infamous wagoners welcome 2012 with new years resolutions , new babies and never ending chat and definetly no tumbleweed :)

[2012hellokitty]

hi ladies

new thread

Hi all

Ginger believe it you are having a baby!!

Ses well done!

We had a meeting with nursery today and the wrongs have been corrected ive outlined my concerns and they have handled them well, it seems that it is his now ex keyworker who has been at fault and he is now under the deputy manager as a key worker who i do like and trust. Given they way its been handled and my DM assessing the situation for me (she works in childcare) we have realised that he hasn't been 'unhappy' as such ( doesnt cry often at drop off or pick up) just not thrived as well as he could but hopefully with the change of staff and the change in comms. I am still meeting with two cms next week to see what the diffs are etc but he only has 9mnths to the free Preschool seasions so concerned about uprooting him multiple times... Mothers guilt eh!

hi bb - glad u spoke to nursery sounds like things will get better now
ses - regarding cotbed - i would probably put sides back on perhaps he isnt ready yet i remember dd1 being like that. i think we put one side back on and left one side off as it was against a wall.
then we tried taking them back off a mnth later and she was fine
how old is ds?
not suprised with dubai reaction such abig decision and big change
good luck with dh chat

today went well re new house
we went back to developments with my parents too this time.
we have one getting back to us wed with an offer on some houses we asked for prices on
we have decided which house we want after looking through all show homes gain
very excited

Ses, well done you!!! Super Ses

I have changed my mind about Dubai. We have another threat of snow showers next week and I am fed up of the cold!! I want heat and sunshine by the bucket load.

I do tough-ish love with DS2. I suppose it's controlled crying really but he gets huge kiss and cuddle when he goes to bed. Then if he gets up he gets little cuddle, then next time I just say bedtime now and anytime after that I say nothing and put him to bed.

Hope everyone is ok!

Hi all...

...oh my, how on earth did I manage to miss my buddy Ginger's honk?

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!! amazing wonderful news!so exciting.

So sorry I am just not managing to get on here at the mo. Life is crazy, and not really in a good way!have done lots of work on house including new boiler and full rewire but still have a long way to go which is very daunting. We are in temporary accommodation not far from house but the cost is crippling. We are just paying out so much money at the mo.eek!

Ds1 is such a little boy now it's scary, fully toilet trained and just so grown up it's amazing. But he is such hard work, as we are so busy he isn't getting as much attention as he was I suppose. ds2 is an absolute pickle, into everything. Walked at 9 months like his bro, now starting to talk, empty cupboards and he is LOUD.he is going to be trouble I think...

Sorry not to name check but I'm going to have to see to dinner now...I just wanted to say to BB please don't worry about ds, what you are describing sounds like a typical 2 yr old. My ds is nearly 3 and has trouble saying s blends like 'smell' 'space' and replaces them with an f sound. I'm not worried at all.as for extreme behaviours, emotional intelligence is developing at this age and this means you get extremes of behaviour (unfortunately). Of course it's great that he is seeing a specialist as they can help with any difficulties but please don't get too worried at this stage, it sounds like you have had a rough time. Hope it gets sorted. I think some people forget that kids are individuals and the world can be a scary place for little ones. I'm sure by the time he goes to school he will be fine!

Sorry for ramble!!! Will try get on later in week

Aww thanks gruff glad he is more normal
Than he has been made out! Sounds like your life is moving at a rate of knots! Sounds very exciting

Hello! Just a quickie as ironing pile the size of Everest to tackle. Wanted to say to SES I would put the sides back on for now, unless there is a particular reason for wanting to take them off? Great news about work - how would you feel about the work aspect (for you) in Dubai? Can understand mixed feelings.
BB, good advice on here. I agree with GRUFF and wouldn;t worry personally (ds1 also mispronounces, as does dd3 who is 6). I can understand how stressed you must feel though with the nursery's involvement. At least things seem to be improving on that count.
TINKS great about the house. Can you imagine all the shopping potential that would present
KAYZ, I do the same with d21 re: night times - seems to work. How are you feeling?
STAR, great to hear from you. Life with 5dcs is good thanks. Main difficulty (other than the washing ) is coping with a young baby and toddler - never had a 2yr gap before. Ds2 is very cute and a real mummy's boy - a real giggler too! I know what you mean about work - looking forward to the free time work will represent!
GING, how are things? Has it sunk in yet?
Love to all -I'm sure I'be missed loads - ah yes RUGBY, hello and how are you!
Back soon, D x

Diege lovely to see you!

How is everyone? I am awake before DS so taking the advantage of laying in bed peacefully! Am currently 5 days "late" (ie 5 days over 31 days) but think AF os on the way! Joy! Least the sun is shining!

Hi all

Diege- hope you survived the ironing... news has just about sunk in as I spent the weekend feeling green. Feeling better today though... no idea why it comes and goes. Is that normal?

Ses- hooray and well done for the award... I can see how passionate you are about your work which makes the moving decision hard. How was sat eve?

