Due in October 2012 Part 6 - Third Trimester Trials and Tribulations

[YompingJo]

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Oh fjord you poor thing, you rant away. You are coping with a lot and have no choice but to cope, hugs and support for you. I agree with everyone, you are doing so well actually, xx

Yomping cheers on the thoughts for DH! He is doing well! At our wedding yesterday he was being well chatted to by all our friends whi have babies. They admiring his new life to come as SAHD and he is v proud of self! The chat to me however is, SHIT! He will cope, but this will be fun............!!! Have lots of promises of tea and support when I go back to work and a friendly face at several mum & toddler groups ( if they woukd only change to parent and toddler!!!!). So glad we will be moving as all these friends live reasonably close to new house.

And well done on the commencement of massage....... I am still pushing the thoughgt from mind........!

Bella that is some birth story!!!!!?!?!!! Goodness, hope it goes more smoothly for DH this time and he gets home on time!!! I did read statistically more labours start a night (coming back to our animal instincts apparently) so hopefully the triggers are there soon enough to get him from Carlisle!!! And obviously for you, hope all goes well and you have lovely DH beside you, x
Probably being obvious but have u been doing any exercises or positions to help try to budge back to back?? Yoga teacher has mentioned them but I hav not really taken in as mine has been in correct position until this morning, still willing to move here, come on baba........!! She also talks about birth positions to help with back painin labour if back to back. I will endeavour to listen better but maybe you kniw all this having been there before?

Smileyhappy glad you are feeling a bit more positive again. Yep, we have to deal with whatever comes, no matter what. Hopefully you have a better experience this time round, And glad you have a lovely supportive DH , x

Hi Cherry! no, not our wedding!!!! Flip, think stress of that would push one over the edge!!! No, our anniversary is on 4th Sept tho, which with everything going on has been sort if forgotten about.....hmm, must remember and buy a card!!! Forgetting your 2 yr anniversary would NOT be good, whatever the reason!!!!! I find the Stokke pram a bit space age myself........! One of girls yesterday is pregnant with number 3 and has bought one to replace a quinny. I kept my opinion to myself as we are all different!! Not for me and super pricey here too, £1000+. We have ordered Uppababy Vista and cannot wait to -play with it- get it!

Squid man up!! Sorry, that made me laugh!! Bit like that myself!!! What i thought was hip pain cannot be as it is further in, so it appears it is slightly referred pelvic pain. Not right above the fanjango as i assumed pelvic pain was but about 10 cm out on either side. Busy wknd last wk with lots of walking brought it on big time, hard week at work with full day home visits and bending over to get at pxs in wheelchairs and beds continued and then a day at awedding yest with an hour on church pews, bit of a walk in heels and a long day on hotel chairs has me wrecked today............. OWWWWW. Woke up this morning and barely feel abke to PART legs, never mind anything else!!! Hoping this ball loosens me up, but back sore now!!! Glad you had lovely time in Newcastle, sounds great. Yesterday was first I had seen lots of close friends in months, it was bliss to catch up and get lots of support. X

Better post this incase MN feckin loses my post by crashing.............

Phew, i'm not even halfway yet on catch up..........!

Elpis oh dear!! What a trip!!! But glad it all turned out well and you had a lovely time, bliss at the sea and bliss at the having all meals cooked!!! Silly bloody woman on train....... Grrrrrrrrrrr!

Lisbethopp good view on induced labour never thought of like that!! Love this thread for such reasons.......!

Wantano all sounds a bit old fashioned to me too, lots of gritting your teeth there, methinks....... ! Rant away!!!

Cwest hope you are ok. Glad all went well with MW but dont be taking any chances on your BP. Take it easy and do not be hesitant in calling hospital.

Crazy enjoy your lovely family time!!! Sounds great and just what is needed!!

Londonlivvy yay on all the progress!!! No gin with that tonic water?! Perhaps you were packing as a surprise treat for yourself??! Sounds like all comng together well, so pleased.

Bonjour Smorgs ! Deepest rural France sounds lovely to me in my currently chaotic suburban life!!!! Hope u keep getting enough signal to keep up!! And you are a star keeping up with the cycling...... Think i would kill him!!!!!

