Feb 2013 - early days - part 2!

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Couldnt fund a second part to our thread! Has anyone else started part 2 somewhere else???

Anyway...

Also sleeping badly!!

Yes, I will get to work on organising our list according to due date and post later!

Re fifty shades, queen, u wont hav to do mych skipping to find the rude bits, they're shagging and spanking on every other page!

Welcome wiggy and happymonkey. Don't forget to join the secret Facebook Group too - see further back the thread for link (I'm not known for technological prowess, so won't attempt a link here!).

bopfactory- same here! Boobs gone up 2 sizes, obvious little bump to those who know me yet still worried. I think I'll feel so much better after tomorrow morning. Last night I dreamt that I went for the scan and had to put fluffy animal slippers over my tummy to protect the baby from the scan- when I questioned them they said it was the latest technology! Bizarre.

My friend who id due her scan a couple of weeks after me had a letter saying to have a full bladder but I just had the time on mine. It's over 7 years since scan with DS1 so can't remember any of that- can anybody offer advice? Should I take a big bottle of water to drink in waiting room?

Hello everyone, I'd like to join you. Had my dating scan yesterday and I'm due 1st Feb this will be dc#3 after a eight year gap.

Feeling tired and nauseous in the evenings but day time nausea has more or less passed.

Showing a little and can feel flutters of movement already.... Which doesn't surprise me as it was jumping bean on the scan yesterday, the sonographer kept waiting for it to stay still. It looks like its got very long legs and is very active so I'm presuming it's not going to take after me

Any other mums 35 and over with older children in this pregnancy? My other Dc's are 11 & 8 and very excited.

Nice to meet you all.

Hello all, I though I'd finally join you too after some serious lurking for the past two months!

I'm 12+3 with DC1, EDD February 9th.

A bit of background: because of previous MCs have been on aspirin and progesterone since the very earlist days. Had early scans at 6 and 9 weeks, then was moved out of EPU and thrown into the normal antenatal unit with the other updiffed ladies for our 12 week scan. (Hooray!) Everything looked great with the Grublet on the 12 week scan, so it's slowly beginning to feel 'real'.

We announced the news to my mum on the day of the scan, and I told my sister yesterday (they've both been sworn to secrecy!) Still waiting on breaking the news to everyone else. I didn't expect to want to continue keep the news to ourselves for so long but it just feels right. We'll probably tell DSS (7), DP's family and my boss in the next two weeks - or maybe we'll wait a bit longer and tell everyone closer to 17-18 weeks(!) Basically we've decided to just take it day by day and enjoy our little secret. Is anyone else here doing the same?

I probably won't join the secret FB group as I can barely keep up with MN at this rate and I like my anonymity!. That said, I might be willingly coerced as we get further along...

Hi Henny, I'm another 35+ mum. And I've got a DSS(7) who lives with us, so there will be an 8 year gap between the DCs.

Have you told your DC about the pregnancy yet?

Oops. Just saw that you said the DC are excited so you've definitely told them (it's too early for my brain to function properly!)

How did you break the news to them?

Oh, and congrats.

Hi Laura [waves]

Yes we told them at 10 weeks which was a bit of a risk but it was getting difficult to keep it from them as lots of wretching etc and they were getting a little worried plus we had a family gathering that weekend and if I hadn't been drinking the family would have guessed first straight away. We wanted the children to be the first to know.
They are both very happy and excited to be having a new brother or sister.

I think it's nice having that time with just you and you DP knowing, a lovely little secret, we used to catch each others eye and have a cheeky smile when other people were around knowing what each of us were thinking.....actually my DH was probably thinking about the afternoon it happend to be honest

I am finding at 36 that I feel more tired in this pregnancy than my previous two. How's your tiredness?

I'm 'older' too - 37 with 3 DCs - DD (7) and 2 DSs (5 and 18mo). We haven't told them yet, going to wait until after the scan so we can show them the pictures! Mainly cos I can't trust the older two not to blurt it out to all and sundry before we are ready to go public!

