Due in October 2012 Part 6 - Third Trimester Trials and Tribulations

[YompingJo]

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I have just spat my tea over my lovely beige trousers laughing!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh sweet baby J, mortified would not begin to describe the feeling...........

Oh Londonmrs, that is so the sort of thing to happen to me, I feel your pain. But did your boss really need to announce it to the whole office?? Surely he knew that he was unlikely to be getting a massage! Just think, soon you'll be on mat leave and everyone will have a looong time to forget about it.

Cherry Hope you get some rest tonight, how long does the 'hell' period go on for? Hopefully not too long.

Crazypaving Glad your week has improved, your DS sounds hilarious, can't wait for all the talking amusement. And fab news about the maternity pay, must be a relief.

Yomping That is very useful info about positionning. Particularly as my belly button has just started to turn so hopefully that's a good sign. Hope you're recovering from the exercise, am jealous that you're managing anything, particuarly as I'm so lazy at the moment and have just woken up from a nap.

Good luck with the move Londonlivvy, it sounds like it's going to be amazing, hope you can get some pics up.

Squid Repeat the mantra that 'All will be well' and have a lovely time away.

Wantanorange I agree with trying to get the agency on side and finding out what the situation would be re the deposit. Hopefully as you're moving with them, they'll be quite helpful.

CWest Interesting to see if your dream turned out.

Sorry not to catch up with everyone but I think I've made it through a whole page!

The best thing to happen to me today was that our printer, which hadn't been working, suddenly decided to work today so I could print out Yomping's brilliant lists and try to start getting organised. Next step is to try and sort out the spare room, wish me luck.

33, 31+4, DC#1.

Seen midwife and feel better. Baby squid is measuring 34cm this week (I am 35 weeks) so I'm no longer worried about being small yay! She also said I had a nice compact bump and had done really well with weight gain (not that I know how much I've put on) and said I was doing really well with the walking. We had a bit of a chat about back to back labours and she said I was doing the right stuff. Baby is slightly more engaged this week, 3/5 now, so that's encouraging. Everything going in the right direction.

Yomping I am utterly confusing myself with the foetal positioning stuff. I am being quite diligent about walking, sitting on my ball, doing all-fours yoga stuff, not leaning back or putting my feet up, sleeping on my side though. So fingers crossed. It's a lot easier to take the time to consider all this stuff when you're not working... ( though I was standing up even more then!)

Oh Londonmrs how mean of him... still fucking hilarious though! Maybe most people won't know what 'perineal' means... they are probably all googling it though

Good luck with the move londonlivvy.

Londonmrss that's awesome

Oh my God.
I've had a huge reality check today. I'm a bit of a state. I don't know ANYTHING. ANYTHING about pregnancy. Or babies. Or Children. It was only something stupid that set it off (which I will ask about in a minute!) But FUCK. fuck fuck fuck. (Sorry!) Am I completely and utterly stupid? How am I going to bring up a baby when I know jack shit about it? Ugh. Actually going to be the worst mother ever. Do all first-timers feel like this?? Or am I just hideously misinformed? I thought I'd read up on all these things. HELP. I am going into meltdown. What have I done?! :(

Does anyone have any tips for low back pain? Am in agony!

Suffered from low back pain/sciatica pre-preg. Not sure what I've done (if anything). Was alright yesterday, only thing I did was sit on a chair (not my usual one) but was really sore last night. Have had paracetamol (no point, doesn't touch the pain), currently leaning over a gym ball, have just ordered a support belt and tens machine. Am too hot to want to do heat pack/hot water bottle and daren't do a bath as paranoid that once I got in I think I'd get stuckthere with th.e pain.

Wasn't too bad today (sore but bearable) but sat on the bed when I got in (to change out of work clothes) and very nearly got stuck there. Absolute agony, had tears trying to get up off the bed.

Does anyone have any other suggestions for short term solutions until support belt/tens machine arrives?

32, 30+2, #1

Oh Kyyria Poor you, haven't got any helpful suggestions but might ice help if you can't take heat? Or maybe a long shower instead of the bath. Really feel for you.

Mickey I think it's a normal reaction. I read something today that said you have to remember that you are the Mummy and no one will know your baby and its needs like you do. And there's lots of experienced mums on here to help us xx

Kyyria Try an ice pack on the area hun. Heat packs probably arent the best idea for an area thats inflamed if that makes sense. DP finds this quite effective (he suffers with sciatica and back pain too)
Thanks Shell. Hopefully DP will be home soon to give me a big cuddle.

xxx

Am trying out ice packs. Have safely plonked myself on the settee (sitting still is fine, it's the process of getting into/out of sitting position and walking that I'm struggling with!), hubby is kindly waiting on me hand and foot whilst I'm apologising profusely for being an inconvenience. Feel crap 'cos he's having to help tidy (his m&d are visiting for weekend) and make tea after a full day at work and a horrendous hours drive home. He would be helping anyway but just feel crap 'cos I can't help!