Right. Quite pleased with self! Think i have read everyones news properly. Today had been planned as do somethng with back bedroom day so i can start organising baby stuff including thinking about hospital bag! Every item of baby stuff is piled up in back room among all the other crap awaiting move. But as mve has been shelved for now, need to clear out said room. But given how crap i feel, that will not be happening today!!! Off tmrw so hopefully muster some energy then. Possibility of early baby is frightening me but need to be reminded of thought of having to send
a) DH home to root through piles of baby stuff

or 10 times worse
b) send mother to my house to find said room and babystuff is just horrible beyond reasonable comprehension!!!!!
My wish to be houseproud (which does not become reality very often) comes from mum's life of being a housewife and having a perpetually tidy house regardless just incase someone visits and heaven forbid there is a bed not made or a cushion out of place!!!!!!!!!! I wish......! Business to run, untidy self and DH....... Pipe dreams of tidiness!!

Have a nice Sunday all. Sun shinng here, hopefully get DH to do a 'Driving Miss Daisy' and take me out for a wee run in car to see pretty fields and sheep and cows...... i am easily pleased really. And perhaps the cleaning and packing fairy might come to my house too Wantan and do some work for me!!

Flip I am that spaced today i do not know if i am now 33 wks or 34...... Anyone know?????!

Just a quick one for those with heart burn - I have recently found chewing gum straight after eating really helps, it seems to stop it coming, at least for a while. I hope I'm not just imagining this and that it works for others!

Was getting worried about the radio silence from Angelico but then I remembered she said she was waiting for Internet at the new place.

We ordered a lovely chest of drawers for the baby's room today, plenty of room on top for the changing mat, the sort of thing that'll (hopefully) last a life time. Much nicer than any of the furniture in our room! Definitely starting to get sorted now.

Found aqua aerobics unusually exhausting today. I run out of breath so easily these days, I think baby is really squashing my lungs.

Huffle glad you enjoyed someone else's wedding! Sounds exhausting though.
We got a Silver Cross Surf. I'm a bit embarrassed to admit that because I started a thread in Pushchairs asking for opinions on it and was advised not to get it, but I went ahead anyway! It's so pretty!

Elpis, what a nightmare journey! I'm sure someone should have perfected teleportation by now. It is the 21st century after all.

Sympathies to all those with shitty hips, pelvises, backs and anything else.....

Note to self. Yes, those 15 biscuits WILL give you horrendous heartburn. No, it will NOT be worth eating them. Yes, it REALLY WILL be so painful you will wish you hadn't. No, the lovely taste of them dunked in that tea will not make up for the pain afterwards.

Ouchy

Ah Yomping I wish I had the will power to take your advice...

Tea & bikkies -- yum. Heattburn later. I have that t shirt.

Is it possible to get any bigger? Please don't answer that. I know the answer but fecking hell I am starting to feel like I have a 20lb beach ball stuck on my front.

morning all!

yomping Good biccie advice-heartburn is driving me crazy too! The industrual sized bottle of gaviscon my midwife gave me is actually running out! I can't believe I have managed to use all of that. Oops!

huffle thanks for the comforting stat about night labours- hadn't thought of that! I had forgotten that mine started like that last time. I was at home for ages just waiting for the contractions to get closer together and DH stayed up with me on the first night watching 'Miracle on 34th street'! I had totally forgotten that.

As for the exercises, the midwife has just told me to lean over the birthing ball but says the baby will hopefully have shiften his/herself by 37 weeks. Last time, ds was in the right position for weeks and must have moved shortly before labour, then didn't want to go back!

So glad you enjoyed your wedding and that you got some encouragement from your friends about DH staying at home. There are often lots of Dads at' Rhymetime the baby singing class held at most libraries and also at the baby swimming sessions I have been to. As they get older the group names are much less Mum driven, they tend to be called 'water babies' or 'gym tots'.

I am usually in a show in my village every summer, but because of DH's long working hours I couldn't do it this year. It was so odd going to see it on Sat instead of being in it. It was the one hobby I had hung onto since having DS so although I know I would have been ridiculously exhausted if I had performed every night for a week, I still feel a bit sad to be out of the loop with my friends. At least DS got a practice afternoon without me. i said to him, 'Oh, I am going to miss you today sweetheart' and he smiled re-assuringly and said 'well don't worry Mummy! I won't miss you because I will be with Daddy!' ha ha! Bless him!'

