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Due in October 2012 - Part 5

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Kyyria · 20/05/2012 18:25

Just starting us off on a new thread Smile

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Bubblebell1 · 20/06/2012 15:03

Hi girls!
gucci pls don't worry. Hope appointment goes well.

Turns out I have a kidney infection. That caused the back ache and cramps. Hopefully meds will kick in soon

Hi to all of you and hello newbies Grin

Bubblebell1 · 20/06/2012 15:06

Oh god! Turns out I'm the newbie Blush

Posted on wrong october thread. When I read back I recognised some names and thought this was the other 1 Confused

What a doughnut!

Londonmrss · 20/06/2012 15:47

There you are! Thought you'd all left me!!!

MrsConfusion · 20/06/2012 16:25

Finally found this thread, what a palaver, thanks Mumsnet Angry

Thanks to all those worrying about pains or poorliness or work stresses.

Today I am mostly made of snot, darned hayfever. My doc said I can't take anything (I'm usually on drugs, drops and sprays all summer), and the pharmacist said I should only use one sort of nasal spray, that seems to be mostly salt water and pine-essence, and stings so much in my (regularly bleeding) nose that it makes me dance around like total wuss, trying not to swear and/or cry. I absolutely love summer, but the pollen I really don't love.

Love to all, especially the poorly ladies: please keep resting with lots of Brew and Biscuit until well after you feel better.

Angelico · 20/06/2012 16:44

Dear all, thanks for lovely birthday wishes - and hello Nenehooo! .

Sorry so many people are having a hard time at the minute. Squid v glad the discharge has stopped, I know the terror :( You MUST rest - consultant dude told me our bodies are trying to tell us to slow down with things like pain etc.

Mickey so glad scan went well! :)

For the peeps having work stuff am Shock but not shocked if that makes sense. I am always amazed at how shit a deal women get in the 21st century when it comes to maternity leave / pay / jobs on return etc. Really don't be afraid to take advice and take action Thanks

Just having a quick check in but more later x

ps: also very cross we were moved, especially as it was down to some random egomaniac who doesn't like seeing threads in pregnancy that are 'irrelevant and boring' for her (or words to that effect). Thing is 90% of threads on MN are irrelevant and boring for me but I don't ask for them to be moved, I just... don't read them Hmm

hufflepuffle · 20/06/2012 17:09

Hello all. Not been reading, and no time to catch up!! We been moved?! I will read you all later and see wtf happening!! Am I being silly? Awfully worried to have no movement today after very little yesterday....... No midwife chat really since 18 weeks and not another til 25 so really no idea what should expect? Only really started geting proper moves about 2 weeks ago. How does everyone else find movements at this stage?

Anyone with any time to answer, i appreciate it, starting to become paranoid something up......

X

23+4

Londonmrss · 20/06/2012 17:26

Hey huffle my movements, although daily, haven't found a routine. Sometimes she kicks a lot for an hour, and not for the rest of the day, sometimes it's 1 kick an hour, sometimes it's morning, sometimes it's evening. Yesterday didn;t feel anything til about 7pm, when baby started doing somersaults for the next few hours. Today it's just been small movements, every so often.
I think it's more of a routine after 25 weeks, but if you're concerned, defo call your midwife and don't feel like an idiot if everything is fine (which of course, it probably is- but it's worth putting your mind at ease).

Have been catching up on everyone's news. Squid sorry you've been feeling so rough, I too would be furious about being ignored because of the stupid football thing that's happening.

Kyrria and Zoe sorry to hear your work woes. It is completely illegal for you to be discriminated against due to your pregnancy. Even if you were planning to leave and never go back to your job, they are still obliged to give you maternity. Tribunal?

The new location of the thread is upsetting my natural sense of order. Will continue to catch up later.

Zoeplankton · 20/06/2012 18:00

Drew the mistake-maker's attention to a little couple of things I like to call 'the Equality Act 2010' and 'the Employment Rights Act 1996'.

Result: yes, thank you, I will take another fixed term contract on exactly the same terms as my current one, and I will take my full maternity leave. And when my contract expires mid-maternity leave, yes, you will automatically renew it. Thanks. Glad we got that sorted out.

aka:

YEAH, YOU BETTER RUN!

Cheers for support kyrria - be sure and look after yourself. Not long now, but if they try and mess with you, you be sure and come tell us - turns out, I'm pretty good at looking up relevant legislation!

WantAnOrange · 20/06/2012 19:11

Go Zoeplankton!

Mickey Scan photos are ££££££££££ it's £4 for one at our hospital! And the stupid machine that you buy tokens from only takes pound coins Hmm.

