Evening ladies.
I need a bit of a rant I'm afraid. I have three pages to catch up on, but will do that after and will probably then be able to comment in a better frame of mind.
Basically, DH has screwed up in a rather dramatic fashion. We are both teachers and are back to work next week. You are probably aware that the first two days or so are always some kind of training or development before the kids come in. I have my scan date for Monday 3rd and have asked him, probably once a week over the holidays what day he goes back, as I go back on the Tuesday 4th, so the timing is perfect for me. Anyway. Tonight, he asks me again when the scan is (grrr - surely he should know this by now?!) and then tells me that he is back at work on Monday. We compare timings and it is at exactly the same time as the 'ALL STAFF MUST ATTEND' child protection training that is scheduled for his first day back. Technically, this means that he can be refused permission to have time off for the scan as it is a legal requirement for all teachers to undergo this training yearly and not a legal entitlement for fathers to attend antenatal appointments, including scans. He is going to try and speak to someone tomorrow 'if he can' and see if there is anyway around it, such as having the training on a one-to-one basis at a later date, but knowing how my school operate, I am not holding my breath. So I am now left in a position where I have two working days before my scan to phone the hospital and see if it can be rearranged, but this is unlikely as I am 13+2 on Monday anyway and this is the scan that is supposed to be done by 13+6. Ideally, we'd like it on Friday, because neither of us are working then, but being realistic, that's never going to happen. So in all likelihood, I will have to go On My Own and hope to goodness that all I get is good news. I am so ANGRY with him. And then he tried to start raising his voice and suggested that I was being unreasonable as it was all out of his control! Surely I'm not?!
I can hardly cry I'm that angry. I know he is pissed off too, but being a typical male, is struggling to take it on the chin that it is in fact his error that has us in this position and is desperate to try and offload some of the responsibility onto someone else. He loves this baby as much as I do and I hate that he won't be able to see it, especially as I already had to go through an emergency scan without him there.
I'm sorry to rant, but feel like it has helped. I think he would be furious to know that I have told a 'bunch of strangers', but at least I haven't just picked up the phone and told my mum or bf - I am giving him the space to see if he can do something to change it.
I'll try and catchup with the days events, but it may have to wait until morning - I think I just need a big sleep right now.