Due in October 2012 Part 6 - Third Trimester Trials and Tribulations

[YompingJo]

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Thanks Yomping- actually that does make me feel a bit better!
Good work on the morning sex! I'm preferring mornings at the moment too before my belly gets all massive and achy at the end of the day

Hey chucks

Having a moochy morning as off to Newcastle for a couple of days after lunch. Quite looking forward to a dozy train ride... a book and tunes and might listen to some hypnobirthing too (will have to make sure I don't miss my station!)

Not quite sure what we'll be doing but might go to the seaside and go to tea shops, that kind of thing. Be lovely to see my friend. I felt pretty tired yesterday but not too bad today - I keep telling myself I'm 35 weeks now, it's ok to be tired! But it's strange. I have managed to pack up everything in just a big handbag so not too much hassle for the train (I live in short skirts and trainers at the moment anyway, so it's just a change of tops, underwear, a book, and my maternity notes! I can borrow her shampoo...)

I worry horribly about SPD at night, and everything hurts when I toss and turn. Come the morning I can walk fine though and not achy any more... I don't understand it. I made a complete NEST of pillows for myself last night. At least it was cool enough to do that.

We are down to sex once a week now boooooo. We talk about why we're not having it more than having it.

Did my bikini line probably for the last time today! Had to use a mirror /humiliating. Can still paint my toenails though...

Aw Mickey... none of us first time mums know shit... don't worry about it... we'll learn! Far stupider and less capable people than us have babies every day and they manage fine - we'll be grand! Possibly I am just in denial here...
I didn't know about fore and hind waters, there's way too much to know about everything, really don't worry about stuff like that. Babies need: food, love, safety, sleep, cleaning. The rest is detail! I agree with Crazypaving that knowing stuff is sometimes more of a hindrance than a help!

Kyyria ah, poor you. Paracetamol works better regularly than sporadically, try and take full dose for a few days? Other things that can help are heat and cold like you say... I'd keep it moving gently if you can though, these things tend to get worse if they stiffen up... a friend of mine swears by sitting on a gym ball. Hope it eases soon :(

thanks Beccus, am off to Newcastle to see a mate, am grateful the weather has cooled down a bit and might have a comfortable train journey! (You never know). I have been collecting positive labour stories recently - they are out there!
WHY do people feel the need to make rude and stupid comments about bumps? Have also noticed that people who have never been pregnant have no idea how big people actually get. I console myself that most people I've met recently said they barely left the house by my point, so all the 'omg you're so huge' brigade never actually saw them!
Sometimes though I think they are just trying (awkwardly) to make conversation and be interested. Young lad I bought fish off the other day was all like, 'how long now? can't be long" and then said "you take good care of yourself love" like he was my mum all sincerely at the end. he was about 16
Anyway - enjoy your haircut/nails! I must get a haircut booked for before baby or I will have a fringe down to my chin

Cwest very glad to hear all is well and stable from your appointment. Why not mention to your midwife about the long gap, see what she says.

Wantan Orange thanks for the link to all the dropped babies... I worry about this sometimes! My boyfriend was dropped on his head as a baby by his grandad - I often bring this up when he does something stupid.

Good recovery Londonmrs, I like it! I kill all plants too. People are always giving them to me though, I must give off some aura that makes them think a plant would be safe with me. But it isn't.

Yomping oh my god, that's even worse! Bless you, well recovered. Jealous of the morning sex. JEALOUS OF EVERYONE GETTING REGULAR SEX. If boyfriend's not feeling 'protective', 'tired', 'hot', or unable to wake up in the morning, I'm feeling huge or weepy or scared about setting off stupid pelvic pain. Right, when I get back from the north I'm getting back on the wagon.

I will probably never catch up with this thread again so KEEP WELL AND LOOK AFTER YOURSELVES

London Very much laughing (with you, not at you) well maybe a little bit at you at your faux pas. The come back is brazen and to be applauded. Don't worry - I can't keep plants alive either but so far DD is still here and not had too many life threatening incidents OK so sucking on the mop wasn't good, nor was downing calpol whilst my back was turned, or falling all the way down the stairs they are very bouncy and robust. micky forgetting to feed them is unlikley - I have the worst short term memory in the world but the kind of wailing reminds you that the little buggers need something. You can always chuck a fruit shoot and a packet of pom bears at them. Have more painting to do later and then I can move on to the nursery. This room is tiny so won't take long. DH can do the back breaking stuff and I will just walk around in my pants. I am in the 'it gets worse before it gets better' stage of home improvements. Living in a shit tip. Big waves to you all - best go work.