Today went even better than yesturday, had a huge row with DH this morning (I don't feel guilty about this one though, he fucking deserved it) and to top it off, I was supposed to get results for a Really Important Uni Assignment today and it's not there! All my class mates have got theirs, terrified they are going to accuse me of not handing it in but I did!

Kyyria · 20/06/2012 19:18

Hey huffle, I'm the same as londonmrss - finding it varies day to day at present.

One of my colleagues is 13 days behind me and she has got a bean that looks like it is trying to escape, you can feel from the outside, and that is poking limbs out left, right and centre. Mine, on the otherhand, still feels more fluttery than anything, seems to be more active on an evening, and seems to be 5mins of activity every few hours but I can sometimes go all day feeling very little.

Thanks for all the work crap sympathy. zoe - glad you got things sorted. I was a bit teary heading into work this morning but settled down as the day went on.

Still putting all my hopes on winning the lottery though Grin

31 (for another 4hrs45mins), 21+3, #1

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YompingJo · 20/06/2012 19:31

Can I join the moaning club? Am having a crap time at work. Not as crap as others here, so actually I should count my blessings instead of whinging, but I'm pregnant and entitled to moan like fuck if I want to, right? Hmm

My whinging is all about other people's incompetance or defensiveness. Long story short, local high school: piss up: brewery? No chance Confused. I have 3 different people all emailing me conflicting information about 2 days we are meant to be taking our year 5s up there next week, and I'm the one trying to sort it out. WTF? Why can't they do their jobs?

I have parents on my back about all kinds of stupid things, and then on the other side of the spectrum a couple of kids being extremely naughty as there are no consequences at home, their parents don't give a shit and don't back us when we try to discipline them, and it makes me so hopping mad.

And thirdly, levelling some writing today (we have to give each child a writing level so we can measure progress - a bit like exams but you use a collection of recent writing), I went to consult year 6 teachers as unsure about one child who was on the boundary. between 2 levels. Was having a productive discussion with 2 colleagues about it when their year leader came in and basically shouted all over us along the lines of "level him down instead of up, it makes our job easier next year". Yeah, that's how it's meant to work. Hmm I make myself look average just so it's easier for you to look like you've done a good job next year. Uh-huh. She didn't even look closely at his work, just shouted me down. And the real reason? She inherited my class last year and I had moved them on loads and because she hasn't been able to do the same, she reckons I over-level everything to make it look better than it is. Gotta love other people's insecurities and lack of competence.

Oh yes, then on the way home the car broke. There was a loud clanging noise and I stopped and looked underneath and one bit of the exhaust pipe had come out of another bit and was dragging along the road. DH had to come out and take the whole back of the exhaust off so the car could be driven home/ Luckily I was not far from home but it made me shaky, hate it when things go wrong like that.

So yeah. Shit week. Although I'm healthy (huge but healthy) and I'm steadily getting through the week and the ridiculous amount of work I currently have, so it's not all bad. But some days, it feels like it doesn't it?

Mickey, it was me about the MatB1 form - that's yet another thing! Doctor's receptionist first tried to fob me off with a prescription charge exemption form, then claimed MATB1 was midwife's job, I phoned community midwifes office who treated me to a tirade of complaints about doctors before insisting they were too busy and it was doctor's job. Phoned docs back and different receptionist couldn't have been more helpful. Hopefully I'm picking it up tomorrow.

Squid, I concur with everyone else, Take the full week. It's clear you are very hardworking - time for a bit of recovery time.

Zoe and kyyria, eek, hope you get it all sorted.

I am off, in my dreams for a large glass or 3 of Wine but in miserable reality, to do some more marking. Joyous. When does maternity leave start?

hufflepuffle · 20/06/2012 20:04

Thank you Londonmrs and Kyrria for your reassurance and experience, I am pleased to report about 2 little poppy punches since earlier so feeling somewhat better. Off to watch Eastenders and hav a v early night because I'm exhausted and a wee bit down. Ciao all! X

squidkid · 20/06/2012 20:24

Sorry to read about all the work hassles - particularly shocked at poor Zoe (who in their right mind would mess with our miniature arse-kicker Zoe though? idiots) and Kyyria -can't believe they made you cancel your day off!! NOT ON. Surgeries can be such festering backstabbing places... grrr.

Wait up, bidding on an overpriced isabella oliver top on ebay - am I being suckered by advertising or are they really that nice!? will soon find out

mickey congrats on your scan! I am in the mystery camp too, it feels good :) Also I eat runny eggs every day.