Gruff- thanks great to 'see you' here! sorry things are hard work, but well done on the toilet traing and amazing that DS2 is talking already! :)
I hadnt realised you'd moved away from 'just over the road' though....

Kitty- house sounds good

BB- 5 days late? shame you think that AF is enroute though... are tempted to test anyway?

Kayz - how are you doing-? how long to wait until DP is home again?

Hi Star, Rugby, Bumps and everyone else.... where is Cant these days?

xx

Another question, are there vits that can help MS? I've got really sore gums and ulcers and I saw that vit B can help with thatand vit C in pregnancy.

Is it b vits that are good for MS? Im sure I remember some wagon chat about this?

Morning all, apologies in advance for me me me post but I had a terrible nights sleep last night and my brain is mush today so I know I'll forget everything I wanted to say. I lay in bed for hours trying to nod off but the baby was kicking loads really low down and it was actually quite painful - I never had that with DD but it felt like she was thumping sensitive spots right in my pelvis . Then I shifted to get comfy, sort of jerked as she kicked again and got a sharp pain through my pelvis and hips . Don't know what I pulled or twisted but it was agony and I hardly got any sleep. The good news is that after a long bath and a painkiller I feel okay this morning, just bloody shattered!!!

BB - I'm glad you got things sorted out at the nursery and I really hope things are much better for you and DS now whether you stick with it or move him. Fingers crossed AF stays away this month.

Tink - very exciting about the house!

Ging - how are you feeling, any symptoms yet?

Gruff - hope the craziness settles down soon, how much is left to do before you can move in or do you not want to think about it?

Ses - have you and DH talked about Dubai any more? Sorry I haven't any advice to give. I'd love to try living abroad (and it sounds as though your DH has been hoping for this for a while so I can see why it's hard to say no) but I'd be really reluctant to move when you are going to be adjusting to a newborn and to being a SAHM for a while (I take it you wouldn't work while you are over there?). Maybe it's just because I don't know much about Dubai and imagine it being quite different to living in UK - if it was Oz or NZ I'd def say yes. Sorry, that's no help is it .

Ginger - x-posted, sorry. No idea about vits but sure someone more knowlegable will be along soon, Hope the ms doesn't last too long, the reassurance is great at first but wears off very quickly .

Diege and Ginger I am feeling much better now, thank you for asking. DP is due to leave Malaysia on the 23rd so probably the 24th he should be at home. I think we are going to be quite lucky this year as he will be home for almost all of the summer holidays.

Ginger I am not sure about vitamins but the only thing that seemed to help my MS was those travel sickness bands that you wear on your wrists. But might not be too good for someone like you that has to go to work. People might wonder why you are wearing them

I am having a car panic as we aren't going to fit 3 car seats in our car. Well I don't think we will, we are going to Mothercare as soon as DP gets home to try and see if we can get them all in the back somehow. If not we are going to the Ford garage to have the passenger airbag turned off and then DS1 will go in the front and I will have to squash in the back.

I hope you are all well, sorry for flying visit am knackered and need to try and persuade myself to move and do dinner.

Just a quick flying visit, no time to stop properly!

Ginger, it's vit b6 that's good for ms, it worked a treat for me :) I don't know if it helps with ulcers but I think vit c does.

BB, dd3 is similar age to your ds (2.3) and her speech is terrible, she doesn't finish words and her pronunciation is awful. I mentioned it to a primary teacher that I know and she said she'd been told by a SALT that they don't worry until they're 8! I don't know how true this is but I'm not worried at this age. She's also totally un-independant and sounds a lot like your ds behaviour-wise and I think it's all normal.

Diege, nice to see you!

Hello everyone else, I'm lurking but don't have much time to reply to things, I'll be back more when I have more tiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiime fades off into the distance

Kayz, we fitted our 3 in to the car by putting dd1 in a high back booster in the back, dd3 in an infant carrier in the back, me squeezed in between and dd2 in a big stage 2-3 seat in the front. It was a bit of a squish for a while but now that dd2 is in a high back booster and dd3 is in her old stage 2-3 they all fit in the back. We did have to buy 2 new seats but it was a lot cheaper than changing the car!

Woohoo proud Mummy alert!! DS2 just did a wee on the potty!! I am desperate to get him toilet trained before the baby comes and before he starts nursery in September.

Can I ask your opinions on the pram please? We have got one picked out but I don't know if I want the black or silver chassis. I like both and the silver is a little cheaper. Here it is. We are ordering it soon so I need to try and pick one.

Kayz - yay for DS2!!! As for the Oyster, I think I'd go for the silver chassis if it is cheaper
How fantastic to have DP home for most of the summer!

Moosy - hello! Good to "see" you :)

Rugby - hope you get a better night sleep tonight!

Ginger - yes, it's vit B6 for MS and vitamin C for gums.

Gruff - wow, you have a lot on your plate!

Hello Diege, BB, Star, kitty and anyone else lurking!

The weekend here was not a good one. I didn't sleep much Friday night and then felt quite ill on Saturday morning whilst at work, came home and then slept for a couple of hours before going out with DH in the evening.