Happy BH everyone! (except those who don't live in UK )

Have decided at 31 wks that I'm getting a bit cheesed off with pregnancy now. Thought this feeling would come a bit later than this so feeling quite

Fed up with not sleeping, hip pain, bump pain, wrist pain, difficulty moving around generally, hot sweats, cramp, leaky boobies (new symptom, joy!) etc etc etc. Am doing things to help counteract some of these things but they don't seem to be working...can I just hibernate for the next 9 weeks please?!!!

Ignore me, I'm a self-involved nobber & I just needed to rant...hows everyone else???

35, 31+1, dc#1 and 6 loooooooong weeks til I finish work.

Morning all.

loopy I feel the same - I'm hating the constant feeling of not being able to get comfortable. As much as I am not particularly looking forward to giving birth I just want to meet my little one face to face.

I've got another 5 weeks at work and each day is becoming more and more of a struggle. Hibernation sounds like a fantastic idea

My little one has been quite a wriggler the last 2 days. Much prefer the kicks/punches to the general wriggling sensation - mainly because he must be lying right on my hip and every time he moves it's the most uncomfortable feeling of him being on my hip bone. That said, some of his kicks aren't exactly gentle - he's been giving my ribs a good booting! Made DH jump yesterday as I got such a hefty kick I jumped a mile out of my seat

Last weekend of peace for a while as have got NCT classes on the next 2 Saturdays. Not quite sure what to expect...

Hope all is ok with everyone else.

32, 31+1, #1

crazypaving Not St Malo itself, but a blissful place not far away where I holidayed as a child and have been taking DD since 2010.

DH left for Costa Rica at 7.30am this morning without saying goodbye. Apparently I have been 'guilt-tripping' him by saying I wouldn't tell him if the baby arrives early or I have to go into hospital while he's away. I said this because

a) He accused me of 'summoning him back' from a trip to New York when I was ill last year. I didn't - his parents said he should
b) There's no point. He won't even arrive in Costa Rica until tomorrow and returns on Friday
c) I am hacked off at being left without any backup at 34-35 weeks of pregnancy (his parents have gone on their SEVENTH holiday of the year, my mother is dead, no siblings, father 81 and semi-estranged) and being told that I wanted this pregnancy and need to calm down. If anything happens I shall have to dump DD with friends with whom she's never stayed overnight. On top of that he's going on another five-day trip to Atlanta when the baby will be less than four weeks old
d) Despite this I am proud of my ability to cope singlehanded. Too proud

Sorry about this rant but I just needed to emote. And the baby must STAY INSIDE.

Grrrr. Time to take DD out somewhere and distract us both before 'I want Daddy' kicks in again.

elpis poor you, but well done for coping so well. I would be so angry if DH left without saying goodbye in case something happened It sounds like he's being a total nobber - hope he pulls his socks up when he's back. Lots of stay-inside-baby vibes your way. DH is obeying strict instructions to go nowhere long distance from early Sept until about Christmas!! I'm very lucky.

loopy & kyyria I feel exactly the same. So sick & tired of being pregnant and all the downsides, but trying to enjoy the last weeks of relative peace...not always /at all easy!

yomping (or should that be chomping? ) sending you nuff rispeck for 15 biccies. V impressed.

31, 34+1, DC2

Hi all, will catch up later. Just popped on to express shock at the amount of boob leakage I'm experiencing. I've been leaking regularly since 24 weeks, but now I keep waking up drenched every night. This morning I had all these dried up silvery trails leading from my nips, across my abdomen and over my arms. Looked like I'd had snails crawling over me all night. Hope I don't run out of colostrum by the time the baby comes!
Thought my little one had settled into position as had been head down for the last 5 weeks, but she seems to have moved- I'm not sure where. Still plenty of time to find the right position, right?
Speak laterr, once I've caught up on all your news.
27, 31+3, #1

Just a very brief post to say thanks for creating a place where I can safely vent. It meant I didn't whinge to a friend when she came round with her DD this morning, and I try never to slag off DH to anyone who knows him. I got a text from Heathrow, anyhow.

