for explaining re aspirin. I wish the doctor could have explained it so well.

Congratulations to everyone else for happy scans today! Good luck for tomorrow.

Thinking a little about the birth- had epidural last time due to high bp but had already done 10hours of labour at that point so I was very happy to have one- am tempted to go straight with that again OR go with my original plan that I had with ds to try a water birth. It would be nice not to tear this time, especially with a toddler to chase around! Also I found gas and air very good so perhaps I could manage without the epidural.... Hmm still got a while to decide. Is anyone thinking of home birth?

Night night all!

Congratulations to everyone who had their scans yesterday, it's so lovely to see such happy news- a fab way to start the week!

Em I am planning a homebirth this time. ds1 was a 16 hour labour with epidural, ds2 I asked for the epidural the minute we arrived at hospital but he was born 2 hours later and they came to put it in when I was pushing so missed out. Ds3 was practically born in the hospital reception which was hideous. No time for any drugs at all and it was all sooo quick so this time I think a homebirth would be my best option to avoid a car birth (I know of several people who have had babies in the car on the way to hospital or at home with just their husbands as midwives!!!). With ds1 I had loads of stitches but none at all with the other 2 which was very lovely indeed.

Anyone got a scan today? I need to get ready for ds1 to go back to school tomorrow. In some ways I'm quite sad that the holidays are over but on the other hand I am looking forward to getting back into our usual routine!

12 wk scan tomorrow - eeek! Haven't been nervous at all but managed to scare myself that it's not going to be ok, bah.

Best of luck to all with scans today

gummi I was Harriet/Haitch. No 12 week scan here I have to wait til 21 weeks.

Morning all and good luck on all your scans today :)

DH thinks I am being silly stressing about not getting the birth I want or even having any choice so I am glad other people are thinking of there options too, dont think he gets how scary it all is to me to have no control or choice in a hospital environment esp knowing my baby will be born and I wont be awake to 'protect' it straight away I know crazy mother alert .
Really thinking I may need to arrange counciling before much longer as my operation next week is hugely stressing me out - only I would spend the day looking online at all the old newspaper adverts etc of the court case and looking at his picture to 'remember' his face who am I kidding I have forgotten

Zoey - I think you should talk to your consultant about this, at least give them the opportunity to try to be sensitive to how you are feeling and why you are getting stressed out. You may already have done so of course, but it sounds a lot like a counsellor may be worthwhile. It sounds awful and very sorry to hear that you went through something so horrible.

Ladies with scans today - all the best and I look forward to hearing your growing human stories.

I slept the sleep of the dead last night, after caving in and taking a paracetamol. I am feeling moany though - my nose is red raw, literally, from all the nose blowing. Weeping and bleeding and very sore. I have a sore under my arm because my skin is sensitive and doesn't like the new giant bras I am wearing. I am bloated. My head (was) hurting (all day yesterday), and despite much rest I still feel tired. Right that is the moaning out of the way, now on with just getting on with stuff. Sleeves rolled up, game face on - COME ON.

Really good luck to eveyone with scans today!

Re births, I am due to try for a VBAC, had non emergency but urgent section with dd due to undiscovered breech. However dh is really anxious about me trying to push, and would much rather I go for a planned section! In the ettiquete of 'sharing' the experiance, how much weight should I give (or appear to give) his views against my own for my own body?? (He is lovely btw, just afeared I think of what I might go through!)

Am having such a todder-moon atm, have got dd to myself (can finally cope) and have missed her so so much! I can't believe I went so much time without her over the summer while I was ill. Long may it last anyway. Just off to the park :)

Morning

I have internet access - yeyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!

However, this does mean that unless the boys do something to the router again, you will not be able to get rid of me today

It's official, it's spider season Sunday evening a fucking huge thing (no I'm not exaggerating for comic effect) sprinted into the middle of the living room floor - it was so fast it could have easily have overtaken that cocky little shit Bolt. Anyway, had DH deal with it, which unfortunately meant him sqishing it in tissue. I actually don't want them to be killed, I just can go near them due to my irrational fear of spiders. I'd be more than happy for DH to trap them and move them outside, but he rather seems to enjoy killing them. I do feel very bad about it all. Christ knows how I'm going to deal with them when DH starts working away again. Last night, same thing happened - I'm guessing it was Mrs Spider looking for Mr. Spider as she was ovulating and wanted to have spider sex ang make lots of little spider babies. Suffice to say she was dealt with in the same way as her DH. Why the fuck do they run into the middle of the room? They're not even sensible in doing it when the lights are turned off. It's like they want to be caught/killed. It's at times like this I wish I had a cat, but DH is still pretending to be alergic.

