Due in October 2012 Part 6 - Third Trimester Trials and Tribulations

[YompingJo]

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Mickey, I think it's a bit like weddings - put the word "pregnant" or "baby" on a product and suddenly you can charge what you like for it.

Aha, the secret bag makes sense now. Perhaps that is where I should put my champagne and oodles of choccy bars?

I am planning on going with washable breast pads cos I'm a cheapskate cos I'm really eco friendly just because I like the idea of getting more than one use out of something. Have ordered some of these so will see how I get on with them. Think they might be nicer against the skin too

Damn, breaking my once-every-couple-of-days posting promise. Pretend you never saw me!

Just wanted to pop in and send hugs to Angelico hope you get to the bottom of your ketones. High bloody sugars an make your ketones shoot up although fingers crossed yours will prove to be on the right side of acceptable.

No time to catch up properly. Bloody hot. Been nesting big time. Decorating, ordering furniture. Wondering how the hell I am going to cope with out a spare room in the house. Where do people leave all their crap when they don't have a spare room? Laying in just a pair of pants like a beached whale. Just wanted to share that with you.

Whoever said (was it cwest?) about DC1 related guilt. I have it also in spades. Dd also starts school and has to deal with a new brother when she'd much rather a sister all at the same time. I am going to have a good chat with my consultant to work out how I can stay in as little time as possible. Just want to keep things on an even keel for poor DD.

Right better go, rambling and on my phone so can't comment intelligently on anything. Night all x

Oh dear. Have been horrible to be around today. Just feel anxious about everything and hence obviously taking it all out on dh. Really I'm just scared about having this baby - so scared something is going to go horribly wrong.
Have spent about an hour crying this evening which also means I'll feel rubbish tomorrow with swollen eyes.
Don't know how to cope with feeling like this for another 8 weeks. Sorry to offload here, just feel miserable and guilty for being such a cow.

Smiley this board is for unloading. So don't feel bad when you need to do it. I also have moments of blind terror. And moments of sweeping ridiculous optimism that this time won't be like the last. Allow yourself to freak and if you are still really worried have a good chat with your midwife. X

Hi Ladies

Mass sympathies to everyone suffering with heat. For the first time ever, I'm saying 'roll on Autumn'. Massively pissed off with being sweaty & dripping with sweat all the time...Went to a wedding of some really good friends on Saturday & it really was beautiful, really love her family etc but god, I just felt miserable the whole time. On the upside, everyone seemed to be suffering so didn't feel out of place but refused to be in any photos as I just looked ridiculous/felt like shit Really don't want to experience that again! Someone remind me to conceive later in the year next time so I'm not suffering so much heat-wise!!

Kyrria I also haven't suffered any BH yet & feel a bit left out?!?

Mickey I've ordered some perineal massage oil from Amazon. Yomping kindly posted a link a few pages ago so when I get to work I shall re-post for you...basically the perineum is the area between your fanjo & bottom & it is said that if you regularly massage it pre-childbirth then there is less chance of tearing...so they say HTH?

Hey Smileyhappymummy you can't live up to your name all the time!! Sounds like u feeling how I did last week. Everything was on top of me and daily tears, even had to hide in work,
Feeling positive now for 3rd day in row, feels like an achievement in itself!!! So I think you are perfectly normal. Anyone who says this is a breeze and there is no stress and they feel fine is obviously deluded or lying!!!

Offload and rant away, lovely ladies here are all supportive and all taking turns to have wobblers!! Things will progress as they progress and you will cope and carry on. You have another child and a demanding job and are doing very well. 8 weeks from now it will all be worth it. Cry when you need to and smile after, I find a wee chat with bump and the responding movements helps

After all the chat about positioning and the apparent correctness of my baby a few days ago we've had another marathon squiggle last night!! Feet and bum def swapped sides, painfully and so much something going on near my bum!!! But mercifully this morning seems back to wiggling kicking on right side. Just stay there, good baby!

And hideouse sore hips AND pelvis after our jaunt yesterday, too too much walking. But worth it for nice beach and birthday treat. Lots of sitting on ball needed this eve.