Londonmrs You won't run out. Might be a stupid question, but have you tried wearing a bra and breastpads at night? I needed to do that until DD was about six months old. Unsexy, but preferable to snail trails!

I thought about it, I wasn't sure if it would be bad for my skin or cause a blockage or something if I didn't let them 'air out' at night. I might be being a bit stupid...
How come your hubby has gone away at this stage? I'd feel pretty pissed off too- my husband's work asked him to go away on training for a week when I'll be 37 weeks. I couldn't believe that I actually had to tell him that wasn't acceptable! He shouldn't have even thought of it!

Elpis So glad you got the text. Leaving 'without saying goodbye' is not good.
Question: Are these trips work or leisure? I assume work because they are short. I think you have answered that before but I forget. Work commitments, that support the family, are under a completely different licence, in my book, to leisure trips.
When the row is in stalemate - each convinced they are right (100%), someone has to try to put out the olive branch. Did you really say you would not call him if the baby was born while he was away? Could you say something like 'I was worried that baby might come while you were away. I was really frightened of having to do it without you. I might have said some things I do not mean, and I assume you forgive me totally' - I am married to a softie so I would get away with that but whatever would work for you .
In a way I feel a bit underhand about doing that sort of thing , but I find it brings back supportive loving DH and in fairness isn't it closer to the truth than the heated words?
I am impressed with how you cope, you have a right to be proud.

Last thing - Disregard any advice from me where you think 'ah, she doesn't know enough about us to comment'. I won't be offended, because that is true and I have been wrong before .

As we are almost in September could we start a list of EDD,

EDD Oct5 DS2

LondonMrs eek at your boobs drenching you - I have one boob that leaks at night, but one that seems to be a bit of an underachiever .Agree with Elpis that breast pads and a bra at night is your best option, have you considered washable bamboo or silk breast pads? Much nicer against the skin apparently and more eco friendly, if you're into that kind of thing - or just cheaper, in the long run, if that floats your boat too. See here for bamboo or here for silk and WeeNotions do some very funky patterned ones as well!

On the subject of snails, there were 69 - 69!!!!!!!! on our driveway and the path in front of our house the other night. I was compelled to count them not at all OCD, honest and DH got cross with me because it meant he had to manhandle the desk we had just come home with into the garage by himself. Which is stupid as he could have waited a minute. And while he did it there was a crunch... make that 68 snails. But still - what a massive snail invasion! We have snail trails all up the back wall of the house - how on earth do they manage to climb vertical walls?

Elpis, glad you got your text. Bet he feels really bad now. Which he kind of should, maybe?

Loopy, Kyyria, hang in there, It will get better again - then worse again - and keep going like that, I think. I had a crappy day yesterday but feel good again today. No sense to it, I'm putting it all down to hormones.

Yomping, 37, 34+3.

EDD Oct5 (snap!), DC1

Hello ladies, i haven't posted for agesss again and now I can't remember who said what.

My sympathies,cuddles, biscuits (Although not for you yomping, nuff love fo the heartburn!!), wine (?! anyone), and just general love to you all having trouble with health, nobber DH's etc etc. Majorly sorry for you all. I am in the "can not get comfortable camp" at the moment and it's hell, DP laughs at me because I fidget so much. tosser

We are moving this weekend!! HOOORAY. I really have to start packing. Quite lucky in the sense that we live in one room, so all I have to pack is actually not that much. Really really should go and get started..

I am also getting very fed up. I've still got 10 and a half weeks to go. The leaky boobs at night I think are the worst symptom (Although the SPD is getting worse), I keep waking up in huge wet patches. Not nice. I can't sleep in a bra and I thought that was meant to be bad for you anyway.. I prefer to hang free

I can't wait to be in our own house. With our own space. With no drug-addict brother-in-law stumbling about and ruining his life. I will feel so much better not worrying about it all, and being able to see what we've got and what we need. Also had excellent news on Friday, planning permission has been approved for the barn-conversion, so we are very happy. Just got to find the money now!!! :(

Anyway. I will go and have some biscuits and a cuppa tea start packing soon. Lol, lots of love to you all, I'm sorry I haven't replied individually to everyone. You are all in my thoughts!