On a happier note my little bean made me laugh this morning. Have noticed a similar pattern over the last week or so but it only dawned on me his morning...he is definitely his father's son . I know they can now hear external noise so it shouldn't cone as a surprise, but all was quiet this morning until the alarm clock went off. Cue little bean kicking/prodding me until I turn it off at which point all goes quiet again. It just tickled me to imagine this little thing demanding the alarm should be switched off so he could go back to sleep!

Thanks for all the tips on the house. Our letting agency are very nice. I wouldn't cross them, but they are fair! The landlady on the other hand is mad!

DH is still out of work so we really need that deposit!

Mickey what's wrong?

Hey mickey I've not had a freak out yet but suspect it's imminent! Don't have a clue what to do with babies other than which way up to bold them! You're not on your own by any means. Sending hugs

mickey what you're feeling is normal and natural and YOU WILL BE FINE!!!

You're creating a new person, with its own personality and unpredictabilities. It's a huge thing! It is overwhelming, but in some ways it's good you're feeling this now, as you have time to talk to people and get your head around it.

Believe me, if I can do it, anyone can! The early months are overwhelming and bloody hard work, and then after that each stage throws up it's fun and games. But you just....get on with it, and deal with it. It's amazing and wonderful and hard and frustrating and just mad.

What do you feel you don't know? "Knowing" stuff doesn't necessarily help anything. In some ways I think ignorance can be bliss, because then you don't beat yourself up about doing things "wrong". In the early days I found going with my instincts (and I never thought I'd have any!) worked the best. now, as DS gets older, I'm looking at books to help with his behaviour (and blardy hell they don't always work!).

This forum is great for finding out stuff you don't know. Don't panic, you have time, and YOU WILL BE FINE!!!!!!! BIG hug (((()))))

Kyyria sending u sympathy and hope u get relief soon. Xx

Mickey trying to push that particular demon to the back of my mind....... When I was younger and had baby nieces and nephews thought I knew it all but now that my own is 5-9 weeks away I am shitting myself tbh........ May laugh at DHs panics but I am more than a bit afraid myself!!!!!

But hey, if we thought we knew it all before it happened then we'd be seriously deluded, right??????

Personally I am still panicking so much about leaving work I am in denial, wait for my freak out soon............

hahaha, u ladies r on fire today, pissing myself reading yomping's baby conversation, ( i had to read it out to b/f), hearing that mummypig's laughing so hard she's getting BH, at crazyp's assessment that all toddlers are bipolar, at kyrria's bean who chucks a mental until the alarm is switched off, but LondonMrs's boss' announcement about perineal massage takes the cake...too funny!

Squid, u will be fine hon, enjoy your trip, where r u going? My pool is the hampstead heath ladies pond, a must if you're ever in london and it's hot. Btw, totally agree other ladies are a bit embarrased to say anything too positive about their labors if it has gone well for them, for fear of being seen to be boasting. I think all the horror stories and scary OBEM episodes are kind of like the evening news - scary stories are just more sensational than happy ones. My overnite hip pain is eased by lying on duvet, but think u may have said you'd tried that already.

kyria, please go straight to a physio and get your back looked at

I Want to know if cwest is psychic about her ec dates!!

crazy, great news about your mat pay entitlement. NHS pay is a bit crap, but the mat. pay is pretty generous.

surreylivvy, good luck with your move :)

yomping, my bean is the same as yours -i often get a v. indignent response when a cushion, laptop, desk or hand touches my tummy and gets in the bean's space. God forbid i eat too much, that is the worst - non stop wriggles the next day reminding me all tummy space belongs to bean!!

Having a nice week this week, seeing MIL,PIL and SIL at weekend, so getting hair and nails done to try and glam up a bit and look less whale like. 3 people this week have doubtingly asked ' is there only one in there?' and one of those people also said ' OMG, your bump is huge!'.

Evening ladies

Not much to report from my consultant appt today really. BP fine, urine fine, all other blood tests over the last week or so have come back fine, heartbeat was nice and strong. I didnt see my usual consultant, and this one has booked me in for a scan in 3 weeks, then I have to go back to see the consultant in 4 weeks. She has also said I will probably have the steroid injections after the scan in 3 weeks. I will be 32 weeks by then, and she said depending on the scan, we are still on course for me to have my section at 34 weeks (the last week in Sept)

So kind of a bit more definitive, I'm just a bit worried that after my midwife appt this coming Friday, I'm not going to be seen by a medical professional for another 2.5 weeks.....last time around I was seeing someone almost weekly at this stage....do you think I should mention it to my midwife on Friday? Just worried that the person I saw today wasnt my usual consultant so may have made the wrong decision in leaving me for so long? I'm probably worrying over nothing (as I have been throughout these whole 7 months!) I just need that reassuance that everything will be OK and Im not going to suddenly go into labour before they can do my section.

God, will we ever stop panicking??!!

So I may well be psychic yet!! All will be revealed, but it looks like its definatly that week!