I'm in a world of pain today. My legs are bruised, lumpy and sore thanks to the fragmin and my breasts feel like they're bruised too. My breasts were fine in the last 3 pregnancies, so of course thats one more thing making DH think I'm having a girl. I really do not want a girl. Especially as it will prove MIL right and all knowing, we haven't told family yet (I've told everyone else), but I'm sure when she finds out, she'll come out with oh it's going to be a girl and a girl will complete your family DH has said this will be our last, so if it is a girl everyone including the MIL will think that I was holding out for a girl and this girl is all I've ever wanted and has completed my family shit. On behalf of my two lovely boys (well they generally are for 30 minutes every day and then they turn into absolute monsters) I find this highly offensive. The truth is, I actually would love another boy and to never have a girl. Unfortunately, I have a nasty feeling that DH may be right and that the reason this pregnancy feels different, is because I'm pregnant with a girl.

Feeling a bit tired, woke up this morning at around 3.30am due to a nightmare and needing to wee. Didn't fall asleep until 6.30am and then had to get up an hour later at 7.30am. Dreamt about a teenage girl who was going around decapitating people and killing them in the most horrific way, then one of our DS took her place. I haven't had weird dreams like this in ages.

Oh dear MrsR. OK so apart from the annoyance of know it alls being right would you really mind having a daughter? She'll have older brothers to look out for her & teach her how to rough and tumble. She'd need to be a bit of a Tom Boy just to survive & she'll add a new perspective to the household. And of course your OH will spend all her teenage years panicking about boyfs - just to balance out your girlf issues for your boys. And whether she's a girlie boy a healthy bouncing bean who can't wait to meet everyone is surely on the way! Plus you could call them spider... :)

There's a spider explosion this year apparently so any running out to middle of room are really just suicide spiders. Or startled & going "what the?!" then getting squished. :)

I have cats, theyre too lazy to bother with spiders now. Fortunately I don't min them. Moths & crane flies however - if they could see fit to catch a few of those they'd pay their keep.

So pleased you're back on line

That should've read a girlie or a boy (whoops)

Morning All,

Terrible night's sleep in the 10 house last night. Woke up at 3am with irrational panic that baby didn't have enough amniotic fluid in scan yesterday (silly woman comparing scan photos with ds's last night before bed). Woke up DH who said I wasn't normal for worrying so much. Two hour argument ensued as neither of us could get back to sleep. I ended up hysterical and telling dh I wanted a divorce. T'was not my finest hour.

Peony thanks for sharing your birth experiences. I don't mind skipping the epidural if this is going to be a quickish labour. I'm just a bit scared about the 'burn' that everyone talks about as the head crowns. Not having felt it before...

MrsR These in-laws play havoc with our emotions don't they?! They have a lot to answer for. Obviously all I want is a healthy baby and genuinely don't really have a gender preference BUT I know it would annoy mil if it was a girl so would love a girl just to shut her up about how no one in their family has girls. (I got annoyed at her for saying this last time because I am from a very girl dominant family)

Anyway, hope everyone is having a good day. Good luck with those scans!

Here's a question for you - since my dates have moved, my 16 week midwife appointment that has already been booked is now 2 weeks late. Do you think I need to change it?

Morning (well late morning!) fingers crossed for today's scanners -enjoy every second of seeing your dancing/snoozing bean(s).

Mrs R - your post made me laugh - you now have spiders to catch the flies ( "I don't know why she swallowed a fly") just don't don't do as the old lady did and swallow th efly (I hope you have heard the silly song or you'll just think I'm bonkers)

Today I must report that I have a perfectly normal fringe hoorah! In fact I have yet to feel nausea today... bliss, bliss, bliss. DH made me bubble and squeak with quorn sausages las night -can't help but wonder whether the mycoprotein helped.

Birth plans _ I was given the option of hospital or home birth which surprised me as this is DC#1 I am probably plumping for hospital. Other than that I am joining the 'denial' group for a while. three I cannot really advise on you individual situation, sounds like your OH is very worried about you being OK. perhaps if he has chance to talk through the options with the midwife without any emotional input he'll come around to your way of thinking naturally. I'm always aware that I have twice as much info on this than my DH and it is my body but it must be scary for blokes - after all they usually solve the problem or ignore it (massive generalisation) and they are supremely powerless in this situation.
Ood until you said you were harriet/haitch I didn't get the reference at all- love it!! my favourite aliens x

possom you could call her and see what she suggests. My 16 week appt is this afty, 1pm.
On an unrelated topic, as you're local to the general Aberdeenshire area... Do you know of any second hand furniture stores? I'm looking specifically for two solid oak chest or drawers. In York there is a very good ex catalogue store that specialises in that kind of stuff but I'm out of my depth here!!

Just phone 'em possum, I couldn't say for sure

possom I based my 16 week appointment on my dates from the scan.

dame is it bad that I've just sung the entire rhyme? Got lost after dog to catch the cat though... What would want to eat a dog ( lets stay away from any race related humour here)?!