Due in May: the 2nd trimester, more glowing and less throwing

[Yorky]

Before the other thread bursts!
Thanks Miko for the title!

mikocat when does the 3rd trimester start anyway? my DH is adamant at 25 weeks it must be here but my phone app definitely still says 2nd!

All - if anyone needs further views on what to put in their birthplan re pain relief might be worth looking at this thread which has been trending today
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1400348-Tell-me-about-drugs-during-labour?pg=1

i think it's 28 wks for third trimester.

I've just caught up on the thread but already forgotten all the points, I'll have to write down some notes next time, also got a bit side-tracked by 'immediately after the birth' thread - must go back & finish that. It was odd reading about the snow as we missed all of it, drove west just as it was coming in and then home yesterday in time for the thaw. I hope you're all keeping safe though and taking care on the ice - I remember it snowing last time whilst pregnant and I seemed to walk everywhere as though I was at sea, tis the same walk reserved for when I'm in tall buildings or the London Eye. I digress.
Not much to add really, for me it's mainly heartburn that's the problem. I try to sleep on the left, which tends to alleviate it and is good for pip too apparently, but then hip hurts and I turn onto the right but then heartburn starts. So then I come downstairs and go on MN - not really much to complain about when others are having a hard time.

for sciatica I tried acupuncture last pregnancy, it didn't work for me although I didn't really rate the therapist much so may be worth a try. I had more success with an oestopath post birth (should have gone before), a bit gentler that the chiropractor IME. I've also put a double duvet under the sheet to help the hips a bit and have found swapping beds helps a little but mine just low grade aches.

yup to BH, rock hard bump at times is very disconcerting and uncomfortable. am impressed by your attitude ladym re. GD. it is amazing how quickly we adapt, I have my GTT on Thu, fingers crossed will get all clear but it's a relief to read that's it manageable.
well I hope for more success (& gaviscon) with sleep this time. take care ladies.

yorky & oltob & Littlesarah - off to the chiro or osteo it is!! Whichever will see me first I guess. Thank you.

I only found out yesterday that you can get a referral to chiropractor from your GP - it doesn't have to be to a physio, might save you paying for a few appts :)

How am I supposed to balance nesting with taking it steady so as not to aggravate SPD? Have finally tidied my side of our room , even through out a cardboard box that had been there since we moved unSept! Now want to hoover and know I shouldn't, but......
Rest of the house is still a tip so I'm not overdoing it

Basse - yes me with the SPD, I've been prescibed Co-Codamol by the doctor, which although they help a bit, also make me a bit nauseous, so I've only been taking when neccessary.

Things are a little better since I got my huge Tubigrip bandage from the physio, I wear it under my clothes every day. I also have a support belt, but that only gets strapped on before I go to catch the bus home or go anywhere else where I'll be walking as it apparently isn't good for sitting around in. (A colleague referred to it as my 'strap-on' the other day, then got hugely embarrassed when she realised what she'd said! :))

The only other thing I've been doing is taking it easy as much as possible, which is frustrating/boring at times. I've taken all the advice to heart about not crossing my legs or putting weight on one leg so that it's almost second nature now.

Sir Charles, opinion seems to differ slightly on when 3rd trimester starts, but most sites seem to say around 27/28 weeks, so I figure I'm definitely in it now. It feels good to think I might be on the home stretch...

I'm also starting to panic a bit now that the weekly pregnancy emails are all talking about doing up the nursery. We won't even be moving house until mid-March, more likely early April, so NO chance of me getting that sort of stuff done. Oh well, she's going to be in our room for months anyway - right?

mikocat I am with you re doing up the nursery - we are still overseas and not even looking for a place to rent until we get back at the start of April...... I read somewhere that the LO should sleep in your room for the first few months anyway so am hanging onto that thought.... even if we dont know where our room will be yet!!!
right, off to the gym. am trying to get fit ......

yorky - leave the hoovering, that, pushing a shopping trolley and ironing are apparently 3 of the worst things you can do to aggravate SPD. DH kindly commented that other than the shopping this was probably why I've managed to avoid so far this time round!

miko & SirC - please don't panic on nursery tarting up. we didn't move until 2 wks before DD was due. I remember starting to get jumpy at NCT classes when folk were talking of nursery and filling the freezer and suchlike when I didn't even have a house to put the freezer in, we also put off buying stuff so that we wouldn't have to hoik it up to our single bed top floor flat only to move it down again when we finally moved. babies need very little and it'll be fine our spare room is firmly remaining a spare room as DS will be in with us for 4-6months and DH wants to move again but I've managed to postpone him until the summer at least.

right my bossiness sated I'm off to get some lunch.

thanks for the reassurance oltob! certainly makes me feel a bit better (I am always fine until other people start saying how they have done!!)