Happy monday all, hope the week treats us well.
EDD less than 8 weeks and counting.......
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Hey lovelies. Taking a quiet Monday as pretty exhausted from busy weekend and going away a couple of times this week too. Off to the market shortly but will try and catch up with most of you first.

Angelico GOOD LUCK with the big move. Hope all goes well and hope to hear from you soon. It's scary how close we are isn't it - I am finding the huge unknown of giving birth between 37 and 42 weeks a bit intimidating - maybe a date will help, when you're given one...

Thanks hufflepuffle I think I was just shattered... slept better last night, well I still wake up on the hour but the pevlic pain has gone after a day of taking it a bit easier and not sitting too much (except on my ball). Urrgh must do perineal massage again today... my antenatal class said 2 mins a day rather than Yomping's 5 so I'm sticking to that! As for not having sex since conception, I'm very glad you're getting love and cuddles - I'd cry personally! But I am a teenage boy at heart I think...
I'm so glad you're feeling better, these hormones are a rocky ride aren't they...

Did have sex yesterday on that note, it's all gone doggy style around here and I'm BORED OF IT (tmi I know). Being able to sleep on my front and being able to face my boyfriend during sex are really high on my post-pregnancy wish list. Er... does anyone who's already got kids want to let me know how sex post-birth is, how long before it's manageable/comfortable/painfree... I probably don't want to know do I...

Yomping your brother sounds so cute! I am best mates with my brothers, they already have kids but they aren't patronising about it, just excited for me. I am jealous of all your courses, I didn't feel I could justify the price and me and boyfriend couldn't seem to find enough mutual free evenings so am managing with one all-day NHS antenatal class (which was ok but just so long) and hypnobirthing CD (which I love). Oh and reading the entire of mumsnet and other websites all the time.
thinking of you (all of us!) with the heat and sweating! I'm not a heat person anyway. At least our babies are due in the autumn not the summer!

Beccus thank you sweetheart, I did feel better after crying and wailing at poor boyfriend and then having a cold shower. Went to see a mate yesterday and got lunch cooked for me and spoiled a bit, twas nice. Your pool sounds divine!! When are you going again

Mickey your post-birth treats sound great and I think after nine months of being good you're entitled to one cigarette!!
Yomping posted a good clear link to perineal massage before, let me see if I can find it
perineal massage
And agreed on the ridiculous prices for anything pregnancy related. Sometimes I go into Mothercare in the hope of getting excited and buying lovely things, but my reaction is always "how cynical is all this marketing at pregnant ladies" and leaving in a sniff. Also their sizes are weird. And they're not even expensive compared to mamas and papas etc...!

midgetm you are a one woman decorating machine, hats off. I keep thinking I should rearrange my flat and that seems too much like housework to me and I run off to do fun things instead. I lie around in pants a lot too.
DD will prefer a brother in time. Sisters are competitive. Brothers buy you pints

smileyhappymummy ah sweetheart, big hugs to you. I think we've all spent the whole day crying at some point recently... it's just... big stuff, isn't it. You won't feel like this for 8 weeks, you'll have good days and bad days and at the end of it it won't all go horribly wrong - you'll have a gorgeous baby. Take care of yourself eh and take the day easy if you're at work today (if you can). xxx

Washed all my charityshop/ebay baby clothes the other day, hanging them to dry made me go completely mushy.

Right I'm going to the market to buy mussels. I can't remember if you're allowed them or not but I think I have broken all the pregnancy rules by now and am drinking small amounts of wine about 2/3 times a week now. Whatever. Baby is 2 weeks from fully cooked!! Someone shout at me if I'm being bad/irresponsible.

Mikey I think I confused breast pads for nipple pads - breast pads are for leakage, nipple pads are a gauzey dressing for sore nipples, with no absorbancy features.

I have a question about perineal massage! Are you doing it yourself? According to the diagram in that article, it looks quite difficult! I've given the article to my hubby to look at, but I think I'd like to try it myself before I make it his problem... Do you reach round the back or round the front? Do you stand with one leg on a chair or lie down?

Mickey I love your idea of 1 cigarette after the birth. I used to be a rolly smoker too. I would do the same, but last time I said 'just one' was on my wedding day and I then immediately became a smoker again for the next 3 months, as did my husband. So I'll try not to!