Hi Bop,

Yes don't think my two would have been able to keep it a secret for long either, we told them the day before family, in fact at the party we had to follow them round as they went round telling the relatives. It was nice that they were involved telling people, I think it made them feel a big part of it all. When is your scan?

Laura, we took them out for a meal it was the evening my son had had his sample day for high school, I just said we had some great news for them, I was quite nervous about telling them for some reason but they gave a lovely response..... Well my son after his initial reaction was ' urghh' and he physically shuddered and we all laughed. He was thinking a bit too much about how it happend.

Hello, I've not been on for while, I too am very worried am no longer pregnant, as don't feel like I have any symptoms. wiggy I am due 17th feb - should be having my scan next week but am away so have to wait till 13th august when I'll be 13 weeks - so long to wait!! Hope your scan goes okay tomorrow. happymonkey so do they say to drink before the scan? I haven't been give any info on it!

My scan letter says to drink a pint of non-fizzy fluid an hour before the appointment and not go to the loo in the meantime... really hope they're running on time, I can't seem to go more than half an hour without a wee at the moment! Scan on Thursday morning this week, which from my dates will put me at exactly 12 weeks, though I guess that might alter.

My parents are looking after the other three DC while we go for the scan - we are off on hols the next day so asked them if they could babysit for a couple of hours while we get some packing done! Quite enjoying the secrecy in a weird way! Though will also be relieved to go public (and not have to suck my stomach in all the time )

Thanks bopfactory I'll do that then. Yes I'm a bit nervous about telling people ( if the scan goes ok), although in some ways it will be easier. Someone in my office came to work and her child's got chicken pox and I freaked out and worked in a spare office on my own! Everyone thought I was crazy! It probably is a small risk, but I didn't want to take that. Everyone must think i've gone OCD about germs or something!

Hi everyone. I'm 37 and bleeding knackered! I had my first ds at 35 and I can't remember being this tired.

Just waiting around to leave for the hospital for scan appt, driven myself a bit mental this week with bad thoughts and wrongful googling but hope all is ok.

Yes yes yes to the exhaustion. I feel so old!

@ Henny's son's reaction.

We've decided that when we tell DSS, we'll show him the scan photo and ask if he knows what it is. And hopefully a good conversation will ensue.

As for the 20 week scan, we've talked about having the sonographer write either 'brother' or 'sister' on a notecard to be sealed up in an envelope, then later that day when we're all together DSS can open it and tell us what we're having.

Aurora I've been a bit of a germaphobe, too. What's been even worse is that I've turned into an insane anti-cigarette smoke freak - I've become really sensitive to it and I just can't bear to be around it at all. Even outside.

Is there a current February 2013 stats list?

Hi everyone - welcome newbies! I'm sure my bump has got smaller overnight?! Never really had any symptoms, so don't feel very pg for 13 weeks, but determined not to panic! I had a scan at 10 weeks and one at 12 weeks and both times I was asked to go to the loo half way through as bladder was way too full! So I wouldn't worry too much. There is a Feb 2013 stats list somewhere.... (no link - technophobe here, sorry).

Laura I am the same way with cigarettes. I used to smoke but now I can smell one from 50m away and the nausea with it is just unbearable. Denmark was an issue as so many people smoke compared to home.

Exhausted too - heading to my cousins wedding on Friday. I am going on my own with DD. Luckily the British Army didn't want to refund my brothers flight so he was taken off Olympic Duties and allowed to go on leave. I was worried that the flight being split into three legs would be a problem but after our 9hr flight to Copenhagen I am looking forward to the longest flight being 5 hours. My mother and brother are meeting us at the gate in Vancouver for the last flight. I will be looking forward to the help by that point! I do wish my family all lived within 5 hours driving distance sometimes.