Cherry I may be up a ladder later - will try and get photographic evidence for you.

I forgot to feed DS once - I collected him from creche and then went home via the supermarket. He was about 12 months and was screaming by the time we got home. I didn't know what was wrong with him. The poor mite just GOBBLED his food, he was so hungry .

Sometimes when you are going out for the day, there are so many bits and bobs (food, nappies, toys, clothes, pram, rain gear, sun gear) I often wondered if I would actually forget the baby. Spoke to a girl about it - she had several kids - she said twice when the whole car was loaded up, she went 'right, is there anything we've forgotten?' 'Woops, where's baby' - but they had never actually driven off.

These are all harmless things but I did let baby fall off the bed once - there is a terrible moment of silence between the thump of the fall and the crying. No harm was done, but I would not care to repeat that
Felt like a rubbish mum.

I also remember the panic (and I've heard other women on mumsnet describe) when partner goes back to work and you are home alone with baby for the first time.

I think in the midst of all the advice and books there are gems of wisdom that will make sense to you. I can't remember all that happened with DS but I know MW and HSE (NHS equivalent) will be my main source of info this time around. Trying to read 'how to rear a baby' while rearing a baby is the same as trying to ski while reading 'how to ski' - I mean to enjoy this baby more and worry less.

It seems like we are taking it in turns to have our 'blue' days - aren't they awful? I echo everyone thanks for the kind words on here when it was me. Best wishes to everyone doing this and working.

33 +5, #2

Midget you are supermum

I need to catch-up with everyone but wanted to throw in a question -

if you're buying moses basket and/or cotbed (not cot) mattress protector, can I ask where you've bought these from & how much they cost? I've seen them selling for around £15-20 but thought that was a bit ...or is the norm and what I should expect to pay?

Thank you

Very quickly... we are in the new house and it is lovely! So happy. The movers were tremendous and we are busy unpacking. Yay. Thanks for everyone's good wishes. Will catch up more later or tomorrow.

No time to catch up!!! Just home early from work to go to first of 4 NHS antenatal classes!! Really do not kno what to expect and hope sincerely that DH is not the nobber at the back trying to be funny,.........he is well warned!!

Wondering about that too Loopy as i am getting a donated moses basket, M&P one and need to get a new mattress etc. have not started to look yet!

Ciao all, hope I hav some pearls of wisdom for you but will hav to wait as goes on til 9 and am sure I will be exhausted by then!!!

Yay londonlivvy !!!!!!!! Enjoy, that is fab!! Xx

Loopy, I got a Hippychick crib mattress protector (for carrycot) for just under £12 on eBay, with free postage. I should have shares in eBay

Londonlivvy YAY! Must be such a relief!

Lisbeth I let DS roll off the changing table once. How many times do they warn you not to do that?! I am an idiot! He was fine though. Our first trip to A&E was because of a head injury he managed to get while reading a book. Only DS........

My Dad left my little brother in a shop once!

Trying to read 'how to rear a baby' while rearing a baby is the same as trying to ski while reading 'how to ski' - I mean to enjoy this baby more and worry less.

This is genius and should be the quote of the day or go in the next Mumsnet book!

Brilliant news Londonlivvy, hope you can enjoy a celebratory glass of vino tonight x

You know you look heavily pregnant when the operators at the train barriers "suggest" you go thru the wider gate...and the man you sit next to on the train says you can as long as "that" doesn't happen I've got 9 weeks to go, you jackass!!

Ooh WantanOrange just had a quick peek at the thread you linked to - I did exactly that with DS in his carseat when he was about 8 weeks old. Exactly a week later DH did precisely the same thing - in front of a large group of mothers and babies, over a bank of seats. DS arced through the air and hit the floor with a thud (pause; scream). DH looked at him in horror and exclaimed "fuck", loudly. Cue lots of catsbum mouths. That was quite a day. If I hadn't done it the week before, I would have killed DH.

yay for londonlivvy! I imagine you as so zen and calm in your new place doing yoga all the time...

This supermum dropped her baby a few times and also locked myself out of the house whilst baby was on my bed, with the dog. So super.