SirC an interesting, if extreme, example of nursery preparations here
personally I won't be co-sleeping, I did splurge on a bednest though so near as dammit, our only outlay so far and still awaiting assembling much nearer the time. Having the holiday of a lifetime and enjoying pregnancy and being just the two of you in the run up is way more important.

Hello!

Soooo tired today, I just cant wait for being in bed? yet im stuck in the office and have planned a very busy working evening?
Good thing is tomorrow is my last day of work (at home!). im taking all my annual leave and will start my mat leave beginning of march?. It is early, but I want to renovate as much as poss our flat before baby comes out!!

Had midwife appointment yesterday and she gave me the name of an osteopath because I have a sciatica apparently?
How much does it cost for an appointment do you reckon?? £20? £40? More?
Baby is well, kicking so much I am wondering if he does it for attention (I am very busy and have no time for him?)
Well planning to go swimming tomorrow as a treat for me and him?

Glad to see everyone is doing ok. Hopefully all those chiro/osteo will help us be pain-free?

Have prepared nothing yet for baby but then again, i have everything already tried and tested and neatly folded in a box....

I think I paid £45 or £50 when I saw the osteopath yorky, pricey but it only took one trip.
Good for you finishing early. I've started on my declutter list this pm. I have to sort out usable clothes for DS from the various stashes of DD's squirreled away around the house. herein starts the list for ML, other than knitting some bunting and x-stitch that's it in my preparations.
I'm toying with the idea of an NCT refresher course but not sure if it justifies the money as am still in regular contact with our original crew, and 3 of us will popping within a month or so of each other again, there seems to be so many helpful threads on here that I'm not sure - it's manily for reminders about the birthing bit

Does anyone else get a really sore back? I'm only 26 weeks but most evenings now by 7/8pm my back is so sore. I can't sit on sofa or on kitchen chair I'm uncomfy and moany...eventually I go to bed and it eases off when I'm on my lovely tempur ,attress. But is this me now till I deliver? I could cry!! Luckily not sore In day time. Is this really early in pregnancy to develop back ache?

Mikocat ok good to hear the huge tubigrip works-physio showed it to me when at inital class of PGP but I couldn't see how it would work! Have by miracle got an appt with physio 1t thing Mon am so fingers crossed it helps. If not then thanks yorky for tip re GP referral for chiro.

I think I may in fact have done mine in my doing exactly one of the 3 sins - hoovering! I never, ever hoover because I hate it so much, and now of course I am not meant to, but for some reason DP decided that not hoovering for 3 weeks was totally acceptable. So out the hoover came.....so probably not a coicidence the pain came too. Oh bum. Fingers crossed for a pain free future for all of us.

BTW sorting things out - if it makes people feel better I've done nothing. And probably won't for some time.... Live in a 1-bed place so keeping it simple I reckon. Trying to work out where to actually fit everything in!

Wallaboo leaf wrap arrived today, so sweet! Ds was wandering about holding it like a baby so perhaps he has more of an idea what I meant with the repeated 'mummy has a baby in her tummy' comments than I realised.

Also delivered, seed potatoes and shallots... really must get out in the garden, tis a bit of a mess!

tostaky - My osteo was £35 for 20 mins so pretty steep but only took two sessions and did make a real difference.

Basse and others - No sorting here. At the moment our dining room/spare room is filled with random junk and now half the living room is too as dh has decided to repaint and reshelf our main cupboard. Bedroom is littered with clothes (dh has to go through a pile and there always seems to be washing) with books piled up against the wall and ds's old cot against another wall! I do plan to declutter at some point before May but that will mainly consist of chucking out a whole bunch of stuff. Then I will fill some of the newly made space with baby clothes, pop up moses basket and wallah! Baby sorted!

Heidi - Sorry to hear about your back, I know how awful it can be. As I mentioned early a couple of visits to the osteo really helped me, have you been to see anyone?