Midgetm I hope you are feeling better, poor poor you ending up in triage...

huffle my baby stopped moving for a whole day when I was 23 and a half weeks and I freaked... was in the Lakes at the time so didn't call anyone, mentioned it to my midwife at my 25 week appointment and she said that was a bit early to be worrying about regular movements. so. Obviously if you are still concerned... just pick up the phone.

Thank you everyone, for your kind words and encouraging me to rest. It really helped, all of you - such great support here, I am so glad I found this place. I had major second thoughts about it during the early days, fraught with drama and sad worrying stories, but it has become such a good healthy place for me. Thanks particularly lisbethsopposite, your words meant loads to me.

Well, I feel so much better after 3 days off and taking it easy. Today I had a naughty lunch out with the boyfriend in a cute cafe (he works 2 mins from the flat - how amazing is that for maternity leave?!?!) and saw a friend in town for a cuppa later (walked up the hill slowly and carefully - it was fine), and also managed to do about 6 hours of work on bloody e-portfolio. E-portfolio is what doctors need to complete to progress to next year of training. It is massive and incomprehensible and due to be appraised next week. Anyway I did lots of it. In bed.

The doctor phoned me for a review. She was extremely nice. My bloods were ok and swabs didn't grow anything and she was pleased that I was feeling better and bleeding had stopped. She said it was ok to go to work tomorrow but I may need to slow down a bit. I am going to ask for a morning break and to leave at 4.30 from now on - it will mean I miss the traffic and get home a good hour earlier.

I was all ready to feel like a fraud when she rang and said all tests were ok, but she was incredibly nice, said my symptoms had been worrying, said to call back if any of it recurred, said rest was important. Yay for nice doctors - it's not that bloody hard to be nice, is it.

squidkid · 20/06/2012 20:25

isabella oliver top went for £27!!! madness! I swear it don't cost much more than that on the website!

squidkid · 20/06/2012 20:39

Last comment from me promise: am I the only one who keep waking up on my front? Not flat on my front obviously - i have a 26 week bump! - but with one leg bent and only a tiny bit tipped to one side. Poor baby squid, I feel like I'm squashing him/her! I've only heard bad things about sleeping on your back so Im hoping it's not really a problem...

CWest30 · 20/06/2012 21:38

To cheer everyone up, I'm FINALLY getting proper kicks, AND hubby felt them for the first time tonight, 6 times in a row!!!!

Baby seems to be awake at breakfast time and when I'm watching tv at night (ie now) but movements are like bubbles again right now rather than official kicks!

Makes up for the rest of this shitty week, sick of work, roll on Friday when I go for a week off! Can't come quick enough, and I'm tempted to chuck my phone in the sea so they can't ring me all the frigging time and have to LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE! HA! x

londonlivvy · 20/06/2012 23:05

Ooof. Long, long day. Spent 4 hours doing gardening (well, fighting triffids) at my flat and now my back is killing me and I am proper, proper, tired. But at least the flat looks at its best for the photos tomorrow.

DF got huffy with me when I got home as I was too tired to talk and ask about his day. He thought I was rude. I cried and told him he was bloody unreasonable as I did the while thing on my own whilst he was tired yesterday and had dinner with a mate today. Grrr. I don't think he quite understands just how tired we preg ladies get from normal life and when you have to do lots of extra stuff, well It's a challenge to just put one foot in front of the other.

Sorry for the rant, ladies. Off to bed with me now.

Londonmrss · 21/06/2012 09:58

Walked belly-first into a chest of drawers last night and grazed my 'bump'. Must be fatter than I think. Would be worried, but the poke was right at the top of my bump and bubba is still kicking all the time, so guess everything's fine.

My husband pointed at my belly last night, giggled and said 'Ha ha, you've got a bum growing inside you.'
Hadn't really thought of it that way.

Beeblebear · 21/06/2012 14:08

Morning all.

Well 16 weeks of work left (tentatively) and one ane a half of those is vacation. Seems close, but far away at the same time. Re kicks: my little one was steadily kicking and squirming for a few weeks, now seems to have one really really crazy day and tires himself out and has 1-,,2 quiet days following. I zm amazed at tje change in placement if the kicks over the last month! Used to be very low next to my pubic bone and are now about an inch higher than my belly button! He certainly is growing :)

Oh amd I had a dream last night that I was in a clan of breast feeding gorillas.. And I was still human but feeding a gorilla, and another gorilla had my baby... Hmmmmmm is that normal?

Squid, I am glad you are getting the rest that you need and deserve!