I wish I could have had a scan before now! I don't have a bump! Have maybe put on a bit of weight but I think it's just holiday fat rolls!

I have gained 3lbs in total but my tummy is roly poly. It is as if all the fat as been pushed up and out. I haven't told extended family that I am pregnant but my mother pointed out that I won't have to tell them. I think my dress just makes me look fat which I am ok with. This is my cousins big day and I don't feel comfortable about telling anyone about my pregnancy at their wedding or just after.

Hi all,

I have only just found this thread and you all knwo so much already, quite overwhelming, being perfectly honest I have only read two or three pages of this as there is just soooo much!!

I'm 26 and got married May last year, my DH and I have been trying for a baby since mid Feb this year and I found out about 2-3 weeks ago we're pregnant :D

I just got confirmation last night that im 10 weeks, which was quite a bit of a shock as hadn't realised I was quite that far on. Reasurring that I have missed some of the most yucky time, still feeling nauseous 90% of the day and exhausted constantly :(

My DSD doesnt know yet, not sure when the best time really is to explain the situation with her, unfortunately, her birth mother is less than supportive of the situation.

Still completely over the moon and super excited !!!

My EDD is 20th Feb 2013

Hi Heva - congrats and welcome. I totally understand about dealing with a bioMum. One of the reasons I want to wait longer to announce is because out of respect we'll notify her after we tell DSS. (I've decided that she needs an advance warning so she's prepared when DSS 'announces' it to her - I don't want her to be blindsided and react negatively in front of him.) But honestly, it irks me that she gets to be in the special group of people who are told first.

Today I suggested to DP that we wait to announce until after the 20 week scan. It's only 7 more weeks. And I probably won't show much before then, anyway, right? I've got a bit of a belly now but I know a lot of it is due to the progesterone bloat.

What do you ladies think - is it absolutely bonkers to wait that long to tell people?

Back from scan all ok thankfully. Baby measured 11 & 3 which is what I expected and due date is 17th feb.

Laura I don't think that's too late really, if you have to think about that especially. I'm not making a big announcement, I have too many close friends with various problems to do with pregnancies and will probably tell people in person as & when.

I'm pretty bumpy though so as soon as I see someone will have to tell them.

Strangely, my bump got smaller too don't worry. Think a lot of early bump is bloatage?

I drove myself mad being paranoid about that..

Laurapalmer- what a lovely idea for 20 week scan, I'm defo doing that for ds if we decide to find out the sex of dc2.

Scan tomorrow, pretty nervous. Having crazy scan based dreams at the moment. At least it's early so I don't have to spend the whole day stressing. I'll be (by my reckoning) 11+1, we're off to France for a month so if I had it when I got back I'd be 15w.

With ds I didn't show until 20 weeks but all ready put on over half a stone, bra gone up 2 sizes& starting to wear some maternity stuff! Was convincing myself it may be twins as runs in family but in reality I think it's just all the beige/ brown food I've wanted to eat ( crumpets, bread, chocolate, crisps etc). Well, going to try&get some sleep, I'll obviously let you know how tomorrow goes&thank you for well wishes.

We have already told a number of close friends and family, work colleagues etc, however the DSS and BioMum are at the other end of the county and have no further contact with our friends or family. She has tried to cause a number of problems in the past and the lines are very clearly drawn in that regard, there is no way she will accidentally find out.

We have no contact with either at the moment and are going through solicitor for contact, I would rather my DSS was not told by her BioMum but we really have no choice but to bring this up via solicitor with relation to the contact, any suggestions?

pickles yep I'm feeling pretty knackered too, I definitely wasn't this tired with the other two but I'm 9 years older now. Got away with bad morning sickness like with the other two though so can't complain.

Feel like my bump smaller too now so its reassuring to know maybe that's normal.

Anyone still getting crampy feelings or back ache?
I'm fretting a lot more this pregnancy with #3 surely I should virtually be a pro by now?!