Thanks Oltob - I never mind bossiness if its telling me not to hoover! I resisted temptation
But looking at your list of top 3 activities to avoid - how is a shopping trolley so different to a buggy - especially one with a buggy board and hefty 3yr old on it? May have a sneaking suspicion where my problems are coming from :( But DS1 breaks up for half term in just over 4 hrs so I can have a week off the school run - be interesting to see if I notice any difference

No nursery here either - atm 3DC share a room but we want to build an extension with another bedroom so that 2 DC can have the new room (fingers crossed for a pink bump so we have 2 of each - SO much simpler!) but can't make that decsion till June when redundancies are announced..... so currently in limbo :( and yes, bump will be in with us for months anyway (lots simpler for BFing, and recommended as safer against cot death), so doesn't need its own room for ages yet

Hope your backache doesn't get worse LittleSarah, evenings sounds bearable even if it does feel like we've still got a while to go. Have you tried sitting on a birth/gym ball instead of the settee? Its probably posture related as you adjust to the increased weight and changing centre of gravity

My new washable wipes arrived today so after my longest break from washable nappies since DS1 was born (6 months - but we did move house twice in that time) my lovely nappy stash is back out!

Doh! LittleSarah - the comment about your back was to Heidi, I meant to say how sweet you DS sounds. Can I blame baby brain?

yorky your nappy stash is "lovely"??? Mine is a bit stinky and minging!

LOL at the idea of a nappy stash being lovely!!

littlesarah where was your wrap from?

am wondering whether to get one for my hospital bag (which itself is likely to be the best plastic bag that comes to hand at the time as all our stuff is in storage & I dont think I will need a huge suitcase to take with me - will I?!!)

I have discovered that my local council will contribute £30 towards washables and since I've never taken advantage before perhaps I should splash out on £30 worth of new wraps for the stinky prefolds?

Thanks for the advice about the osteo. I was so fed up last night! Tonight I'm on the sofa with a foot stool so my legs are up. It is SO much better. Really recommend to anyone with a bad back

Yes I do have a ball but it's not that comfy...you have to sit up straight and keep your balance...I want to just slob on a sofa... oh well...come May!!

It's so exciting reading how everyone is getting on and progressing. Seems like no time ago everyone was getting their BFP and now we have just 3 months to go!

Heidihole I agree with you about the ball not being very comfy - I try and sit on mine for 10 minutes every evening, that's about all I can manage.

I've not been able to 'slob out' for weeks (months?) now, my favourite position of an evening was slouched on the sofa, but now I have to pad the sofa out with a million pillows so that it's not too low down or far back for me to get up and down from. :(

DH and I went through a box of bits and pieces that we'd bought for LO last night, prior to them going into storage for the move. I think maybe I need to stop buying clothes for her, but I just can't resist those cute little sale bargains! As far as practical things go all that is in the box is one bottle, one packet of wipes, a folding chaging mat and some cotton wool - and those were all freebies!

SirCharles - Here is the link to the site I got mine from, it was the cheapest one I could fine and v quick delivery!

Yorky - Totally acceptable to blame baby brain, especially with three other kids to keep straight! Ds is a sweetie, very easy going. Unlike his cheeky big sister .

Hi all. Have just been to the doc today to get cocodamol as I've had enough of being in constant pain with the pgp. Taking one seems to put me in a 'still in pain but I can now walk' state, so that's all good. What really confuses me though is how long I can take this for - the doc has given me 100 tablets and sent me merrily off, telling me to drink prune juice to stop constipation (oooch) but instructions say not to take onger for 3 days as otherwise I might become addicted?! . And elsewhere have seem suggestions that taking it for long term might harm the baby? So do I take this for 3 days and then stop? Obviously I hope physio/chiro can sort it, but midwife seemed sceptical. So if that doesn't, and can't take cocodamol for more than 3 days.....? Has anyone else taken it and if so how etc? Thank you!

Basse - I had terrible back pain a few weeks ago - wasn't sleeping, couldn't lift DD, couldn't even bend down to empty dishwasher. Knew I couldn't take ibuprofen so phoned doc and he prescribed cocodamol for me. I would say it took me most of a day to feel any effect aking one at a time, but when I took two I felt a little woozy - but they worked. I took them for about three days - Wed to Fri - and then on Sat when pain came back I took more. Read same warning on them so wouldn't have taken any more than that without consulting doc again but what I had taken did the trick. Definitely relaxed the muscles. Hoping they work for you!

Hello!!
Hope everyone is doing well, just a quick update as I am on my iPhone and it 'corrects' things by itself.
Turns out my gut feeling that something was wrong was correct and on Tuesday night my darling daughter was born by emergency C-Section at 26+6 weeks as I had severe pre-ecclampsia and started to go into HELLP syndrome. We are both doing OK, I am quite sore and incredibly shaken up. DD is doing as well as can be expected, she is in high dependency and has lots of wires. She was 750g when she was born and is utterly tiny, so beautiful though.
Right, off for more sleeps...