Hi everyone. Thanks for the reassurance, these hormones have got alot to answer for. Have just sent a big long ranty message to my best friend in australia and actually said the words "What if I forget to feed it?". I then read the email back and laughed at myself for how ridiculous that sounded, theres no way I could forget to feed it. They cry Michaela, remember?!

DP has been giving me lots of cuddles and has reminded me that we are not on our own and he doesn't know what he's doing either- he also reminded me that Mum is just round the corner and will always be on hand to help!

If anyone is interested in knowing what set me off (I did post a new thread about it, and apparently I'm not the only one, thank god!), the other pregnant girl at work thought her waters had broken today. Now when we say waters, I thought they were just waters. But No! The midwife told her it was probably her "back waters". I'm sorry, what waters?! Since when was there more than one set of waters?!?! I felt like a true idiot admitting in front of everyone that having two sets of waters was complete news to me.

Anyway. That's enough whinging from me, I've just finished watching Midwives on channel 2 and am so grateful i'm counted as "low risk". Some of these women really suffer :(

Thanks so much for the support everyone. This website truly is a godsend. Also laughing my head off at Londonmrss boss and his perineal massage, ha ha ha ha ha!

Yomping your baby conversation made me giggle too.

Lots of love to you all. Hope you are all OK today. xxx

Erm........ Back waters???? WTF???? Not on your own there Mickey I will prolong my ignorance, enough to bloody panic about!

But I have just located and read your other post mickey and now I really am shocked!!!! No more info needed, go with the flow and ignorance is bliss!!!! Night all! Xx

If im not mistaken back waters are behind your uterus and tend to trickle out.
I had them go with my first, when the mw told me what they were i was like huuuhhh??????? cue dopey face and lots of questions.

Was there a new ep. of midwives on tonight or is that on catch up?

Well you might forget to feed it, but it'll soon let you know! We all cock up often but most people do a good enough job.

This thread might may you feel better, or it might scare you even more! But basically, we all drop the baby at least once.

No parent knows everything, I honestly believe that the best parents are the ones who ask when they don't know.

Kyyria, I can recommend a chiropractor - am also in the buggered back club and it is the only thing that has made any difference.

(Mickey*, back waters? A great big WTF from me too. I have read that the baby's head can engage with some of the amniotic fluid beneath it, and the pressure of its head on the cervix can break the amniotic sac so that the waters beneath its head trickle out (nice!) but the rest of the fluid can't get past the baby's ginormous head and so they don't "break" until later on - could it be something to do with that? But then, you'd think the ones that broke would be the 'front' waters, if anything - how can the 'back' ones get past? Maybe Google can shed some light?

Mickey I'm feeling exactly the same, it's such a steep learning curve to go through, not sure why we decided to put ourselves through it?!! In a few months time, when we're all on a postnatal thread just swooning over our babies & thinking how amazing they are, then these panicky days will seem like a distant memory at least I hope so & I'm not being too naive

Hey mickey, I had no idea what that means either (to be honest, I'm still not sure...). But that seems like a relatively small thing- my main concern is the whole 'it will be largely our responsibility to spend the rest of our lives trying to keep the baby alive' thing. We can't even keep plants alive.
That reminds me, my hubby and I just remembered that about a year and a half ago we wanted to get a pet snake but decided we didn't really have enough space in our flat. We still live in the same flat. Is it possible that we believed a baby wouldn't take up more space than a snake?
I am now laughing about yesterday's perineal massage gaff. My boss thought it was hilarious. I took matters into my own hands and emailed everyone in the company saying 'Please remember that as well as a PA (with the emphasis apparently on 'personal'), I'm the office manager, so if you don't pretend for the rest of your lives that this never happened, you may find the office has run out of good biscuits just when you want one.'
Kyyria hope you're feeling better- go to physio. I've had a couple of odd days of agonising pain and I always worry that it will continue for the rest of the pregnancy- but it always seems to ease.
Much love to you all,
27, 30+5, #1

LondonMrs, what a fantastic email, well done! A great recovery .

If it makes you feel any better, I managed to moon my entire Year 5 class last year - was wearing a long gypsy style skirt with elasticated waist, crouched down at front of class (with my back to the classroom) to pick something up, accidentally put my heels on hem of skirt, stood back up, but skirt did not come with me. Worst part? I was wearing a thong. Had about a millisecond to decide on my reaction, and decided that complete denial was the best bet, so pulled up skirt and carried on as if nothing had happened. Apart from face the colour of a beetroot, think I did quite well... I have since sold the skirt...

That will give you all a laugh over your morning coffee! If this has outed me to anyone, please pretend you have no idea who I am!

And I think in the general spirit of confession, everyone else should share an embarrassing moment.

Feel much better today. Slept really well, actually had sex in the morning (69 followed by girl plus baby on top, in case you were wondering, as someone inevitably will be, nosy buggers ) and planning a chilled day visiting friends for lunch.

Have a good day everyone