EDD, 8th November. 30 weeks on Thursday.

Hello all! Sort of a productive day....... Not so much cleared out back room but hav made space in living room by sorting and packing bookshelves and cupboard. Been shopping and bought new mattress and sheets for borrowed Moses basket, a proper changing mat, 2 cellular blankets, a bottle brush, and some ready made SMA bottles and teats incase boobies refuse to work at start. ( why is everyone but me leaking????? Are they not gonna work???????!)

So, MORE stuff to add to pile in back room

On a 'bright' note, DH just called to say 'Let there be light' while he switched the power on in new house......., and it worked!!!!! Thank -fuck-- goodness for that!!! Bit of breath holding done there.....

Baba refusing to go back to that perfect LOA position, cannot work out what shape it is now. Panicking earlier that seemed so different and unable to feel any moving all day. Got the monitor out, lovely loud 'boom boom boom' reassured me. Guess is just settling in a new shape. Think still huffing with me over all that loud music......

Hugs and support against any nobber DH behaviour and sympathies to teachers getting in mind frame for work, won't be for long

This time 5 wks I'll be finished work, yippee!! Hopefully still not in upside down house by then

EDD 14th October!!

Afternoon ladies

Another Monday, another week closer to the big day, arrrgghhh!

Packed hospital bag(s) this morning, I know mine is ok, just hope I've got everything for baby. Last time I did this was 5 yrs ago and really can't remember what we had to take for baby and what they provided.

Oh well sure I will be staying in for a good few days so plenty of time to send DH shopping for emergency supplies if needed.

Elpis that REALLY sucks. If DH did that to me he would get loads of hysterical sobbing phone calls to make him feel as guilty as hell and the silent treatment when he got home. Fair enough if he has had to go away for work, but to leave you without saying goodbye when you are obviously vulnerable and highly emotional is just wrong IMO. Jeez, these nobbers seriously need to wake up and realise we are going through some pretty heavy stuff right now
Had my own meltdown with DH yesterday, he accused me of not caring/showing an interest in how we are going to decorate the new house when we get it. My response was "huge apologies but I'm on the brink of major surgery in a few weeks, I'm worried about how DS is going to cope without me and I'm basically not ready and sg myself. We are not moving in til after baby is born so excuse me if I don't care
right now!" They're all nobbers.

30, 30+1
EDD Sometime in the next 3-6 wks by ELCS :)

Afternoon ladies just back from my first antenatal and finally feels much more real. Lovely to be in a room full of pregnant ladies. Yup im fed up too almost went into meltdown yesterday pelvic pain all day followed by horrendous heartburn all night. Cant wait to finish work this week.

43 #1 EDD 2 october 34+5

Just popping on quickly for a massive whinge - turns out my Aunt, whose house we're staying in, had offered some other friends to stay in the flat annexed. They have a 3yr old and a 5m old and are treating us as free childcare!! The 3yr old is over here constantly, asking to be read stories, talking NON-STOP, and will not bugger off even when DS is having his naps, which is when we planned to doze/watch movies/whatever! It's doing my fecking head in, and we leave tomorrow morning!! How on earth will they cope without their free childcare????

And these are people we've never met before in our lives!

Londonmrs You could try taping on the breast pads if you want to air them out! I understand what you mean, as I sleep naked, but I think it's fine if you wear a cotton bra and have a morning shower to wash away any... how to put it? - night-time accumulations.

lisbethsopposite Yeah, now would be the time for a tearful climbdown from my proud high horse. Unfortunately DH doesn't respond well to those kinds of feminine wiles. (He is on business.) We generally have to have a serious talk about what's wrong and how to fix it - not really one for the stopover in Miami airport or when he gets to bed/work in Costa Rica - or we both just pretend it never happened, especially for DD's sake. It wasn't helpful to say I wouldn't tell him if I had to go into hospital, but it was my way of saying You're Leaving Me On My Own Again But I Don't Need You Anyhow, So There, And If Your Son Is Born While You're Away It'll Be Your Fault. Because I am seven and not 37.

Thanks for supportive comments from everyone. Bump quiet.

EDD Sept 26 by ELCS