Re work woes... I feel for you all! They hired a new girl at work who has taken over 90% of wnat I do, now I.m left with all the crap jobs like filing and cleaning the kitchen, and mail. I am SERIOUSLY counting down the weeks.

Oops goona be late.better get goimg for work!

hufflepuffle · 21/06/2012 14:35

Loving the dreams Beeblebear !!! Could not really repeat mine at the minute.... obviously the hormones doing something else strange!!

Glad to report baby is super moving again, phew. I shall give you all a laugh with DH's theory last night as to why no movement for a day and a half....

I have put on a bit of softer weight in tummy ( i say this as I have stayed so bloomin thin and lost so much at start, so is a relief!) Well, theory is this....... "Maybe is a bit like re-potting a plant, baby was in a tight fitting close skinned tummy, in past few days this has become softer and squidgier and baby needs to 'bed in' a bit, just like roots in a re-potted plant"..................!

So there. Explained.

Feeling a bit better today too as think I have found a suitable person to replace me at work, meeting them on Monday for a good chat. Fingers crossed!

Guccigirl79 · 21/06/2012 17:22

All went well in the end at MW app yesterday,no horrid news like I'd thought there may be & got to the heartbeat which both relieved & settled me & my manic mind!! Had yet another MW which makes 3 in total I've not seen my assigned MW since my booking in app.Anyone else experiencing this?? She was also about 12 & quite a miserable mare that had had a personality transplant & totally lost her sense of humour!! Anyhoo she didnt want to weigh me (yay!) & I had to ask if my urine sample was ok as she wasnt exactly forthcoming with info.Hope I dont have to see her again!!

Glad to hear work issues are sorting themselves out & that Squid is finally resting & doing as she is told lol

Hope everyone else is having a good day :)

DameFlatYouLent · 21/06/2012 18:10

Gucci I'm the same. Had 2 student mw at booking in, met "my" mw at 16w and haven't seen her since. Am nearly 25wks fgs! Also gave me no info on anything unless I asked. Had to specifically ask for my prescription exemption form (at 24wks, finally), no sign of MatB1 anywhere...so much for "named midwives" to keep eye out for PND. Going for homebirth I'm not sure I really care who attends, just not students I hope - that's all I seem to be seeing! They're lovely, and I don't mind students being present, but I'd rather have a qualified mw there thanks Hmm

Better dash, it's bathtime at the zoo. DS currently has cold, cough, temp and gastro all at once. Wiping both ends constantly, yuckyuckyuck.

LoopyLa · 21/06/2012 18:13

Got my ultrasound tomorrow - eek!! Very excited but also nervous too (which frankly is dampening my excitement a bit Sad) Am having a transvaginal (worse word ever invented, yes?) scan too to ensure I have a happy cervix. It's an optional thing but suppose its for the greater good - although it just makes me EWWWWW!

hufflepuffle yes some of my dreams have got considerably racier!! Blush Last night I seduced Christiano Ronaldo (why him I don't know, I've never liked him!!) but this also could be influenced by the "50 shades of grey" I'm currently reading!! Grin

Glad to hear everything is well Gucci

35, 21+4, dc#1

Kyyria · 21/06/2012 19:05

Good luck with the scan tomorrow loopy - hope all goes well. I didn't sleep at all the night before mine...was too excited! Grin

Am wanting a proper bump (flab is still winning) and decent, proper kicks and punches (although may regret saying that). Still feeling immensely unpregnant. Is it normal to worry about bonding with the baby? I still feel so detached from my bump at the moment - can't quite get to grips with what's going on inside! Worrying I won't bond with it when it's born if I'm struggling now.

32 (gah!), 21+4, #1

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Smorgs · 21/06/2012 20:50

Kyyria I think it's totally normal to worry, I still can't get my head round the fact it's going to be a little human that will rely on me for everything. Even if you don't bond the minute it's born like all the TV shows would have us believe, it will come in time and it will be fine.

It's Fete de la Musique in France tonight - I have about 12 sound systems within 12m of my flat blasting out techno music. Suspect I might not get much sleep tonight so am going out to join in the fun instead...

Oh, and yesterday was having a nap on the sofa and woke up to find next-door's kitten about 3ins away from my face just... staring at me. I screamed. It ran into the spare room. I chased it until it hopped back out the window. Am thinking of writing a note to neighbours saying please don't let your furry toxoplasmosis-carrying friend wander into our flat. I can't understand why they have a cat anyway, none of our flats have balconies so they just let it out the window to run along the gutter that runs around the bottom of all our windows. And we're on the 3rd floor!! And it's about 30 degrees at the moment so I have to keep the windows open!

OK rant over Blush