I got a fantastic changing bag this week. It's not particularly sexy 1, but I don't ever carry proper handbags, I ALWAYS carry everything in a ricksack like a student, so I got this: www.babymule.co.uk/ It's brill.

Oh, and I haven't had any BH either. That's normal, right?

Midwife appointment went well this morning. Baby is measuring a bit small but midwife said this was actually spot on for someone who's small like me. Also said that baby is no more likely to come early, despite DS arriving early.

Nesting instinct is driving me slightly insane. Can't do anything till we've moved and I'm just bursting to sort all her little clothes and make the nursery bootiful! DS never had a nursery, I can't wait!

Squid in answer to your question. DH and I waited 8 weeks until we did the deed after having DS. It wasn't planned or anything, that's just when the mood next took us . It wasn't at all uncomfortable or painful. I have a friend who said she only waited 2 weeks, each to their own and all that but that would have bloody hurt me! I was still waddling at 2 weeks. And a word of warning, the midwife will talk to you about contraception around the time you are due to give birth. You will think she is mad. She is not, she speaks sense. Asking for the morning pill 8 weeks after you've had a unplanned baby is mortifying!

Love the baby mule changing bag. - that is gorgeous!
I think I have been having some BH contractions... But not 100% sure, stupid as that sounds.
Baby is being reassuringly wiggly and that is quite comforting. I made a list of things to do before baby comes which has made me feel slightly more in control too. Still feeling very weepy and scared though, might ask to see consultant again before section date if I don't feel better by next week, just so he can reassure me again. Also wondering if I might be anaemic / on 28 week blood count my haemoglobin had dropped a fair bit from booking and was borderline so if it's carried on dropping might be parts of what's making me feel crappy too - feeling very dizzy and tired with the odd bout of palpitations too today. Migbt gt blood count checked again....
Oh, I am just being rubbish, kick up backside needed!

Londonmrss I hope it's normal!!

And re: massage, I'm hoping to do it myself as wouldn't be comfortable with DH doing it, would feel a bit impersonal & 'medical' IYKWIM....

Smiley you have just described exactly how I feel when my iron is low. The palpitations freak me out totally. Week on iron tablets and apart from the dreaded constipation I am good as new.

Squid Think I waited a couple of months after DD. Combination of sore fanjo and knackerdness made me not miss it though. Too in love with DD really. selfish cow

Yeah, that was really my other question about the massage- is it possible to make it sexy???

londonmrs bag looks great but £89? I don't want to sound like my mother but blimey that is a bit steep for a changing bag. Ever so slightly jealous as never had a changing bag. I spent a tenner on a rolled up mat with a compartment for nappies and shoved it in what ever bag I was taking out. For some reason I feel hard done by for not getting one this time round. Need to control these spending urges. Thou must not covet thy thread neighbors changing mat.

Orange My nesting instinct has hit new heights. I have visited homebase 5 times in the last 3 weeks (at least). Just about to go to the carpet shop. Like the baby is going to be bothered by a manky carpet...

Oh, I don't even know where to start with catching up with you all. I think this is the longest I've not posted and now it's become a very daunting task.

Apologies in advance to everyone I miss, as there will be many!

Firstly, thanks for sharing all the names! I was really surprised how many people were happy to. We knew that both my mum and DH's mum would have "things" to say about our choices, so we decided on a blanket ban on telling ANYONE before it's official because I think people are less likely to tell us their negative opinions then.

Anyway, loved them all. Was interesting to see that the majority were traditional, rather than celeb-type names.

Also, thanks for the nice comments on my bump. I only took the photo last Tuesday but I think I've had a growth spurt since then, as I feel HUGE lately. Still loving the "bump slapping" Midget, and I reckon we need a photo of you in a bikini, up a ladder, painting the house! Please?!

Right now for the name checking....

How's your sleep situation kyyria? I've been meaning to say for ages that you shouldn't feel bad about sleeping in the spare room if you need to, it's only temporary, I wouldn't hesitate. You never know, you might sleep better if you don't have to worry about disturbing your DP.