LondonLivvy I am raising an imaginary . Congratulations x

Hey, where's Angelico? Hope your move went well too. Any news on your possible GD? Hope you're ok!

You girls are amazing. You really really are.
Thankyou for that link Orange, it (albeit slightly awful lol!) did make me feel alot better. Thanks for all your support girls I don't know what I'd do without this thread, why isn't every mum prescribed this website!!
MidgetM I could so see myself doing that. Although someone at work today did tell me about the time when their baby bit the dog's ear, so the dog proceeded to drag him up and down the garden by his babygrow

I feel alot better today and much less panicky, and the skiing quote is a great one, really does make alot of sense.

Yomping Did you not see my awful experience with a customer at work a few pages back? Easily, the funniest yet most embarassing thing that has ever happened to me... and it had to happen in front of all my workmates.

Good recovery Londonmrss, I thought your email was great.

Congratulations on moving in Livvy!!! Hope the new house is lovely. Can't wait for us to move into ours!

Enjoy newcastle Squid, take it easy woman! xx

I take that back yomping seems I didn't tell you all about it!!
Put it this way:

A situation does not get more awkward, or more embarassing, when you mis-hear an 80-odd-year-old-customer's request, and respond in horror "You want some durex?!!?!?!"...

No no Michaela, she in fact wants "Two new legs".

The look on the lady's face was priceless. As was apparently mine. (I'm told I turned from my normal colour, to white with shock, to a nasty shade of beetroot- is it hot in here?!)
AND I had to wait for the customer to round the corner before myself and workmates could burst out laughing. I was worried I'd nearly killed the baby through lack of oxygen because we were laughing so much!
Unfortunately I am not the office manager and I can make no threats to anyone, so unfortunately I will not ever, ever live it down!!

hmmmmmmmmmm I'm definately feeling less like "cute bump" today and more like bloody cow! Mooooooooooooooooo

My horror story

DS was only about a month old, and had me up at some godforsaken hour wanting a feed. Due to lack of sleep as I did all the night feeds (DH was a lazy git at the time and hardly ever helped with DS couldnt get back to sleep after doing a night feed so never did it again) So I was rocking DS back and forth in the dark, trying to calm him down so I could get his bottle ready. And-SMACK. I'd bashed his head on the side of the wardrobe Cue floods of tears from DS and me....and I swear, I did not put him down all day. Spent the whole day cuddling him in the hope it would ease the horrendous feelings of guilt. It didn't, but of course I know now it was just one of those things.

Was about to write that I have hardly had any movement form my little lady today, but she seems to have woken up a bit now. Little minx!

Londonlivvy glad you are all moved in now, will be our turn soon enough! Just dont overdo it with the unpacking, we dont want any "Due in October 2012" babies being born in mid august!!

Hope everyone else is ok xx

Just V quick check in on the antenatal class. Not bad at all! 1 hr with midwife then 1 hr with physio which did not expect. Tour of delivery suite next wk, unless they too many babies being born!! Generally all good, 2 main discoveries.... What I thought was hip pain is actually pelvic (Doh) and advice makes perfect sense now! Best bit was to put a plastic bag on car seat to allow rotation in and out, but u all prob kno that by now as recognised ur own symptoms properly........

Also, 1 in 10 men get pelvic floor weakness so they should do exercises too!!

Oh and a third, heavily preg women should NOT push shopping trollies, especially around corners!!?!!! If must do, use wee ones instead but preferably get someone else or shop online as the pushing really v v bad for back, hips and pelvis! So there u go!!

First trip to our labour hospital and tho they def seem v v busy they seem lovely and policy is 1 MW to one mum during active labour and they don't seem to be too medicalised if u don't want it.

All good! Night all, x

I did a bit of baby shopping this morning - made me feel weepy. I got the ultra thin breast pads - I remember the regular ones give a 'fried egg' look. I used them little enough first time 'round, I was not a big leaker.
I now have BF bras on the list which I think I will get on Figleaves.

BTW for those with less kicking in utero - there is a good side to this... Apparently the baby inside will be what you deliver (doh!). So if there are long quiet periods, you (hopefully) will have a good sleeper. I think I have longish quiet periods so I hope that is a good thing .

Question: I will have a 2 yr old and a new born. I was thinking of getting a double buggy. Has anyone been in this situation?

I'm having another quiet day on the movement front. I seem to have these every Thursday now. Weird.