The conversation with DH did not go well. I tried to stay objective and focussed on my 2 main concerns:

• timing as it would mean DH being away possibly for the birth of DC2 but also for the first couple of months of DC2. My main worry with this is how it would affect DS with learning to have a sibling but also Daddy disappearing at the same time. But I'm also worried about how it would impact on me, DH and DC2.
• the move would mean an end to my career as I can't transfer my qualifications out there. Admittedly if / when we came back, I could resume work but not at the level I am now and I would probably have to do some sort of return to practice qualification.

DH and I both got very upset and he feels that I deceived him by not making my feelings clear. He would hardly look at me Saturday after we left the pub and sulked for most of Sunday. Things do seem a bit better today but we have only texted / spoken over the phone as he is away with work tonight.
Not the best weekend on record....

Oh on top of that, I have a scan tomorrow and DH can't come as he's away with work. At least it's at 9.10am so I don't have to worry for too long in advance! They're hoping to show that the band of tissue they picked up at the 20 week scan hasn't caused any problems and I also want them to tell me the position of LO at the moment. I had been fairly confident that this one was in a different position to O but the last couple of days, the movements and solid areas have all been similar to O on the same side that he settled on. I really don't want to have an elective CS!
Then in the afternoon I have my 28wk MW appointment!

kayz i would go silver too purely as chasis scratches will show more on a black chasis and take value off at resale, i love the oyster!great mews about dp being home u are doing so well tho being without him much better than i would!

ses firstly i think you are being reasonable to even try and be objective about dubai! I would be so paralysed with fear about the unknown i know i couldnt do it. Its definitely best to point out concerns now and to be alone with two small children and not knowing anyone is concerning as is giving up a career you have worked hard for! There are positives of course but if you didn't voice your concerns then that would build resentment! Hows o sleeping now? Ds started to have issues with sleep not ling ago not waking and staying awake just lots of stirring and crying out, we realised he was waking himself on side or end of cotbed, so switched him to a single divan at the weekend and so far so good.

6 days late here, tested 3 days ago was negative however ewcm would indicate late ov so not given up hope. Had one wipe of blood (very small amount) night before last so thought that was AF but no more?i do cp and at inspection on that night small amt blood on cervix (sorry if anyones eating!!) is that likely to be an implant bleed?

Hope everyone else is ok x

Oh and forgot ses good luck for scan

Ses I hope the scan goes well for you. Don't worry too much about baby's position, there's plenty of time for it to change.

I don't know what to say about the Dubai move. If you were a SAHM or had a job that didn't mean much and was just for extra money or for something to do then I would say go for it. But you've worked very hard for your job and are obviously very good at it too. I wouldn't want to give that up. Plus like you said it would be hard to get back to the same level in a few years.

BB I have everything crossed for you. I've made the boys cross everything too

Morning all

Ses- firstly good luck for 9.10am. Let us know how it goes. x Also goodluck for the 28wk appointment (28wks! where did that go!)

Secondly I am so sorry that the chat didnt go to well. One thing is talking of an arrangement for later in the year e.g. september but something so close to the birth is really too much. The baby and your family is the overwhelming factor here. While an overseas move might (emphasis on might) be good and fun at certain point in life, given the new baby and your career investments...its pretty clear this isnt the right time for you. I am sorry and for you that he his giving you a hard time about it too. There are some really good posts on the other thread- I hope those are offering you some comfort.

What has he done with regards to the job offer? has he told them anything or asked for more time?

Kayz- I'd go with silver too- I think it looks nice and is cheaper too!
Hooray for the wee on the potty!

BB- ooh that sounds exciting...like Kayz, i've got my fingers, legs and toes crossed for you xx

hi everyone else. xx

DH is trying to get back for the scan :) I'm currently waiting in the hospital car park and he should be here in time.

Kayz - you're right, still time for LO to move if the position isn't great.

BB - everything crossed here too!
DS has been settling better on the whole (except last night when I got downstairs at 9.15pm!). He's only been waking up in the night about once a week. Last night he woke and was crying and calling out at 2.45am so I went in and put my head on his pillow next to his, laid on the floor and gave him a cuddle. Not overly comfy for me but he was asleep again within 15mins. We need to tackle the fact that he's not actually going to sleep unless we are sat on the floor next to his bed, reading to him. I think I will get him a CD player and also gradually start moving further away from his bed. I need to convince DH though as he's happy with the situation at the moment.

Sorry, I ended up writing an essay on that! DH just arriving. Will update you afterwards!

So pleased DH has got there in time. All the best for the scan xx

All fine :)
Band of tissue is still there but not interfering with baby. We got some really clear views of limbs, feet, hands, abdomen.
Baby is lying transverse but I'm not overly worried as head is further down and on the other side to DS at this stage. Will just have to wait for 36week scan now.
A bit that every measurement is towards the top centile, the head circumference is just off the top centile and current weight estimate is 3lb 2oz already!!

Midwife this afternoon so we'll see what she thinks!

Glad all is well.
x