Yomping you are a shopping guru, I love all the things you link to, I just wish I was in the same country so could buy a few of them.
Thanks for the great peri-whatsit massage info. Prior to reading, I thought it just meant rubbing a bit of oil on the area. I had know idea it was so...involved - got to get right in there, eh?!
Loved your jokes, I think we have the same sense of humour! The carrot one has long been my fave partly because I can't remember anything more complex
Oh, and I'd say "no" to the birth photos, but then I didn't even want a photographer at my wedding. They do look like lovely photos though.

Beeble I'm just going to have DH with me for labour. He goes away for work a lot, but will try not to for about a month around the due date. If he's not here though, I don't know what I'll do - maybe try go it alone??
I love OBEM, and have been watching Midwives. If you want to watch TV from other countries, have you tried a VPN? For ages I thought it might be a bit of a con, but then I bit the bullet and paid an annual fee so now I can watch all the stuff from home. It really works.

Sounds like you've been through a bit of a worrying time CWest, good to hear things have settled down now. Stay healthy!
Love the name you've given your daughter, it's so pretty without being too cutesy.

Fjord, another one who's been through the health mill! Must be scary, but like others have said, at least it's been diagnosed and you sound like you're coping amazingly well. I'd be terrible, I have no will power, especially when it comes to food.

Oops, getting too long, will post more later (you lucky things )

I hope you aren't still worrying about your measurements Squid (I know a lot have time has passed since then). I've always thought the fundus measuring thing must be so inaccurate anyway, I means it's rounded so it's not like there's a definite point to measure to. And apparently how the baby is lying changes it, as do many other things.
My doctor never mentions it, so when I heard you talk about it I checked my book and it seems I've measured "small" since the beginning. Last checkup (29weeks), I was 24cm. BUT baby weighed in at 1.4kg, which doc laughed off as just being bigger than the Japanese average. So I came home and checked the Western average - about 1.1kg for that gestation .
Seems I have a big baby crammed into a small uterus!

Angelico, sorry to hear about your health worries too. The measurements you were given did sound a bit shocking (not that I know anything) and deserving of a bit more explanation. Looking on the bright side, a least now you're getting more checks and investigation. Take care.

Please don't apologise or stress out about (not) posting Huffle, you can't be as bad as me!! You have your hands full with your business and everything else. This should be a place to chill/get away/vent/get reassurance etc. Please feel free to skip any of my posts, and I won't get offended if you don't reply to me . Glad you've been feeling brighter lately. Damn these pregnancy hormones!

That's all for today, I promise!

Have just been checking diary in work and realised I am not working any more Saturdays until I come back to work!! Yay! Yay! Yay! Yay!!
Now as for the question, who arranges the rotas to know this info?? Yes, me. And how did I not realise I had been so good at giving myself this bonus????? Well, blame the baby brain......
Yay! Yay! Yay!

Good work huffle!

In the spirit of positive thinking, I've been reading these threads this afternoon: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/childbirth/1007770-Any-positive-birth-stories-I-m-a-bit-terrified/AllOnOnePage, www.mumsnet.com/Talk/childbirth/1007770-Any-positive-birth-stories-I-m-a-bit-terrified/AllOnOnePage
I find them very helpful.

Can't believe how much movement I've felt today! Been really uncomfortable, she just hasn't stopped. There isn't such a thing as too much movement, is there? I remember someone mentioning it last week.

See, there I go, worrying again. Must. Not. Panic. If she has a quiet day tomorrow.

Whoops, that was the same link twice. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/childbirth/a1350240-Anyone-want-to-share-a-GOOD-birth-story

Thanks guys (and Yomping for posting the original link) I shall read up on the info. The diagram looks a bit horrendous

arrrrrrggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Job description for parenting a toddler should come with "patience of a saint" followed by "not for the fainthearted". Sorry, I know this isn't the right place to post this at all but DS has pushed every single button I own today repeatedly. I pick my battles, and keep it to hitting people, throwing food, and doing dangerous stuff at the moment. He's done it all today, repeatedly, in spades, all with a wicked grin on his face. It's a miracle he's still alive, frankly.

Pregnant ladies should not be pushed in this way. I just feel like punching a wall and crying copiously.

I shall come back when I have something nice to say